Conscious Love: Cut The Fear And Be A Fool For Love

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We're going to be talking all about love.

We're going to be talking about conscious relationship.

And we're going to be talking about sacred union.

Hi,

Nice to see you.

Hello.

Nice to see you.

And so let's just take a moment to close our eyes.

If we're moving,

That's okay.

Just see if you can settle into your body.

Even if you're walking or you're on the move.

See if you can find that center and just breathe into that space for a moment.

Because whether or not we're sitting or walking,

We always find center.

And we can always come home to that centered,

Grounded place,

No matter if we are still or we are in motion.

And so we're just going to arrive at that space together.

Because we never quite know,

You know,

What our creator wants to say.

And our creator speaks through all of us every day,

In every moment,

Whether he's speaking through creation,

Whether he's speaking through you,

Whether he's speaking in silence.

Because as you know,

The universe was created through sound and stillness.

Stillness.

And so as we get into this conversation about love,

Let's think about love in the sense of a song.

Love is a song.

Love is a sacred song.

The most sacred of all.

And it's also the most powerful frequency on the planet.

It's the most powerful currency that we have.

It's the only currency that we have when we think about creating heaven on earth,

When we think about connecting with our creator.

Because our creator is the creator of love and peace.

And so sometimes,

You know,

Our world can get a little chaotic and we think,

You know,

Power is the currency,

Money is the currency,

Relationship and addiction to something of some kind is the currency.

But that's not the currency,

Friends.

Love is the currency.

Love is always the currency and love is energy,

Basically.

It's the energy that pours into us It's the energy that pours out of us.

And it's really the,

Like Anne is saying in the chat,

The universal currency.

It's the one that we want to be spreading because we are part of that universe,

Because we are part of God,

Because we are part of creation.

And being part of God is not,

You know,

Or being part of the universe,

It's not in,

You know,

The egotistical sense.

Because I think where we're at right now in our evolution is we are moving beyond ego.

The ego has to die.

The ego has to die so that we can live.

The ego has to die so that we can fulfill our purpose.

Because whether we want to believe it or not,

Every single person on this planet of life has purpose.

And sometimes we think,

Oh,

It has to be something grand,

Like speaking like this.

But I can tell you that although this is part of my purpose,

It's not all of it.

My purpose focuses on love.

And so as we begin to unravel this conversation,

Which is really a conversation we're having with our Creator,

With God,

Right now in this moment,

I have no idea what's going to come out.

But I can tell you that I'm excited.

It feels expansive.

It's filling me up.

And at the same time,

It's filling you up.

It's providing the strength and the fuel that we need for our everyday lives.

And it's allowing us to experience different frequencies.

Our body is like a temple for different frequencies.

And love can be experienced on many different frequencies.

You have erotic love.

You have mythos love,

All the way on the other end of the spectrum.

All are love.

And sometimes we get caught up because,

You know,

Religion says this and that about what is sinful and what is not.

And you know,

Some things are sinful.

Some things are seriously sinful.

But when they come from a place of love,

You know it and you feel it and it and it feels right.

But sometimes we get confused,

You know,

Like we're like,

It feels right,

But it also feels wrong.

When it feels right,

Sometimes there's still those frequencies of shame,

Of guilt,

Of things that are from our past that we're still moving through.

And so what we learn to do is we learn to hold the frequency of love.

And we learn to let the frequency of love heal us as we move through the other frequencies of shame,

Of guilt,

Of deep,

Deep fear.

Because typically when we are in love,

When we are deeply in love with somebody,

There is a deep rooted fear.

And this is not to be confused with,

You know,

A toxic relationship.

But it also doesn't mean that we run.

We do not run from love.

Tapping into the right intuition is a hard thing,

But true love always reaches us at the right time when we are in true mindset.

Thank you for that.

Also in the chat,

Ego can achieve everything outward,

But leaving ego will attain you everything inside and the only true value.

Thank you so much.

And so the question is never whether you stay or go and nobody can ever give you that answer.

So I just want to preface this by like,

By saying no like,

No like,

Because there's no like to be found in feeling like we need to come somewhere or be somewhere because we need the answer now.

That's the journey.

And our creator wants us to have that journey.

Our creator doesn't want to like force us into those loving relationships.

Our creator doesn't want to push us to swallow the truth at a time that's not good for us.

Our creator wants us to choose to be on the journey of love,

No matter how scary it is.

Because it's it's the scariest journey there is truly loving somebody.

Whether that means we let them go for a short period of time is the unconditional love that this planet needs.

And so even for myself,

I am more than willing to have the illusion of separation,

Knowing that love never separates.

Love never separates.

The bond is like this,

And it will not break.

So I don't care how many cord cutting ceremonies you have to do or whatever,

You know,

We are learning in the New Age community.

You know,

If you need to do something for you,

Or you feel like,

You know,

I need to,

I need to cut this cord,

Just know that maybe the cord that you are cutting is the addiction or the the,

The endless desire for something that you don't need,

Because you already have it.

For something that you don't need,

Because you already have it.

And so the love,

If you're if it's truly love,

Attachment,

Thank you.

Thank you for putting that in the chat.

It's attachment.

We cut the cords of attachment.

But we never cut love.

Because what is created by our creator,

What is created by God can never be cut.

No matter how much we want to cut it,

Because God,

Our creator would never do that to us.

He would never leave us in this world in in to go through this stage of the journey,

Because this is a drop in the bucket.

This is a really interesting drop in the bucket,

Because it's the journey to eternity.

And we get to choose how we want to show up.

And at the end of the day,

We're going to get everything that was given to us,

No matter what.

But how long it takes us to get there is our choice.

How long it takes us to go home to eternity is our choice.

And so how do we make that choice?

Because that sounds really scary.

It's like,

Shit,

If I don't make the right choice here,

Where am I going to end up?

I want to be with my creator.

I want to be with God.

I want to be in God consciousness.

Where am I going to end up if I don't make the right decision?

And so my answer to that and a wise teacher once told me this.

When I felt really,

Really lost.

She said,

If you choose love,

You will never go in the wrong direction.

It's impossible.

Creator of love,

God of love.

And so we have love,

Purpose,

We have the fuel of life.

And it's the best gift we could ever have.

It's not cliche,

It just it is.

And then,

You know,

At the same time,

We have peace and ease,

Even though it doesn't always feel that way.

Because moving through some of this to to be filled up just completely with the love and not with the shame and the guilt anymore.

It requires a certain level of endurance,

Because we're all moving through different levels of consciousness.

We have the subconscious all the way up to the super.

And the sub is like,

You know,

Ground,

Ground level basement,

Think like parking garage.

That's the subconscious,

Right?

It's the part that we don't typically see,

But we work through in our dreams,

And we work through them at night for a reason.

And so how do we attain?

How do we how do we ensure that love this energy of love and purpose becomes sustainable?

We build the container for it in our lives every day.

Our body is a container for the frequency.

But how do we actually hold the frequency?

Because sometimes we can feel like flippant,

Right?

Like the rhythm of life goes like this,

Up,

Down,

Up,

Down,

Up,

Down.

And then we can feel like we're going up,

Down,

Up,

Down,

Riding the wave,

Right of the emotion.

But there's a way to make it sustainable.

And that's through conscious living,

Every single day,

Living your song and dance of love every single day.

It's the relationship that we have with life that holds love.

And yeah,

Sure,

We have relationships with other people that hold love as well.

We are we are in relationship with everything,

With all of creation.

And so how we move towards different parts of creation,

How we have that centered relationship with our creator,

That is how we make it sustainable.

Because some level of structure needs to meet the flow of love,

Or else we're gonna just go off in a hot air balloon.

If this conversation between you and I were just love,

Love,

Love,

Let me love on you 24 seven.

As much as I love the feeling,

I think we get sick of each other.

We get sick of each other and we'd be up in a hot air balloon,

Right?

Like who wants to spend their whole life on a hot air balloon?

I mean,

It's a fun journey,

But we need to come back down to earth.

We need to come back down to the surface.

It's like going scuba diving and not coming up for air.

Like we don't want to be breathing fake air.

Like,

You know,

Scuba diving is nitrogen and a couple of different things that are mixed together.

But we,

When we're on,

You know,

Planet earth,

And we're feeling that love energy,

We're grounded and we're feeling it.

We're like,

Whoa,

This is,

This feels good to my body.

This feels good and grounded and healthy and nurturing.

And I am filled for my day.

Whatever comes,

I'm filled to the brim.

And so where's the work?

Where's the work to getting to this place?

The work is in conscious living.

So every step you take,

Taking it with love and going in the direction of love instead of ego,

Because ego,

We need certain,

You know,

We need certain types of separation to be able to understand things like mathematics and the alphabet and,

You know,

Answer our phone.

We need to know what is what and that's how our brain functions.

But there's a part of the ego,

The spiritual ego.

Bye-bye.

No,

That guy's dead.

That guy's dying.

We're not,

We're not into that level of consciousness anymore.

And the work is in the heart.

The expansiveness needs to happen in the heart and it needs to happen in relationship.

It needs to happen from person to person.

Every interaction you have,

Every time you give someone love,

You are expanding your own heart.

Even when you feel like you have nothing left,

Just smiling at that person at the grocery store,

Buying that person a coffee,

Letting that person in front of you in line,

That's going to fill you up.

And it might feel like,

How could that fill me up when I feel like I have nothing?

And that's because we have this illusion that we lack and we lack nothing.

Nothing.

Absolutely nothing.

Everything was given to us on the day we were born.

It just feels so,

It feels so when we're moving through our evolution and we're moving through all of the different layers of consciousness,

Because there are so many different layers.

And right before we hit that sweet spot where we're comfortable with the truth,

There is this level of interplay with duality because we're shedding that spiritual ego.

We're killing that spiritual ego because it's not needed anymore.

It's not needed anymore for our evolution.

Sure,

Our brain will always kind of have an ego per se in quotations,

Just because we need to know what separation is.

But there is not,

There is no separation between spirit,

Between soul.

It's our primal self,

Our wild animal self that still wants us to hold on to that duality sometimes.

So life is like a wild becoming.

We're constantly becoming,

But we don't want to forget who we were.

We don't want to forget that lioness,

That that tiger,

That lion.

We don't want to forget that part of ourselves.

We want to take that part with us because that's a really cool,

Badass part of the journey.

We were animals and then we became God conscious.

How amazing is that?

But what happens is we have this thirst.

We have this thirst for the higher love that we think that we lack.

We're searching for that person.

We're searching for our soulmate and we will stop at nothing to come into contact with that person.

And that's not necessarily a bad thing because God,

The universe,

Everything was made in pairs.

Everything was made to go perfectly together so that nobody ever felt alone.

And that's why you see,

You see pairs in nature and we are nature.

And so what is sacred union?

Sacred union is,

Is that other half of us.

It's that other half of us that we are searching for only to remember that we were always whole.

And so why,

Why would God,

Why would the universe want us to do that?

And it's because the more we search for that person,

The more we find ourselves.

And we can find that person too.

And that's beautiful.

Does it mean we'll live with that person?

Does it mean that we married them right when we saw them?

Maybe not.

It means that we found them.

And that's more important than anything.

And that love will continue to fuel everything.

And sacred union is not just about the two people that are involved or even the person that feels the connection deep down inside of themselves.

Sacred union is about everybody.

Even the difficult parts of it,

The running and the chasing,

The running and the chasing because we,

We have a really hard time digesting the truth.

Even that part of it,

That's why it's called sacred.

Because it's beautiful.

The running and the chasing part is beautiful.

And the most beautiful part of it all is recognizing that that other half of you is always with you.

Even when your mind or your spiritual ego tries to tell you that they're not.

That you're not whole without them.

That you need to go and find them.

That you need to go and travel the world and find them.

You don't need to go anywhere.

You just need to sit with yourself and digest the truth.

And you know,

We all have our daily dose,

Right?

There's a daily dose of this.

And as,

As you move There's a daily dose of this.

And as,

As you move through different levels of consciousness,

You'll be able to digest more and more.

Maybe your daily dose starts at two.

Two minutes talking to your creator every day.

Then maybe it goes to 10 minutes every day.

But you find time to connect with your creator.

Because if you can't hear your creator,

You're,

You're going to be searching for something that was always there.

And you're not going to find it in that,

That girl or that guy who's being a complete jerk to you.

No,

You're not going to find it in that relationship that you're lusting.

That's not love.

Love can be felt on a very deep level.

And when you feel it,

You will know without a doubt,

This is it.

This is the person that I'm meant to be in union with for the rest of my life.

And you'll also realize that maybe I needed to recognize my wholeness before getting into this relationship.

Because if I don't feel whole,

Before I get into this relationship,

I'm going to mess it up.

So be patient.

Be patient with the timelines of your life.

There's a reason why you're not in that relationship yet.

I once I once watched this show.

And it was about cowboys.

And it was about cowboys.

It was one of my favorite shows,

Actually.

I can't remember the name of it right now.

And I don't think that that's the point of it.

But the point of it is,

Is that God,

Consciousness,

The universe,

Whatever you want to call it,

Whatever label you need to put,

Always gives us an answer.

And the answer is not for you.

Not yet.

Or I have something better.

Not for you.

Not yet.

Or I have something better.

What do you think that Jesus and Mary Magdalene did?

How do you think their relationship was?

They were in one of the most sacred unions of them all.

And you think that their stories are told the way that they actually were?

But it doesn't matter.

It doesn't matter what stories are told.

Because stories are stories.

And we have to learn how to read between the lines.

We have to we have to learn how to read between the lessons,

Whether that be an ancient text,

Whether that be in movies,

To realize that maybe what we see sometimes on the surface isn't so.

And what about the notebook?

Or the Titanic?

Was that love?

I think what we see in these representations is a is the frequency of love.

These artists who created these novels and these books did a really good job at depicting the frequency of love.

This love exists,

Without a doubt.

And so if you're feeling doubtful that this love exists for you,

I encourage you to sit,

To sit with your creator and let your creator pour this love into you.

Receive it fully and completely.

And then give it.

Give it to everyone you meet.

Because everyone you meet is your beloved.

Everyone you meet is your soulmate.

Everyone you meet needs that love too.

And so we're going to end.

And I don't even like to use the word end.

Because I feel like this is going to ripple.

This is going to ripple into your life.

And this is going to ripple into the lives of others.

And Jessica saying in the chat,

You know,

I thought I found it.

I let it go.

It wasn't the right time.

I was engaged to someone else.

And I resonate with this deeply.

I know what it's like to be in a relationship and then find your soulmate.

And it's not that God,

You know,

Messed up.

He put you where you needed to be for the time.

And that's all you need to know.

You don't need to know why,

Because why just hurts.

So we're going to take a deep breath in.

All the way down to the base of the spine.

And you're going to exhale through the mouth.

Deep breath in through the nose.

Exhale it all out through the mouth.

You're just going to close your eyes for a moment.

And I want you to put your hands over your heart.

And I want you to connect to that other half of you.

But I want you to connect to them as you.

Because they are you.

They are the frequency of you.

And the only reason why they know how to find Because they are you.

They are the frequency of you.

And the only reason why they know how to find you is by you being you.

And so I want you to breathe authenticity into your heart with every breath you take for the next moment.

Every breath you take think authenticity right into your heart space.

Thank you for being here.

Thank you for this moment together.

Take this into your life and live it.

Practice it every day.

Because love is worth having in your life.

And with that I will stay for questions if anyone has any questions.

I will say I'm not a relationship therapist but I will do my best to give you some guidance and direction if you really need it and you're really having a hard time.

I know what it feels like and I am here for you.

So feel free to stay for a couple minutes.

Put your questions in the chat.

I'll stay.

And if we're connected reach out anytime.

Connect with me.

Chat with me.

And yeah stay in the energy of love.

It's worth it and it's worth the discomfort and it's worth the pain and it's worth everything because it is the currency.

Love you guys all so much and I hope you have the most beautiful day.

So a num asks what if someone has some fears associated with being in a relationship maybe because of some unidentified trauma how to overcome it?

So this is a big one.

Fear.

Fear is like the spider web of the Black Widow.

There's no other way to say it.

Like when we're in fear we feel completely tangled and we feel like we have to act a certain way.

We have to react because that spider,

That Black Widow is about to put that poison in us.

And trauma.

Trauma is the web.

Trauma is the web that we have to untangle.

And so how to overcome it and so how to overcome it is to slowly begin to untangle it in the heart space.

So there's nothing externally you really have to do other than take care of yourself when you're going through this.

So the big thing is like drinking a lot of water,

Exercising,

Moving your body,

Getting really good sleep.

Because when we're untangling we need we need the foundation of the earth to hold us through it.

And also allowing time to be a healer.

Not in the sense of like not making a move because we want to make a move when the move is there.

Because when we don't make the move when the move is there we're telling God we're telling our creator like we don't have faith.

And so how do we know when it's the right time?

There's peace in our heart.

Even when there's fear and it feels like pure chaos all around us there is peace in the heart that is undeniable.

It is undeniable because it is when we are in those times of terror and fear that our creator that God he blankets us.

And he makes sure that we can hear.

And the problem is is that sometimes when we're going through fear we're like I can't hear him though.

I don't hear him in my head.

I don't hear him in my ears.

And that's because God speaks through the heart.

The ears are like the heart.

If you put them together they're the heart.

And so when we feel that peace the biggest act of faith and trust is acting in the direction of that peace away from the fear.

Even if you look like a fool for love you might be in a relationship right now or you might also be going through something with someone where you're like I know this is my person but I am terrified of this.

And you need to be a fool for love.

There's no other way around it.

And I don't care what society teaches us we need to be a fool for love.

But we don't need to be foolish.

There's a difference between being a fool for love and being foolish.

Being foolish is following your ego,

Ignoring love,

Shutting love out,

Thinking that you you know you need to have money,

That you need to have power before you have love.

Have love and you will have everything.

Have love in your heart and you will have everything.

You will have the relationship.

You will have the tools that you need to deal with the things that you need to deal with in the conscious relationship.

But put love first.

Let it fill your body.

Let it fill your field.

Let it guide you even when the fear is thick as glass.

Crash it.

Break it down with a hammer.

Literally.

And let the frequency of love be that hammer for you.

Because that nothing cuts ice and glass like love.

Nothing.

So I hope that answers your question but doesn't give you the answer.

Because that's for you my friend.

And you got this.

Thank you so much for that question.

It's beautiful.

And with that I will sign off.

But you know where you can find me.

Here for you always.

Love you guys so much.

Take care.