Manifesting Your Soulmate & Types Of Soulmates

Hi beautiful soul!

Welcome to today's episode of Light Leaders Ascension School.

I'm Athena Bailey and I'm so excited today to talk to you all about soulmates,

Divine love,

Manifesting soulmates and calling in your divine life partner.

We're talking all things creating,

Manifesting and aligning with soulmate relationships in your life.

Now I want to preface this by saying the most important thing that I consider when it comes to soulmate relationships is being in your soul,

Right?

You're literally saying I want a relationship that reflects my soul.

That's like really that's what a soulmate relationship is.

Who I am at my deepest level,

My core,

My truth,

My essence,

I want a relationship that is aligned with that.

How can you have a relationship that is aligned with that if you're not aligned with your soul,

If your life isn't aligned with your soul,

If your business isn't aligned with your soul,

Right?

If you're not living in alignment with your soul,

The reality is you probably can't handle a soulmate relationship.

So the number one thing that you can do is get soul aligned in your life,

Right?

And what I mean by that is you begin to communicate,

Work with,

Intimately know your soul,

Call your soul forward and begin actually living in the highest and fullest alignment with your soul truth,

Right?

What is your soul purpose?

What are you here to do?

What are your soul gifts?

What are your soul message?

And embody that in every area of your life and when you embody that it's like this switch goes on,

Right?

And when you're in that energy,

You naturally magnetize all of your soulmates to you.

That's how it works.

So for me,

All of my soulmates in my life,

Whether they're friendships or my husband,

They've come to me actually through me being so embodied in my purpose and what I'm here to do that it was like this light switch went on and they naturally gravitated to me.

I didn't have to go searching for anyone,

Looking for anything.

They flew to me because I was,

When we look at it from the spiritual planes,

When you embody your soul purpose,

Your soul gifts,

Your soul fully,

It's like this light switch goes on and the other soulmates go,

Ah,

There they are and they start naturally going towards you because part of your contract with your soulmates as well is when one of you turns on,

Like when your soul switch is on,

It's gonna turn on the other ones too,

Right?

Or if they're not already on.

A lot of them might already be on.

So you're gonna flick the switch,

They're gonna be drawn to you and then you're gonna help each other nourish your soul light.

So when we talk about soulmates,

It requires you to be embodied in your soul,

Anchored in your soul purpose,

Embodying your soul essence because the soulmate is not just a relationship,

It is a relationship with a person who is in resonance with your soul.

A lot of the relationships we see in the world are not in soul resonance,

They are in resonance based on body attraction or interests.

Oh well,

I like doing this and my boyfriend likes to do this too,

So that's why we got together because there's attraction and there's a resonance in our interest,

But they're not actually soul resonant,

Right?

Who you are at your deepest level,

Your core,

Your purpose,

Your gifts,

What you're here to do with and share with the world,

Is the soul resonant to that because that's the soulmate.

So I'm going to talk today about the different kinds of soulmates,

How to know what kind of soulmate,

If you have a relationship,

Is and how to actually call in and manifest a soulmate if you are ready.

I really want to share a little bit about my journey with calling in and manifesting my husband,

My soulmate.

I called him in at a time in my life where I was like,

I don't want a relationship,

I'm not ready,

In my head I'm like,

I'm not ready for a relationship,

But you know,

I guess I was even though consciously I thought I wasn't.

I actually met him when I was still in a relationship with my ex and I didn't look at him romantically at all,

Right?

Like my now husband,

I didn't even think about it,

Right?

So he came to a program that I was running,

I was running a workshop in person and my workshops were a lot smaller back then.

So there were only probably around 12 of us in the room and he had come with a girl that I assumed he was in a relationship with.

And he was very opposite to what would have been my type back then,

You know,

I was a lot younger,

We have a bit of an age gap,

He was older,

It was just didn't cross my mind.

And what I do inside of my workshops is when people pair up,

I ask their spirit guides to pair people up,

Right?

So I see like these threads or cords of energy between people,

I'm like,

Okay,

That person's gonna pair up with that one,

That person's gonna pair up with that one.

So the spirit guides show me the threads of people who need to work together,

You know,

They have a connection,

Or there's something they need to learn from each other,

Or there's an experience they need to have together,

Right?

So I follow the guidance of the spirit guides.

And in this workshop,

There was an odd number,

So I had to pair up with someone.

And I think there were like about six different times that we paired up,

And out of those six times,

Five of those times,

My spirit guides paired me up with Daryl,

My now husband.

And I just remember thinking after the fourth time,

Oh,

Spirit,

This looks really bad,

Like he's gonna think I'm trying to make a move on him or something.

But I'm always really surrendered to the experience of spirit.

So I was like,

But you know what,

There must be something we need to learn from each other,

You know,

An experience we have to have,

Maybe I just really need channel for him.

You know,

So I was just like fully in acceptance of it.

At the time,

You know,

Looking back,

I laugh about it,

I'm like,

Wow,

Our spirit guides must have been like,

We know how this movie ends.

But at the time,

With my human brain,

Not knowing that that was my future husband,

I was confused.

And it's funny,

You know,

Because you think about,

Oh,

When I meet,

You know,

My divine life partner,

My soulmate,

I'll know immediately,

And there'll be sparks and stuff.

I didn't have that.

And even for someone who is so psychic and intuitive,

And a channel,

I didn't immediately go,

That's my soulmate,

I knew.

And actually,

It's quite common,

I think about a lot of my friends,

Who are very psychic and channels,

And they didn't immediately know.

And I also want to say like,

I actually put a boundary with spirit up about it.

Because I remember with my ex and our relationship,

I had channeled about it.

And I knew we were going to break up,

Like I knew it for years.

And I also knew I had to be with him because it was a lesson that our souls had contracted.

And I just remember kind of thinking,

This is kind of shit.

Like,

I want to have the human experience.

I don't want to know,

Oh,

I'm going to break up with this person.

I'm going to marry this person.

Oh,

We're going to be together for this long.

It's like,

I actually just want to have the human experience of just falling in love,

Having a relationship,

Being surrendered to the experience and not like,

Well,

It's going to last this long.

And then this is going to happen.

So I actually did say,

You know,

To spirit,

I actually want to have that human experience and not know,

Not be told,

Right?

So I could have that experience.

So that might have had something to do with it as well,

That not knowing.

Anyway,

So we kind of saw each other at a few events every now and then,

Nothing really happened.

And then many months passed,

I broke up with my ex,

Nothing to do with my husband,

Just unrelated.

It was time to close that chapter.

And I,

We had just broken up.

It was about three weeks after we broke up.

And I remember just being like,

Right,

I haven't been single since I was a teenager.

I don't want to date anyone.

I just want to be alone and enjoy my space and be my own energy.

And I actually had a friend who said to me at the time,

She heard me saying that,

She was like,

Mm hmm.

Yeah,

You keep saying that.

And that's actually how you're going to manifest your husband.

And I was like,

I don't know about that.

Anyway,

It was about three weeks.

And Daryl messaged me on Facebook,

You know,

And he said,

Hey,

He had watched a video that I had done.

He said,

Hey,

I watched that video that you shared.

It was really interesting.

I have some questions about this topic.

Do you think that we can meet up and talk about it?

And I was pretty busy at that point in my life.

I didn't have the time,

The space,

The availability to meet up for everybody who wanted to chat,

You know,

Ask me more questions about my videos.

Right.

So I politely declined.

And that night we went to,

It was like a fire ceremony event.

There was dancing,

There was fire.

Went with a friend of mine.

And I remember I was dancing around the fire,

Just having a great time.

And suddenly I hear my spirit guide saying,

Athena,

You have to meet up with him tomorrow.

And I went,

Who?

He went,

Daryl,

You have to meet up with him tomorrow.

I was like,

Okay,

All right,

If you say so.

Again,

Very surrender to spirits.

I was like,

Oh,

There must be something I need to learn from him.

He's going to teach me something.

I had no idea what was about to happen.

So I messaged him and I was like,

Hey,

Do you want to grab coffee tomorrow,

Actually?

He was like,

Yes,

Let's do it.

So we organized for coffee.

We met up in the morning.

We sat down.

We had great chats.

The chats didn't go for like half an hour,

An hour.

It went for hours.

And there was this spark of energy.

And I was like,

Oh,

Is this something?

And then we decided to go to the beach.

It was a beautiful summer day.

And then one thing led to another.

And suddenly we were kissing in the water.

And well,

We've been together since.

And it's been,

Well,

It's been an interesting journey.

You know,

I can't say it's been like,

Oh,

We fell in love.

We started dating immediately.

You know,

It was I was still processing a past relationship.

So it wasn't.

And so was he actually.

So it wasn't immediately like,

Well,

We're in this incredible relationship so deep with one another,

Like we're exclusive.

It was a journey to get to that point.

And I probably say it was about the first year was quite rocky.

There was stuff,

You know,

I had been with my high school sweetheart for many years.

And Daryl and I were trying to figure it out.

So whilst there was connection and eventually that led to love,

You know,

There was time.

So we even separated and broke up and there was space.

So that first year,

It was very testing for us.

But we kept being pulled back together,

Back together,

Back together.

And it was a higher soul,

Soul alignment for sure.

And I remember there was a point even where I remember going,

OK,

Like there's too much stuff for us to work on and shift through.

I think like I want to actually cancel our contract together because this is just not flowing right the way that I wanted to.

And I remember going to the Akashic Records meeting with our guides and saying I want like I didn't even get to say it because I just like I burst into tears.

And so it was like,

No,

Don't Athena.

And I was like,

Oh,

Fuck.

Like I'm I'm I'm meant to be with this man.

And I'm very grateful because both Daryl and I,

Which is very important value for me,

And I don't think I'd be able to be with someone who is unlike that.

Both Daryl and I take our working on ourselves very,

Very importantly.

Right.

So if there's a pattern,

If there's something that is causing an issue,

Daryl's like,

Right,

I need to heal it.

Let me go see healers.

Therapist,

Plant medicine.

Let me fix this.

Right.

And I'm I'm the same.

So who we were in that first year,

You know,

I was an anxious attachment.

He was an avoidant attachment.

It was a bit chaotic.

And I can really say now,

Years later,

That we're both secure,

Attached.

We healed a lot of our shit.

We have a really beautiful,

Peaceful relationship that I'm grateful for every single day.

So know that even you can have those soulmates,

The figuring out the relationship can take some work.

There can be healing.

And it brings me to the question of people ask,

Well,

Do I need to be healed to meet my soulmate?

And the reality is I say,

You know,

Before I met mine,

I thought,

Oh,

Yes,

You need to be healed to be able to bring in or call in your soulmate.

But I actually go,

I wasn't though.

Like I had a lot of wounds and worthiness stuff.

And even though I had already done a lot of healing work,

There was still more.

And I actually it was the stuff that I couldn't have healed on my own.

Like I actually needed him to come in,

Show me those wounds,

Mirror them to me,

Trigger them so I could heal them.

And I did the same for him.

So we actually healed together.

And I think there's only so much you can heal on your own.

And then the other aspect of it is a couple coming together and being able to,

To heal each other,

Right?

Which is what,

Which is what we did.

And that's been our journey.

And we're still working on our stuff.

We still notice patterns and work on them.

I think that's like a non-negotiable.

If you want to grow and be happy and have a healthy relationship,

Continuously working on it is important.

We're still investing in relationship programs,

Multiple ones this year.

We're growing and I can say,

You know,

We're coming up almost on to seven years now.

Our relationship is like,

It just keeps getting better,

Right?

It's not that it wasn't like this honeymoon phase and then like it gets better.

Every month,

Every year,

It gets better and better.

We work on ourselves more,

We connect more and everything feels better and easier.

So I also don't believe in the best part of the relationship is at the start.

For me,

It's been the opposite experience.

At the start,

We were,

We were both so wounded and figuring out our shit.

And once we did,

It was like,

Oh,

It actually gets to be,

Be so much easier.

So Daryl and I,

We dated.

It wasn't long before we moved in together.

We dated for a few years.

And I remember,

You know,

He started talking about marriage and I was quite young.

I think I was only about 25 and I went,

Marriage?

I don't know if I'm ready for that.

Oh no.

And so he put a,

So he was like,

Oh,

Okay,

You're not ready.

No worries.

And then a couple of years later,

I was like,

All right,

I'm ready.

It was a long before he proposed and then we got married and here we are now.

And it's been,

It's been a beautiful journey and I'm so grateful for Daryl and what he brings into my life.

Um,

And I'm really excited as well about our future and everything that's going to come.

And I want to share with you a little bit about,

You know,

Daryl is my soulmate,

But he's also my divine life partner and a divine life partner is type of soulmate.

And that's what I want to share with you.

And I want to talk about right now,

Because there are different types of soulmates,

Right?

One of the really common ones that we see is a karmic soulmate.

So a karmic soulmate is one who you have had previous lifetimes with,

Where there has been experiences,

Shit,

Wounding,

All stuff coming up and you guys are still in it,

Right?

There's a cycle,

There's a loop that still needs to be played out and sorted out.

Your souls were contracted to learn a lesson from each other.

You didn't learn it in the previous lifetime.

So you're here again now trying to work it out.

Some people have quite a few of those.

Some people have,

Um,

Some people have only one of them,

Right?

But you have those experiences and it's really important because the soul needs to have closure.

And it's one of the things that I always say,

You know,

If you're in a relationship that you can feel like,

This isn't it,

I don't know if this is the relationship you need to be asking,

Well,

What's the lesson?

Why am,

What am I here for?

Like,

What's the lesson of this soulmate of soulmate of this connection,

Right?

Why is it in my life at the moment?

My ex was a karmic relationship,

Right?

And I really,

Like,

We needed to process,

Move through.

Like,

I remember there were times where I was like,

I don't feel this is aligned.

And it was like,

Very clearly from spirit.

You both need to be here right now.

Like,

It's actually really important.

And I could feel that.

And I also felt like I couldn't,

Even though there was a part of me,

My soul,

Like,

This isn't it.

There was another part of me that was like,

But you can't,

Like,

I couldn't leave.

Right.

And it was probably codependency.

And I was not mentally that healthy when I was younger either.

So there were all these different things that I was going through,

But I'm definitely grateful for the experience.

And there were big soul lessons that we both needed to learn from each other.

So a karmic soulmate is someone who there is a lot of karma moving through.

You also have your current life soulmate.

So I call this one the current life soulmate,

Because it is someone who is in resonance with your soul.

And they are a match for right now.

Right?

So right now,

It might feel good.

It might feel like a full yes.

Maybe you've had this before where you're like,

Wow,

That was a really interesting relationship.

They felt resonant with my soul.

It was a full yes for that time.

But then it just,

It didn't work out.

Our lives took us differently.

Right?

So your life,

Your life's journey,

Your life's value were not parallel to each other.

So even though there was a soul connection,

Even though there was love,

Desire,

All of those things,

Your life value,

Your life journey,

Your soul purpose,

Your divine timing were not compatible.

Which is the number one difference with the divine life partner,

Right?

Because the divine life partner,

It's 100% compatible.

When I said,

Darryl,

This is my vision for life.

He said,

Oh,

Same as mine.

Darryl,

This is what I want to do in the world.

Oh,

Same as me.

This is what I want to do it.

Same as me.

Right?

The vision,

The values,

Darryl and I have the exact same values,

Right?

The exact same vision,

The exact same goals for our lives.

And that is the divine life partner.

And the number one thing with the divine life partner as well,

If you're like,

Oh,

Am I with my divine life partner or not?

Is they amplify your soul purpose,

Right?

They help you become more of who you are at a soul level,

Right?

Not,

They don't hold parts of it back.

They actually help bring more of it online.

This is really,

Really important.

When Darryl and I first started dating,

He loved the fact that I could channel,

Right?

And the trans channeling,

He thought it was like the coolest thing ever.

So we used to sit down almost every night,

Really,

When channeling a lot,

He'd have his recorder out,

He'd have a list of questions he want to ask,

And I just go into my channel.

And he asking all these questions and seeing what came through.

And he would then re-listen to it the next day and take notes,

Sometimes type things up and share things from channelings.

And he was so supportive and so encouraging and so enthusiastic and excited about me channeling that I channeled so much.

My channeling got really,

Really good because we were full in it,

Full dedicated,

Full devoted.

And I was able to channel longer,

Clearer,

Better than I ever had.

Darryl actually helped me get so much better at channeling because of his devotion to it,

Right?

I could channel with my ex,

But he was like,

Cool,

Happy for you to do that,

But it's not really exciting for me.

Meanwhile,

Darryl was like,

You can talk to aliens?

What?

Can we do that together?

It's very different values.

And of course,

For us,

When we're making big life plans,

You know,

I'm like,

I want to get married.

He's like,

Yeah,

I want to get married too.

Well,

I got there,

Right?

I knew I eventually wanted to get married,

But there was a time when I was like,

Well,

Not right now,

But like,

We want to live more in the nature,

Not out in the city.

We were in the city before.

So our plans for life,

What we wanted to do,

What we wanted to create were aligned.

So this divine life partnership,

It helps you embody your sole purpose.

And I helped him embody his sole purpose as well.

I channeled on it.

So what he was here to do with men,

Supported him in creating the men's work that he does do and share out with the world.

So both of us helped each other amplify each other's sole purposes.

And then we're building a life that is aligned and together.

If you sit down with your partner and you go,

What's your number one value?

What's your second?

What's your third,

Right?

And when we talk about values,

It's where do you spend the most amount of time,

Energy and money,

Right?

Where do you spend most of your money,

Most of your time,

Most of your energy?

For me,

Like the number one is family,

Sole purpose.

Those are the kind of top two of,

Well,

Spirituality,

Sole purpose,

Spirituality.

Those are always the top two.

It's the same for Daryl,

Right?

And that's really important,

Right?

They're the number one things for me.

And even then when we elicit the rest of them,

They're the exact same two.

So that's also really important because if your number one,

Your number one value is spirituality and his number one or her number one value is money,

For example,

Right?

And maybe number,

If your number two is money and his number two is spirituality,

Okay.

But if they're far down the line from each other,

Like your number one spirituality and your partner's is number 10 spirituality and everything else before it,

You're not going to want to spend your time.

Daryl and I are like,

Let's meditate together.

Let's do spiritual shit together.

Let's go to these spiritual workshops,

Right?

This is one of our number one values.

So having the same,

We know how we want to raise our kids too.

So having those values is really important.

It will guide you on your divine life partner.

So when you're saying,

Oh,

I want a soulmate,

I want a soulmate.

If you're talking about the soulmate that you have for the rest of your life,

That you get to build your life with,

You are calling in and requesting a divine life partner.

That is what you are calling in.

And I would recommend even using that language,

The divine life partner.

Now there's also another type of soulmate,

Which is the twin flame.

Now,

A lot of people get really caught up into the twin flame stuff.

It's,

You know,

Like there's been documentaries on the twin flame stuff.

It's messy.

Honestly,

In my years of doing this work,

I have seen the twin flame stuff cause a lot more harm than good,

Because people get sucked into it.

They're like,

That's my twin flame.

I have to go after them like crazy.

Non-stop.

Now when most of people are referring to twin flame,

They're not referring to like,

Oh,

They're just a soulmate.

They're actually referring to,

Cause our soul has a hierarchy,

Right?

You have soul within you right now.

We have the next layer of our soul,

The next dimension that holds more of our soul.

Cause all of our soul,

Everything that we are,

This physical body in this dimension cannot hold it,

Right?

So you have your soul as it is now,

Then we have a higher self,

Right?

Then your higher self goes,

There's a higher aspect to your higher self,

The higher,

Higher self,

Which is the oversoul,

Right?

And it goes up all the way up to the monadic soul,

Soul family,

All the way up until you get all the way back to source energy,

Right?

Which is what your soul is,

A fragment of source energy.

And your oversoul is actually made up of two higher selves,

Which come down into two souls.

So when we say twin flame,

We're generally talking about that other aspect of the oversoul.

However,

The reality is your whole monadic group,

Your whole soul family,

Right?

All the souls that you are connected to on your highest soul family are 99.

99% of the time,

Not incarnated with you here in this lifetime,

Because they can be supporting you more behind the scenes.

And the soul group wants to grow spiritually,

Right?

They want to evolve.

So if they have multiple souls incarnated,

Let's put one on this planet,

One on that planet,

One on that planet to maximize the experiences and growth,

Right?

And when one soul is doing really well,

They're going to bring back the other souls to focus on that one soul,

To really guide them and support them into the soul's evolution,

Because one soul evolving affects all the other souls in that.

So it's very unlikely for twin flames to incarnate,

But it still can happen.

It can still happen.

However,

A twin flame is very much a mirror and they can project and mirror.

And I honestly believe the purpose of the twin flame is for your soul growth,

Right?

It's to show you what you need to work on,

What you need to shift,

Not to have a peaceful,

Loving relationship.

Maybe in a higher dimensions we do,

But right here,

Right now on earth,

We have so much stuff.

So if you do have a twin flame experience,

It is usually to bring stuff up so that it is,

So you become aware of it.

And then you go your separate ways,

Right?

It is not something that you're like,

This is my twin flame.

They're going to be with me forever.

They're usually very,

Very similar to you.

And your best option on earth is a divine life partner,

Right?

That's going to give you a beautiful,

Healing,

Healthy,

Stable relationship that meets all of your needs,

All of your desires,

And fulfills you with soul love that you can build a life with and amplifies your soul purpose.

You might meet your twin flame to trigger stuff,

To move stuff through,

But I do not recommend calling in your twin flame.

I recommend saying,

I'm ready for the highest love that is available to me right now.

I'm ready for my divine life partner.

If a twin flame does need to come in for you,

Then they will,

Right?

But I don't recommend calling in it,

Especially because most likely 99.

9% of the time your twin flame isn't even incarnated here.

So it's most of the time,

They're just a guide for you,

Right?

Like your higher self.

They're a guide working with you.

So the other kind of relationship you have is a past life compatible soulmate,

Right?

So it's someone that you knew in a previous lifetime.

And you were soulmates in that lifetime,

Maybe even divine life partners,

And you've come into this lifetime and you're not really compatible to be like in a romantic relationship,

But there's a soul resonance.

So I recommend for those types,

Friendship is really good,

Right?

Because there's not always,

Well,

There can be lust and a connection and desire because it's from a previous lifetime,

But then there's this knowing of like,

But like,

It's,

It's,

We're not really meant to be together.

So that kind of experience can come up too.

All of these ones that I'm talking about,

They're obviously about romantic relationships,

We can have absolutely soulmate connections with friends,

Family,

That can absolutely happen.

What we're looking for is we're looking for the resonance of soul connections,

Right?

So if I look at my closest friends,

They resonate with me on a soul level,

We're talking about the same values,

Again,

Very similar with my husband,

They amplify my soul purpose,

Same vision,

Same values,

We're very connected,

And I feel seen and understood on that soul level,

Right?

So that soul resonance is when we're talking about soulmates.

I spoke earlier about,

You know,

You don't necessarily need to be healed,

Because it's something that I see a lot where people are like,

Oh,

Well,

I need to heal my wounds.

I'm not ready for a relationship.

I need to heal.

I need to heal.

My experience was the healing that I needed to do I did in my relationship.

I couldn't have done on my own because I didn't know what it was.

I actually needed a partner to show me what they were,

So I could heal them.

And he helped,

The reality is we helped each other heal each other's stuff.

However,

If you don't heal the stuff,

You can't keep them.

So what I mean by that is you can manifest a relationship,

Even if you're unhealed,

But if you don't heal it,

At least while you're in it,

You won't be able to keep them.

So let's say you begin a relationship with someone,

And then suddenly you're in this relationship and you're like,

Oh,

Wait,

I've just realized I have like an unworthiness pattern that this person has like triggered in me and I can see it now I had no idea.

Oh my God,

You don't heal that you're gonna have a really hard time staying in that soulmate relationship,

Right?

It's come up,

You need to heal it and you need to work on it.

So I don't want you to be like,

Oh,

Well,

I need to heal all of my blocks so I can have my soulmate.

Yeah,

There will be some stuff that's really important for you to work on.

However,

You don't need to be perfect for you to manifest and call in your relationship.

Okay,

That's part of being in a soulmate relationship is that you bring each other's stuff up.

The main thing with soulmate relationships really is divine timing,

Right?

And I see it a lot with people,

They're like,

I want to call in my divine life partner,

I want to call in my soulmate relationship.

And they're manifesting,

They're doing all the things,

I'm like,

Great,

Awesome.

And you might be ready,

But is your divine life partner ready?

And the example I always like to give is,

Daryl and I have a big age gap,

Right?

So we met when I was 22 and he was 43 when we started dating when I was 23,

He was 44.

And the reality is,

He wanted his soulmate 10 years prior to that.

Like he was in his 30s,

Like 30s,

Like,

All right,

Guys,

I'm ready for my soulmate,

Bring her in.

I was 13.

So there is a divine timing that comes into play that I was only ready,

And I would say like just ready mentally,

To be able to handle a relationship at 23.

Even two years ago,

I would not have been ready.

So Daryl actually had to wait for me,

Right?

So a lot of people are actually waiting on each other.

So you know,

Your partner,

If they haven't shown up in your life yet,

They might be currently going through a divorce,

They might be still processing a relationship,

They might be healing,

They might be,

There are all sorts of different things,

Right?

You don't know.

And so you might feel like I'm ready,

But it's actually not just it's not about you,

Right?

It is actually also about your divine life partner.

So when it comes to relationships,

More than any other area,

You know,

Love manifestation,

I think is really important.

Business?

Yes.

Abundance?

Yes.

Life?

Yes.

Health?

Yes.

Relationships actually require a lot more surrender than any other area.

Because you have a contract with a person,

Right?

Before you and your soulmate came into this life,

You hung out in the higher realms,

And you said,

Right,

I want to make this contract with you,

You're going to come into my life at this age,

You're gonna help me with this,

We're going to do this together,

And you create this contract.

So no matter what,

At that time,

At that,

When the contract is made,

They're going to come into your life.

You don't really need to manifest that,

Right?

There is a divine timing.

Some people like me,

It happens quite early.

And for some people like Daryl,

It happened quite late.

That's,

That's just how,

How your soul has decided,

Decided it for some reason,

His soul said,

I need to have this life experience before I'm ready to create this partnership with you.

And my soul was like,

No,

I don't want that.

I just want to go straight into a partnership from a young age,

Right?

Our souls have different desires and different experiences.

So there has to be a degree of divine surrender.

That's a lot deeper than other manifestation,

Knowing and trusting,

You have a soulmate,

You have,

Like,

There's no doubt about it,

You have a soulmate.

In fact,

You have multiple soulmates,

Right?

Some of them might be karmic,

Divine life partners,

Compatible,

Incompatible soulmates,

You have soulmates,

You have plenty of connections that are going to be beautiful for you to experience in this lifetime.

However,

Most of you are desiring and wanting to call in a divine life partner,

Which is amazing.

And there is someone who has contracted to you for you to have that experience.

However,

You might be ready,

Or they might not be ready,

Or they might be ready,

And you might not be ready.

And at the end of the day,

It doesn't even matter,

Because there is a time and a space when you two are contracted to meet each other.

And so when we talk about manifesting,

I want you to walk through the world,

Like,

Not like,

Oh,

Where's my soulmate?

When am I going to find my soulmate?

But my soulmate is going to come to me at the perfect time.

My soulmate and I are contracted to meet with perfect divine timing.

I can trust and I surrender to that.

And I know that they are coming when it is in the highest best for both of us.

I'm not going to force it.

I'm going to force it to come early when it's not aligned.

Because what if you like,

Let's have because you're a creator,

Right?

You can go,

I want it.

I want it now.

I want it and you manifest and you manifest and manifest it.

What happens?

He's still working,

Let's say,

Hypothetically,

You call in your divine life partner,

But he's still with his karmic soulmate.

Pretty happily in a relationship with her,

Even though they're processing stuff.

It's two years too early.

But you've sat there and you've manifested and you've demanded and you've used your tools as a creator and you've called them in,

Even though it goes against divine life timing.

He's come in and gone,

I don't want you.

I'm not attracted to you.

Bye.

There is divine timing that is so important here.

So I need you to walk through life like my divine life partner,

My soulmate is out there.

They're coming in at the perfect time for me.

I get to surrender to this knowing and I get to enjoy my time right now of knowing that my divine life partner is just around the corner and let me enjoy this time that I have with myself,

With my life,

With my friends,

Because when they show up,

It's going to be perfect.

I haven't missed out on anything.

I haven't missed out on anything.

It is perfect as it needs to be.

You need to hold that vibration,

Right?

And it's like,

It's the abundance vibration of trust,

Knowing,

Surrender.

They're coming,

Not the,

Where's my soulmate?

Where are they?

I don't have them.

That's what we want to step away from.

You can absolutely do the visualizations,

See like all the manifestation processes,

Wake up,

See yourself,

Waking up next to them,

Coming home to them,

Experiencing all the feelings.

That's great.

What that's going to do is it's going to put you into a feeling of receptivity and actually allowing them aligning to the identity of you being in a relationship,

Which is a really good space to be when they do come in.

But even if you do it for every single day for two years,

If they're contracted to come in in five years,

It'll be five years.

If it's two months,

It's two months.

That's the reality,

Right?

So we've got to surrender and loosen this group that you might be having and just lean into trust.

And,

You know,

For some of you,

Especially women watching this,

You might be like,

Okay,

But I want to have kids.

Like I have a biological clock.

Guess what?

If you're contracted to have spirit babies,

If you have spirit babies that have chosen you,

If you've said,

Yes,

Spirit babies,

I want you.

And he's the father of those spirit babies.

Well,

Then it's going to happen.

We see women getting pregnant at all ages.

But if your soul was like,

Right,

We're going to have babies at 40 and you're 35 and going,

I need to find him.

I need to find him.

It doesn't matter what you're going to do.

You're going to have them at 40.

Of course you have free will.

So you can walk into an IVF clinic and get pregnant,

Or you can say,

Screw that.

I don't want to get pregnant.

Or you have free will,

But what you are looking for requires divine surrender,

Right?

And it's going to come from trust and knowing how deeply divinely you are supported.

And that's where you want to work with spirit.

You want to work with your soul so you can build up that muscle of divine trust and knowing that everything is working out for you in the highest,

Best at all times.

Just because you haven't found your soulmate,

It doesn't mean that you don't have one.

It doesn't mean you've been abandoned.

It doesn't mean that they've forgotten about you.

It's all happening perfectly for you at the exact right time that you need it for the highest good of you and your partner.

That's the truth.

That is the truth of it all.

Now you do need to be asking yourself as well,

Like,

Am I blocking it?

Is there something that I need to do to shift into it,

To receive it?

So I still do recommend doing the processes that support manifesting your divine life partner,

But without attachment.

Not going,

Okay,

He's going to be here in six months.

He's going to be here in six months.

It's going to be there when the time is perfect for him to come in,

Right?

So do the manifestation,

Align with the energy,

Focus on the feelings,

And then disattach and know that there is a divine timing.

You are manifesting and calling them in and you still get to manifest and create the relationship of your dreams,

But with a sense of surrender.

And this manifestation,

Like,

I really believe it continues even in relationships as we grow.

So,

You know,

Our relationship,

We spend a lot of time and energy working on it,

Focusing on it,

Growing because it's so important to us.

And even in our relationship,

When like,

Let's say there's a pattern of an argument that keeps happening,

I will go and I will focus on manifesting,

Clearing it out.

I'm like,

What part of me is creating this?

What do I need to heal?

I'll do ho'oponopono,

I'll do processes to shift it within myself.

And then I'll go and I'll go,

Okay,

Well,

This is actually the experience I want to have.

And I will manifest the exact scenario that I want to have.

And,

You know,

Our relationship has evolved so beautifully.

And I think that's been a really big part of it,

Actually focusing on the relationship template,

The template of my husband,

And working on that energetically.

So my last little thing that I want to share with you is ask,

Ask spirit,

Ask your guides,

When will my soulmate be ready for me?

Am I ready for them?

Is there anything I need to heal?

And just see what comes through.

Focus on calling them in,

Focus on healing anything that's going to come up in your relationship,

Keep working on yourself,

Enjoy your life.

And don't worry so much,

Your person is going to come in the highest good and the highest time for you.

So enjoy life as it is for right now,

Because your person is out there.

And they're gonna find you when it is contracted.

Thank you,

Beautiful soul sending you so much love.

Hope you enjoyed today's episode.

Thank you for being here.

Blessings.

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