Heatlh + Happiness Connection - Weekly Energy Boost

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Heatlh + Happiness Connection - Weekly Energy Boost

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It’s natural to be unhappy at times. But when negative emotions “settle-in” and take over, they can have a lasting effect on our health and well-being. In this episode we’re joined by Daniel Naor to discuss the dangers of sadness – physically and spiritually – and how being happy can actually improve our health. Episode 2 of 4. Original airdate: 3/22/21

Health Happiness Energy Negative Emotions Well Being Sadness Laughter Emotional Release Self Inquiry Purpose Purpose Discovery Certainty Beyond Logic Body Emotion Connection Emotional Blockages Laughter Therapies

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Good morning, Everyone. Good evening, Good afternoon, Wherever you are, And welcome to this week's Weekly Energy Boost. My name is Ellie Sheva, And I am here today with both David Guillame and Daniel Naur, And we are going to discuss from every possible angle the impact that happiness or lack of happiness can have on our wellbeing. We brought Daniel specifically for this episode because Daniel, Who has been a guest on Weekly Energy Boost numerous times, Has a unique perspective. He has delved into all different kinds of modalities, When it comes to shifting belief systems, The body-brain connection, And so much more. So we're going to hear more about that later in the show as well. The Weekly Energy Boost is a seven-day spiritual energy forecast that we present the most practical and most powerful wisdom that we have connected with, Whether it's David and I or any of our guests, So that you can not only make the best of what's happening in the coming seven days, But use that wisdom and those tools your entire life. This week is definitely going to show us, Or let's say give us just cause to be in our heads, To be into ourselves, To be focused on what do I want, What do I need, How do I feel, Really the selfishness in a way abounds this week. For that reason, We wanted to talk about how to get out of our heads, How to get out of ourselves when we feel the viewfinder focusing so intensely inward that it's hard to see anyone else or even the value of connecting with anyone else. So hopefully if you're hearing this earlier in the week, You're going to be more armed and better prepared for what's coming. If not, You could be listening to this in July or December, And for whatever reason, The universe has given you the opportunity to hear what you're hearing, Even if it's just 10 minutes of this episode to shift your perspective. So which one of you wants to go first? Daniel, You go for it. I go for it. I go for it. So first of all, Welcome Daniel, And thank you for being with us again. I know that a lot of people- People love when we bring Daniel on. So I don't know, We thought about you for this topic because the body, And we heard this, I mean, The past few guests that we've had have really brought it in a different way to the forefront of our consciousness that our emotions and what we experience and the memories of those emotions are really meant to flow through the body almost like water, But we tend to hold onto it and it aggregates and we create stories and blockages and it interferes, Issues from a relationship 20 years ago become an issue in our current relationship because we're not letting go of that. So we wanted to have you here with us today so that you can dismantle that and hopefully give our listeners some structure on which to make those shifts. Yes, Absolutely. So the first thing I would like to start with is I believe it all starts with being in the head, Being in our head. That's where all the problems start. When we are caught up in our own thoughts and our own worries and our own lives, Then it starts to trickle down and into our emotional level, Right? Something unsettling, Something doesn't feel right, And then the emotion become actions, Right? Selfish actions, Actions of just thinking about myself leads to just caring about myself. So one of the things that we can do and want to focus on is, And maybe we can get more ideas around that to discuss with you together, How to get out of our head. So one of the things that I like to use is this idea of quickness of spirit, Like doing things fast, Because we know that externally also awaken something internally, Right? There's actually one of the Kabbalists that I'm calling, An Italian Kabbalist. He talks about the idea if you just start to move faster, If you even start to move your body faster, If you start to act faster, It will awaken some type of fire inside of you that will help you to get out of your own head. So this is a very practical tool that I like to use oftentimes, Just asking myself, Pausing, Okay, Am I caught up with some foreign thoughts right now? Am I caught up with myself? How can I get out of it? Well, Let's start to move quicker. Let's start to move my body. Let's let's, Whatever I'm already doing, Like speed it up a little bit. And it helps me tremendously to get out of my own head and just shift my energy. Can you give some practical examples of people that you've worked with, Struggle they're going through and tools that you've given them to practically get out of their head? Yes. So there's a bunch of them. What comes to mind? Yes. So first of all, I think it's important to realize what keeps us attached to our limiting beliefs. What keeps us attached today, We're discussing also sadness. What keeps us attached to sadness, What keeps us attached to any of these intellectually understanding those are negative qualities, Negative emotions, But we are attached to them and we're attached to them because it gives us something. Oftentimes it's some type of comfort. Sometimes it's some illusionary safety that we feel from it. So the first thing I tell people is I asked him that question, What are you getting from it? And that's the most confusing question for most people. They're like, I don't get anything from it. I said, No, You do. Otherwise you wouldn't be keep on doing it. So they start thinking longer and then we dig a little bit deeper. And how is it serving you? What is the illusionary fulfillment? Well, Ah, Okay. Yeah. So my sadness and my heaviness, You know, It gives me an excuse not to do things because people won't overload me with an overwhelming with responsibilities because they know I can only handle that much. And then we dig further in previous experiences where they were overwhelmed, What is it caused them? And so that's where really we want to start is what I'm getting from sadness or feeling stuck. I'm always getting something one practical tool that you ask. Um, So about a year or two years ago, I was certified in laughter. So I'm a laughter coach technically. I also know a few people who need to learn to laugh differently. Can you help with that? You have like a document that says that? Yeah. We got to get that uploaded. Um, So the reason why, Why I went ahead and did that is because imagine some people like certified in sadness, Like you can, You can act by the way, Becoming certified in sadness means at least you're in control of the sadness, Which is actually a very powerful concept. It's very deep. I'm certified in sadness and I'm in control. So that means you're actually happy. I love that. I keep going. Sorry. So it's a remind me of the inside out movie. Remember sadness. You saw that? Yeah. So sadness was actually the key for success. So there's no negative or bad emotions. We need all emotions. So I don't believe that sadness is actually a bad thing. Um, Certainly not grief. Grief is something that's very healthy, But with drifting off the topic, I believe now. So, Um, Laughter, Right? Yes. I believe this is such a powerful tool and so underrated and so simple that anybody can use any time. And if starting off with laughter, It's too difficult for you, Even just with a smile, Just, Just, Just make it a goal, You know, Put it, Put it on your to do list today, You know, And catch yourself as often as possible. Now, How many times, Like being aware of, Of our, Of our, Of our appearance, Right? Our face doesn't belong to us when we go outside of the street. Right. And we have a sad face on it's affecting other people, Right? Not just me. So if, If I'm aware of that and I even, Maybe that's why we're all wearing masks these days. So we can't use that anymore. That's right. So just the awareness, Right. And smiling more often. And you know, What I actually like to do, What really shifts energy. I don't dare to, To, To, To try it out on the show, But maybe for all of our listeners, Everybody's watching set the timer one minute. If you feel too ridiculous, Pick up your phone, Your, Your pads, Your parts, And maybe we'll look a little bit less ridiculous for you, But set a timer one minute, Just laugh for one minute, Just laugh, Just laugh. If you can do it with people together, There's even more energy in it. Just laugh. And then close your eyes for a second and for 10 seconds and feel into your body and tell me that you don't feel a difference. Tell me that you don't feel like energetically more uplifted and something shifted. We talk also today about how happiness relates to health, Right? You can feel it immediately. So that's, So would you suggest something even practical if I'm in a bad mood or whatever kind of mood to go on YouTube and watch funny things? There's something called intentional laughter. And there's, There's laughter. I'm laughing because of something funny. There are two different things. One is the cause. The other is the effect. So it's okay. Sometimes we need a little stimulus, Like a little stimulation to get us going. Sometimes it's okay to be sad or in a bad mood. Sometimes I don't laugh at it. Sometimes I just sit with it and ask myself, Why am I in a bad mood? I just sit with it. It's okay. But I think there's power to intentional laughter when there's literally no reason. Right. And that's why for the ego, It feels ridiculous. Why are you laughing? There's no reason. You didn't get a bonus. They didn't even get the stimulus checked. You didn't get anything. Why are you laughing? Why are you just because, Because I'm a human being and I have the free will to do so. There's no more power to it. I like that. You want to say something? I wanted to go back to something. Daniel said, Daniel said prior, Which was, And I was, It's funny cause I was thinking about it in my mind and then you said it. So I feel it's a topic we should talk about. Speaking to somebody yesterday and they were telling me how they're, They've been upset with their father for their whole life. And this person tells me, I know I've been upset with my father for my whole life. And then they're looking at me and I'm like, And so what's your point? It's like, Well, Isn't it bad? Like can I stop that? And I'm like, Why would you stop it? And it was kind of this like moment where we're just looking at each other and they're like, Well, Cause it's not, It's not good to do that. I said, Yeah, But if you've been doing it your whole life, You obviously must find that there's a good reason to do it. So who am I to tell you not to do it? I mean, You must be enjoying it if you're doing it. And that goes back to, To our topic we've talked about so many times, Which is first, The reason why we're not letting go of stuff is because, You know, Yeah, We can say we're used to it and it's a habit or whatever, But there is a, There is a belief system that we get a lot from it and there's a pleasure to it. Now, What am I, What's the secret of what I'm saying? There's no secret. The bottom line is you enjoy it and there's nothing wrong with that. That is, That is a certain reality to exist in where you enjoy this habit. This habit happens to have side effects, But it is a habit nonetheless. Now, If we're trying to have a discussion of, I need different habits that I enjoy as well without side effects, So that's a different topic. And the reason I bring this up is because sometimes we tell people, You know, Get out of your head, Stop being sad, Stopping a certain way. And when you talk to people, That often doesn't work, Especially it doesn't work in relationships. They call that toxic positivity. Is that what it's called? And I see it a lot in people who are like married to each other or they're in close relationships where they see so clearly what the other person needs to change and they just flat out say, Oh, You need to change this or you need to stop this. But it's so much more complex than that. There, There's a pleasure, There's an enjoyment, There's a familiarity with being a certain way. And I think if you can first understand that that exists, Then you're already opening up the gates to be able to approach it a different way and to help them. We're not, We're not saying how to do it yet, But we're saying this is a dynamic that's causing people to be stuck. I think it's also important to dial back to one of the more basic concepts we bring up in the, Probably every other, If not every third episode is the idea that the Kabbalah teaches that the negativity, What we would call negativity or more specifically the voice of our opponent, Which is that it's a force that everybody is subject to that's there so that we can overcome it. Not so that we'll be owned by it or defined by it. So a person can go through something. And this to me is one of the most, I think, Profound lessons I've learned in the past couple of years is that a person can go through something really difficult, Really unfortunate, Really painful. And yes, There's pain. And yes, I mean, Also the last few guests we've had have given different perspectives on how to transform and handle grief and difficult situations. But the bottom line that all both, I think, Conventional knowledge and ancient wisdom share is that we are the ones who get to define how that impacts us. We get to define if reliving the pain over and over and over again creates a life of suffering, Or we get to decide if the lessons we learn from that suffering, From that pain, From that difficulty are the source of growth and elevation. And I'm trying to teach it to my kids now, Right? I have like elementary school kids and they go through different things. This one hurt them and this one left them out and this one. And I actually caught my daughter. It was a very powerful moment the other day. I caught my daughter right as she was about to cry about something. And I said, Wait a second, Time out. In a funny way, Not something, Not an ashamed, Don't do that way. Stop crying. Oh, Wait one second, One second. What if you didn't let this upset you? What if like in a playful, Curious, Imagine if you didn't let what so and so said or did or whatever rejection you felt in that moment. Imagine, And I used eight year old words, Of course, What if we found something else to do or someone else to have a play date with or something else to focus on that makes you happy. And you can look at later we can talk about what happened and you can decide what a better reality, How well I didn't say better reality, But I said, What a better choice you made by not letting it ruin your day or ruin your afternoon or ruin your 15 minutes. And she kind of looked at me like, Now I've told her many times before that she gets to choose how something affects her, Right? If she gets to choose if she has a bad day or a good day or if she remembers something over and over again or lets it go. And she is so very much like me when I was younger. But I think it's the first time that I caught her mid experience where she saw that she gets to decide to, She can feel, She felt the rejection, But is she going to let it ruin her afternoon or is she going to find another way to experience that she can choose to determine how it affects her? Love what both David and you shared. Reminds me the idea of not interfering, Right? Our teacher, The Robert would always say, Never interfere with someone's process and what both you, David and then whichever you shared this idea of letting people go through the process, Letting people go through the process sometimes. And I know it for me too. I'm trying to, And we're all, You know, We're dealing with people we're, We're, We're, We're coaching, We're teaching. And sometimes our desire to help, I would say is too big, Right? We want to help, But that helping is sometimes if not done right, Properly is, Can be reactive and is interfering, Controlling, Controlling. And you know, We're all three Pisces here, Right? Like it's a Pisces nature that sometimes, You know, I want to remove your pain because I can handle the pain. Yeah. I'm uncomfortable seeing you being uncomfortable. Exactly. And so it's really this interference is such an ego thing actually, Because I'm not seeing the person for who they are and what they're going through. Maybe they need this pain right now. Right. And it's such a difficult thing for me personally, To, To, To go through seeing someone struggling, Going through pain and saying, You know, Yeah, I'm here and I want to help, But maybe it's not my place. Maybe they need to go. And it's really more about listening than trying to solve someone's problems. I I broke down. Oh, I was going to say actually something to Ellie Sheva's, What you just shared. There was a study done. Now I remember what the study was studied done that people who had a net worth under a million or over a million. And so they did, I think they interviewed, I don't know what's like 5, 000 people. And they saw that people who had that net worth under a million and they asked them the question, What percentage of you believe that life is completely in your control, Meaning you are the master of your destiny. You can create whatever you want. So 50% of the people said, Yes, I believe my life is in my control. The other 50% said, You know, Life is not in my control. There are circumstances which get in my way. Of the people over a net worth of $1 million, That same question was asked and 97% said they believe that their life is in their control. And only 3% said that there are other circumstances that control me that I have no control over. And as a result, I cannot change my destiny. I thought that was an interesting statistic. Do you know what's interesting? So I spent, And I encourage you if this is something, If this conversation is fascinating to you, There are definitely resources. Like for example, I was looking, UC Berkeley has its own school of happiness. These are actually like departments in educational institutions are studying the science of happiness, Right? We've all read books about the blue zone and things like that. So one of the things I would say across the board that they've found in their studies, And this is all health related also, Is that people who identify, And I think I might've even said this before on the show, People who identify as happiness, The other common factor they all have, You can look at again, Family, Where they live, Their net worth, All those different things. The other common denominator is sense of purpose, Which I think is the same thing as feeling in control, Right? You are the master of your destiny. That is a source of happiness. And essentially what I was telling my eight-year-old is you are the master of your destiny. You are in control. Don't let that little girl be in control of your mood, Your wellbeing, And essentially your health at a certain point, Because the repeated experience of that negative emotion eventually deteriorates the body physically. And that's something that the Zohar talked about 2000 years ago. And that's something that science is uncovering on a daily basis is the impact that the emotional system and the nervous system have on the function of the organs and the systems in the body. My point is that sense of purpose, Right, Is not only about, I'm the master of my destiny, It's also about resilience. That was one of the other things that people, That the studies on health and the correlation between happiness and health revealed is that the people with the stronger immune system, With the stronger heart health, With longevity, With a longer lifespan also had a remarkable ability to bounce back from adversity. And we talk a lot on the weekly energy boost about different tools and different approaches and consciousness. And we try to provide wisdom on every episode to give our listeners the ability to maintain an elevated or spiritual perspective in the face of adversity. But to me, That was such a powerful reinforcement of what we're talking about today, That if we can learn and grow from the challenges we experience, That not only strengthens us spiritually, Let's say, But even physically. There's a comment on my post about, And we hear this a lot, We've had shows where we talked about happiness is within, You gotta find it within, So on and so forth. And I wanna address that for a moment because when we say that you have to find happiness within- You have to. You have to. You have to find your soulmate within. You have to. We talk about that. And what we're referring to is what the Kabbalists say, Which is, Let's call it 50% of your spiritual work, Is to look inside of yourself and find the limited beliefs and the, What we call tikkun, The things that need correction, Which are the fears and this negativity that your soul carries from lifetime to lifetime until you correct it. However, There's another concept called ormakif, Which means surrounding light, Which is the light that you're also meant to reveal in this world through your actions of sharing and going out there and being part of society. Therefore, If all I did, Let's say myself, If all I did is just stay at home and just focus on being internally happy and overcoming my own negative beliefs and my negativity, I still would not fully be happy because there's this energy that wants to be revealed through me. And if it's meant to be revealed through Kabbalah or maybe there's students lives that I need to connect with, Until I go out and do that, I'm not gonna feel fulfilled. So everybody needs to know that the be all end all of happiness is not just work on yourself, Realize it's all inside. The external world means nothing. That is a starting point and we emphasize it heavily in Kabbalah 1 and all our shows. However, There's gonna be a nagging feeling. If you're meant to be the mayor of your city, That's part of your destiny, It's part of your correction, To be that and to be a mayor that's sharing and not selfish or whatever, That's gonna nag at you, That external light's gonna push you and push you and you're always gonna feel like something's missing and we all have that there's something missing. You need to know it's not just something you need to find inside of yourself. By working on yourself, You will be led to how to become the mayor. And that's kind of what we're saying as opposed to trying to become the mayor without working on yourself. The other thing about being around other people is I think you can only get to a certain level being alone at home on your couch and not having that interaction. That's what we're saying here. Right. That there is a, The system is rigged, The universe is rigged so that we assist one another knowingly or not. I'm not saying I wake up in the morning and I say, I'm going to assist David with his correction today. Although I inevitably I do that anyway, But we need one another and we've had episodes about that as well. But the important thing to remember is that in looking at especially this topic when it's very easy to, I think it's a double edged sword because you can say, Well, If not for that person, This wouldn't have happened. Or if not for the way I was raised or the Catholic church or all that, You know, We have all these different easy targets in our lives to say that they were the cause of something negative or positive, Or positive. Right. I'm thinking about, You know, Those, Sometimes you hear stories about that one teacher that said to the kid, I believe in you. And now that kid is, You know, Whoever they are today because of that teacher. So the, The realization that I, I can rewrite the narrative, Right? I can take that experience and say, You know what? It happened and it made me who I am today. And therefore I bless it. And I'm going to be a more compassionate, Kinder, Whatever person is a result, But even more so that I am not meant to do the work alone. So that, You know, If somebody breaks your heart, The solution is I'm never going to talk to any human being again. That may seem like the right solution in the moment, But the fact is the healing of one's heart requires other people as well. And it's sort of like, That's why I say it's like a double-edged sword is because on one hand, Everybody else is the problem. On the other hand, You can't grow without everybody else. Yeah. It ties into what you said about purpose, Right? We cannot find our purpose ourselves, Meaning it starts with us. Like they were saying, We need to look inside and figure two things out that are most important to figure out about ourselves. What are the things that are holding me back and blocking me and what are my gifts? Because both of these things are connected to my purpose. Hold on one second. These two things, Say it again. This is, Say it again. So what is holding me back? AKA my ego. What's the reason why we're doing these two things? To connect to our purpose. Okay. So if a person wants to find their purpose, These are the two things that you would usually ask someone maybe in a session to examine. These two things. Absolutely. All right. So what are they again? So what is holding me back? What am I blocked by? We know it as Tikkun, Right? Different ways of saying it. Tikkun, Our ego, Our limiting beliefs. The things that we're not most proud of, Things that we have opportunity to work on. And the second thing are our gifts, Our strength, Our skills, Our talents, Our gifts. Because they're both tied in to our purpose. So like you were saying, David, It starts with reflecting and looking inside. It starts with that clarity, But really deep clarity and seeing what are those two things, Those two components. And then once I have real clear idea, What is holding me back? And I've done maybe a little bit deeper and what am I getting from this? Why is it holding me back? Why is it there? But as it is important to see what's holding me back, It's also too important to see what are my gifts? What am I actually really good at? And you'll be surprised that most of the time when I ask people that question, That part is more difficult for people to answer than what's holding me back. Especially once a person is spiritually aware and alert, The list is much longer when it comes to what do I need to change? Oh, Let me tell you, Daniel, This, This, This, This, This, And that. And they're even proud of it, Right? Like, Ah, All of these things. I'm so self-aware. So self-aware. Well, Let me ask you, What are you good at? Well, I'm a good cook. I am a good mom. I'm a good dad. You know, And the list is oftentimes so short and it's a, It's a shame. Why? If you take credit for the bad things, Take credit for the good things as well, Because they're both not really yours. We're both here. Our soul is pure and we're given a baggage to correct. And we've been gave baggage as a gift to use to transform our darkness. So how does it tie it into purpose? Well, We have each a unique baggage and the unique gifts and talents to share, Right? So we're saying it starts by looking inside, But then the only way it can be fulfilled is when we go out and share our gifts, Interact with others. And when we're fully in our, In our purpose, In our element, In our essence, And are able to express that, I think that's the definition of happiness. That's when we find real, Real happiness. I want to share a deep Kabbalistic tool that we can use for, For happiness. So happiness, As I've, As I've seen it with, You're not talking about like quick happiness fix. You're talking about lasting. I'm going to share a concept and then I'm going to share a tool. Okay. All right. But the concept in and of itself is not like one you're going to hear, Uh, You know, In a vogue's top five ways to be happy according to these celebrities. This is, This is going to, This is from Rava Ashlag's concept and I don't, I don't really see it written anywhere else and he hammers at home all the time in his teachings and I want to share it. I shared this in my Kabbalah four briefly. I'm wondering if you're going to share what I wanted to share. No, There's no way you're going to share this. Let's see. Let's see. This is not even close to what we talk about on a daily basis, But Rava Ashlag says, First, The happiness component, I'm just looking at my notes here. Normally people are not happy because they don't know something that's going on, Right? You don't know what's going to happen. That is a source of fear, Of trepidation, Of anxiety and stress, Which then can lead you to, To forgo your happiness. I don't know what's going to happen. And the other thing could be I have nothing to look forward to. So oftentimes when we have something to look forward to, We feel joy even though we don't have that thing. It's coming, It's on the way. You know, The wedding, The wedding is coming. It's actually more exciting often than the wedding, Right? Or the car is coming, The money is coming. I'm aspiring to complete this project. It's all very, It's a very powerful thing because again, That's called surrounding light and then surrounding light is more exciting than internal light, Something I've already earned or worked for. All right. Anyways, That's, These are both, Both involve I don't know. I don't know what's going to happen. I don't know what to look forward to. So Ravaashak says that we have two types of vessels inside of us. These are the two different ways we can approach life. One is by the vessel of logic, Which means I am happy if I know what to look forward to and I am happy if I know what's happening. Then there's another vessel he says that if you can tap into this vessel inside of you and it is inside of you, We just never use it. It's an unused tool inside of our, Inside of our soul. It's called the vessel of certainty beyond logic. And I, And I've been using this more and more and I can tell you it's so powerful because for example, I'll tell you something. Well, My kids are younger than your kids and it comes across my mind, You know, Will these kids be spiritual? Will they have, Like, I want them to understand the creator. I want them to overcome their fears and challenges. And the truth is, I don't, I see some parents that have like, These kids are like marching in line with their spirituality. Like your kids like, Yes mom, I will do anything you say mom. It's like amazing. They're like worshiping the spiritual path. Worshipping the spiritual path. And then, You know, You sometimes you just see kids like totally like going against what the parents say. And I think to myself, Well, There's really no like plan here I could put together to ensure their spirituality. I don't care what they do with their life. I just want them to have the tools of the creator. Now, This is a doubt. This is a fear I have. So then I say, You know what, This is my opportunity to put this in the certainty beyond logic box. And Ravashak says, Every time you get to put something in that box, You reveal the light of the creator. And you should actually look for, You should actually be afraid that things will make sense to you. You should be afraid if God came down right now and could show you exactly what to do with your kids, You actually should not want it. Because then you can't operate from the vessel of certainty beyond logic. If someone came and said, I'm going to tell you exactly when you're going to meet your soulmate, Who it's going to be and how it's going to happen. You'd be like, Yeah, Tell me. But then, Now you know, Now you have logic about the future. And you can no longer operate from the certainty beyond logic, Not knowing who it's going to be, When it's going to be, How it's going to be. It's very scary. But then you can operate from the vessel called certainty beyond logic. I have to tell you, It's a lot easier to make sure your kids will be spiritual than it is to control the other stuff. Control what other stuff? Do they take vitamins? Do they go to sleep at 7. 30? Do they brush their teeth twice a day? For you, You mean? No, I'm telling you, It's a lot easier to teach them spirituality than it is hygiene. Hygiene doesn't kick into like- Well, Here's what's amazing. By the way, I get parenting advice all the time from Ellie Schever and our car rides over here. I say, All right, What do you do about this? What do you do about that? So Ellie Schever, For her, The logic is, Oh, Spirituality? That's easy. Look at it. I just do X, Y happens, It's done. It's my formula. It works all the time. That's her logic. So maybe the hygiene and the other structure, It's more the certainty beyond logic box. Actually, For my kids, They are very structured when it comes to that stuff. They know they're not missing a meal, A vitamin, Whatever. It's happening whether they like it or not, And they're trained to do it. But the spirituality stuff, Yeah, One kid likes it, The other kid kind of doesn't like it. So it is really the certainty aspect, Right? Certainty correlates directly to happiness, But there's certain things that we cannot be certain about that we like to control, And we think by controlling it, It will give us the confidence or the certainty we're looking for. It reminds me of a really powerful concept, And I shared this with you, David, On the weekend. This weekend, We shared it. Yeah, Yeah, Yeah. And I love this, And I heard it from one of the teachers recently, And it's related to what you talked about, This idea of certainty beyond logic, Right? So, Okay, I understood, We learned about this concept, Certainty beyond logic, But how do I apply it? And for me, This idea really rings true and is practical too. When the Israelites received the revelation of Mount Sinai, It said, Na'aseh v'nishma, What they said is that they took upon themselves, They said, They heard the voices of the Creator, They saw the voices, And they said, We will do, And we will listen, Which doesn't make a lot of sense, Right? Like usually you tell a person, Okay, Let me listen to what you have to say, I'll think about it, And maybe I'll do it, Right? But they jumped in and said, We will do, And then we will listen, Which represents this key idea, Right, Of certainty beyond logic, Which I heard the concept before, But this thing that I'm sharing now, I never heard before. So it says kabbalistically that doing action, Taking action by itself is the vessel, Is the vessel, Is the capacity, What gives us the capacity to understand is the doing, The doing is the vessel, And the standing is the light, Relatively speaking. Do we need to explain that? This is kind of like, If I can chime in, This is when you said, Initiate the laughter, That's like the doing, And then you'll reveal the reason to laugh or why you should laugh or the wisdom behind the laughter. Exactly, Exactly, Which doesn't make sense, It's beyond logic, Right? Like give me a reason why should I do it, Why should I take this action and have certainty? Well, Just do it first, And then the understanding will come. Now it's fitting for the month of Aries, But even if you listen to it afterwards, Right, Because Aries always first do and then think, It has a negative aspect to it. There are some people who do and they don't think, What do you think about that? Exactly, So we need to know when to apply it, Okay? Sometimes it's good to think before, Especially when it comes to major decisions. That's the thing, Is that if you know you're the type of person that will overthink something until the cows come home, This is a magic, Exactly, This is the magic formula for shifting those areas where you feel stuck, Is stop thinking and just do. Right, And by do, You know what, You finish before I say, Go ahead, You're still bringing up a great point, Flush it out. I thought I was, Okay, No, I thought you were going. No, I think this idea, Right, Of first doing then understanding will come. So I want to maybe expand upon that, Because people are going, So what do I do, What if I am like Aries, Doing all the time and not thinking about it? Doing, According to what we're saying, Means restriction. It means going against what my comfort or my feel is telling me to do at that moment. So doing, For someone, Could mean physically doing nothing. It's I do the restriction, I do the let go. The let go could mean saying something, The let go could mean not saying something. The let go could mean confronting, The let go could mean not confronting, Maybe praying. It's about doing the restriction, Then you reveal. And it goes back to what we started with, Right? It's about getting out of our own head. Like what I said in the beginning in the show, That's where all the problem starts. When we get caught up in our head and the thinking, Right, And then overthinking that produces confusion and frustration and anger. And then I started to remember things from 20 years ago. And yeah, We bring up all these memories and we live it in the now and then we get stuck in it. So the doing gets us unstuck. The doing gets us outside of our head. Sometimes when I have a student who I know is very in their head and they say, Should I choose left or choose right? And we're going back and forth and talking about it. Should I do left? These are the pros and cons of left. These are the pros and cons of right. If I know this is a person who has an issue making decisions, My answer to them is any one of them you choose, You'll be okay. What do you mean? Either left is right or right is right. Yes, But for your personal correction, The right's move is making a decision and then the creator will make whatever you decide right. As opposed to other people who are very decisive and they're actually always jumping in and you know, Fail fast, Succeed fast, That whole concept. They should pause and then wait for the light to send them left or right. You understand the difference? Yeah. Depends on your personality. Depends on your personality or your tycoon, Your soul's correction. Absolutely. And I think that the one point we didn't touch enough and it's something that I am reminded of. I actually hear David's voice in my head when situations like this happen. I hear David's voice in my head all day long. I hear my voice. So this episode is for you. No, We've said often what I hear David saying in my head all the time is, Are you a swamp or are you a river? Right now, Admittedly as Daniel actually said a while ago, A few minutes ago, We're all Pisces. So our nature is to think a lot and maybe do depending on how we're feeling in the moment. And I'm not saying that that's who we are, But Pisces nature is. If we don't do, We'll judge you internally and then maybe talk about all the reasons why your fault. No, But seriously, I don't mean to say that that's who we are. I mean to say that an un, Un transformed, That's how you Pisces are has the nature to think and think and think and think. And then often opportunities by the way, There's many signs. I'm just outing our, You know, It's not necessarily natural for us to be out of our heads or to take quick action or to do and then to think it's a bit of a confession I'm giving here on, On behalf of all of the three of us. So we want to say, I'm saying it because it does, It does create miracles, But going back to the swamp versus river again in the body, Right? Energy has, Is either flowing or it's stuck right when you look at the different systems and why they fail or weaken or issues develop. It's because in that particular area, There is a swamp effect that something stops flowing, Functioning. And again, I'm, I'm going back to the reading I did all weekend about the emotional and the, The, The health body or the connection between the emotional body and the physical body. Let's say it like that. So when we notice, And this is really something that we want to be aware of not only this week, But always is that if you are stuck on something and this annoying as Kabbalah is, It requires a bit of awareness and transparency. And we're going to, We can talk maybe before the show ends about some different ways that we can work through that. But knowing I can't let this thing go. I have something in my past that happened. I can't let go of the way you spoke to me. I can't let go of anything that we are stuck on is somewhere, Somehow, Even on a physical level, You may be aware that when someone, You know, You say, Don't go there. I don't want to go there. What you're really saying is I don't want to move that energy. I don't want to let go of, Like Daniel said at the beginning, Somehow my sadness or my anger or my blame or my guilt is serving me. And I don't want to let it go, But understand that that holding onto it is creating the swamp effect energetically, Emotionally, And ultimately physically. So being able to release, To let go or to use that, I don't know that that's solidification, Whatever, Whatever sort of hardness, Right? Some people even say, I remember somebody wrote into the show once and said, You talked about releasing anger, But if I release my anger at work, I'm going to be seen as weak and people are going to take advantage of me. There are ways to use, As Daniel said, There's no negative emotions. There are ways to channel even what we perceive as negative emotions in a positive way. But first we've got to be willing to welcome a different reality, One that we're not holding onto the past or the words or the hurt or the pain. And I think that's one of the biggest lessons, One of the behaviors we can adopt this month as we're all a little bit Aries, One of the things I remember the rub saying, Or Berg saying about Aries is like, You're, They're upset about something, Just show them, Offer them ice cream and it's over, Right? And so for those of us who have the tendency to hold onto what happened, To rehash the past, To rehear the conversation, To think about what we would say differently if they only said it to us now, This is our chance to really bring back the flow into all areas of our lives. You talk about this idea of accessing the body. You talked about, We're feeling it in our body, The negative emotions, The swamp, We're resistant river, And some of us get stuck in our body. It's actually a nice little tool that I learned and I incorporate. Sometimes it's as simple as that and really helps people to have awakeness or see it in a different level. We can relate our energetical blockages or the things that we're holding onto. If we can relate it to an access, It's in a point in our body. It materializes it in a way. So it makes it in a way more tangible because anger can really see, It's an energy, Right? So sometimes I ask people, When they tell me, I have this issue, That issue, I say, Close your eyes. Where do you feel it in your body? And if they tune into it, They say, Oh, I feel it in my chest. I feel it in my abdomen. And also the different parts of the body reveal different things. So if I feel something in my abdomen, Usually the abdomen has to do with our stomach, Our belly has to do with fears, Insecurity, Uncertainty. If I feel something in my shoulders, It's like a certain pressure, A burden that I put on myself. And in my head, It's maybe many times doubts and overthinking. So many times just by asking them, Where do you feel it in your body? We can also already track it down and it helps them to release it better. I always liked about the food analogy. By the way, I asked my wife all these questions. Do you talk to Mordechai, You always ask him about sleep and stuff? No. I feel like I live with the sleep expert. You don't say like asking what kind of pillow he uses. Well, That's as the sleep expert. Wouldn't it be ironic if we didn't sleep well? That's why I think people always thinking like she probably sleeps so well because she's married to the sleep guy. That's true. Probably all of you can sleep well. Probably there's like a house of sleep. I'm going to see what kind of pillow you guys use. Walking around in pajamas. Anyways, I'm going to put a food analogy just to make this a little more kinesthetic for those type of people. I once asked, If I have, I like asking these stupid questions, Annoying my wife. I said, If I have a sugary soda in front of me or a sugary muffin, And I really want to eat one because I have a sugar craving, Which one should I eat? The muffin. No. No? She said, You have the soda. I said, Why? She said, Always eat the easy exit food. It goes in and it comes out. She said, Number one reason why people gain weight, Are bloated, Have low energy, Is they're not eating easy exit foods. I said, Well explain to me. She said, Vegetable is great because it's easy exit. Digest in 15 minutes. Steak, Six hours, Not easy exit. That's why it gets you tired because it forces your body. It becomes the swamp. That's why I'm trying to connect it here. I was trying to look for the connection. I was trying to think, How did we get here? This is how it is. Are you a river or a swamp? She said, Look, If you have to have something that you know is not good for you, Make it easy exit. Then she said, But if you really want the muffin, If you chew it till it's liquid, Now that becomes easy exit. The problem is people wolf down the muffin without fully chewing it. This is the secret of how to eat things that are not good for you. How to digest your emotions as well. Yes. That's what I meant. That's what I meant. That's why people who are constipated, It's not easy exit. It's all the secrets of the body also relate to the soul. I'm so sorry that those of you who are listening on the podcast can't see our faces right now. Really missing out. I mean, You don't even know how much I annoy her. I always say, What should I do? Should I do this? Should I do that? Then she just looks at me with this face of like, Why are you annoying me with this nonsense question? I also like, Because I like how it's related spiritually. On that note. On that note, Help us easy exit this episode right now. It's got to go out as easy as it goes in. We have a new voice now to download. Are you a swamp river or is this an easy exit food? Okay. Thank you, Daniel, For joining us. Always fun being here. Yes. Continue to do the good work. We will see you next week on the Weekly Energy Boost. Bye-bye. Bye-bye.