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The Me Depends On An Illusion Of Togetherness

by Cico (Chonghe Zhang)

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**Note: Truth does not always sound pleasant. If the mind is not really peaceful now, it might not be a perfect moment to listen to this podcast, one has to be aware of the emotions or reactions that can block one from listenING ATTENTIVELY and with HUMILITY. Listening to this talk is meditation. What one needs to do is listen attentively, without being stuck in words, examine the mind in silence, no agree or disagree, just look at the mind as it is. Doing so is already part of true meditation.

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Transcript

To really observe ourselves,

Understand ourselves,

One must be absolutely earnest and honest.

Don't stop the airs,

Don't deceive yourself,

Just look,

Observe in aloneness.

This means that the mind is free of all inferences,

Not only outwardly but also inwardly.

The mind has accumulated so many conclusions,

Ideas,

Views,

And the mind keeps replaying them to re-enhance them.

Can the mind be free of all those inferences?

So the mind is alone and only in aloneness,

The mind is capable of observing and learning.

And when the mind is really alone,

There's no me,

There's no self at all.

Where there is the self,

Aloneness is not.

Because this concept,

Which is called me,

The self,

Or the ego,

Or whatever,

Is the consequence of the numerous inferences outwardly and inwardly,

Which is actually a unitary process.

And for most people,

Their life is self-centered.

The whole living is based on this concept called me.

To the mind is always seeing everything from the center,

Which is the me.

Everything is being filtered by this concept,

Which is called me.

Based on my preference,

I like this,

I like that,

And all kinds of peculiar idiosyncrasies.

Where there is the me,

There is confirmation and imitation.

Because that's the source of the security of the me,

Isn't it?

The me creeps security,

And the me can't stand alone.

It is always wanting to find a tribe to draw in,

To find a crowd to get a sense of being together.

If one goes to the coffee shop,

Or the restaurant,

Or other places,

There are so many people there.

They are chattering,

They are talking,

With their close people or friends or whatever.

But the mind is also taking pleasure from that sense of being together,

Quoted being together.

So you see,

This concept of me is always corrupt.

It can't stand alone.

It always refers to other people's opinions,

Or accepts other people's opinions,

Or agrees or disagrees.

But the mind never looks at you.

Meet your Teacher

Cico (Chonghe Zhang)Amsterdam, Netherlands

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