Toxic Positivity Is The Latest Trend To Fight Against

Hello everyone!

I hope that you're doing amazing.

Welcome to another video on the soul vitamins community.

In this one I wanted to speak to you about toxic positivity.

It's something that I've been thinking about quite a while,

Quite a bit over the last few days because I realized you know when I did this emotional feeling exercise I spoke about a couple of days ago,

Maybe last week,

You know I'm sitting down and I'm really trying to feel my emotions that are in my heart and my body and as I said previously perhaps I might have added that or I didn't but what's happening is that I'm feeling a lot,

A lot,

An immense amount of sadness popping up for me and it's fascinating to me because at first of course I'm sitting there thinking I shouldn't be feeling sad I have the best life in the world I live I'm living my ideal life I live like a queen you know I don't do anything I have cleaners that come in to clean my place and you know people who wash my clothes and I'm you know I'm living my dream life I'm working on projects that I love you know it's just there's a there's a lot for me to be grateful for and to be happy about and almost nothing for me to be sad about unless I look at the world and then yeah of course there's a lot to be sad about but in general if I look at my own life there isn't and so you know when all of the sadness started popping up and usually I feel a lot of the sadness a lot of it comes up when I'm on my period because I think you know at that point you're very much in touch with your subconscious and your deeper self and and your ancestors and you know of course there's a lot of feelings coming up and I always notice that I feel a lot more intense emotions when I have my period so that's quite interesting to me but you know I I did notice that all of these emotions that were related to sadness I would kind of try to push them away and I tried to run away from them because not only do my parents did my parents always tell me you know you don't you have nothing to be sad about you're so lucky why are you sad you know so when I would cry they would just ignore it because they're like oh she'll she'll get over it she'll be fine soon or you know if I was sad around my friends you know they're obviously things like but you're so lucky you have everything why would you be sad and of course if I was ever sad on my own I would repeat these epithets that were repeated to me all the time and I would say to myself oh no there's no need for you to be sad you have you're so lucky you have everything just calm down and get over it and I think because I numb myself or I pushed away all of this sadness that I could have felt in the moment doesn't necessarily mean that I wasn't grateful for what I had it's just that something was coming up and I had to I should I have it would have been good if I felt it rather than pushed it away but what I did was I numb myself and I pushed it away I was like no not right now or ever I'm never gonna feel sadness and I just kind of worked with toxic positivity which is essentially what the the video is all about which is that I I sat there and didn't allow myself to feel any negative emotions of anxiety sadness doubt fear and every time it would come up I would push it away and say no not now not ever I'm not gonna feel these negative emotions because I am not allowed to feel them because I have such a great life and I'm so blessed right now I'm not saying that I'm not blessed I'm not saying that I don't have a great life but it doesn't mean as I said I'm not that I'm not allowed to feel negative emotions and so you know I'm trying now as I said to try and feel these emotions as much as possible but the general tendency not only in this world but in me has been to push away these feelings and not feel them and and pretend like everything's fine and and be positive in a toxic way and this is what I wanted to say that positivity in general is not a bad thing either you know positivity is not a bad thing negativity is not a bad thing negative emotions or positive emotions are not bad or good either it's that when you feel these emotions come up whatever they are good or bad you feel them you know you feel them fully you are in them and you let them take over you and you just really get into it and then they are done you know you they pass through you you feel the emotions and motion and gone they pass through you and then you move on right unfortunately as you might imagine what happens if you don't feel the emotion and you push it away is that it doesn't go away it's not like oh well okay you're not gonna feel me all right I'm just gonna go in and not bother you anymore it's still there it's in your body it's in your in your fascia it's in your in your joints it's in your organs it's in every part of your body every part of your consciousness it's still sitting there right and over time the more you push away emotions the more you don't feel it the more you don't feel your sadness the more you don't feel your anxiety it sits there and bills and bills and bills and bills and bills and bills in your body until your body can't take it anymore and then it causes disease right that's why they say a lot of diseases are psychosomatic they're not necessarily related to physical disturbances but psychological disturbances that manifest as physical disturbances right and so you know I've been noticing myself a lot that the more I do this emotional exercises the more I feel like a weight is being lifted off of my heart and my body that I didn't even realize was there you know I did a recent recently couple days ago I did this exercise where I felt the emotions that were popping up in my heart and Wow I mean I literally came out of it it was a long exercise I sat for I think an hour feeling that those emotions coming up but as soon as I was done with it there was such a such a such a relief that I felt it literally as if there was something pressing down on me on my chest that I didn't even know was pressing down on me right I was so used to that thing pressing down on my chest that it became normal for me and then once I did the exercise if it was lifted it was it was gone I was not there pressing down on me anymore and I felt like I could breathe better I felt like I could that my body felt lighter you know my energetic structure felt lighter it felt like I was a different person for a few days and so I really am sad of course and annoyed at myself of course that you know I allowed myself to play this game of toxic positivity for so long and I know why I did it I'm not saying I don't understand why did it you know I did it because there were circumstances that I couldn't deal with that I wasn't strong enough perhaps to feel these emotions perhaps I was playing a role of being the positive happy one in the family and everyone else was allowed to be miserable but not me because if I was miserable as well who's gonna bring everyone else up and that's definitely true for me because I do play the role of the the positive cheerful one in the family and then a lot of people in my family are very depressed and sad and so you know if I was also depressed and sad I really feel like the family was just fall apart of course they wouldn't but that's what I think you know that's the idea the story that I've built up for myself um so I just wanted to share this with you because if you are kind of in this mode right now where you're pretending to be positive pretending to be strong pretending to be okay when you're not actually okay and I can imagine with all the different things going on in the world not oh not anyone are very few people are actually okay really but especially if you're an empath you're probably taking on the feelings and emotions and sadness and the madness of the world right now and if you're not feeling okay it's okay to say to yourself hey I'm not feeling fine I don't feel happy I don't feel positive I feel a little sad a lot sad a lot anxious and I'm just gonna feel these negative emotions without pushing them away I'm going to not run away from them I'm not gonna numb myself I'm not going to pretend like they don't exist I'm just really seriously gonna feel them and the more I feel them the more they're going to dissipate and be released into the ether and this can only mean good things for you in the future in terms of your health and mental health and physical health and every kind of health so I do highly recommend this now I'm not saying if I'm from a perspective of an expert of course this is something that just recently started doing and it feels like wow what was I doing without these exercises of experiences but yeah I know a couple of you have tried emotional exercises and I don't know if you have this tendency I'm sure you don't maybe I'm one of the few people in the group that do that but if you do have this tendency to have to pretend like you're okay and positive and you're not then maybe try at least on your own you don't have to do it around people but at least on your own to let yourself feel the depth of those negative emotions and be okay with it it's fine they come they might seem crazy hard to feel in the moment and as if you're gonna be drowned in them but the more you feel them the more they'll dissipate and then eventually they'll be gone from your system forever which is exactly what we all want you know we don't want to carry all this stuff around with us forever because it's truly for me particularly it's truly weighing me down and I can when it is released that's when I really feel how much it was weighing me down right because I've lived with it for so long that as I said I I'm so used to it it is my new normal to feel weighed down by all these emotions but when I'm not I suddenly realize oh my god that was a huge weight that was lifted off of me my goodness was I carrying that around with me all of this time Wow how did I even move in the world I can't even imagine right so yeah I want to share this with you and hopefully you can use this as impetus for you to stop with the toxic positivity and be positive of course when you are feeling positive but be negative and sad when you are feeling sad and just feel what you're feeling basically essentially is the idea here yeah if you have any questions please let me know or if you have a story to share from your own life I would love to hear and again thank you so much I shall see you in the next one bye