Today we're talking about It's Not About You.
I love these titles that the universe provides.
It's not about you.
It's not about you.
It's not about me.
It's not about any one of us.
The teaching is the universe works with all souls.
If you find yourself in a situation with another person,
Group,
Or organization that isn't working,
Consider that you may be here to witness,
Not participate in this relationship.
The bigger soul lesson may be for the other person.
Your soul lesson might be to simply witness,
Instead of to fix,
Help,
Heal or guide the universe.
You know,
This happens a lot like so karmically when we come in from our past lives,
And we come in and agree to be with each other in this lifetime.
There's this idea that,
You know,
Sometimes we'll come with,
We'll be with a soulmate,
We're supposed to dig in together and help each other and help each other grow.
And then sometimes we'll be here in these karmic crossings where the other person's going to be really challenging to us,
We're going to have to grow past that.
And sometimes it's just going to be we're in these places where we've agreed to witness.
But there's not really anything for us to do.
Like we're in a situation,
We watch it unfold,
We see it and yet it's not ours to try to maneuver or try to control.
And this is because the universe is working with all of us at the same time.
So on the one hand,
We're one collective soul.
On the other hand,
We're these individual little sparks of soul that have our own destinies and our own ways of contributing.
And a lot of times when things seem to be going really terribly,
Or especially when there's confusion,
Like you can't figure out what's going on.
This may be because whatever's unfolding is not really about you.
You're just a witness.
You're just an observer.
This especially happens,
Say you come across somebody,
They're having a really rough day.
They're super cranky.
They're not acting how you would expect they would act.
It's just a terrible,
Terrible,
Terrible vibe.
And you can,
You know,
One of the choices would be to think that person doesn't like me.
That person's rude.
That person's a jerk,
Whatever it is.
And it may be that what you witnessed has nothing to do with you.
Maybe they were struggling with something so deep in their own life or in their own awareness that what you saw was the struggle and the spewing of venom that looked like it was directed toward you.
But really,
It had nothing to do with you.
You were just witnessing their struggle.
This happens,
Of course,
All the time.
When you notice something confusing like that,
Like why is this person so,
You know,
Such a jerk?
Or why is this person so rough?
Remember,
It might not be about you at all.
It might have nothing to do with you.
It might be that what you're picking up in your great sensitivity and empathy and so forth is you may be picking up their struggle.
And remembering,
It may not be yours.
So as sensitives and empaths,
We tend to take on other people's pain.
This is the sort of super generosity of spirit that the empath brings.
And yet,
What this teaching is saying is,
Don't take on people's stuff for them.
It's really not ours to take on.
If you're feeling someone's pain,
You can witness,
You can honor that they're going through this,
You can have empathy.
But it's not for you to take that pain on as your own burden,
Or have those emotions for yourself,
Or try to fix that other person or help them or heal them.
Now,
If you are asked to help someone or asked to heal someone,
You're going to know it really clearly,
They're going to ask you,
Will you do healing on me?
Will you give me a reading?
Will you provide me with advice?
Will you help me?
And those are cases when someone is asking that you can directly respond.
But if you are just noticing all the challenges in this world,
All the confusion and all the ways people are struggling,
You may not be called to do anything except witness and honor and hold space for and love.
We aren't here to fix each other tempting as though that may be.
We're here to just love each other and keep showing each other the light.
Again,
Remembering when something weird happens,
Chances are good,
It's not about you.
And then on those times when it is about you,
Of course,
You're going to know and you're going to be able to work with that.
But chances are good.
Don't take it personally.
It's chances are good.
People have many things going on.
And it's not about you.
And remembering again,
The universe works with all souls.
We you and I are not the only souls being worked with.
The universe is helping us all.
And in this way,
The collective is being lifted up.
