Hi,
This is Brooks,
And thanks for joining me.
Today we're going to talk about not taking delivery.
And I found that this is a helpful way to take care of ourselves,
And also improve our relationships.
So,
By taking delivery,
Or by not taking delivery,
What I'm talking about is sometimes we encounter somebody and they're mean.
It could be they're tired,
Or their blood sugar is low,
Or maybe they're an angry or a mean person.
Sometimes that happens,
We encounter that.
And at that point,
Even though it's uncomfortable,
Even though the encounter is uncomfortable,
There's this option of not taking delivery.
It's given to us,
But we could say,
No thanks,
You know,
Internally.
Because the alternative is to take delivery,
And when that happens,
We take on that anger,
We take on whatever that person is feeling.
We take on the bruise of the encounter.
Sometimes people are mean because they were,
Someone was mean to them.
It's like a ricochet effect,
Or like if you're skipping a stone on water,
And it skips seven,
Eight times.
That can happen.
Somebody is mean to somebody,
That person took delivery,
And they don't feel good.
It doesn't feel good to take delivery.
And so,
They want to pass it on in one way or another,
And getting angry and being mean can feel like,
For that person at that time,
Like they're passing it on.
They're getting it out of their system.
It's not a conscious thing.
It's very reactionary.
So that can help sometimes when we're encountering someone,
Maybe they're usually really nice.
And something happened to them in the moments before,
And they're mean to us.
And we can have that understanding,
Even though it,
Again,
It doesn't feel good.
When we encounter that,
Perhaps in that moment we can tell ourselves,
I'm not going to take delivery of this.
Whatever this person is going through,
Whatever reason they're acting the way they are,
I'm not going to take delivery.
And it's nice to know there's an option.
I can say no to this.
It's like if the UPS person came to our door and said,
This is for so-and-so,
And it's not your name.
You're like,
Oh,
No,
That's not me.
And they take it away.
So this becomes an option.
And maybe we're watching the news and somebody on there is very angry and they're talking angrily,
There's another opportunity to say I'm not going to take delivery of what is going on for them.
And it's nice.
It's very kind.
It's very kind to ourselves.
And it's kind of the person who's being mean.
When we don't take delivery,
We stay healthy.
You know,
There's the pain of the person being angry in the moment,
But we don't take it on.
We don't take delivery.
So we have peace of mind.
And for that person who's angry and wants to pass it on,
And internally we stay flexible and open,
But not accepting delivery,
There's a possibility that that person can get a healing from or not accepting the rage or the anger or the meanness.
The momentum has an opportunity to stop.
But that's a secondary consideration.
The first consideration is that we're taking care of ourselves when we don't take delivery.
That someone's nice to us,
Someone's kind to us,
They're loving.
Great.
You can take delivery of that.
Sure,
I'll take that.
Absolutely.
The meanness,
The unkindness,
The cruelty,
The violence,
Whether physical or emotional,
It's our right and it's our option.
And we can say,
I'm not taking delivery.
So I encourage you to give this a try because,
You know,
There's always an opportunity.
Opportunities come up.
Someone's mean,
Someone's harsh in one way or another.
It's an opportunity.
And maybe you remember this,
Maybe you remember,
Oh,
I don't have to take delivery of this.
And it's a new experience for you.
And there's a freedom in that.
This is uncomfortable,
But I don't have to take delivery.
Or maybe you forget and you do take delivery and all of a sudden you realize,
Boy,
That doesn't feel good.
I just took delivery because pain is a real great way to learn.
Either way,
I wish you the best with this.
And it's good spending time with you.
Take care.
Bye.
