Anxious Attachment Meditation

Welcome.

Thank you for being here.

If you've clicked on this,

It's probably because you're feeling a little anxious and we all feel anxious sometimes.

So you are amongst friends and at the same time,

You don't have to stay in this anxious space.

We are going to work our hearts toward more safety.

We are going to walk ourselves into a place of feeling nurtured and protected.

And from that space,

Then whatever action we choose to take,

However we choose to communicate to others and the way we even react to others will be purposeful.

It will be intentional and it will be important to create a scenario that you feel empowered within.

Sometimes when we're anxious,

It robs us of our empowerment and we feel helpless and we feel powerless.

And that is never a good place to take any action from because it's not going to bring about what you ultimately want.

So the goal here is not to want less.

The goal here is not to be less.

The goal is to be fully present with the extent of your emotions and desires and pain even.

And while you're present with yourself,

We are going to really hold the complexity that is us so that we know what that feels like when we see it in our external reality.

So we know how to be drawn toward more experiences of safety and comfort and empowerment.

So go ahead and find a spot that's comfortable for you.

You are here to give yourself kindness and love.

So the more you can find ease,

The more you can find comfort,

A soft blanket,

Anything that feels nurturing to you.

Please give yourself a moment to relax and nestle into that wonderful,

Comfortable feeling.

Whatever the problem is,

We're going to address it.

You are going to show up as best as you can,

But right now it's time to spend some time with yourself and give yourself the love that you want from others.

So as we begin,

And as you find your comfortable space,

Allow yourself to rest.

Maybe allowing your eyes to close,

If that feels right for you,

And even feeling the muscles around your eyes in agreement.

Relax as your eyelids find a comfortable,

Shut position.

And then we can begin breathing.

And obviously you've been breathing so far.

So we're just going to notice it.

You're going to notice the breathing that we're doing.

Really bringing our mind to focus on our physical sensations of breath,

The way it feels in your mouth,

In your throat,

The way your chest expands,

And even your belly expands.

At a cadence that feels right for you in the moment,

You don't need to force it.

Just allow your mind to focus on your breath.

And let's just see how focused we can be on our breath.

How many seconds can you go?

And if you get distracted by anything,

Your problems,

Your life,

Allow yourself to come back to focusing on the physical sensations of breath for as long as you can.

We'll do about 30 seconds.

Begin.

It's beautiful that you are giving yourself space to do this work and to spend this time with yourself.

I wonder if there's an internal thought you can give yourself of gratitude for what you're doing right now.

It requires some difficulty sometimes to take the space to do this.

So the fact that you are here already proves a lot of love,

That you have a lot of love for yourself.

And that's a wonderful place to begin here.

Self-gratitude,

Self-love.

So as you continue your breath,

I want you to feel your toes.

Feel your toes.

And relax.

Release whatever stress is actually contained in your whole foot from toes to heel.

And then even your ankles.

I wonder if they can relax just a little bit more.

At this point,

You might associate your relaxation to a temperature,

Maybe a warmth or maybe even a light.

If you're somebody who likes to imagine and envision,

Whatever color the light is for you,

Just follow it up your ankles,

Through your calves,

And almost allowing it to pool into your knees,

Relaxing and releasing any pent-up energy in your lower legs and feet.

Allow it to move up into your thighs and your hips.

Breathing into your lower belly as you relax.

Releasing all tension in your stomach area,

Your abdomen,

Moving into your diaphragm.

We have a beautiful opportunity now to relax our chest and our shoulders.

This is where we carry so much of the stress of our anxiety,

And it's because we have so much love to give.

And we desire so much love in return,

Which is a beautiful thing.

So breathe into your chest.

Really feel your lungs expand and give this area permission to rest.

Relax.

Not change,

Not be any different.

Just allow your heart chakra to be whatever it is in the moment.

And breathing,

Allow that sensation to move down into your arms.

The relaxation moving into your elbows and your forearms.

Relaxing your wrists just a little bit more than they were until the relaxation can pool into your palms and your fingers.

What a gift you're giving yourself now.

Moving up into your shoulders and your neck area.

Feel whatever tension is there and allow yourself to rest it,

To relax.

Give those muscles permission to find ease with each breath.

And move into your chin and your head space.

Everything from the front of your face to the back of your head,

Moving all the way up into your brain and even above your head.

Just a little bit beyond.

Notice the relaxation available to you in the muscles and between the muscles of your head space.

And now bring your awareness to your whole body.

Here,

Grounded,

Relaxed.

Notice as you breathe,

Your attention move throughout your body,

Going back over and releasing any tension,

Bringing some genuine love and kindness and comfort to yourself.

Feeling this deep relaxation.

Allow your mind to focus on a few thoughts here today.

A few statements made as suggestions.

Statements that you are welcome to adopt if they resonate as true for you.

Or statements that you can allow to pass through.

And feel the resonance with what you are feeling in the moment.

Resonance,

By the way,

Feels like ease and it feels like breath and it feels like rest.

Repeat these statements in your mind after I say them out loud.

I have so much gratitude for myself.

I open.

I receive love.

I am grateful for my journey.

Every moment uncovers something new about me and I am always learning.

I have learned how powerful I am.

I have learned how loving I am.

Love I deserve to receive.

I am so important.

I am truly proud of myself.

I am proud of my dedication.

I do not give up on myself.

I believe in myself.

And every day I am learning more and more about what that means to be whole.

Every experience is an opportunity to more deeply understand myself.

To bring more love to myself.

To uncover more reasons why I love myself so much.

I relax my body even deeper because I am safe.

I relax into love.

It's safe here.

And all is well.

I trust myself.

I know I will navigate it in the best way I possibly can.

And I deserve to be here.

I deserve my experience.

Others have their own experience and I can hold their experience sacred while I hold my own experience sacred.

I believe people.

I am well aware of where they are at at any given moment.

And I make my decisions of how I will act because I take care of myself.

And because of this I only have to interact with people who take care of me as well.

I have the strength to hold my boundaries.

I have the hope that if I meet disappointment I can move my focus and my attention to love.

And I have a deep sense of well-being and safety.

I hold myself.

I give love freely.

And I receive love freely.

And everybody is on their own journey.

And I respect their journey.

I feel breath in my body.

And I trust myself.

I see my beauty.

I see the beauty around me.

And I am empowered in my focus.

I choose how to participate in any and every situation.

And I give myself permission to be me.

I am full of myself.

And I adore myself.

Allow yourself to begin to feel into your body again.

Using your breath allow your mind to focus on the deep relaxation within your body.

And I wonder if there is some sensation of an inner hug you could bring to yourself in this moment.

A hug of gratitude for giving yourself this time and space to love on yourself.

Knowing that when you do this you send ripples into the universe of pure love.

Allow yourself to reorient back into your physical space.

Wiggling your fingers and your toes.

Maybe allowing your eyes to gently flutter open.

Moving your eyes in big circles to the right.

Slow lift slowly.

Signaling safety for your body.

Thank you for the work that you just did.

It benefits all of us truly.

May you be at peace today.