One of the reasons that so many people can struggle to move through the label of PTSD is our balance of fulfillment versus achievement.
When we're down and out and we're in the red and we're not feeling well,
Often we can tend to look towards achievement as a way to fill ourselves up.
And achievement can be anything from goals,
Helping other people,
A new house,
A new boat,
A new relationship,
Whatever it is that's external to us.
We can really only place our awareness in two places,
Internal or external.
And often we spend so much of our life looking outwards that we're missing the balance between fulfillment and achievement.
When we understand that loving ourselves first and basing our life on self-fulfillment,
That we will be responsible for our own mental,
Physical,
And emotional stability.
Even when we're achievement-focused,
We're placing our stability in the hands of others.
And that's never ever going to end well.
The mind is always going to create stories that have wronged us and that it's somebody else's fault that we're not feeling stable and that we're not feeling full.
So setting boundaries in your week and allowing space for yourself is a great place for you to make a change in your life.
So for you to actually take control of your calendar and for you to start setting healthy boundaries throughout your week in ways that you can actually become back to yourself and to be more fulfillment versus achievement.
Have you ever been to a party where you've seen a champagne tower,
Where you see one glass of champagne at the top and all of the other champagne glasses below?
If you haven't,
Sorry,
I guess I go to some pretty cool parties.
But ultimately,
When you fill that top cup up,
The rest of the cups are filled.
And that's a really good explanation of fulfillment.
And you are that top cup.
And you do need to fill yourself up.
And once you're full,
All of your other relationships will be filled around you.
This is so important.
So fulfillment can look like setting time in your week,
Regardless of what your achievement based goals are or regardless of how busy you may be,
You must set time aside for yourself.
And the more time you set aside for yourself,
The more stable you will be in your mental,
Physical and emotional bodies.
This is really important.
You're never going to be able to heal.
We're never going to be able to move through the label of PTSD.
If you do not create the space,
And you do not create the time for you to fill yourself up.
Our daily meditation practice and breath work is really good start at this.
So if you're creating the time every day for you to follow your breath work and meditation,
Amazing.
If you're also creating the time and space for you to go inward on your emotions,
This is also fulfillment.
So if you're starting these activities,
You're already ahead of the game.
Find some time in your calendar or find some time in your weekly routine,
Where you can actually set some time aside for you to create more fulfilling activities.
Fulfillment could look as simple as journaling,
Going to the park and spending some time alone,
Not being so caught up on the outside world and relationships or projects work,
But coming back into yourself and undergoing some activities that we might refer to these days as self care.
But it's not so much around using self care to top yourself up when you're not feeling full.
It's not about using self care as a band aid.
You want self care or fulfillment based activities to be your baseline.
And when you have your baseline as fulfillment and self care,
Then any achievement on top of that,
Any external goals that you achieve will be truly felt,
Be truly received and they'll be truly for you as well too.
Because as we create more space and more time for ourselves,
We become more magnetic to attract what's truly ours.
We've become less mind focused and less mind orientated at achieving these wins.
And when we go more inwards and more fulfillment based,
As we become more magnetic and allowing ourselves to fully receive all of those achievements in a full state,
That's life.
And that's the balance that we're looking to maintain between fulfillment and achievement for you to live your best life and for allowing your body and your mind and your emotions to have the space to move through PTSD.
If we're too focused on external factors,
When we get to a point where we're not feeling amazing,
We're going to create stories and we're going to project and we're going to look outwards versus actually taking responsibility and accountability for our own stability and our own inner world.
This is very powerful.
This could be perceived as difficult if you have a relationship and children,
But that's because your mind and you need to rewrite your story around fulfillment and putting you first.
As we have spent so much of our life facing outwards and interacting with other people and having an achievement focused mind,
Our mind and our body is going to find it difficult to change this relationship.
But as we step into this relationship,
That's where we find our true power and our true stability.
By us being so focused on achievement and having our validation,
By us having validation come from external,
We're placing our stability in the hands of others.
So when we come back to more of a fulfillment-based lifestyle,
We can actually slow down and take the time to self-validate ourselves.
Self-validation is something that's very powerful.
When you can look at a job that you've done or you can look at an achievement that you've achieved and you can validate yourself versus needing to have that validation from external sources,
This is something that's very,
Very powerful and very,
Very healing,
Allowing us to move through the label of PTSD.
Often on this path of us moving through the label of PTSD,
We can have a real sense of fulfillment through helping others,
But really,
This can actually be deemed as an achievement.
So when we help somebody else feel good about themselves,
Even like I'm doing right now,
This can be also deemed as achievement versus fulfillment.
And then ultimately,
Sometimes we can get caught into a trap of giving so much of ourselves to other people that we're not allowing ourselves to be full.
So if this is you and this is something that you're starting to move into in your healing journey,
Please just be mindful of the amount of energy that you're giving to other people.
And what are you actually receiving out of that?
Can you be more fulfilled internally?
Can you help people that are more in alignment with you?
Can you give less of yourself to others and retain more of yourself in the process?
Just something for you to think over.
So I'd just like to thank you all for listening to today's audio.
The balance between fulfillment and achievement is the dance of life and something that you might get correct straight away.
But as you become more aware and as you actually see the relationship between fulfillment and achievement,
You can start to move in the right direction and you can start to live that balance and stable life that you create from the inside out.
My name's Matt.
I really hope you enjoyed this Thriving with PTSD Meditation.
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We really enjoy you joining us today and we know that you'll get back to thriving in no time.
Thank you for listening,
Matt.
