Actionable Love - 10 Ways In 10 Days

Day 1.

Availability.

Also known as being present,

Fittingly enough,

The greatest present you can offer someone.

It encompasses warmth,

Safety,

Care,

Respect,

Interest,

Trust,

Connection.

If you find someone worthy of this,

Carve out the time to check in with them.

People love to feel that their day to day journeys matter to others.

A small dose of genuine effort goes such a long way.

It says to that person,

You are surrounded by love and support.

Eye Contact.

Our inner soul language is always conveyed through our eyes.

How long we hold our looks and how many access doors we allow to open to let someone fully in.

This comfort fluctuates accordingly to how courageous and clear our conscience is.

It's most likely why humans are so drawn to baby's eyes.

They have nothing to hide.

Radiant,

Strong,

Pure,

And unapologetic.

A touch,

A hug.

These are always wonderful ways to show someone your availability.

The same as wearing my crest or hold a pet.

Humans need this just as much.

And finally,

Emotion.

This is one of the hardest of availabilities.

Go back to that baby for a moment.

Think about how little it has to do in order to bring so much joy to someone.

We all have wounds.

The more we mask and hide and bury them,

The more we actually end up making them less useful to ourselves than by converting them into our ability to love even deeper and stronger.

Start using those wounds to work for you instead of against you,

Especially if they aren't going anywhere soon.

Emotional availability.

Energy moved and availed for our ability.

Day 2.

Dependability.

As with most things,

This gets better by habit.

If you say you're going to do something,

Do it quite simply.

In many ways,

Our word is our worth.

It builds integrity and raises our bar on how we show up in life.

Dependability cultivates better responsibility,

Time management,

And trust from others.

People highly respect this quality,

As it requires discipline and honoring our agreements.

It's attractive,

It's noble,

It's honest and sincere.

It's decisive,

And it's clear.

It conveys many of the universally highest acknowledged values in a single gesture.

Being on time,

Keeping that appointment,

That date,

That engagement,

That task you offer to do,

These actions are loaded with greatness.

Good intentions are nice.

Dependability is invaluable.

Day 3.

Accountability.

For as hard as this may come,

At the expense of our exposure to judgment,

The stronger in the long run this makes us.

This can be a gift to let someone know we are aware of our ever improving self.

It sets a standard to others that they too can make errors and it's not the end of the world.

It creates a space that allows for expansion.

It puts someone at ease for not having to bear the responsibility of telling you where you may have misstepped because you've already taken the authority to own it yourself.

Keeping up appearances will only take you so far.

When we are accountable for our actions,

It shows confident vulnerability.

It is also quite self empowering.

You are essentially mentoring yourself towards the best solution to increase your inner growth,

External relationships and overall approach to life.

It invites others to do the same as well,

Leading by example.

Day 4.

Flexibility.

This one is very much about letting go of the need to control.

If we are autonomously finding ways to yield to others and give things to go their way,

It can allow for an increase in abundance,

Adventure and new experiences.

People pleasing or being a yes person is an extreme case of this and usually shows up when we avoid the possibility of upsetting the other.

It is important to speak up for ourselves,

To establish our needs and boundaries and comfort zones.

However,

The idea of flexibility is the flip side of that coin.

It can even be implemented towards our own self when alone.

It could be modifying a perspective on someone or something they have done.

This could even be yourself,

A different way to look at a situation.

Far too easily we can sell ourselves on the same narrative and stories when in fact there are multiple ways to view and experience something.

Judgment readily puts things into right and wrong categories,

Good and bad.

I recommend we live life in different shoes to broaden our views and consequently offer ourselves more confidence when we do finally rest on a decision about something or other.

We will have already explored the various options and alternatives.

Day 5.

Relatability.

We can chalk this one up as a close relative to empathy.

Being able to relate with another and on their level really grants that person the luxury of being truly seen and heard.

I believe we all have shared experiences that offer us a glimpse into another person's world.

This can be seen in film audiences.

A majority of us can be swept away in a movie.

We open up our emotions.

We challenge our views,

Thoughts and feelings.

Being there for someone as they do their best to share with us their world is massive.

If we find these things difficult to understand,

We can kindly ask them to explain more clearly,

Slower or simpler.

If they have been injured or traumatized,

We can do our best to relate to the main elements of their pain.

There is always some kind of link we can latch onto.

When that person feels we are making an effort to understand,

Many times that is good enough to know there is a connection on a primitive level.

Often in these cases people are typically seeking emotional relatability.

Explore different ways in which you can best understand your partner,

Mate,

Relative,

Friend or colleague.

Healthy curiosity usually does the job.

Day 6.

Changeability.

Change is very important.

Good change.

We all have to feel genuine to ourselves.

However,

The willingness to be able to make adjustments is crucial in life.

If we all just went about things the same way all the time,

We would make very limited progress.

People can and do change for the best.

Getting used to being out of our places of comfort is a critical component for this.

As the seasons change,

As our emotions change,

As our feelings change,

So equally we on the inside have the ability to change as well.

It is a great sign of love to make efforts for the other person where we may be experiencing certain blind spots in our own behavior.

This requires deep trust,

Courage,

Humility,

Vulnerability and discipline.

It is wonderful to have ourselves fully accepted for who we are in our natural states,

Yet it can be very inspiring to show our loved ones what is humanly possible by way of change and by way of leading as an example.

Day 7.

Reconcilability.

This is a powerful trait when there is an opportunity to have it put into action.

It is at the heart of healing.

Our attempt to face the conflicts that wrap themselves in a tight knot,

We approach them with grace and unravel the pain and loosen its hold on us.

It is essential to do the work and make efforts to release our own selves from the bondage and self-limitations created from our wounds.

It is the gift of making peace with others from whom we are hurting as a result of.

They may be too scared or weak to step up.

So much so,

They hide in their comfort nest of suffering and negativity.

Perhaps you can show them they are loved regardless of their fears,

Regardless of their guilt,

Regardless of their actions which have caused you strain and anxiety.

If the bigger picture is in a desperate and shattered place,

These acts of compassion and courageous love stand for so much.

They bring hope,

Momentary balance and awareness that there is a better world out there for the two of you.

A place where your connection can be harmonious and special,

Happy and abundant.

Offer a reconciliation to whatever degree your heart and strength is capable of.

This is not always the easiest thing to do.

Though if done with the purest of intent and resolve,

It is one of the greatest presents you can give to another.

Day 8.

Responsibility.

At times,

There is a right thing to do.

That's where responsibility shows up.

In these moments,

It's paramount to drop the ego.

Momentarily relieve yourself of any grudges,

Resent,

Fear and anger.

You take care of business.

Responsibility lives in its own league.

It doesn't fuss around the weight and importance of emotions and baggage.

It is there for one reason only.

To come through when it counts.

To shove everything else to the side.

To make way for a critical act of service.

It could be helping a recently broken up partner move out,

Even though you may have wanted them to stay.

It could be visiting the sick relative that has turned their back on you for years.

Or it could be a responsible act of love towards yourself by discontinuing a relationship with someone or something that has been harming your livelihood.

These acts are bold and done intuitively,

Confidently and decisively.

There is no wavering.

These represent some of the hugest ways we can actively love ourselves and others.

Day 9 Vulnerability.

So instrumental and is often accompanied by many walls and phobias.

How do we properly arrive here?

Why when people say vulnerability is a strength?

Is that so?

Is it because we face people with nothing but our heart and soul and let them see that depth,

That purity?

The beautiful thing about vulnerability is it is when we are most honest with ourselves and have nothing to hide.

I'm not proposing to constantly walk around life completely vulnerable.

I am suggesting we make efforts to allow ourselves to exist in this space when we can.

This also gives others the opportunity to truly see us and for them to be deeply responsive.

It is a breath of fresh air to feel and witness someone being emotionally honest.

We spend so many years accumulating armor and protective layering to be real with someone and offer them absolute inner vulnerable truth.

Who can contest that?

No one.

It's your truth.

Where we attempt to fortify our bonds of trust with one another.

Vulnerability is imperative.

Day 10 Humility.

It's wonderful to imagine that this never gets old.

We can always exercise humility.

We are fit as a species to possess this and need it for our survival.

Especially if we look at the world around us and how magnanimous it all is.

Humility keeps us in check,

Keeps us grounded.

Humility and confidence go hand in hand.

To possess a healthy dose of humility raises your confidence.

It gives you bearing and a grateful installment of your character and worth.

Being humble does not mean less than.

It means you respect the greater workings of how you fit into the universal order of things.

From here you can grow and bloom into the strongest tree of life.

When we offer another that humility we also allow them to feel important.

We share the wealth.

We share the praise.

We share the love.

Humility is an opportunity to appreciate the seemingly bigger and smaller things in life.

It keeps us on an even playing field.

It keeps us always in a stage of growth and learning.

It allows us to be surprised and gifted by the world and others.

With more humility we also soften our tempers,

Our grievances,

Our cravings.

Humility is a great benefactor.

It will always hold you dear and keep you fed.

It will forgive you and wash away resent.

It will perpetuate your state of wonderment in this beautiful and unpredictable life.

It will be the companion to always steer you straight.

Thank you.