Why Feminine Energy Matters

Hello,

Beautiful ladies.

Today I'm going to talk and share about what feminine embodiment is to me and how it has helped me so much.

You have heard me talk a lot about feminine energy,

Feminine embodiment.

And so I'm going to share what that is and what it isn't.

But first I want to speak to you.

Maybe you have been wanting to find your true love,

Your soulmate.

Maybe you have that dream or desire,

But you're not having luck in dating a stressful,

Or maybe you have found a relationship,

But the relationship isn't turning out exactly how you thought it would.

And you're feeling overwhelmed,

Disappointed,

Discouraged.

Maybe you think this is as good as it ever is going to be.

Well,

I'm going to let you in on a little secret that changes the game for women.

And here's where I'm going to talk about that masculine energy.

So over the past 50 years,

As you know,

Women have been told that we need to be aggressive,

Logical,

Confident,

Focused,

Self-sufficient,

Independent,

And the list goes on and on,

Right?

There's that whole boss babe movement that we can do everything by ourself.

We can get shit done.

And these traits are wonderful.

They are beautiful traits.

They help us.

They've helped myself get the dream home that I've wanted,

The dream business that I've wanted,

Working for myself.

They maybe have helped you in your life.

They help us experience amazing accomplishments.

And so this energy can really propel us,

But it's also leaving us feeling really burnt out and alone and disconnected.

So what is this,

This masculine energy?

Why is it affecting us?

Well,

We're not balanced.

We're leading a lot of times in our,

In our romantic relationships,

Like we do in our businesses.

We're go-getters,

We're take charge.

And this leaves the masculine man feeling disempowered,

Actually.

And it's caused us to get completely out of whack.

For so many women who have soared to the tops of their games in businesses and sports,

Entertainment,

Our energy is out of balance.

And we end up attracting men who are out of balance as well.

So in this where it gets really uncomfortable for you,

As it may appear to fly right in the face of what we understand of what a strong woman is.

So bear with me.

We've been told that the ultimate in female strength is independence and self-reliance.

That it's important to never feel like we need a partner.

However,

This approach ends up becoming a barrier to the kind of relationship that we desire.

Why?

Because this approach is based out of fear and fear never leads away to our highest self.

Only love can do that.

But in a balanced relationship,

The feminine in us,

The one who wants to feel the one,

The part of us who wants to lean back and trust and be in our flow and to feel good.

That part of us needs to feel safe,

Protected,

Adored,

Cherished,

Loved.

The feminine wants to receive and allow.

She doesn't want to control.

She wants to feel expressive.

She wants to let her hair down.

She wants to feel safe to express her emotions without being scolded or judged.

Her masculine counterpart needs to feel respected and successful.

The trusted guide.

He wants to feel cared about.

He wants to feel really gotten by her like she knows his heart.

He needs her to be his soft place to land at the end of a competitive hard day.

He wants her to be his peace.

For many of us moving towards this dynamic in a relationship is terrifying.

We are so used to controlling within a relationship or have been in relationship where our partner took advantage of our vulnerability and reliance.

So how do we let go of control?

How do we discover what our limiting beliefs are,

Our old patterns?

Feminine embodiment has been the key that has really unlocked the door towards the relationship to myself.

So feminine embodiment is this movement.

It's not so much a dance.

It's this movement where you close your eyes.

You're on the ground,

Mostly on your hands and knees or just moving your body in some way.

Maybe you're sitting,

But it's doing what feels good.

Feminine embodiment is about feeling.

It's not about doing.

And this might not make sense unless you actually put this in practice because there's not a logical way to explain it,

Right?

The logical is the masculine in us wanting to know how does it work?

But I can just tell you from my own experience of it,

It's how you feel.

So I've really learned to lean back,

To let the water settle,

To trust,

To wait,

To have patience,

To breathe.

And this is,

I think as women,

What we want naturally,

But we've built ourself up to be these go-getters,

To be these boss babes,

To do it all without asking for help.

And we don't get any rewards from doing this.

We don't get rewarded or more money from being burnt out and stressed.

Maybe we get to say,

We did it.

We did it all.

Now we are worthy.

Maybe having those certificates on the wall or having that man or knowing that you've spent your last dollar on your kids,

Buying them exactly what they want,

Even though you can't afford it,

Maybe that makes you feel a sense of accomplishment or like a good mom or a good partner or a good wife or a good daughter.

There's this good girl mentality that so many of us have clung onto.

And it comes down to this overgiving that we do comes down to two things.

We feel too much or not enough.

And actually they're the same.

They're the same thing.

So there's always this deeper root of why we overgive and undergive to ourself.

So to put this in practice,

There's a few tips that I want to give you that you can do.

And the most important one to start with is to find pleasure in yourself,

In your life,

Asking yourself,

What is the next best loving thing that I can do for myself right now in this moment?

And maybe if you're in a down place,

Maybe that's taking a bath,

Just taking three deep breaths.

Sometimes we feel like we need to do a lot to accomplish something or to feel accomplished.

But again,

That's the ego.

That's our self worth saying,

You know,

You're not worthy enough.

You need to do more.

You need to earn it.

You need to earn love.

Right.

But when we when we feel into things,

That's where our that's where we feel connected.

That's where,

You know,

Those archetypes of like the Mother Earth come into play.

The wise woman.

And that's who you are at your core,

Because we're not the things we do at the end of the day.

We can't take any of those things to the grave with us.

You know,

Our children,

Our partner,

They're they may say how amazing you are,

Of course,

Because you are.

But no one's going to talk about the accomplishments that the certificates that you have on the wall.

They're going to remember how you made them feel.

And they're going to remember you,

Your essence,

Your energy.

And if you're stressed out all the time and overwhelmed,

You you are creating this life that you're not in alignment with,

That doesn't feel good to you.

Therefore,

It's not going to feel good to anyone else.

So especially as moms and partners,

We're not doing anyone any good,

Any justice,

If we are burnt out.

So we need to tap into our feminine essence,

That inner resource.

Think of feminine energy as this faucet of of this pure water,

This essence that just never ends.

You have a continuous source of it.

This is your divine,

Your divinity,

Your your wisdom,

Your ancient wisdom,

Your all knowing the feeling of being connected to yourself,

To your higher power,

To to more in life,

This essence of purpose and passion.

Women as women,

We want to we have this desire for connection.

We want to be held in our wild nature by our man.

We really have a desire to let go and to let the man steer the ship and to enjoy life.

I don't know if you've watched the this famous Netflix show called Bridgerton.

I love it.

There's two seasons out and I've been binge watched both of them.

And I'm not going to spoil anything for you if you haven't watched it yet,

But I encourage you to watch it if you're wanting to kind of dive into seeing examples of how masculine and feminine energy can play out.

But I was watching this and I thought this is such a good example of what men and women both crave.

They crave polarity.

As women,

We crave polarity with our man.

We want and men do with us as well.

We want that sexual attraction to be there.

We want to feel fully connected.

So it's really as women connecting to your feminine energy and for a man to connect to his masculine energy.

And as women,

It's really important for us to have that self-awareness for ourself.

And to allow the man to be in his masculine energy.

I used to,

I was the masculine energy leader,

If you will,

In past relationships.

I wanted to take control.

I didn't really trust that they would do what they said they were going to do.

I didn't,

It was,

It just didn't trust them to be a man.

And that doesn't feel good to them and it doesn't feel good to us.

And that does not create polarity.

We lose attraction.

We lose respect and they lose attraction for us as well.

And that's where relationships start to not feel good.

So going back to the Netflix show Bridgerton.

So the women in this show and think back to the women many years ago,

And I'm not speaking to the parts where women were disempowered and not allowed to do things and abused.

I'm not speaking to that at all because that is very much wrong.

We all know that and that should never happen.

But I'm speaking to the parts of the polarity.

So the,

The feminine woman,

You know,

The women,

They were very much in their feminine energy.

They,

Most of them probably didn't work.

They had lots of time to explore,

To play.

They were having tea with other women.

They,

Sisterhood was very important.

They crafted their skills on playing piano,

On taking a second language,

On painting.

They danced.

They,

They laughed.

They had their tea time.

So they were very much into pleasure in play and relaxing in leaning back.

And they would go to these dances,

These balls to date men and they would have on their wrist a card.

And for every guy they talked to or danced with,

They would write down their names probably so they could remember.

There was probably lots of them and that's what they did.

They were courted.

Well,

How many of us nowadays are being courted,

Right?

How many of us just settle for the first guy who comes along?

Well,

Women understood that,

You know,

They,

They chose the man.

The man would present himself.

So the man,

They would provide for the woman.

So the men worked,

They were the main providers.

But they,

They also courted the woman.

So in the show Bridgerton,

There was,

If,

If a,

If a woman was,

You know,

Everyone wanted to date this woman,

They would stand in line and read her poetry or do something for her to see that he was a great provider or that he was worthy of it.

One guy,

Oh,

I'm not going to spoil it for you,

But he gave her something,

A gift of,

Because he adored her and he wanted her to choose him.

So think of,

Think back to the caveman days.

So this,

This is just in our DNA and it just feels unnatural to us to date this way.

But this does go back to where,

To way back.

So think of cavemen,

Right?

Cavemen went out.

They enjoy the chase.

They enjoy the pursuit,

The hunt.

It makes them feel successful.

It,

It makes them feel like what they are working for is worth it.

And not to say no one's worth it,

But if we're just throwing ourselves at men,

They don't find value in that.

And we,

On the other hand,

Feel like our boundaries have been crossed.

We feel abandoned and we feel disrespected.

So it's really finding the understanding of the polarity of it all.

And it's not playing games at all.

It's anything but that.

It's,

It's learning about ourselves and being authentic to ourselves,

Knowing as a woman,

What our boundaries are,

What are your hard nos?

What are your hard yeses?

And so,

So think of men who love the lawn football games.

They,

And many women do too,

But men love,

They love the unfolding process of it.

So as women,

Myself,

I'm speaking from myself,

From my own experience,

I'm learning how to have patience and to enjoy the unfolding,

That there is no rush.

And all the stories that I tell myself about the rush are limiting beliefs that,

That I notice and,

And I feel.

And then once I feel that,

When I allow myself to feel,

And I'm not blocking it,

I'm not saying I should feel this way,

Or I shouldn't feel this way,

Or even,

Even calling a friend and talking and talking and talking about it.

This is all ways that I'm in my head or scrolling through social media or eating or just distracting myself in some way,

Working.

When I allow myself to feel and let the emotion move through us,

Through myself,

I can,

I can lean back as much as I feel when I do that,

Antsy and anxious and like,

Like my,

My mind is telling me,

Get up,

Move,

Do something,

Fix this,

Call this person,

Do this.

I,

I allow myself to sit,

Meditate,

Flow,

Be in my feminine embodiment movement.

And I feel connected with myself when I do these things.

So I want you to ask yourself,

What brings you in flow?

Where do you lose track of time?

And I want you to spend more time in that space.

And I could talk all about the different parts of boundaries and,

You know,

Of knowing the importance of what boundaries we want to have with ourselves and with other people and in relationships.

That's for another episode.

But today,

I wanted to just talk about the feminine and masculine polarity and why it's so important and why many of us are feeling burnt out in dating and finding a relationship and sustaining a relationship.

And a lot of it is about control.

So I have this visual that I speak with my clients on and with myself,

And it's this visual of being out in a ship in the middle of the ocean,

And you look around and you can't see any land and there's a big storm approaching.

And how many times in our life we naturally want to run towards that steering wheel and take control,

Take the reins and guide,

Even though,

You know,

It's scary,

It's overwhelming.

And,

And the guy,

Whoever that is to you,

Maybe it's a made up guy,

Maybe you are dating right now and there's no guy,

Maybe it's a guy you have now in your life.

He wants to naturally when there's a storm approaching,

Save the day,

He wants to feel that success.

He wants to guide,

He wants to lead,

Because that's really naturally in his DNA to do so.

He wants to feel like the man.

And many times as women,

We don't trust the man we're with.

So that's why it's really important to number one,

Be in tune with,

Do you trust this man's choices?

Do you trust his decisions in life and in the little things do add up to big things.

And it's to not control his choices or how he moves or how he does things is to let him be the man he is,

As long as it's healthy,

Right?

And to let yourself be the woman you are,

And to trust in yourself.

And this is what it comes down to is really trusting in yourself.

Because when you trust yourself,

And when you have boundaries,

And when you tap into that,

Why is confident,

Empowered,

Sister,

Mother,

Women that you are,

You can let go.

And you become a magnet to everything that you desire,

And you feel good.

And that's the most important thing out of all of this.

You're not feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

How good would it feel to allow the man,

Allow your man or your future man to take control of that ship,

To know that he is going to guide you safely.

And he's going to protect you.

And in that process,

He's going to adore and cherish you.

And you get to lean back and relax and watch him lead you and your family's ship.

And you get to be in your flow and your feminine essence and your confidence.

And he loves that.

He loves when you are in tune with your sensuality,

With your passions,

With your purpose.

And that is one part,

One small example of how powerful relationships can be.

So I invite you to ask yourself,

What is the next best loving thing you need to do for you right now in this moment?

And the second one is to ask yourself,

What do you want?

So when I work with women,

I have them start to ask themselves that when you're going down the grocery store.

Do you want this box of cereal or this box of cereal?

Do you when you're driving,

Do you want to go to this gas station?

Or do you want to go to this other gas station?

When it comes to the weekend,

What do you prefer to do?

And there's that saying when mom's not happy,

When the wife's not happy,

No one's happy.

And that's really true.

The wife,

The mother,

The woman,

Whatever your title is,

It doesn't matter.

But the women in the relationship,

You are the essence.

You are the essence of the relationship.

So let me know if this is resonating with you.

I would love to hear your comments,

Your feedback.

This is just a few of my thoughts on feminine and masculine polarity and how as women we can we can feel empowered and confident and we can find our flow.

We can find our intuition because a lot of us are feeling like we have to appear that we're so strong on the outside,

That we have these amazing jobs,

Amazing careers,

Amazing family.

We want to present ourselves to the world and be the strong,

Independent woman on the outside.

But inside we're crumbling,

We're overwhelmed,

We lost who we are,

We lost our sense of passion and purpose.

And no one is benefiting from that,

Including ourselves.

And a lot of times we,

People are mirrors.

And if you're dating or in a relationship,

You may be finding partners that are mirroring how you feel about yourself.

And again,

This comes back to feeling like we're too much or not enough.

And those are just stories.

They're not facts,

Right?

So I'm inviting you to really tune into your passion self,

Tune in to your inner wisdom,

Because I want you to be strong on the inside.

So you can be soft on the outside and receive because we can wish and dream and,

And,

You know,

Write new moon things and burn them at the new moon and try to manifest an amazing partner.

But at the end of the day,

When an amazing guy walks in,

Because they're,

They're,

They are everywhere.

Amazing men are everywhere,

And there's an abundance of them.

And they're looking for a woman just like you.

But if an amazing man comes,

Can you receive him?

Can you accept him?

Can you let him in your world?

So that's what I'm here to help you I'm here to help you be strong on the inside,

To know what your boundaries are,

To know what your values are,

To discover yourself and find clarity,

To feel good in your body,

To stop judging yourself,

And sell and stop self sabotaging yourself to fully show up for you.

Because I believe we have you have come here,

We all have come here on this earth to expand our light,

To experience what we are here to experience,

And to stop holding ourselves back.

And I want the best life for you.

And I know that's what you want for yourself.

So to be strong on the inside,

And soft on the outside.

And by soft,

I mean,

You get to be playful,

You get to feel free,

You get to receive.

It's opening the door to receive abundance whether you you want money,

Love,

Relation,

You know,

A man,

A relationship to get married someday.

Whatever it is,

Whatever's on your heart is meant for you.

So I hope this episode supports you in some way.

Again,

I would love to hear from you.

Please reach out to me.

I would love to have a conversation or just to get your feedback.

And if you are interested in joining me on this journey and would like support in doing so I would love to support you.

Feel free just to go to my website www.

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Until next time,

I believe in you and keep shining.