Law Of Non-Attachment - L,L,&L W/ Glenn Ambrose

Welcome to Life Lessons and Laughter with your host,

Glenn Ambrose.

Hey there,

Welcome to the show.

What's happening?

Happy Monday.

So today I am going to talk about the law of non-attachment.

Non-attachment to an outcome.

This is huge.

The reason I say that is because it's just so multifaceted.

It's well,

It's like some other things that are very,

Very,

Very deep is that they constantly it constantly reveals itself in other ways because it looks so different on the surface.

It's such a deep law.

OK,

So this is this is how things work in the universe like.

This is why we say when if you want to get closer to the truth,

You simplify it.

If you want to get further from the truth,

You complicate.

So if on the surface,

It looks like billions of things that are transpiring in reality.

And,

You know,

And they all look different,

You know,

Your car payment is different than your electrical payment and your but then you can group them together as bills,

But then like but then you have to pay for food.

So that's technically not a bill,

But you need it to keep you alive.

And like it's just it looks like there's.

Just billions and trillions and gazillions of things on the surface that make up life that we have to look at,

And it's very confusing from that perspective.

So as you work your way down,

It simplifies and simplifies.

And if you go all the way down to the core,

You're going to find what I like to call the spiritual laws.

The thing about the spiritual laws is they overlap.

I've talked about this before,

So it's like if you go deeper and deeper,

Deeper into the spiritual laws,

You can even simplify them.

You know,

Some of them,

Some of them you can kind of pick out because they have their own energy and this is one of them.

So this is this is,

You know,

Non-attachment to an outcome is very deep and you're going to be able to see yourself.

See this law bubbling up in a lot of your experiences,

If you slow down and go deep enough and look into these,

Look into your experiences,

If you trace it all the way down,

You're going to be like,

Oh,

My God,

I'm attached to an outcome.

So like as you go up the scale,

Right,

Non-attachment to the outcome is way down near the bottom.

You know,

I guess love is just actually at the bottom.

But off of love,

There's other things.

And,

You know,

I'm not going to go into that too much.

And like I said,

There's overlap.

So it's actually very hard to go into some of that stuff,

Because once you start talking about one thing,

It overlaps into another thing.

So but the non-attachment to an outcome,

One of the ways to understand it.

In your daily life is to understand what its symptom is.

Right.

So so like.

I don't know if this is another way of saying the same law or one step up or whatever,

But.

See,

This is the overlap that I was talking about,

OK,

So this could be kind of considered two separate laws,

But that interact together depending on how you look at it.

So what I'm talking about is suffering is resistance to what is to me,

That's a little bit easier to see because I go,

Oh,

OK,

Am I suffering emotionally?

Yes.

OK,

Then I must be resisting.

The reality of something,

The way something is,

I must be resisting that.

So,

Yes,

OK,

Well,

Why am I resisting it,

It's it's because I'm attached to what I want to happen.

Right,

So do you see where the overlap is,

So I'm attached to what I want to happen.

I don't want my car to break down,

But my car breaks down,

Right,

And I get upset.

So I'm upset and I'm that's if I'm upset,

I'm experiencing emotional suffering.

So I can look at that and go like,

OK,

I'm resisting the reality that my car broke down and that's what's causing the suffering.

Yes,

That's that's true.

Another way to kind of phrase that or maybe even take it one step deeper is is the non-attachment to an outcome.

OK,

Why am I resisting?

The reality that my car is broken down,

Oh,

Because I'm attached to the belief that my car shouldn't break down.

So I'm attached to that belief system.

And really,

Is that true?

I mean.

You know,

So here we are diving into the actual nuts and bolts of non-attachment,

Is that true?

You know,

That's my favorite question.

So it's.

Is my car not supposed to break down?

Well,

No,

That's it's not reality.

Cars break down all the time.

You know,

It's it's the line from the breakfast club,

We we live in an imperfect world,

Screws fall out,

You know,

Stuff happens.

So it's it's not.

Now,

Would I like it if my car didn't break down?

Sure.

Why do it?

Do I think that that's going to make me happy?

Then I'm heading down the wrong direction like that,

So.

This is why talking this stuff out is so good,

Because like most of the time,

If you talk to people,

They they tend to defend their right to be upset.

And we've gotten into this mentality of of life,

Like and I've said this many times,

Like,

I don't know,

40 years ago,

100 years ago,

Something somewhere along the way,

Somewhere it got very fashionable to not stuff your emotions.

We found out that that wasn't good,

So people stop,

They're like,

Oh,

I'm not going to stuff my emotions,

I have to feel this.

But.

They didn't really understand that that's step one,

That's not step one,

Two and three or one,

Two,

Three and four,

Like in your way of processing something.

If if you if something.

Makes you upset,

Then sure,

You can feel upset,

But then what?

Just going to feel upset forever.

I know we're supposed to work through things,

Otherwise we will be upset forever.

Every time we get every time we get reminded of that situation,

It's going to upset us.

So I don't like walking around like that.

But when you start when I start having these conversations initially with people,

You know,

Like I can hear that either from people or when when I'm talking this,

Like I have an ego,

Too.

Right.

So my ego will will spout out its objections as as I'm saying what I'm saying now.

Which I guess is another interesting point,

This is like when I when I stop and express the ego's objection to it,

It's because my you know,

I can kind of hear that inside my head.

It's just with me.

I understand that that's my ego throwing up an objection and I don't have to listen to that.

I don't I don't I don't think that that's like me.

And I don't think it's necessarily true.

It's just my ego trying to warn me because I'm talking about something that sparks fear in my ego because it loses control.

So like my my ego is going to go,

Yeah,

But Glenn,

Watch out,

Just like everybody's ego does.

It's just it's just a small voice that spits out this idea.

And I know that that's what's happening.

So I don't take it seriously.

Whereas a lot of people,

If they have a thought,

They're like,

Oh,

My God,

This is really how I feel like this is my thought.

This is how no,

It's just your ego throwing out a warning sign.

That's all.

So I I do this fairly regularly when I'm explaining things,

You know,

I'll hear my ego throw a little objection out there and then I try to address it because I know that ego is basically the dynamic of an ego is the dynamic of an ego.

So my ego works just like your ego does and everybody else's ego does.

The dynamics of how it works is very simple.

It's it's it's not complicated.

It might say slightly different things,

But for the most part,

They say the same things with the same energies for the same reasons.

So this is one of the reasons why,

You know,

And sometimes the information is being channeled if I get really specific with a client,

But then sometimes it's just I can look at just about any stranger and they could tell me one sentence about what's troubling them.

And I could probably tell them exactly what their ego is saying.

I mean,

I do it fairly regularly,

So it's,

You know,

Because I I want the people that I'm working with to understand that I understand them like I I understand what's going on inside of their head.

I understand what they're struggling with.

So sometimes I'll just be like,

Oh,

Yeah,

You know what's going on inside your head is your ego is going blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah.

And they're like,

Oh,

My God,

That's exactly what's going on inside of my head.

How did you do that?

It's like it's just because I have an ego,

Too,

Like and so does everybody else.

It's it's it's not complicated.

We all think the same things.

We all struggle with the same things.

Oh,

We surface surface wise,

We can struggle with different things,

But as we go underneath,

It's all we struggle with the same things and basically the same ways because of the dynamics of our ego.

So one off on the ego,

They're there for a bit and got to get back on track.

So so,

Yeah,

So nonattachment to the outcome.

So if if my car breaks down and I'm upset that my car breaks down,

Most people defend their right to be upset.

That's their ego.

So that I go,

Well,

You know,

What's the point of having a car break down?

Why should you get upset because your car broke down?

Well,

Because it's it I mean,

It inconveniences me,

So of course I'm going to be upset.

Like,

No,

That's it's not mandatory that you get upset like you can be inconvenienced and accept that you're inconvenienced and not have inner turmoil over the fact that you're inconvenienced,

You can just accept it,

You don't have to resist it and walk around going with this armor saying,

I don't want this to happen to me.

So that's what we do most of the time.

We're walking through life and on on an unconscious,

Sometimes a conscious level,

People think that if.

If they're not upset with something happening,

Then that means they agree to it.

Which is not the case.

It's.

There's lots of.

I mean.

Many I can't even count.

In the last two weeks,

The things that went.

In ways that I wish they hadn't or that I wouldn't have choose chosen them to go.

But I understand,

You know,

My perspective is very limited.

I don't really know what's best for me.

I,

You know,

Like in the grand scheme of things,

Like if if a deal falls through and I go,

No,

I wanted that deal,

So I'm supposed to be upset.

It's like,

Well,

What about what if that deal falling through opened you up for the for the right one?

What about that?

You can see the future,

You know,

Like everybody's had this happen.

Everybody's had something happen where they thought they really wanted it to work out and it didn't.

And then all of a sudden later on,

Something better came along.

I mean,

It's kind of the way of life.

It happens all the time.

Right.

So,

No,

We don't have to be angry when things don't go our way.

And I mean,

Really,

If you really dissect that and look at that,

What like what do you think life is?

How do you think life works?

I mean,

For that to be the case,

If we're supposed to get upset every time things don't go the way we think they should go from our limited perspective.

Like,

Let's blow that out,

What does that look like in the macrocosm?

That means like there are over eight billion people in the world,

We're all individuals,

We all see things differently from different perspectives and everything is supposed to go the way each person thinks it should go in their own personal opinion with their limited perspective or else is something wrong with reality.

And we're supposed to be angry and upset and walk around like that in that energy.

I don't don't you think everybody would be walking around angry?

Because like things don't go the way we think they should regularly.

So we're going to be angry regularly.

Well.

Is that a good way to go through life?

Is that a good formula when things don't go the way I think they should go,

I will get angry and walk around with that anger.

Then you're going to be angry a lot like that's just not how I'm going to choose to walk through life.

So I have to be I have to practice non-attachment to outcomes,

And this is,

You know,

This is really where it gets tricky and basically we are all control freaks like,

You know,

There's there's the there's the control freaks that are obvious,

Right?

Oh,

They're very controlling people.

They're very controlling people.

And when I first started life coaching,

I found it interesting because I had a lot of friends and I found it interesting that I was working with this beautiful,

Big hearted people just and I still do,

You know,

But people who are working on themselves are big hearted people,

You know,

They're just I'm lucky I get to work with some of those most kind,

Compassionate,

Wonderful people that I've ever met.

It's because they're the ones that do the work on themselves.

So.

I was a little surprised as I was uncovering and going deeper with some of my early clients,

And I was like,

Wow,

Like.

You're a control freak,

You know,

And they're like,

What?

And I'm like,

Yeah,

This is and what it is,

Is it's a lot of people pleasers,

A lot of people pleasers,

Which is another.

You know,

Very common trait in big hearted people,

Because we're still see,

Big hearted people are wonderful,

It's just.

We don't live in a society that recognizes that.

So therefore,

They get taken advantage of quite a bit if they don't know how to take care of themselves,

You just run around with,

I'll say,

A half open heart.

Because that's what most big hearted people have.

They have like a half open heart.

And what I mean by that is they run around wanting to do kind things and loving things and but they have no structure to it and they don't understand boundaries and they don't understand limits or enabling.

So they allow people to take advantage of them and abuse them because they're not in control of their own.

Open,

Half open heart,

If your heart was fully open,

Then that then there would be no problem,

Because when we fully open up,

We find out that we can't be hurt and nobody can.

Take advantage of us because we're just giving love and it's what comes back or what if if if we loved if our heart was fully open,

We would love ourselves as much as we love everyone else because we're all one,

You know,

And so like we just wouldn't hurt ourselves.

We just wouldn't allow ourselves to be hurt because it's not loving.

So we'd just be like,

You know,

Somebody could try to hurt us and we'd just be like,

No,

Somebody could do,

You know,

Say really negative things and we would just see it as their ego lashing out.

We would understand that it's not them and we wouldn't get hurt emotionally.

If somebody tried to take advantage of us in a physical way,

We'd just be like,

No.

And we wouldn't get upset about it,

We just just know.

Out of love.

So but most people are their hearts half open,

You know,

And this is just one way to explain it.

It's not that the heart is literally half open.

But.

So so,

You know.

When you start seeing that people pleasing is kind of all over the places this morning,

This is a little earlier than I usually record,

So I think my mind's jumping around a little.

But when I saw that the people pleasers were.

Trying to control outcomes.

It's like,

Oh,

Like people pleasers can be very manipulative with the way they try to get people to do what they think is best or to,

You know,

That the road to hell is paved with a good intention.

So you can have a big heart and you can be trying to help people.

But if you're trying to control their behavior and what they do,

Then that's controlling.

And this is usually why why people pleasers get upset,

Because they're like,

Oh,

Well,

I'll just I'll just give these people what they want or what they think they need and then they'll be OK.

Or,

You know,

Then they'll like me or then they'll you know,

There won't be any fighting then.

It's like,

Oh,

So you're trying to control the outcome of the situation.

You're just giving them what you need.

They need not because you want to give them what they need.

You're trying to give them what they need so they'll be happy,

Because if they're happy,

Then they don't come in and impede on your happiness.

So you're trying to control the external situation.

And you're never going to do it.

That's that's an attachment to an outcome.

I can't believe that I gave them.

I gave them money every week and they didn't and they told me they were going to go get a job and then everyone got a job.

It's like,

Well,

Right,

It's.

That's called enabling.

You weren't helping.

You were enabling them to not work right.

Enabling is one of the biggest.

Tendencies for people,

Pleasers,

Martyrs,

Things like that.

So but it's an attempt to control the outcome.

You see,

We're always trying to control things so.

And.

Yeah,

Which door am I going to come in on this one?

The.

The controlling of outcomes,

There's many ways we can come at this.

And so one of the ways that this bleeds into our life.

Is that we have to take action to make things happen,

Right?

We're co-creating with the universe or with God,

So we have to take action.

To make things happen now,

People think that I think people misunderstand what taking action is like they think,

You know,

The saying.

Like,

Like,

You know,

If you work hard,

You'll be successful.

That's not true.

There's many people that work extremely hard that aren't successful,

And I'm just talking financially successful,

Right?

But however,

There are many people who have worked hard and become successful,

Right?

So there's evidence both ways.

So what makes?

So what's the difference?

Like if if many people are working hard and they're not becoming financially successful,

But yet you have a whole bunch of people becoming financially successful and they're working really hard,

How can it be both ways?

Well,

It's what it is,

Is it's it's not becoming financially successful is not about how hard you work.

It's about our belief systems.

And usually those are unconscious and we're actually unaware of them.

Surface belief systems are just intellectual thoughts that we think we believe,

And they're not very powerful.

Our unconscious beliefs actually drive what happens.

So if we truly buy into success coming from hard work.

Financial success,

And then we start working hard.

If we believe that that's a dynamic,

Then we're going to start becoming financially successful unless there's an unconscious block,

Of course,

Like I said.

But if there is no unconscious block and we just straight believe that hard work brings success and we're working hard,

Then we're going to get successful.

Because we believe that that's what makes success,

Not because it actually does,

Because it doesn't like you can see a bunch of people working really hard and not becoming financially successful.

So it doesn't work.

It's not the reason.

It's just we think it's the reason.

So it aligns us with financial success.

Every time we take action,

We're basically feeding ourself.

Yes,

You see this.

You're doing what you need to do to become financially successful.

So you will because you're doing what you need to do.

So you will.

And we believe that comes to fruition.

You know,

That's basically how we manifest things.

So the problem is trying to control our beliefs and be aware of all our unconscious blocks.

You know,

If you're doing what it takes to make money and you're not.

Making more money,

If you're doing what it takes to become financially successful and you're not becoming financially successful,

It's because there's a subconscious or unconscious block that's blocking you from that.

Right.

And like,

One of the things that I always have to watch out for is this sense of control.

You know,

Once you.

See,

This is a general concept and it looks different for a lot of different people.

But once you kind of settle into how you think life works,

Then you try to control life through that.

And.

And and this is a major problem in people that are living spiritual.

Paths is because we'll we'll look and,

You know.

Look at things and go,

Yes,

OK,

I have to become.

Who I want to be.

So I have to be able to feel like I'm successful if I'm going to be successful.

I have to.

I have to be able to envision myself,

Embody the the the energy of who I'm becoming,

You know,

What what's.

What do I need to change within me to align to what I want to become next,

What I want to evolve into?

Right.

So we're doing all this stuff and we get clear and then all of a sudden we feel this connection and it's empowering.

And we go,

Yes,

Yes.

And we're reading stuff.

And it's like when you're in alignment,

It's God's good grace to give you the keys to the kingdom.

And and we're reading all this stuff and we're getting all jacked up and we don't even realize that what we're doing is attaching to an outcome.

Because we're like,

Yes,

Yes,

I deserve abundance.

I feel myself being abundant.

Yeah,

Yeah,

Yeah.

And it feels so good and empowering that I think that sometimes now I'm not saying that that feeling is necessarily bad.

I'm saying that we have to be careful at that feeling because that is where we can lean into control.

We'd be like,

You know.

My word is divine.

If I speak it,

It will happen.

And then all of a sudden we start speaking things and we're wanting them to happen.

And I've had this happen in my life where I'm just all jacked up in good space.

I'm looking forward.

I'm feeling confident and all the things that I think I'm supposed to feel.

And then I start doing things and just nothing is working.

Nothing's working out.

Nothing's playing out.

And I'm like,

What the heck?

You know,

And then things start with me,

Things it happens very quickly.

So like within a couple of days,

A lot of times,

But definitely within a week,

My life will start getting on an external level.

It will getting it will start getting worse,

Like like everything that can go wrong will start going wrong one at a time in my life.

And and if something goes wrong and it really triggers me,

Then a lot of times I'll get something else to go wrong right after that.

Like right when I'm in the midst of being triggered,

I'll get triggered again.

And it's it's the universe trying to catch me going,

Glenn,

You're not in alignment.

You're off.

You're off.

You're trying to control things.

Your intention was good,

But really what you're trying to do is you're getting all jacked up because you can you think that you can say and not literally,

But figuratively,

You think that you can say,

You know.

God put a million dollars in my bank account tomorrow,

And it's just going to be there and you get excited about the thought of that because not from a selfish perspective,

But because of the things that I could do with with that and and,

You know,

The experiences I could have personally and the good that I could do for communities and and,

You know,

All this stuff and and like and that I get all excited and that starts pulling me and it's joy and I'm embodying the feeling of that and it feels empowering and good.

And and the universe is like,

Whoa,

Whoa,

Whoa,

Dude,

Like you're trying to control things and you're slipping into your ego.

And like,

We can't have you manifest like that,

Because then you're going to think that's how you're supposed to manifest.

You are completely attached to outcomes and you don't even realize that you're attached to outcomes.

You have to practice non-attachment.

That's like very foundational.

Non-attachment to an outcome is very foundational.

So what this means is fully participating.

You know,

Yes,

We take action.

Sure,

We get excited,

But we're also going with the flow.

Like when you're going down a river and the river is.

Pulling you to the left.

And you're all excited and you're you think you want to go to the right,

So you're paddling like crazy to get to the right and the river is just going,

Why are you struggling against me?

We're going left.

This is beautiful.

You're going to get all that you want and more and we're taking you there.

Why are you struggling to go right?

And I'm going,

Oh,

Yes,

But.

You know,

Oh,

It's wonderful.

I'm so empowered and now I'm going to go right and it's going to be wonderful and it's going to and it's like,

No,

Like that's not you're not going with the flow of life.

You're not you're trying to control it and you don't even know you're trying to control it because you're too excited and not grounded.

You know,

This is the problem when we're not grounded.

Like spirituality is wonderful and floating around and feeling the love and the peace and the joy and the connection that that that we are capable of feeling because of being on a spiritual path.

What a gift that is.

How beautiful is that?

But it's intoxicating and it has to be balanced with being grounded.

We're not we can't if we're just just like.

All jacked up in emotion and like.

And we start trying to control things.

Oh,

But why?

Because it's loving.

I'm so loving.

So I'm going to stop everything negative happening in the world because I'm loving and watch me fight against it.

It's like,

You know.

Fighting isn't love.

So if we have to go with the flow,

There's a flow to life.

We can't try controlling what life is doing.

We have to be not attached to the outcome and just fully participating in whatever when there's action and it comes up.

Absolutely.

We participate.

We put energy towards things.

But then when one door shuts that we thought was going to be open,

We go,

Oh,

OK,

Where's the window?

And then we just look for the window.

And that's going with the flow and it's not trying to control everything,

And that's when everything works out.

Everything will work out as long as we keep our hands out of it and stop trying to determine what is what is supposed to work out and what isn't supposed to work out.

You know,

And this big land deal that I'm working on,

It's just taking this to higher levels and I'm being held to a standard.

You know,

This is how the spiritual path works as we as we grow,

The universe isn't going to let us slide backwards.

There is no backwards,

There's only more growth moving forward.

So as I'm expanding,

The universe is like,

Well,

We're not going to you know,

Before we used to let some aspects of control go because whatever.

But like where you are now,

Like it's just a hard no.

Like,

No,

If you're controlling,

It's not going to work out because,

You know,

Better like maybe it's unconscious and you didn't pick up on it.

So then we'll give you signs and we'll let you see that it's not working so you can make the correction.

But we're not going to allow it.

We're not going to just let it slide by because then you would never grow.

So.

Nonattachment to the outcome,

I guess another way of saying it is going with the flow.

We have to go with the flow of life,

Whatever happens,

The car breaks down.

OK,

Well,

It was supposed to break down.

That is what I prefer to not break down.

Sure,

I would prefer to have a pineapple to cut up sitting on my counter so like I don't have to get upset about it.

Because I'm not attached to it,

See,

I'm not attached to that,

Like on an unconscious level,

I don't think that having a pineapple sitting on my counter is going to break it down.

It's not going to dramatically change my happiness.

So there's no attachment to it.

So.

It'd be cool if it was there,

But if it's not,

I'm fine.

This is the energy we have to be in all the time.

That's not attachment.

I mean,

Of course,

We're going to have preferences.

It's not that it's not necessarily that we have to abandon all preferences.

It's just we shouldn't let them dictate our mood.

And how we feel and how we interact with life.

You know,

It's kind of like what I was talking about earlier with my ego saying something and me recognizing it for what it is.

So if my ego says,

Well,

I don't want the car to break down,

That's ridiculous.

I live on a mountain and it makes my life extremely difficult.

And I could come up with 300 reasons why I should be upset.

But what do I get when I win that argument?

I just get the right to be upset.

I don't want to be upset.

I know I'm not looking for reasons why I have the right to be upset,

Because if I find those reasons,

I just end up upset.

So what?

I don't want to be upset.

I want to be happy.

I want to be peaceful.

I want to be contented.

So I have to look for the opposite.

I have to look for the reasons why I shouldn't get upset.

Whatever we look for,

We're going to find.

And to me,

This is how this is how I find the truth.

To me,

This is this is actually how life works.

You know,

It's it just is.

And that's why I experience happiness when I look at life like this,

Because I'm not resisting the way life works.

If I want if I want to try to control things and have particular outcomes come through,

That's just there's no evidence that that's how life works.

It's the contrary.

There's tons of evidence that life doesn't work that way.

So so it's going to breed my resistance.

To what is which is going to cause emotional suffering.

Why?

Because I'm attached to something that I think is supposed to be happening that it's not.

Do you see the boom,

Boom,

Boom?

That's just how it is.

It's how this is why we're walking around upset.

So that's why nonattachment to an outcome is so important.

Like I said,

It shows itself in so many different ways,

Little ways,

Medium ways,

Large ways.

It's it's it's a very,

Very,

Very deep spiritual law.

So so,

Yeah.

So as I'm doing this,

This land project,

How this is manifesting for me is like,

OK,

I get all jacked up with this empowerment and abundance and belief in myself and excitement for the future and all this stuff.

And I get swept away.

And then I start trying to control things.

And and things start when I start trying to control things,

Then my mood starts getting knocked around a little bit.

Oh,

Like,

Oh,

I must have to try harder.

Well,

You know,

More action more.

Oh,

I have to work on my belief systems more.

Oh,

I have to I have to meditate three more times.

I have to like,

Whoa,

Whoa,

What are you trying to do?

Well,

I'm trying to get what I want.

Oh,

No,

I'm attached to an outcome.

OK,

So I need.

Trust,

Faith in the flow of life,

Divine wisdom,

Everything is going.

It's you know,

I was I was thinking about this was the last night,

I think.

And I was I had seen this show.

Well,

I think it was a documentary about Led Zeppelin.

And how their journey to become Led Zeppelin and and how they their mentality about how their music was created and how they went about creating it and all this stuff,

You know,

And I was like,

Wow,

That's you know,

It's very interesting.

And then last night I was watching a movie and they play the Led Zeppelin song and I started thinking about this.

And I was like,

You know,

Really,

When you listen to people's stories.

Where things worked out.

They're like really well,

Like Led Zeppelin had amazing success,

Right?

And really not the specifics in what they did,

But but the general energy in which they did.

So like basically when you heard them talking about what they did is Robert Plant was just like,

I'm just going to sing because it's all I want to do and I'm going to sing.

And then there were some people that knew who he was and he had a bad reputation.

So they're like,

Don't bring him into the band.

He's going to be nothing but trouble and he's going to drag you guys down.

But the synchronicities were there and it felt right.

So they just went with it.

And and they just pushed away the naysayers and they just kind of went with it.

Next thing you know,

It started turning into something like and.

It was kind of like that with a lot of things,

You know,

Like,

I mean,

They put in their due diligence,

They learn their craft,

Right?

Jimmy Page,

Especially.

It was like,

Wow.

Um,

All of them,

Really.

But but Jimmy Page,

Like,

You know,

He.

He was having success as a session musician and and really doing some pretty cool things,

But he had this thing inside of him,

This this vision.

And it wasn't like anything anybody else did.

These ideas of how to make music and what to do with it and all this stuff like they weren't and he just.

It wanted to be birthed.

He didn't know how it was going to be birthed.

See,

I think that's the big thing is it's the how that we get caught up with.

Right.

He just did whatever the heck he could do at the time where he was.

So it's like,

Oh,

OK,

I'll I'll I'll learn this.

I'll get this connection.

I'll work on this while I'm doing that.

I will eventually get to the point where it's like,

OK,

I have to put together a band because otherwise,

How am I ever going to be able to put together this music that I'm envisioning?

And,

You know,

So like it's all filled with him taking action,

But.

There were failures along the way,

There were things that he thought he wanted that his mind changed or,

You know,

Things that they thought they wanted to work out that didn't work out,

But they just kept doing it,

Just putting energy towards this.

We just want to put out this music that's.

Inside of me that I just want to get out,

That's it,

Not how,

Not what it's going to look like.

Now,

They might they might have,

You know,

Had some visions of I want to be famous someday or something,

But but that wasn't their driving force.

It was this.

I want to play music and I want to get this my version out and our version now and and it just takes on a life of itself and it just goes.

You know,

And this is like whenever I've done anything that's worked out,

This is how it it's worked out.

I've never known the how.

Ever like it's.

And it's fun doing it this way when we let go of the control,

The control causes a lot of angst and and stress because we're trying to control things that we can't.

So it's it's frustrating,

You know,

But when you when you hear people pay attention to how people speak when they talk about how things worked out like effortlessly.

Because I'm not interested in finding out how things work out if you take the stress road because I don't want to take the stress road,

I want to pay attention to how things work out effortlessly where that just things seem to fall into place,

You know.

So it's like for me,

I always think about when I first woke up,

You know,

Over 20 years ago,

It was like.

Well.

How I was in Florida,

My son was in Rhode Island,

So it's 1400 miles,

How am I going to move 1400 miles?

I know I know I need to be with my son.

I know that so and I know I'm going to and I know that I'm going to be in his life on a.

Regular basis,

Like multiple times a week,

I'm going to be the father influence in his son,

I'm not going to see him every couple of weeks on a weekend,

I'm going to be there,

I want to experience all the different aspects of his life and be the father figure.

If not on a daily basis,

As close to a daily basis as possible.

So I just knew that and when people heard.

You know what my ex wife felt about that,

You know,

She was going to keep me as far away from him as possible.

So like they're like,

How are you going to do that?

How are you going to move up there?

What are you going to do for work?

Where are you going to live?

How are you going to get her to let you see him?

Because I had messed up a little bit initially in court and somehow their lawyer,

Her lawyer snuck in a temporary,

Well,

Basically her having full custody.

Initially.

So I had no.

Custody rights at all.

And then I went to court and they were like,

No,

Nothing real has changed.

So we're not going to give you anything like I had moved up from 1400 miles.

But anyway,

My point is,

Is on that journey.

It looked like there was no way to do what I was going to do,

But I knew that I was going to,

I just didn't know the how.

So then all of a sudden I find out my aunt and uncle had moved to Rhode Island to be near their one of their daughters.

And I was moving.

I wanted to move to Rhode Island and they had this big house with an extra room.

And,

And my uncle had these copy machines and computers downstairs from an old business that I could use to job search.

And it was amazing.

Like you could,

You couldn't design this any better.

So then,

Then I was going,

I had like three interviews lined up for jobs that I didn't really want,

But I needed to get something.

And then all of a sudden that morning I open up a newspaper and there's a job fair 15 minutes away.

And I'm like,

What,

Like,

Why didn't I see this before?

And so I rescheduled my interviews and I went to that and I got a job making the exact amount of money that I had projected that I thought I needed to kind of stabilize everything.

So I didn't,

It just happened.

It just fell into place,

You know?

And then I got an apartment from a landlord that I had walked out on when I was drunk,

Like a year and a half or two years earlier.

I just left,

I just left my apartment.

I didn't pay rent.

I didn't tell him I left all my crap in there,

Food in the refrigerator,

Everything.

I just left everything and bolted.

And this person decided to rent to me again.

Like insane.

So,

So I lucked out there,

You know,

Just these things.

And then my ex moved down to a town like 20 minutes away or 30 minutes away or something.

And I was like,

Well,

I want to be close to my son.

So I moved down to that town too.

And I found an apartment right,

Five minutes from his house,

Right around the corner and down the street.

Perfect.

Then I found another place later on that was even better.

Same location.

I mean,

Stuff like that just fell into place.

I could never have planned that stuff,

You know?

And when she,

When she moved down,

My ex-wife moved down,

She was going back to school and working part-time.

So she needed a babysitter since she wasn't going to be living with her family anymore.

So I stepped in and I got to see my son five days a week,

Five days a week.

Because she needed a babysitter.

So I rearranged my schedule to figure out how I could be with him five days a week.

He didn't sleep over every night.

He only slept over one night,

But I saw him five days a week.

And then I went to court and got that locked in because I knew as soon as school was over,

She was going to pull out.

So I needed to have it locked in legally,

Right?

So this is like,

This is the stuff that just falls into place.

And so did I have to take action?

Yes,

I had to take action,

But I didn't know how any of this stuff was going to happen.

And I wasn't really attached to any particular outcome.

I just,

I wasn't,

I wasn't trying to make the outcome happen.

Okay?

Like,

Maybe that's a clearer way of saying it.

Like,

There was something inside of me that said,

I'm going to be with my son on a regular basis.

But there was no angst attached to it.

There was no control attached to it.

There was no,

How am I going to make this happen?

I have to make this happen.

It was just there.

It was just there.

It was just this thought that I want to be with my son.

And if somebody,

You know,

Like if I talked about it and they're like,

Well,

You're not with your son now,

Is that frustrating?

It's like,

I'd have to think about it.

I'd be like,

Well,

Yeah,

I guess so.

I guess there's a part of me that doesn't like it.

Because I want to be with my son and I'm not with my son.

So,

I mean,

You know,

In the beginning there.

So,

I guess there's a part of me that doesn't like it.

But I was too caught up in just doing the next right thing and keeping my eyes open and trusting and just walking through life like that.

And then all of a sudden a situation would arise that would be an opportunity and I would seize it.

And then would it all fall into place?

No,

It didn't.

That's,

I wasn't trying to control it.

So,

I wasn't too concerned if that meant everything fell into place or how close I was to making it happen or am I there yet?

I wasn't,

I wasn't like that.

I was just kind of floating around,

Man,

Just doing the next right thing.

What can I do?

I don't know.

Talk to lawyers.

Look into family court stuff.

Work hard.

Make good living.

So,

I can maybe afford a lawyer if something does happen.

Or work on myself spiritually.

I need to be happy,

Peaceful,

Contented.

And I was just living my life like that.

And then these situations would just get put into my life,

Put into place,

And everything would work out.

I wasn't attached.

Even though I had this knowingness or this idea that felt warm and fuzzy inside of being with my son on a regular basis or anything else at that point.

And,

You know,

I look back on it now and I kind of knew it was going to happen.

At the time,

I didn't know it was going to happen because I wasn't attached to it.

I knew I wanted it to happen.

I knew I was going to lean in the direction of it happening.

I knew if there was something that I could do that could make it,

That could help it happen,

Then I would be willing to do that.

And I did when I saw those things.

But I wasn't attached to it.

And that's the difficult part,

I think.

It's just getting lost in the work and just doing the next right thing.

And kind of just staying in that,

If it's that,

Thy will be done,

Not mine.

You know,

If it,

Hey,

You know,

I don't know how this is going to work out.

Technically,

I don't even know if it is going to work out.

I'm going to keep putting my attention,

My energy towards it because it fills me with joy.

And it's,

I like the idea of it.

And so I'm going to put my energy towards it.

But that's about it.

That's all.

No control,

Not grasping onto an outcome,

Not attached to anything,

Just getting lost and doing the next right thing with no pressure.

Because you're not trying to control anything.

So there's no stress.

It's a very easy,

Calm way of living.

Allowing things to come through us and participating in our unfoldment when we can with no attachment to an outcome.

That's it,

Peeps.

Hopefully,

I explained that well enough.

This is,

You know,

It's when you get deep,

There were a couple little things that the ego was throwing in that I didn't grab onto and explain because it's,

You know,

I know when I do that,

I kind of,

I can veer off topic a little bit.

So I tried to minimize that.

So hopefully,

Hopefully,

You guys get what I mean about this.

You know,

It's extremely important.

So I would recommend contemplating it,

Meditating on it,

Journaling about it,

Whatever,

To help gain clarity.

And of course,

You know,

When I do these podcasts,

I kind of generalizations for the most part,

I try to bring in real life circumstances so you guys can draw a line from concept to real life implication.

That's why I talk about my past is because otherwise,

It's just this theory,

You know,

Oh,

And people listening like,

Oh,

Yeah,

Yeah.

Not attachment to an outcome,

Man.

That's beautiful.

I need to do that.

But then they don't implement it in their life.

Because it's just some floaty idea.

Right.

So that's why I try to bring in real life situations and explain what it looked like and what it felt like and how I implemented it in my life and how I experienced it.

Because then hopefully you guys can take those situations and go,

Okay,

Well,

You know,

I'm not trying to figure out or I'm not.

My vision isn't to spend a bunch of time with my child.

Maybe it is cool.

But if it's something else,

It's not about what you're trying to accomplish.

Like,

It doesn't matter what the topic is.

The dynamics underneath those topics are the same.

So just because I was talking about,

You know,

My experience,

Just take your experience,

Whatever you're trying to live and try to take the mentality that I described in part and put it into your situation,

You know.

And I mean,

Of course,

When I'm working with my clients one-on-one,

I can really help them do that.

And that's like,

You know,

Easy.

So I mean,

If you're struggling with this,

Let me know.

And,

You know,

We can do some one-on-one work and we can just work through your particular situation.

And like I said,

That's easy for me to do because that's my job.

It can be very difficult for other people to do because,

You know,

It's not their job and it's their life situation.

Like,

I can help other people even better than I can help myself because myself,

I can drop into unconsciousness sometimes or,

You know,

Get clouded with emotion sometimes.

And then that's why the universe pulls me back in and goes,

Oh,

Wait a minute,

You drifted off there,

Glenn.

You started getting into control.

We got to get back here.

Non-attachment,

Remember?

Yeah.

Stay open.

Oh,

Yeah,

Yeah,

Yeah,

Yeah.

Okay.

You got a little excited there.

You drifted off.

And before you knew it,

On an unconscious level,

You were trying to control things and you didn't even realize it.

So we just took your legs out a little bit to capture your attention.

So you're like,

Oh,

Wait,

Wait,

I'm off.

I'm doing something that isn't working.

You know,

Where did I drift off?

Oh,

I'm caught up in control.

Okay.

Get back to non-attachment to an outcome and open.

What did it look like when you were doing when you moved up from Florida to Rhode Island,

Glenn?

Oh,

It looked like this.

Oh,

Okay.

So how can you duplicate that,

The energy in which you experienced that,

The way you were thinking,

The way you were feeling,

Your outlook on that?

How can you duplicate that?

All those things that worked into your situation now,

Right?

So what I'm asking you to do,

I have to do too.

I can look at the dynamics of what worked in the past and then use that as a blueprint for my current situation.

Okay.

I,

You know,

I was just doing the next right thing and completely open.

And if things didn't go the way that I wanted,

I didn't take it personally.

It didn't even knock me.

I just went,

Oh,

That one doesn't,

Didn't work.

Okay.

I'll keep my eyes open for something else.

Can I think of anything?

No,

Not right now.

Okay.

I'll keep my eyes open.

And I just kept doing the next right thing and looking around,

Then something else would come and then maybe that one would work.

Right.

So I take that and I go,

Okay,

How can that,

That was what I was doing.

That was how I was feeling and thinking at that time when I,

When things worked out.

Okay,

Cool.

How can I bring that into my land situation?

Oh,

Okay.

Well,

I just have to keep doing the next right thing and,

You know,

Putting my vision out there and then the right people will fall into place and it'll,

You know,

And it's a beautiful practice because this is my first land project.

So like,

I don't know what to expect.

I think personally,

I think that's helpful.

And I've heard many successful people talk about this,

That they're like,

You know,

Like musicians are like,

Oh,

It was easy getting famous.

I didn't know I wasn't supposed to,

I was just playing my music and then it kind of happened.

Now I know what it takes and how hard it is to become famous and keeping it is harder because I know what,

I know that it's not supposed to be easy.

Like,

You know,

So sometimes ignorance can be bliss.

So,

You know,

I,

I,

I'm just doing things that feel right.

And some people that have been in this business for a while,

They're like,

Glenn,

It doesn't work that way.

And I'm like,

Eh,

Okay,

I understand what you're saying,

But I think it might be able to let's,

Let's play around with it a little bit.

And the ones that are open,

It's going to turn into a beautiful project.

You know,

It already is.

Things come in that people don't expect.

If I told you guys all the,

All the ideas that were falling into place and all the,

Like,

Like especially a business person at first,

The business person is like,

Huh?

Seriously?

I'm like,

Yeah.

They're like,

Oh my God,

This actually might work out.

See,

I've gotten far enough where the business people are starting to go,

Oh my God,

This dude seems crazy,

But like,

I think this is going to work.

It's cool.

All right,

Peeps.

Thank you for listening.

Let me know if I can serve you and that's going to do it for today.

All right.