Stop Being Afraid Of Fear Fast With Emotional Empowerment

Fear is a real emotion,

And it's there,

And it has a very real and specific purpose.

Fear is there to protect you,

To have you slow down,

Pay attention,

Look both ways before you cross the street.

Fear is there to protect you.

It's not about eliminating fear.

It's about not being afraid of it,

Not letting it shut you down,

To go into levels of pain and depression and powerlessness.

That's the difference,

Because fear is a part of this illusion that we live in as human beings on planet Earth at this time.

It has a positive potential.

Any emotion that's real has a positive and negative potential.

Even love has a positive and negative potential.

Fear has a positive and negative potential.

But there are certain emotions that are man-made.

They're synthetic.

They're not real.

They only have negative consequences.

For instance,

Guilt.

Guilt is man-made.

Guilt tripping somebody,

Making somebody feel guilty.

There's no positive benefit to guilt.

I know some people would say,

No,

That's not true,

Mikael.

If I didn't feel guilty,

I'd go run in and rob a bank.

If I didn't feel guilty,

I'd steal that little old lady's purse on the street if I didn't feel any guilt.

But that doesn't keep you from doing that.

What keeps us from doing that is conscience.

It's integrity.

It's knowing who you are,

And to know you're a good person.

And to have conscience keeps you from stealing and taking advantage of other people.

So we don't need guilt to keep us in line.

Now,

Somebody who doesn't have principles or character,

Then maybe they do need more guilt to keep them from doing things.

But as a spiritual being,

We don't need it.

It's not necessary.

And it's not really a positive attribute.

Guilt is an example of synthetic emotion.

And so is martyrdom.

Being a martyr,

Feeling misunderstood and unappreciated,

Taken advantage of and poor me.

That's a configuration that most religions created,

That love is to suffer and to sacrifice,

Put everybody else's first and you last.

And it builds resentment.

It builds anger.

It builds a sense of powerlessness for the individuals who believe the lie that they need to come last and their needs don't matter.

It's considered a saintly pursuit in our world,

Unfortunately.

People think of,

Oh,

Look how much they've suffered for other people.

Aren't they great human beings?

Aren't they wonderful?

It's a man-made synthetic emotion is that martyrdom.

It comes out of a real emotion of self-pity.

Now that's a real emotion,

But it's a fabrication of what love is.

And therefore,

It only has negative consequences.

It doesn't touch into the genuine energy of what love is.

It's motivated out of powerlessness and abandoning yourself for the needs of others.

Those are just two examples of emotions that aren't real.

But fear is a real emotion.

It has a positive and a negative potential,

Left unattended,

Ignored or denied,

Letting it take over your mind and your heart to shut your heart down,

To shut your vision down,

To go into a place of survival mode and fear,

Where you begin to believe that nobody's there in your life to support you or to love you and that you feel alone and lonely and disconnected.

Fear can shut you down.

And likewise,

It can protect you.

Fear's not negative.

So the very first awareness of today's class is to begin to change how you think and feel about fear,

Changing the way you relate to it,

To understand that it's a part of life.

As long as we're human,

As long as we're in the physical plane,

We're going to experience fear from time to slow us down and to protect us.

Now,

As you understand that,

It's important to shift your relationship with your emotions.

What does that mean?

What gets in the way of us acknowledging our fear,

Especially as people,

Is that we have judgments around it.

We judge fear.

We judge anger.

We judge hurt and disappointment.

We judge it as something's wrong.

It's a bad emotion.

No,

It isn't,

Folks.

It's an emotion.

And all emotions are not divided into categories that the ego has,

Dividing them into either good or bad or right or wrong or positive or negative.

Those are all judgments.

Emotion is there to guide us.

And the true nature of an emotion is to look at their nature.

What do they do?

Those emotions that most people have judged as positive or good are those emotions that expand.

They're love,

Joy,

Peace.

You tend to fill the room.

You feel light and free and expansive.

That's the nature of,

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Positive emotions.

Likewise,

Any emotion that is considered negative or bad or wrong are those emotions that tighten.

They constrict.

They pull in and tighten.

And that feels uncomfortable.

But it's there to get your attention,

To say,

Slow down,

Pay attention.

Therefore,

Those emotions aren't bad.

They're just constricting.

They're tightening to get attention.

It's like you're driving through life and life is there to guide you.

Love is the accelerator to move you forward and to expand your energy.

And fear is the brakes to say,

Slow down,

Don't go too fast around that corner.

You might be in jeopardy.

You might be threatened.

It guides you through life.

And just like you wouldn't want to drive a car with just an accelerator or just brakes,

You need both to navigate.

So why I'm bringing this up is it's important to take the charge off and the judgment around,

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Negative emotions and see them for what they truly are.

They're there to guide you.

They're not bad and wrong.

But when left unattended,

When ignored,

When denied,

Or when you dive headfirst into the emotion and let it suffocate you,

Then it becomes more destructive.

Because when we deny fear and we repress it and pretend we're not afraid,

That's what breeds anxiety.

One of the things that anxiety is,

And there's many things that cause anxiety.

It's not just this.

But one of the major things that anxiety is the unidentified emotion,

Unidentified feelings that you won't be conscious of and you ignore and deny.

When I judge or ignore my fear,

I repress it,

I judge it,

And I shove it down and pretend I'm happy,

Pretend everything's great.

It putrefies into anxiety.

Anxiety is often unidentified hurt,

Unidentified disappointments,

Unidentified love,

Unidentified worry or loneliness.

That can be what creates our anxiety.

What we can feel,

We can heal.

It's important to explore what is the feeling here.

What is this fear all about?

What is the message it's trying to give me?

What I recommend,

And this is going to be the very first suggestion here,

Is to write about your fear.

Because it's important to not just sit and think about it.

Because when you sit and think about it,

That fear emulates through your thoughts and your feelings and it can produce a lot of anxiety.

It's ungrounded.

It's spinning out in your mind.

It's just energy that doesn't find a ground.

When you focus on writing down your feeling of fear and your relationship to fear,

And you're taking this energy and you're also slowing down your thinking process.

Because you cannot write as fast as you think.

By writing down your thoughts,

You slow down your thinking.

And that's what journaling is all about and the benefit of journaling.

You might take a legal pad and write at the top of it,

Me and my fear.

To own it.

This is my fear and I want to take charge of it.

I want to focus on expressing what I'm afraid of to get clear on it.

Me and my fear.

As you mentioned,

You wake up in the middle of the night panicked that you're going to be all alone.

That is the core.

It's my fear of loneliness.

Write about that.

Write about when did it start.

Go back as you write it down.

You'll remember times in your life when that fear maybe sabotaged relationships.

Maybe it got in the way of friendships.

Maybe you can start recalling back when you were a little girl and something happened that you perceive love as leaving you.

That you perceive love as being abandoned or have left you or hurt you or abused you on some level or traumatized you.

Identifying it and writing it out is a way to begin to tap into it.

Now here's the key.

It's important to ask for spiritual help.

To ask your higher self and your soul.

To ask God,

Goddess or whatever you consider someone greater than you spiritually to help you to move through your fear.

Because the ego part of us feels like it's all alone and powerless oftentimes.

When you can open up and even if you don't have any word to give that higher self,

All you need to do is sense it as this ball of light.

This beautiful radiant sphere of light like a miniature sun or moon glowing above you.

At night if you wake up in the middle of the night and you're panicked,

Call upon your higher self and to release that fear.

Now for some people,

And this might be the case with you,

Had a past life experience where something happened while you were sleeping in the middle of the night.

And that's what triggers this panic when you have let go and you're feeling vulnerable in sleep.

When you're letting go of what's going on in the world,

You might even find that you have difficulty falling asleep because it's about releasing control in a sense and surrendering to the sleep.

And something might have happened that has caused severe panic attacks in the middle of the night where you were left alone or you were all alone and thus not protected.

It might be some memory that bubbles up from a previous lifetime and that fear can quickly release when you go into it,

Where that it becomes like a distant memory.

It's no longer in your heart and mind clouding over your current situation.

What causes fear to thrive is to ignore it,

To pretend you don't have it,

Or to let it keep running your life and feeling powerless around changing it.

And as you say,

No,

I'm going to take charge of my fear and I'm going to relate to it and I'm going to feel it and I'm going to express it by writing about it,

Perhaps talking to a friend,

Calling up a close friend and talking about your fears and your anxieties to loosen the pressure to release it from your mind.