Overcoming shame and guilt.
Often the feelings of shame or guilt are being created in us by outside forces that judge,
Condemn and deny or keep taboos.
When shaming and guilting are being used as a weapon,
They can destroy a person's self-esteem and self-trust.
Society,
Religion school and family systems often use shaming and guilting as methods to control,
Deflect or deny their own responsibilities and standards not kept or values not met but then projected on individuals who are made into scapegoats.
When shame and guilt feelings are brought to the surface new life can grow.
When kept secrets and taboos are being revealed,
Healing can begin.
When light is shown on injustices failures,
Cruelty and abuse by individuals and systems shame fades away like the morning fog giving way to the sun rising.
No,
It was not your fault.
Yes,
They shamed and guilted you in order not to deal with their own sin,
Their betrayal their manipulation,
Their collusion their denial.
Yes,
You will rise out of shame and guilt like the phoenix from the ashes.
You will discover your worth,
Your beauty your freedom,
Your self-esteem and self-trust.
Let the light come in and you will be restored to the wholeness that has been there all along.