Being True To Your Authentic Self And Your Life Path

Hey.

Hello.

Hi,

Everyone.

So this is our first podcast episode Graham and I are recording.

And it's basically just for us to chat about spirituality,

Life,

Living in alignment and sharing our own life paths,

Isn't it?

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

We've both had a lot of experience,

Both,

You know,

From childhood right to adulthood really,

And still are uncovering many different things on our path and it's time to share,

I feel.

Yeah.

So because we've been having all those really cool and insightful and deep conversations,

Right?

And we were like,

Wouldn't it be good to just share that and see if other people can get something out of it?

And also like for me,

It was actually like,

Because I'm trying to live in alignment with my soul and what feels good to me,

Right?

I was like,

What is the most fun and most aligned way for me to create actually content for my business as well?

And it was like,

Well,

Chatting to Graham and recording it.

That's the thing,

Isn't it?

It's trying to get that kind of funny element into it because,

You know,

We've talked about before,

But like having,

Like being too polished and being too polished and the most enjoyable aspect and the thing where we really get into the flow is when the two of us are just talking rather than trying to produce something,

Right?

Exactly.

Exactly.

And not worrying about anything and just like going with the flow.

Yeah.

Yeah,

Absolutely.

And that's kind of the energy we want to bring to this podcast as well,

Right?

It's just like us sharing.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's just like everybody's like,

You know,

Shed all your anxieties and worries and,

You know,

Trying to be look perfect.

We're not.

We're just making it today.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So anybody that's not perfect is more than welcome,

You know?

Oh,

Yeah.

Oh,

Also if you're perfect.

Oh,

If you're perfect.

We don't judge.

If you're perfect.

We don't judge.

Yeah.

No judgment.

No judgment.

Well,

So we're not winging it completely.

So we did some preparation,

Right?

We've picked a topic for today.

I'm having so much fun.

I'm crying already.

Right.

So the topic for today is being true to authentic selves and our life paths.

And this really has been like the main theme of my life for the past,

Like very intensely for the past two years and like already started before that,

Like,

But for the last two years,

I really was like,

Well,

You know,

Everything up until now hasn't really been working for me.

So why don't I try to find out what's working for me?

Find out what's actually meant for me.

Find out what my soul path is,

Like all that stuff.

And it's been really life changing,

Actually.

Like I've never felt so good in my life ever.

Like I can honestly say that.

I've got a question for you.

Yeah,

Please go ahead.

Go for it.

When was the first time in your entire life that you felt out of alignment into your truth?

As a child.

As a child.

I can't tell you exactly the age,

But definitely I can recall a few situations where I was people-placing,

Not speaking my truth because I saw how people reacted to it.

And actually something that came up actually yesterday for me and so it's tied to my childhood.

And it was basically,

I got teased a lot as a child for like,

Oh,

You're always sulking and stuff.

And they would really make a point out of it and it would,

Like my family,

Right?

And tease me about it and like,

Oh,

And stop like,

You know,

Yeah,

Sulking and stuff.

But actually,

And so I always thought,

Oh my goodness,

That's like a trait I have,

But that's wrong.

I have to change that.

That's not like,

I'm not supposed to be that way because the world around me told me I'm not supposed to be that way,

Right?

Right.

As a child,

Basically you believe pretty much everything people around you say.

And so that's definitely one of the first moments I was out of alignment because I made a decision to change that part about myself.

But actually,

What it was,

And I've only realized that yesterday,

So it's very fresh,

It was actually me setting a boundary,

Me deciding,

Hey,

If you're being mean to me,

I'm not talking to you because I don't want to put any energy into that situation,

Into you,

Into you treating me that way.

It was me setting a boundary and people couldn't deal with it.

And I was a small child.

And so I was,

It's almost like gaslighting,

Isn't it?

Like I was being made wrong for setting a boundary.

People labeled it as sulking when it actually was the right thing to do.

But obviously I was like,

Oh,

I'm not supposed to sulk and stuff,

And I tried to change that about me.

And then I had a situation with my husband,

Yes,

It was very interesting because my husband is so loving and he supports me so much.

But then it just almost like just slipped out of him and it was like,

Oh,

Are you going to sulk now?

You know,

Kind of like that.

Oh,

Wow.

And then it hit me and it was like,

No,

I'm just like,

Because that's kind of like my healed self was like being very like,

No,

I mean,

You can call it that way if you want,

But I just don't want to be in a situation if you're treating me that way,

Right?

And so then I realized,

Then I made the connection that I already did it as a child.

I was setting a boundary and people couldn't deal with it.

So this was one of the first times I can recall where I was out of alignment in my life.

Oh,

Wow.

And it's so interesting.

It came up yesterday,

The day before we do our first podcast,

Right?

It's just,

Just growing,

No coincidences.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I said to my husband later,

Because actually we do have a wonderful marriage and relationship.

I was like,

This is so interesting that this came up because you never said that to me.

We've been together for ages.

And so I really saw it as like kind of spirit universe using him as a tool to kind of help me make that realization.

Yes.

Yeah,

Absolutely.

Yeah.

Oh,

That's so cool.

Do you know,

As you were talking,

My first memory came up as well.

Yeah.

So again,

It goes back to childhood.

And it was,

And it's probably the thing that's come up for me the most as well,

Recently in recent times,

You know,

As we went through our spiritual awakening.

Yeah,

Yeah,

Yeah.

And it's,

It's been hiding,

Like hiding away,

Like who I was and who,

And who,

What I did as a child.

So as a child,

I used to go to the church quite a lot.

And I used to go,

There was something,

An organization called the Boys Brigade.

And,

You know,

And I kind of felt like as a youngster,

That,

You know,

I wasn't really a rough and tumble,

Quite so I'm quite,

Quite a big presence.

But I never felt like I was a rough and tumble type of person,

I always felt there was another softer side to me,

Right.

And,

And I kind of had that quite,

Quite a lot.

And as,

As,

As,

I mean,

You were in the playground as a child,

I always remember somebody come up to me,

Another child come up to me and said,

Oh,

Do you not swear?

Like,

You know,

Like,

Like,

Yes,

Of course I can swear,

You know,

And it was the first time in my life that I swore,

I swore.

Because you didn't want to be different.

Exactly.

It was like,

I didn't want to be separated from the crowd,

Right.

And it's interesting,

This topic of separation comes up,

Because I was reading about separation this morning,

And how we're separated from source,

Right?

Yeah,

It's the separation from source.

So,

But it's,

It's that kind of collective thing,

Or we've got to fit in with,

Yeah,

With society and the way of being.

And it's right from,

Right from childhood,

Just from that very first experiences as child,

It starts.

Yeah,

It's programmed,

It's literally programmed in just like,

I think,

I mean,

Probably,

Pretty much everybody has like this deep rooted fear of being kicked out of the tribe,

If you don't fit in.

That's why,

Yeah,

I've like,

I've done a lot of healing and releasing around that for me.

And you know,

There was a time when this was absolutely necessary,

Because being accepted by a tribe,

Your survival depended on it,

Right?

That's true.

Because if you were alone in like,

I don't know,

The Stone Age or whatever,

You would probably not live very long,

Like you are stronger and more protected with the tribe.

And that fear still runs so many lives.

And I think it's that deep rooted fear in the first place that like creates people pleasing patterns and all that stuff.

Yeah.

But now,

Like,

First of all,

As we get older,

I think it's also actually part of like,

Our soul's journey and our journey from being a child to growing up.

And,

You know,

And you notice this in a lot of people around the age of 40,

50,

Like,

You know,

Like,

There is always a little middle of crisis and stuff.

But actually,

What it is,

Is people are like,

They realize,

I've been living out of alignment my whole life.

This is not for me.

And they don't know who they are anymore,

Because they've been living an inauthentic life,

Their whole lives in order to fit in,

In whatever group they chose.

Correct.

And then they suddenly have this realization,

Which is,

You know,

A middle of crisis as they call it.

Like,

I mean,

I call it an awakening.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Well,

That's the thing.

What am I even doing?

Like,

This is my life,

You know,

And you get this.

And this is,

I find,

Like,

I mean,

Lots of people started earlier or later,

Like,

But I feel like for a lot of people is around that age,

Where people kind of start to think about what's actually right for me,

What is in alignment for me,

How do I live in alignment and true to myself?

Yeah.

You know,

At the core of it,

It's not always expressed in that way,

But at the core of it.

I think that's what it is.

Do you know,

It's interesting that we've both got,

We're both talking about experiences,

Right?

And it's both,

It comes down to conditioning.

Yeah.

And it's interesting that your example is one in the home,

You're conditioning,

And my example is one of the outside,

Of the outside world.

And that's,

That's the two,

That's the two aspects of our lives that,

That's where the conditioning happens.

Yeah.

In the home and,

And,

And,

And,

And,

And the outsider experiences with the,

With our friends,

Like our social circle and things,

And it,

You,

You,

You kind of felt as if,

It was almost like you were,

Would you say,

Would you say,

Would you say it was empowering you in a way?

When you kind of had the,

You kind of,

Did you feel as if you were empowering yourself or did you always feel you were,

It was more of a kind of shut down?

When I was a child?

Yeah,

Yeah.

Um,

I'd say it was empowering me.

It's almost like,

It's almost like a show of power.

So it didn't necessarily,

Necessarily back then come from like a neutral and healed place as it is now.

Now I'm like,

You know what,

I'm not interested,

I'm stepping out of the conversation,

Whatever.

Back then,

Obviously,

You're hurt,

You have all those emotions and feeling coming,

Feelings coming up.

And so there was always resentment,

Also in resentment in there and stuff.

So it was,

Um.

For being,

For not being accepted for who you are.

Yeah,

And for being teased and for being,

Having my feelings hurt and stuff,

Right?

Yeah.

And so,

Which is why I would sulk in the first place,

Right?

Okay.

But so I see it,

So I think it has different layers to it.

So one of it is just the stepping out and choosing to not talk to that person anymore is a boundary I was setting.

Right.

To protect myself and to protect my energy.

I didn't do that consciously at the time,

But that's what I recognize now,

What it was.

But I also know there were like lots of like,

There was resentment mixed in,

There was anger mixed in.

Of course,

You know,

If you,

If you have a child and you get your feelings hurt,

You like it.

Yeah.

You react,

You have emotions.

Yeah,

You do.

So it was also like,

Kind of reactive,

But also it,

Yeah,

It did give me,

It did give me my power back because I made a decision.

I took back control of my life.

I made a decision whether I would talk with the person or not.

And if you are in charge,

If you are making a choice,

That always gives you power.

Yeah,

It does,

Doesn't it?

See,

I felt it,

Looking back,

I think I felt that disempowered me a little bit,

You know,

That kind of felt as if I was,

I was governing,

You know,

I was governing,

Yeah,

You know.

Oh,

Sorry.

Yeah.

But the actual boundary setting gave me power,

But then obviously deciding that I'm not supposed to be talking and it's wrong for me and I need to change that about me,

Yeah,

That's hugely disempowering.

Disempowering.

Yeah.

Yeah,

Yeah,

Yeah.

It does,

It does,

It does kind of,

You know,

It kind of weakens the,

What we call the aura,

The auric field,

Doesn't it?

Yeah,

It weakens your aura.

Yeah,

Exactly.

So if you're familiar with like energies and how your energy system works and stuff,

Yeah,

It weakens your aura because you are negating a part of you,

You're saying no to a part of yourself,

You're rejecting yourself,

Really at the most basic level,

You're rejecting a part of yourself and that will always weaken your aura,

Yeah.

And then as we know through our own spiritual practice now,

We have the law of attraction,

Right?

We've got the law of attraction and therefore that energy then attracts more of the same.

Yeah,

In more of those situations,

Yes,

Yeah.

Because you then,

So when you do that,

When you decide,

Oh,

I have to change that about me or you're like,

Oh,

I have to start swearing to fit in,

You've created a pattern in your energy field and that pattern is going to be,

The world is going to reflect it back to you over and over until you feel it.

Until you feel it,

Yes,

Until you feel it.

And that's the thing,

Isn't it?

As a child,

It just becomes like a survival,

As you said,

It becomes a survival thing.

And so you just keep repeating that pattern over and over and over again.

And it kind of goes back,

It's not just what we both experienced as children,

It probably then goes back to what our ancestors did before us as well,

Right?

Our families,

You don't have to go back like centuries and decades,

You have to just look at your own parents,

Probably they're having similar experiences,

Right?

Yeah.

Once you start seeing those patterns in yourself,

You start noticing them in other people,

It's you see like more empathy in a way,

Because you understand,

Because you've had a pattern like that.

And you kind of,

You can relate to the person and how the person feels and how the pattern might have been created in the first place,

It kind of,

It opens up the way to respond in a loving way.

We've both got children,

Right?

Yeah.

We both have children.

And I found,

And I'll let you speak about your experiences with Hector,

But I find with my experiences is that the children are,

Have given me an opportunity to remember,

To remember my inner child.

And to show you where your patterns are.

Yeah.

Yeah.

They find every trigger.

They are amazing.

It's like extreme skilled surgeon that has been brought down and it just drills right into the heart and it brings out every single little piece of heart,

Shame,

Guilt,

Anger,

Everything that you experienced as a child,

They bring it out in you.

Yeah.

You know what I think it is?

And it only just came to me,

But because children are still so pure and honest in their energy and they don't,

They aren't run by those patterns yet,

Like wrong and right,

What are you supposed to say?

What are you supposed to do?

Yeah.

So they're just like this still very pure energy and just,

I think they're just reacting to your field.

Yes.

You know?

And so they can't like help it even.

No.

Maybe it's in your field and you have a child around you who hasn't been conditioned yet to not say certain things,

To not act in a certain way,

They're going to show you very honestly where you need healing and if you choose to.

Well that's the thing,

Isn't it?

Yeah.

And I think that's one of the things that we were talking about,

You know,

How,

How,

Where do you start?

You know,

Where do you start on a journey of alignment?

Yeah.

And I was just wondering,

You know,

The children are one of the first place,

Our children are the first place to start.

One of the first places we can start,

You know,

Because as we've said before,

It can reflect,

They reflect back our own experiences.

And so they give us opportunities.

Oh,

Massively.

Yeah.

They give us every single day of every single moment that we are with them,

There's opportunities there for us to,

To heal our inner child.

Yeah.

Right.

Yeah.

And that's not to say like,

If you don't have children,

The world is still going to reflect it back to you.

Correct.

It's just,

I feel like with children,

It's just very intense.

It's very intense.

So my son,

For me,

Has been,

I think,

The biggest,

How do you say this,

A catalyst?

Yeah.

Yeah.

For my own healing.

And that's because I chose to release those patterns,

I chose,

I chose healing.

So it's not to say,

Obviously,

They can drive you crazy,

Or you can choose to actually look at yourself and be like,

Oh,

Why am I reacting this way?

Why am I feeling,

Why am I being massively triggered?

No,

I mean,

It goes hand in hand as well.

This can still drive you crazy,

Even if you do something.

Oh,

Yes.

Yes.

They say,

I heard many people say that like,

Having children and building your own business is like the fast track to healing and living in alignment and letting go of what isn't you,

What isn't the true authentic you.

And what are we both doing?

We're both,

We both have children and we both have our own business.

That's why the past two years in particular,

But like before that,

My son is six,

Right?

It's been like,

Very intense growth for me.

Intense growth.

Yeah.

It's such a beautiful thing.

It is such a beautiful thing.

I mean,

I had a lovely experience at the weekend with my youngest,

Ben.

And it was just the two of us having like a son and father night in.

So we got,

We got,

We had ourselves a takeaway,

A curry,

Every favorite one.

And he chose,

He chose a film that we sat and watched.

And do you know,

I did catch myself,

Because initially I said to him,

Oh,

You know,

Choose a film.

And I was giving them choices,

Right?

But the choices were kind of,

My choices in a way,

Right?

There was my kind of suggestions,

You know,

And I kind of caught myself,

Hang on a second.

It's not about the film.

It's about,

It's about the moment of being with Ben,

Right?

It's not about what we're watching per se.

I mean,

The film can be anything,

The movie could be anything.

In fact,

The night before,

It must have been Friday night,

We sat down and we started to watch,

There was a film called,

It was all about Pelly,

The legendary footballer,

Pelly.

And I had a great interest in football.

So I was really into this film.

And Ben was like,

No,

No,

You know,

He got so far and he's like,

No,

I'm not watching it.

And he said,

I really want to put on Peppa Pig,

Peppa Pig.

He hasn't watched Peppa Pig for years and years and years,

Right?

And you may remember with Hector,

Peppa Pig was on a lot in our house.

So we never had that one.

Did you not have that one?

Well,

We never did Peppa Pig,

I don't know.

Well,

You'll need to get it because it's just,

It's just amazing.

The humour in it is just amazing.

Like,

It's just brilliant.

But we've seen it,

Like,

And we've seen it,

Well,

I've seen it so many times.

Yeah.

And Ben was like,

No,

He's like,

I want to put on Peppa Pig.

And I was like,

No,

But I want to put on,

I want to keep on Pelly.

But it was that moment again when I was like,

Oh,

No,

No,

No,

Hang on a second.

And it just sort of suddenly kind of occurred to me.

It's not about what we're watching.

It's the moment between the two of us.

And he,

He settled down really,

Really quickly.

And he was happy.

He was happy.

And he was,

He was content.

And it made,

It allowed us to kind of connect.

Yeah.

In a lot,

In a lot deeper way.

And then it rolled on to the next night where we sat down and we watched the film.

And we both,

This time we watched The Karate Kid from 2010.

So not the older,

The older one from the 1980s.

This is like the more up to date version.

Right.

We watched that.

But again,

We kind of connected.

Yeah.

And really,

Really deep level.

And I was just wondering the night before,

It kind of just set up just nicely.

Yeah.

And it allowed that kind of deeper connection.

And,

You know,

I felt a bit of a release.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Well,

Yeah,

That makes so much sense with what I'm about to say.

So,

You know,

It's in those moments,

There's so much potential and gold in those moments if we choose to see it.

And,

I mean,

You realized it,

Right?

And you chose to break the cycle of you having to get like,

You remembered actually,

What is this actually about?

What the intention is for me to connect with him and spend time with him.

Right.

Right.

So you pulled yourself back in,

Broke that pattern.

And yeah,

Of course,

If you break a pattern,

You would feel the release because then you can release the pattern.

Exactly.

And then we start to realign ourselves.

Yeah.

With our true,

Authentic selves.

Right.

Exactly.

Yeah,

It goes back to that.

Exactly.

Exactly.

Oh,

We've completed the circle.

You literally pulled yourself back into alignment.

It's like,

Wow,

That was my intention.

And so I'm just going with the flow.

But it does take a lot.

I have to say,

It does take a lot of work.

I mean,

We both experienced that.

But it does take a lot of work.

And you really have to have that courage,

I believe,

To really go there and to really set that intention of kind of stripping the pattern.

What are we actually doing here?

And I'm talking about me and Ben,

Right?

What are we actually doing here?

And is it really about the film?

Yeah.

Is it really what's going on in front of us?

Or is it something that's a lot,

Lot deeper?

Yeah.

And it's such a beautiful,

You know,

It's just such a beautiful thing,

You know?

And yeah,

You just kind of feel that connection.

And afterwards,

There's just that kind of,

There's that deepening of a bond there,

That feeling now with Ben.

You know,

Just for that moment.

Yeah.

It just takes those little moments.

And probably the bond was created in a moment when you decided,

Well,

Actually,

It's not about the film.

I just want to connect with him.

And the connection took place because there was the intention.

You allowed it to happen as well.

If you would have insisted on your film choice,

You would have blocked the connection.

Yes,

Exactly.

Yes.

There was that almost,

From a child,

I was probably quite stubborn as a child.

You know,

I was quite,

You know,

I want my way.

You know,

That type of thing.

So there was a little bit of young Graeme came in to play for just that moment.

But the more heeled Graeme then started to kick in.

And,

You know,

It was really good.

And the other really cool thing was that,

So my wife,

Lisa,

Was out for the night as well.

And he generally has,

He wants Lisa to put him to bed at night as well.

But he was more than happy to go upstairs and allow me to tuck him in.

And we read a story together and everything like that.

And I've seen him in the past.

And he was like,

You know,

He wants to stay,

No matter what time Lisa comes home,

If it's 11 o'clock,

12 o'clock,

He wants to stay up.

He was more than happy just to kind of fall asleep.

And he was content.

And it's been such a,

I felt so,

I don't know,

I felt so,

There was a sense of relief,

I have to say.

There was a sense of relief on my part.

And there was a sense of happiness,

I guess.

There's a sense of happiness.

Yeah.

And I know,

I don't want to kind of get into too deep in the first episode,

But,

You know,

I have a long history of chronic fatigue.

And I missed out on a lot of parts when Ben was younger.

I missed out on that part.

And it's now rebuilding that bond,

Really.

Yeah,

Yeah.

And again,

Like,

All because you allowed the connection.

Right.

Yeah.

And I love that you share that,

Actually,

Because that's my experience.

It's those little decisions,

And they have such a ripple effect.

Yeah.

Like,

It's not just that moment,

Usually.

Like,

You're building on it,

And it,

Yeah,

It ripples out.

And that's why I find this whole journey,

Even if it's sometimes,

You know,

As you say,

It can be a lot of work.

It can be really hard.

You have to be completely honest with yourself.

It takes a lot of courage.

But it's so fulfilling.

And then sometimes things unravel in a way because you took that one decision,

Or you made that one change.

And it's just like,

You're like,

Wow,

When did it get so good?

Well,

That's the thing,

Isn't it?

And we've both experienced that as well,

Where when you start to experience that change in you,

There's no way you want to go the other way.

No,

You never go back.

You never go back,

Do you?

Like,

There is no chance of going back.

You're just like,

You want more.

It becomes.

.

.

Yeah.

Oh,

We sound like junkies.

I've got to get more of this love.

You know,

I've got to get more of this love.

Give me more love.

But it's.

.

.

Another thing that just kind of came to me as well is that in that moment as well,

It's teaching Ben,

Right?

It's allowing Ben to.

.

.

Modeling.

Yes,

Exactly.

And now imagine,

There was almost like,

They call it like a sliding door moment,

Right?

Mm-hmm.

You've got a choice of going down this path or you've got a choice of going down that path,

That timeline or,

You know,

The other timeline.

And imagine if I had chosen something differently and stuck in and like,

No,

We're watching this,

You know.

And the experience would have been completely different for me.

Yeah.

And it would have been completely different for Ben.

And then his outer experiences would then be.

.

.

He would then replicate that in his outer experiences as he goes out in the world.

Yeah,

Exactly,

Yeah.

He did replicate that and then rub off on somebody else.

And then somebody else would then.

.

.

Yeah.

And it multiplies.

Yes,

Yeah.

It's just being passed on.

Well,

If you choose to take it on,

Like everybody who chooses to take it on,

Right?

But children,

Especially between the age of zero and seven,

They just soak everything up,

Whatever you model to them.

That's the patterns they inherit because they're designed that way,

Right?

It's like this.

.

.

Yeah,

In those young ages because they kind of.

.

.

It probably also comes from evolution and like they need to be able to go,

Keep up with the tribe as fast as they can,

Right?

Yeah,

Yeah.

Survive and stuff.

That's the way they do it.

That's the way they do it,

Right?

And so their subconscious is wide open whatever they hear,

Like they take it for like,

Yeah,

That's what it is.

And so only later you kind of even have a chance.

So if you've been inheriting a lot of those patterns and stuff only later in your life you really have a chance to dismantle them unless your parents do like a whole work up front like,

You know,

You're doing,

You're trying to model a different way or like what I'm doing with my son as well because,

You know,

Obviously we just live in a world and he hears stuff and,

You know,

I try to counteract or like explain to him that not everything people say is true and stuff and,

You know,

And kind of.

.

.

But it's just,

I've become very aware of that,

That like in this age from zero to seven they just,

Whatever you do,

Whatever you show them,

Like this is their world.

They just accept it.

They don't have a feeling to reject stuff yet.

Yeah,

Absolutely.

No,

No,

Absolutely.

And I know Ben and I do a lot about human design and then I know Ben is he's quite open.

He's quite open and like his head's quite open.

He can absorb quite a lot of people's thoughts and impressions and things so that he can absorb a lot of that and his heart's quite open as well.

So,

Again,

He absorbs quite a lot of people's emotions and he feels the emotion in the room and feels people's and he feels people's heart and he feels people's anxieties and things.

Yeah,

That's the same with my son actually.

I think there's lots of very sensitive children at the moment.

I don't know if we just notice it more.

I certainly notice it.

You can really tell,

You know,

Some kids just stay in their energy and do their thing and some kids just take on the energy of the other person and like mirror it back or like so with my son I notice that a lot.

It's like But they never seem to be aware of it.

That's the thing,

Isn't it?

They never seem to No,

They have to learn it,

Yeah.

No,

Exactly.

That's the thing.

Yeah,

I mean,

I've started teaching my son how to like send energy back that isn't his and stuff like that and,

You know,

Like techniques I mean,

Obviously that's what I'm doing that's my work so whatever I can share with him and teach him to help him stay in his own energy and not take on all this stuff from other people I show him,

Yeah.

And it's been it's made a difference definitely.

It's so empowering.

That's one of my I mean you know you know we've known each other for about a year or so now.

Yeah,

Yeah pretty since August,

Right?

Since August,

That's right.

Yeah,

Yeah.

And then one of my biggest passions is is children like and as a child and the stuff that we've learned and and our spiritual path our awakening our healing the thing I always kind of come back to is why does it have to why do we have to get to that point in life 30s to have that breakdown wouldn't it just be so much easier to know that all this kind of thing when you or be taught this when when we are young and when we are more open to ideas and bigger concepts in life but as you said between zero and seven we're just taking in all these kind of different ideas and conditioning and all this wouldn't it be amazing yeah sure I think we're gonna get there I think it's just a process and it's just an age the world is shifting into and we are kind of at the beginning of it you know but I mean there is lots of people who like parents who teach their children like you know how to to work with their energy how to listen to their soul and stuff and you know I guess I'm one of them so you're one of them I've been definitely I've been talking to my son a lot about his soul because that's kind of my it's the one main if I'm doing lots of stuff I have different modalities and stuff but if you bring it down to one core thing really what it's all about for me and what I'm teaching is how to live in alignment with your soul how to be one with your soul and living and walking a soul's path it's really my main core teaching in everything that I do and it's something I'm also sharing of course with my family because we're having conversations and with my son my son is very open to it he's like he's very curious as well he asks me questions and stuff so do you find a difference then between your family like when you say when you're offering I don't want to say it would teach your family but your just sharing sharing yeah sharing with the family do you see the difference between sharing with the family the older members of the family and with Hector do you mean when I share it with him yeah when I share it with my parents or yeah just yeah anybody that's in your so anybody in your family that's older yeah do you see the difference in in reacting in of taking on what you're offering oh yeah yeah yeah I mean of course like my son is still like he's six years old so he's still just and also I'm his mom so he's just accepting what I say so it's not not like necessarily living by it but he's kind of recognizing and accepting right with in with my wider family it's very very interesting because I have some people who are like I don't believe in any of this like it's just like and then very close within the same family I have people who are like this is amazing this has changed like my life you know because I've also have done like sessions and energy work with with some family members who wanted to work with me and they've experienced massive changes and what I noticed is again I noticed the ripples because it's not only the people I've worked with who are kind of changing and evolving but when I visited my family in summer because I live in the UK right and they live in Austria I noticed everything everyone had evolved like but in a way not like what you would expect in a year way beyond that like it just felt completely different and that's that's the ripple effect that's like if one person you know grows and evolves and changes things it will ripple out to other people because you're acting differently you're speaking differently you know you have more love to share and to show to people and stuff and it makes a difference it makes a massive difference and it gives me so much like it's such a comfort knowing that my work can do this and even you know even if I don't have like a thousand clients at the moment but if I just have one client and I do this work with them I know it ripples out much much bigger it's not just that one person that's changing and that's like I love this thought it's just like this is amazing yeah it really does it's a goal of mine as well I try to set not too many goals we've talked before about goal setting and that's something that I'm conscious of not setting goals but goals but at the same time it's like I really love that kind of concept of of sharing like sharing different ways of seeing things yeah being open to different ways and to say to people life's not a struggle that you believe in it doesn't have to be well it's your choice well that's true you're 100% right it's that choice A choice B what door do you choose and again maybe not the podcast to talk about limiting beliefs and all these kind of things that we have and and yet it's also it comes back down to that fundamental thing of awareness bringing the awareness is catching yourself rather than being this automatic robot yeah we've both been there yeah yeah yeah exactly it's not like I'm perfect every day sometimes you know I react but then maybe I catch myself and then I make a choice so you notice it and then I make a choice do I 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