Ascending The Emotional Ladder To Greater Well Being

If you would like to move through stuck emotions,

You would like to ensure that emotions are not going to hold you back in any area of life,

Then using the emotional scale is going to assist you to be able to move through emotions easily and smoothly.

Hello and welcome I'm Helen Hansen a kinesiologist with developmental psychology,

Archetypal psychology and holistic psychology.

And the emotional scale is a technique that I have been using for many years now in my mind-body practice and it has been one that I have seen to be most accessible and successful.

And the reason is that the brain is able to make new neural connections that are realistic.

Sometimes when we are in a deep dark emotion or maybe in a mediocre emotion but we just can't get out of it and we're really wanting to be in a different space feeling something lighter,

More joyful.

But moving from where one is to where one wants to be in one step is too much for the brain and the brain needs to have the step-by-step process of all those in-between steps of where we are to where we want to be in order for the outcome to be lasting.

So for example if somebody is experiencing jealousy and jealousy is from a vibrational perspective one of the lower vibrating emotions.

Everything at the end of the day is frequency.

Whether it's a feeling or a thought or a cell in your body or a flower that you look at,

Everything has their own unique vibration.

Now jealousy has a vibration that is not life-giving it is life-taking like many other emotions.

To move from a space of jealousy which is a certain vibrating frequency to a vibrating frequency that we term in emotional language as enthusiastic or happy or eager.

That is a very big jump and if we have to use external experiences to force ourselves to feel positive to feel enthusiastic or happy it will not be lasting.

And the reason is we need to take the steps in between moving from a vibrational level where one was at in the place of jealousy to a vibrational level which is close to jealousy but is on a lighter vibrational level.

And so when one moves slowly but surely up and up the vibrational scale the brain and the brain-body connection has an opportunity to accept,

Receive and process these new states and thereby experiencing movement that is realistic because they are real neurological connections that are being made with each new vibrational level as opposed to moving from jealousy to a space,

A frequency that is so far further along the scale that when it is not happening authentically there are no neurological pathways to support a staying power.

So in order to start working with this technique it's going to be helpful for you to have a visual representation of the scale.

In the description here of this track you will see that the different levels of states and emotions are written out and if you can place them now on a piece of paper in a formation of a ladder with the bottom rung having fear,

Grief,

Despair,

Powerlessness.

The second rung from the bottom insecurity,

Guilt,

Unworthiness.

The third rung would be jealousy.

The fourth hatred,

Rage.

Fifth anger,

Revenge.

Sixth discouragement.

Seventh is blame.

Eighth is worry.

Ninth is doubt.

Tenth is disappointment.

Eleven,

Overwhelm.

Twelve,

Frustration,

Irritation,

Impatience.

Thirteen,

Pessimism.

Fourteen,

Boredom.

Fifteen,

Contentment.

This is where the neutrality is between contentment and boredom.

Sixteen,

Hopefulness.

Seventeen,

Positive expectation,

Optimism.

Eighteen is enthusiasm,

Eagerness and happiness.

Nineteen is passion and twenty is joy,

Appreciation,

Feeling empowered,

Freedom and love.

So the majority of the scale,

If we look at all those emotions and states from the bottom all the way up to contentment,

Those areas are vibrating at a level that is not life-giving.

If something is not life-giving,

Then it's life-taking.

From a very chemical experience in the body,

That is acidic forming and that is stressful.

Anything from contentment and above,

Now that is life-giving,

That is nourishing and that's when we're going to be experiencing a balance in our pH level in our chemistry set.

So the way to work up the scale is first of all to find where are you right now on the ladder,

On the scale and the best way to ascertain that is to think of a situation because we have a multitude of emotions taking place within our system at any given time and those emotions will be linked to different experiences,

Different memories,

Different situations.

So take one,

One experience that you are wanting to work through and start with something that is not too deep or too stuck,

Something that is going to be easy just to get the process going and then you can slowly start working with those emotions that may have been with you for a far longer time.

Ok,

So let's say you're dealing with a situation where you feel that you have been wrongly accused and so you are feeling quite disappointed.

You find on the scale the related emotion or the closest one.

Now remember there are thousands of various of emotions and this is a condensed description here on the scale so you want to find the one that is closest.

So take some time,

Make sure you've got the right one and now that you found yours and we're working now with disappointment as the example,

Now we're going to see in relation to this experience,

This situation where somebody has been wrongly accused and they're feeling disappointed.

Disappointed by their friend,

Disappointed by the situation,

Disappointed maybe that this has been coming around again.

So take time to understand why you are feeling the way that you're feeling.

Now we're going to ask,

Is it possible for me in this situation to be feeling overwhelmed?

So in perspective of being wrongly accused I could say yes,

I definitely am feeling overwhelmed because I feel all of these fingers are being pointed at me and everybody's looking at me and I am at a loss for what to do because I'm in shock.

So you can hear there is an explanation that comes with the response.

It is not asking can I feel overwhelmed and saying yes or no.

There needs to be reasons,

Plausible reasons that you relate to in your response.

So I have been able to easily say yes,

I actually am also feeling overwhelmed.

So even though I've been focusing on feeling disappointed,

That's where I feel the majority of focus has been,

Now that I think about it,

There's also been overwhelmed and there is overwhelm and by thinking about that and connecting with the overwhelm more than the disappointment,

I have moved up one level on the scale.

Now I'm going to see if I can move up another level.

So in this scenario,

Am I feeling frustration,

Irritation,

Impatience?

I'm feeling very irritated by this because it's not true and it's unfair.

So I've moved up another run.

Can I move up to the next level of pessimism?

Well yeah,

I am feeling quite a bit negative about life at the moment.

I mean if this can happen with this particular person who I trusted,

Who can I trust?

Now I've seen that I've moved up another level.

So I'm not stuck in disappointment anymore.

I've moved up one,

Two,

Three.

Can I move up to boredom?

Now boredom is an interesting one and it's often a place where individuals,

I've noticed,

Get stuck because one's understanding of boredom needs to be explored and this is true for all of these states and all of these emotions.

So if you find yourself getting stuck on any of the areas,

Just pause and unpack that particular rung of the ladder that you are on,

That particular emotion.

So with boredom,

A link could be that this is a repetitive situation.

This is something that I have experienced before.

So once again looking at the scenario where there's been accusations which are untrue.

Am I bored in this situation?

No.

Could I be bored in the greater scheme of things?

And perhaps I might say here,

Well yes,

I do see that I have been disappointed many times before and that is a repetition and I wish that would stop happening.

So there we see a potential link for boredom.

However,

One needs to ensure that you're not trying hard to make a connection just because you want to move up the rung.

You need to authentically really connect with the next level and the next rung.

So if I really do feel that,

Yeah,

I actually am quite tired of the repetitiveness of feeling disappointed and having similar type,

Although not exactly the same,

But similar situations happen to me,

That is a level of boredom that connects there.

And so we continue moving up until we feel that we just can't connect with a particular emotion or rung.

Now when that happens,

You are able to move up to the next rung.

In other words,

You're able to skip one rung if you can connect easily with the rung above it.

And this you can do once.

It's like you get given a free pass for one of the rungs up the ladder.

So let's say I couldn't connect with contentment,

But I could connect with hopefulness.

That even though this has happened to me many times and I've been in shock,

I still do have hope that not every situation is going to be like this.

Not every person is going to be like this.

So I am hopeful.

Now we see that we skipped one step,

But now we can't do it again.

I need to carry on one at a time.

Can I continue?

Can I be positive and have an optimistic outlook and belief of this situation?

Maybe not.

Maybe that's pushing it a little bit too far.

Right now it's just happened.

The wound is still raw.

And so I think I'm going to just pause on the rung of hopefulness.

So let's look where we actually started.

We started on disappointment.

And disappointment was quite a few rungs down.

And remember that these levels are not levels of arithmetic.

The emotional scale is created on a logarithmic scale.

So the degrees of difference in vibrational frequency from one level to the next is huge.

And even if we just move one level up,

That is a big amount of movement.

And that movement,

What it takes place inside of the body,

Well it starts in the brain.

Because now you've made a new neurological connection.

And you've moved into a different state around a particular focus or experience.

That creates a different charge in the brain which travels through the bloodstream,

Which enters the cells in the body.

And so we have a totally different experience happening in our physiology and our psychology.

So to recap,

Have these levels of emotions,

The emotional scale,

Written out in front of you,

Step by step.

Choose the emotion that is most relative for you at the moment.

Then by asking questions,

See if you can move one rung up the ladder at a time.

Giving reasons why the new level,

The new emotion,

Is related to what you are currently experiencing.

If you get to a place where you can't move up,

Then see if you can skip one level and go to the next one.

Don't do that more than once.

And when you really can't move up anymore,

Congratulate yourself for any movement that has taken place.

As with most things in life,

Practice is key.

And the more that you use this,

The easier it does become.

You will be able to use this on the go,

Which is the beauty of this emotional scale.

And you might be out and about,

You might be in a meeting,

You might be suddenly finding yourself in an emotional state that you need to move out of or through very quickly.

And using this emotional scale can do that for you.

The key,

Though,

Is not to just rush up the scale and say yes,

Yes,

Yes,

Yes,

Yes,

But to give reasons.

Those reasons is what creates the new neurological pairing.

And that new neurological pathway creates the support for one to move up to the next rung and up to the next and up to the next.

So keep on playing with it.

And if you have any questions,

Please leave them in the comments section and also look out for the lives that I have every so often on the emotional scale.

Thank you for joining me here.

And until we meet again,

Do take care.