This is a meditation for letting go of micromanagement.
Today is about building more trust in those around you and releasing a bit of control.
We all have times when we believe our way is the best,
That we know more or are more capable than others.
And when we hold those feelings as true,
We can become overburdened.
We can also prevent others from helping us,
And from growing their own skills,
Maybe even finding a better approach.
So whether you are interested in letting others flourish,
Or moving some things off of your plate,
The first step is building more trust,
So you can surrender.
Let's start there.
Get yourself really comfortable,
Close your eyes and take a deep breath,
We're going to inhale for a count of four,
Pause at the top,
And then exhale for a count of six,
Pause at the bottom.
So in,
Two,
Three,
Four,
Pause,
Out,
Two,
Three,
Four,
Five,
Six,
Pause,
Inhaling,
Feeling strength and confidence moving up your spine,
Then on the exhale,
Welcoming,
Surrender,
Letting go,
Feeling heavy.
In,
Two,
Three,
Four,
Pause,
Out,
Two,
Three,
Four,
Five,
Six,
Pause,
Letting it all go.
Now just breathing in whatever way is comfortable,
But continuing to surrender with every exhalation.
And now set the intention to release the need to micromanage,
And to embrace trust in others.
So you could say to yourself,
I release control and choose to trust,
Or maybe I am surrounded by unique and capable people.
Now imagine a rope or a ribbon tightly knotted inside you.
This is your habit of controlling and micromanaging.
Notice where this knot is in your body.
What size is it,
What shape,
What color,
Are there physical sensations when you think about handling all the things?
What about when you imagine someone else doing the thing in a different way than you would have?
No judgment,
Just noticing.
So picturing your knot,
And as you inhale,
Imagine breathing in surrender and trust.
And with each exhale,
Imagine releasing the tension of control,
Inhaling a sense of receptivity to other ways of doing things,
Other perspectives,
Exhaling,
Seeing the knot slowly unraveling.
Keep breathing,
Feel the knot loosening,
Undangling,
Dropping down.
See the pile of rope,
Unbound,
Long,
Useful,
Ready to be put to a new task.
And now think of a situation where you would usually feel that urge to micromanage.
Maybe your kid is taking 20 minutes and using four different knives to make a PB&J.
Or your roommate is loading the dishwasher all wrong.
Maybe your co-worker refuses to use the Oxford comma in that report that you're both working on.
Whatever scene would usually cause you to jump in and do it the right way.
Instead,
Visualize yourself stepping back,
Not stomping off or shrinking away,
But really just being open to someone else handling this in their own way.
Watch the scene go smoothly without you jumping in.
See the kid proud with a full belly,
Or the clean dishes,
Or the report being well received.
Whatever it is,
See it going well.
Notice in your body,
How does it feel to trust others and let go?
Allow yourself a moment here to trust that the person is doing their best,
That they mean well,
And that they might see the problem and the solution differently than you do.
And the next time you are faced with that itch to step in and do it your way,
Pause.
Look at the situation and find one thing that is going well,
Even if it's not the way you would do it.
Remind yourself that others may be experiencing these same feelings,
Watching you do it your way.
And you can choose to see this momentary discomfort as a gift that you are giving to that other person.
Let them feel right,
Let them express their style,
Let them help you,
It's a gift for you too.
And now take a few more deep breaths,
Feeling this calm,
This trust that you've cultivated inside.
Feeling so much looser and lighter now that that knot is undone.
And when you're ready,
Gently come back to this moment,
Back to this room,
With all your
