A very big aloha.
I'm Reverend Cindy Paulus and I wanted to talk to you today about communication.
Communication has been my field for most of my life.
I've been involved in doing a lot of radio shows and doing a lot of talk shows and I have found a few things that I wish to share that really work in communicating and they're rather simple but they work and that sometimes the simple things are the best things.
It really helps if you care about expressing yourself to who you're communicating with and that often includes allowing them to feel safe in telling you what's going on with them and there's many levels to that.
It may be just as simple as well I've been really busy or been really hard lately.
It might be a few sentences but what they're saying is a code for what they really want to get further into and the thing is your response.
Your response has to really show an interest in finding out more.
That person needs to feel that they can really communicate with you.
Now some people communicate in a rather short,
Short brief way.
Some people want to unload and go on and on and on.
Everyone has different ways of communicating and so you have to pretty quickly figure out where that person is coming from.
Now if you know the person you probably already realize what where that is and what that is and how they will communicate.
If you don't know the person you have to allow them to find that opening in you that connects and people always know more than they may express say or do.
They have this other sense that goes deeper and when you really seem like you're interested and that you care that gives them a chance to go deeper into their communication and when they go deeper into their communication with you,
Their talk with you,
They'll find if you care they find that there's this wonderful feeling they have of you understanding.
You understanding them and really being curious about them and that's such a great gift in itself just there.
If you can allow that person to know that you are listening,
That you do care,
Then that is so valuable.
I think you probably all have heard interviews where the person has a list of questions and the person talking to them will say something that would be fascinating and go very deep if that person responded to what the person was saying but instead they just go to the next question on their list.
So they cut off really understanding that opening to just get through their list of questions.
So I'd say if you really are talking to someone don't just go down either a physical or a mental or some kind of list in your mind of what you want to say.
Allow that person to lead and to be open.
I never in any of the interviews and I've done thousands and thousands and thousands of interviews,
I never ever had a list of questions that I went by and the hardest part I had is when people were more important.
They wanted to approve the list of questions that you were going to ask the person and if I had to do that I'd send some basic stuff and then I'd quickly go off that which was okay because you know what that was much more interesting to have that opening to what was there that was really going on and the same is true with friendships.
You know you allow that opening.
You're not afraid to really hear what that person is trying to get across and to communicate with you and when you do this you are really doing a service.
You are really offering a very deep service when you go to that level.
Now here's the other thing that can really take it to the next level.
We all have more than one level of energy existing at one time.
So there's the superficial level which is what most people are used to doing and functioning with to keep it simple and then there's a deeper level inside and that takes in your emotions.
It takes in your soul.
It takes in your energy field.
It takes in your wisdom.
It takes in all of who you really are that allows itself to be present.
So when you know yourself enough to trust your energy to be totally present not just in the mind but in emotions and with the actual ability to connect to that higher part or deeper part of a person,
That's where some life-changing communications can happen and those communications can open doors.
It can open doors for you and it can open doors for the person you're talking to.
But I'll tell you one thing I found is that in that kind of communication you both sense something is really happening.
You both become aware.
This is interesting.
This is fascinating.
This is something that was valuable to have this communication that is allowing that true self to be present.
And the thing is you can really express this and do this and use this in every single one of your relationships and also with people you don't even have a relationship with.
But I encourage you to expand your ability to communicate.
I like to think of the word communication as commune.
Communication is communing.
You are communing and when you commune with the person there's something really wonderful,
Really wonderful going on.
Don't back off from the wonderful.
Don't try to play just a superficial role.
Play instead that role of being present in that total deep connection that is there in you and there in the other person.
And when you learn how to do this it's such a wonderful gift that you learn how to share and how to really communicate and commune with the other person.
I thank you so very much for at least taking the time to listen and to be aware and then to take this and try it out to explore this ability that you have.
I think you'll find it can really make a difference.
Thanks so much.
