Episode Forty-Nine: The Byte-Penny Crews Seay

I remember one time talking to a minister in the Methodist Church,

And I remember asking him about,

You know,

In your sermons,

You know,

You always are talking about all these problems and things that are wrong and how we need to fix things,

And you know,

It's always just kind of dark.

And I,

You know,

Sometimes I wish you could just talk about,

It's so pretty outside and it's beautiful,

And we have all these things to be grateful for.

And he just sort of looked at me like he didn't understand that.

And another time,

I was in a disciple group with,

And he was in that group too,

And we were talking about the whole concept of brokenness,

Which is always a hard one for me.

And I said to him at one point,

I just have so much trouble with this because I don't feel like I'm broken.

Are there things I'd like to change about myself?

Are there things I wish I hadn't done and I would do differently?

I mean,

Yeah,

I mean,

That's all true,

But broken,

I don't think I'm broken.

And he said,

Well,

You just don't realize that you are.

I grew up in a church.

We attended a congregationalist church.

It was in Lawrence,

Kansas,

A fairly liberal church.

So we always went to church and my memory is that I was more interested in and participated more in youth group,

But I was involved in youth group stuff all the way through high school and really did like it and then was in college.

And when I graduated from college and was living in Kansas City and I was looking for a church and I realized much later that I was really,

Church was an avenue for community and I was really looking for community.

And I remember one time talking to a minister in the Methodist church and I remember asking him about,

You know,

In your sermons,

You know,

You always are talking about all these problems and things that are wrong and how we need to fix things.

And,

You know,

It's always just kind of dark.

And I,

You know,

Sometimes I wish you could just talk about it's so pretty outside and it's beautiful.

We have all these things to be grateful for.

And he just sort of looked at me like he didn't understand that.

And another time I was in a disciple group with and he was in that group,

Too.

And we were talking about the whole concept of brokenness,

Which is always a hard one for me.

And I said to him at one point,

I just have so much trouble with this because I don't feel like I'm broken.

Are there things I'd like to change about myself or the things I wish I hadn't done and I would do differently?

I mean,

Yeah,

I mean,

That's all true.

But broken,

I don't think I'm broken.

And he said,

Well,

You just don't realize that you are.

You know,

And I just looked at him and said,

OK,

I still don't feel like I am.

And I don't think God thinks I am either.

And we didn't go to that church anymore.

We moved up to the north part of Austin and we kept driving by this church every day because it was on the way to different things.

And they had a little billboard thing out there that where they had sayings on the on the board.

And I always really liked him.

And I found that I was even I could go a different way,

But I would go that way because I wanted to read whatever their little message was.

Well,

It was a unity church and sometimes it was the daily word.

Sometimes it was just something else that they put up there that was inspirational.

And then I looked on their website and I found out that they did things like Reiki and other kinds of real holistic things.

So I was like,

Wow,

A church that does Reiki.

And so we started going to that church.

And it was that message about what look at what we have to be grateful for.

Look at look at this beautiful sky and these trees and that each one of us in this room is a beloved child of God.

And that to me was it was just remarkable to me.

I think one of the things that has really helped to shape me over the long haul for the last,

I guess it's close to I guess it's close to 20 years now that I've known some of these women who we fondly call ourselves the goddesses.

The first woman in this group I met was somebody I worked with and actually hired into the center I was directing.

And she would talk a lot about going to utopia.

And I knew that she and her husband had land somewhere.

And I thought that they called their place Utopia because they didn't know yet that there was a utopia Texas,

Which there is.

And so she goes to utopia because they have this house there.

And but she introduced me to a woman who became my Reiki master.

And I did Reiki with her and gradually started meeting more women in this group.

The utopia is in the Texas Hill Country.

Took me a while to learn the beauty of Texas Hill Country.

I mean,

The beauty of Texas in general,

Because I was not used to what Texas looked like.

But utopia,

It's it's gentle hills.

Two friends have adjacent land,

30,

30 acres each.

So 60 acres altogether in this area that we love as utopia.

And so the one one family has almost like a compound.

They have their house and then they have at this point have several small little outbuildings.

It's pretty.

There's wild flowers.

There's trees.

Part of it's cleared off.

Part of it's wild.

I mean,

It's just it's lovely porches.

Everything has a porch.

Quiet because there's no highway noise.

Stars.

You know,

It's just gorgeous.

If you can't sleep,

You get up in the middle of the night and go just plonk down on one of those porches and look at all those stars.

And it's just astonishing.

I still remember my first invitation to go to utopia.

And there were I don't remember how many of us there were who were there that weekend.

But I remember I was nervous about going.

And I knew just from talking with my friends who would be there about,

You know,

That there's ritual that we do in utopia.

And and we eat really great food.

And,

You know,

We talk and we laugh and,

You know,

We have Reiki table,

You know,

We get on massage tables and we do healing and,

You know,

Just all these things.

Lots of ritual,

Lots of healing,

Lots of all that.

And so I was nervous about going and felt very strongly that I had to bring something miraculous to eat because that was a big part.

So I became somewhat famous for my for this chocolate mahogany cake that I grew up with,

A chocolate mahogany cake for my birthday every year.

You know,

And so I brought the cake.

And but I was still I was real.

I think I had been so long without having a group of women that I was really afraid that something about this might not work because I was so excited about this group of women.

It's so interesting because I never thought of myself as a creative person.

That was part of what happened as a result of being with these women is that we all quilt,

Embroider and do all these things.

But I didn't do any of that.

But it was like,

Oh,

Maybe I could try that.

And then I started making quilts and this capacity of this group of people,

Women to look.

We look at each other and just kind of witnessed,

You know,

There was that whole piece about no fixing,

No suggesting,

No changing.

You're not broken.

But just to sit,

You know,

When any of us had anything that we're going through to just be able to voice it and have it received.

And then people responding with such love.

And it you know,

It's that way that I think I've really changed because of these women,

Because of that acceptance and that love and seeing things of myself that I didn't see in myself.

But being able to kind of own some parts of myself that,

Oh,

I'm not that because we know each other and love each other,

We can gently call each other on things when we see them and know that if it's not well received,

If the person doesn't want to hear it,

Then they just say,

No,

That's not and that's fine,

You know,

But just that level of acceptance.

I also learned that I didn't have to bring chocolate cake and I could still come.

I wanted to just interject that I think it's so important because we all have our own ideas of who we are as human beings.

And I discovered that most people are way harder on themselves than they really need to be.

And so it is so important to have others that you trust,

Who love you,

Who can witness you and see you as you truly are and then tell you so that you can take that on and embody it.

Because,

You know,

I know myself,

I'm running around all the time and I'm always thinking that I'm failing and not doing enough and I'm not doing as well as I could.

I'm not doing everything I should.

I'm not as good of a person as I should be.

But,

You know,

Having people outside say,

No,

Here,

I'm witnessing you as this,

I'm seeing you as this,

It can change someone's life.

Absolutely.

I think that's so true.

And that's really what this group has done for me and what we do for each other.

It is magic to see that happen.

Thanks so much for listening to Episode 49 of Bite Sized Blessings,

The podcast all about the magic and spirit that surrounds us.

If only we open our eyes to it.

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I need to thank my amazing guest today,

Penny Cruz Seay for sharing her story with me,

As well as the creators of the music used,

Winnie the Moog,

Raphael Crux,

Music L.

Files,

Brian Holt's music,

Lilo Sound and Alexander Nakarada.

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Be like Penny.

Are you really broken or is that what society is telling you?

Find your community,

Make deep friendships,

Love yourself for who you are and love those around you in exactly the same way.