Hello and welcome to this brief lesson on resentment.
I'm going to be giving you a guided exercise to do at the end,
Some journaling questions to work with,
And I want you to take time to be quiet,
Be still somewhere,
And look into the mirror and answer these questions as honestly as you can in the privacy of your own journal where you can reconsider how you might want to use resentment in your life.
Have you ever heard the expression,
Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die?
That quote from Buddha is so powerful and the first thing I want to tell you about resentment is that resentment is actually anger.
It's anger gone underground.
It's anger that you're not looking at directly and not using as a way to re-establish the boundaries that you need in your life in order to release the anger,
Relieve yourself of the resentment.
Resentment is not the only form of anger.
There are,
You know,
Other forms.
Irritability,
Frustration,
Rage,
They're all forms of anger and when we work with anger really well,
Including resentment,
Anger can truly be a powerful feeling that can lead us into the life of freedom and joy and truly what we want and away from what we don't want.
So we're going to work with this transformation in this lesson today.
Anger turned inward causes inner dis-ease.
So resentment is that anger gone inward.
It's not being expressed,
It's not being used as a guide and when you feel resentment,
The first part of this experience is knowing that your resentment is telling you that you've lost your connection with both your inner truth and your power and you've stepped away from your power and instead you are probably in a victim role.
So the beginning of this transformation of resentment into power is first you have to identify how resentment shows up in your life.
Tune into the physical feelings.
Know how it feels in your being when resentment arises.
Feel the feeling of resentment.
Don't turn away from it.
Don't try to push it away or escape from it but instead really feel it because when you really feel it you'll recognize that it is as powerful as anger.
It is that emotion of anger and its power can actually serve you.
One of the other ways to really identify resentment well is to notice the story that's running through your mind and as you notice the story that's running through your mind I want you to get really clear about how you might be playing the victim in that story.
The next step in the transformation of resentment is asking yourself what is it that you really want?
When you think about the story,
When you think about the situation that brings up the resentment,
That brings up this anger,
Ask yourself what is it that you truly want?
And the final steps to this transformation is then you have to start taking those important steps to create what it is that you want in your life.
The dance with resentment is a dance that can create such freedom in your life.
It can help you get in touch with the power that you have to create what it is you want to create and what you want is you want that power to actually feed your life.
You want it to be the source of energy that moves you into action to take the action to create the quality of the experience you want by changing whatever boundaries might need to be changed in your life.
You know resentment is a guide.
It's really it's like a light post,
A lighthouse in the sea that's blinking and telling you that something is out of order in your life.
It's up to you to use that resentment to identify what it is that's out of order and determine what it is that you want and you need and then get to the business of making those changes.
This is the boundary setting work.
You know you work from small steps to the bigger steps.
Sometimes resentment can come very big if it's a long-standing resentment.
Oftentimes it might require a fairly large change and in order to really work up to making that change and doing it well in your life I always advise and suggest start with some smaller steps.
Start building up your confidence.
Start building up your sense of I can do this through small changes that feel good and then slowly work up to that bigger one.
I want you to also tune into your heart.
Working with resentment can be a very intellectual process and oftentimes we bypass our ability to use the emotional fuel that's there.
When you tune into your heart and you really feel all of it,
What you also tune into much more readily is what it is that you really want.
What it is that's out of alignment in your world.
What it is that where it is you're turning your power over to someone else or something else and it's time to take it back.
Resentment is a guide to your freedom.
Freedom to choose the life that you want,
To align with your values,
To align with your heartfelt desires and align with your authentic inner power.
Here's the thing.
Emotions will always arise in your life.
They're not going to go away.
It's your ability to use that energy wisely and with kindness for yourself and others.
This is living your inner power.
I want you to find a place where you can be quiet,
Get your journal out or you could sit at your computer and do this.
I really want you to begin to tune in to your own resentment and start to use it as your guide both to freedom and to inner peace.
So let me begin with the questions and you might want to jot these questions down and then come back and do your journaling in a quiet space.
Guiding,
Letting yourself slowly be guided through those questions.
Tune in inwardly.
Allow yourself some time to get clear and begin your transformation process right now.
So let's begin with when you feel anger in your being,
What does it feel like?
How does it feel in your body?
How does it feel in your energy?
What's the feeling that you most associate with it?
When anger comes up in your life,
When resentment is fast and fully and furiously present for you,
What is the story that's going on in your mind?
What is the story of the situation where you may be feeling like a victim or feeling powerless?
And get real clear about how you feel powerless,
How you feel a victim.
When resentment comes up and you're feeling it and you've identified the story,
Now I want you to ask yourself,
What is it that I want here?
If I could wave a magic wand,
How would I change this situation or circumstances?
And once you've gotten clear on what you want and even why you want it,
Then a wonderful final step is to begin to identify the action steps that will start to lead you towards that that you want.
And take one small step at a time and don't stop until the transformation is complete.
Thank you for taking the time to listen to this audio lesson.
I hope you allow yourself some good space and some good time to truly sink into the process of answering those questions,
Getting clear and transforming your resentment,
Your anger into both a tool of freedom and a guide to get in touch with the power that you have to live the life you really want to live.
