Hey parents,
My name's Reuben and There's no rule book,
Is there?
There's no rule book for.
.
.
How to bring up kids.
Anyway,
I just wanted to talk to you very briefly about some science in terms of mindfulness.
So obviously there's mindfulness of the external world,
Right?
We hear a lot about that.
There's loads of books on there.
But this is about mindfulness of our inner world.
This is where we can really make big shifts in who we want to be and how we might want to show up when times are tough.
Instance right so you're in a state Your inner world is so important.
It's actually contagious to your little one.
When you are reactive their nervous system will mirror.
Will mirror exactly that.
Right.
You're reactive and their nervous system is going to fire up in a way where they go into protection mode.
This is not a parenting failure.
We all do it.
We all do it.
We,
Myself included.
And then my mind comes in and gives me a hard time about it,
Right?
But this really is about recognizing that we do screw up.
But.
.
.
By having a resolve afterwards.
When your little one is more regulated and you are more regulated when you're having a moment where you can connect.
And having that resolve where you say,
Hey,
Look,
I said this and I'm sorry that I said that.
What did you feel at the time?
What are you feeling now as I'm speaking to you now?
Are you comfortable or are you a bit uncomfortable?
And just getting to know and just having that resolve and seeing them,
Meeting them where they're at.
Is so powerful in fact kids need to see us lose it so that we can then resolve it because that gives them information about what life is like and what life will be like for them in their adult.
Um in in their adulthood right so yeah Anyway,
I hope that this helps you by you having a mindfulness practice.
Your reactivity.
It will help improve your thinking right under pressure.
And the most powerful part of this is that.
Having a mindfulness practice interrupts the stress passing from generation to generation.
So generational trauma,
The more you take care of your inner world,
The more you recognize your tendency to react.
You are actually I not.
Reacting when you can in the moments that you can in the moments where you can regulate and then and and having a formal practice like what i mean is a mindfulness practice you know maybe a daily one This is hugely impactful.
Hugely impactful.
And it means that your kids are going to have less of.
What you experienced in terms of reactivity with your parents So it's an incredible thing to do.
You've got this.
Just recognize there's no rulebook.
We all slip up.
We all make mistakes.
It's hard.
But you being here,
Drawing on these resources here on Insight Timer,
Having a practice is doing more than we can even really.
Fathom.
It really is.
Anyway,
I hope this video has been helpful.
You take care.
