Hi,
I'm Dr.
Lisa Allfree.
I'm glad you're here.
The fact that you've come to this practice suggests that today,
Might not have been the easiest.
And I want you to know that this is a space where you don't need to be okay.
You don't need to have it all together.
You just need to be here.
Self-compassion is often misunderstood.
It isn't self-pity.
It isn't making excuses.
And the research actually suggests.
And self-compassion is associated with greater resilience,
Not less.
We tend to treat ourselves far more harshly than we ever would treat someone we love.
This practice is an opportunity to begin to shift that.
Even just a little bit.
Let's find a comfortable position.
You might place one or both of your hands on your chest if that feels natural.
And let your eyes close.
Now we're going to take a breath in.
And let it go slowly.
One more time,
Take a breath in.
And let it go slowly.
Ask yourself gently.
How am I really right now?
Not the answer you give a colleague.
Not the performed version.
But honestly,
How are you underneath all of that?
Whatever the answer,
Whether it's sadness,
Exhaustion,
Anger,
Numbness.
Or something you can't quite name.
Allow it to be here.
You don't need to fix it or push it away.
It's information.
It's part of your experience right now.
And that matters.
I'd like to offer you something that can be easy to forget when we're in the middle of a hard time.
Whatever you're feeling right now.
This feeling has been felt.
By every human being who has ever lived.
The loneliness,
The self-doubt.
The sense of not being enough,
Or of being too much,
All at the same time.
These are not signs that something is uniquely wrong with you.
They are part of what it means to be human.
Right now,
Somewhere in the world.
Someone else is feeling exactly as you feel.
You are not alone in this.
Even in the most private.
Quiet moments of struggle.
You are part of a vast community of human beings who understand this feeling from the inside.
Now let's move on.
To a self-compassion practice.
Place your hand on your chest if it isn't already there.
Feel the warmth of your own touch.
The steady beat beneath your palms.
And now silently or aloud,
Whichever feels right.
Repeat these phrases after me.
Take them slowly.
Let them land.
Even if they feel.
A little bit.
Unfamiliar at first.
Let's begin.
This is a moment of difficulty.
Difficulty is a part of life.
May I be kind to myself in this moment.
May I give myself the care that I need.
Now let's do that again.
Very gently.
This is a moment of difficulty.
Difficulty is a part of life.
May I be kind to myself?
May I be well.
Now I'd like you to imagine just for a moment.
That someone who loves you deeply is sitting with you right now.
Someone who knows all of you.
Parts you're proud of.
The parts you're not.
And loves you anyway.
What might they say to you right now?
Perhaps they tell you.
That you've been doing your best.
That the fact that today was hard.
Doesn't define you.
That rest is not something you have to earn.
That you are enough as you are right now.
Even if the world is asking more of you than you can comfortably give.
You are enough.
See if you can receive that just a little.
Let it in.
You deserve the same care you so readily give others.
Now take a breath in.
And let it go slowly.
Take one final breath in,
Hold it gently.
And release.
As you come back to the room.
Carry with you this question.
What is one small act of kindness I can offer myself today?
It doesn't need to be large.
It could be.
.
.
A glass of water.
Five minutes outside.
A moment of sitting without a screen.
Self-compassion lives in small choices made consistently over time.
Thank you so much for practicing with me today.
I hope this offered you a moment of genuine rest and care.
Take good care of yourself and I'll see you next time.