Learning To Understand & Accept Death - by Spike Gillespie

COURSE

Learning To Understand & Accept Death

With Spike Gillespie

Over the next 10 days, teacher, public speaker and funeral celebrant, Spike Gillespie, will guide you on a journey to help understand the process of dying, death, and death’s aftermath. Drawing on professional knowledge as well as a number of her own personal experiences, Spike gives us insight into valuable practices to help us move through grief. She also addresses the pragmatic demands of death and offers a unique perspective on the concept of an afterlife, designed to keep the spirits of deceased, loved ones alive. This course ultimately invites you to replace fear with curiosity when broaching the concept of death.


Meet your Teacher

Spike Gillespie is the author of nine books including 'Sit. Stay. Heal: How Meditation Changed My Mind, Grew My Heart, and Saved My Ass'. She has been a columnist for The Dallas Morning News and her essays and reporting have appeared in the New York Times, the New York Times Magazine, National Geographic Traveler, Real Simple, Texas Monthly, Austin Chronicle, and many other publications. Spike has provided spoken and video commentary for Austin’s NPR station KUT, and was voted Best Writer in Austin in 2006, 2016, 2017, 2018. Spike currently lives at the Tiny T Ranch outside of Austin where she hosts weddings, funerals and writing and meditation retreats.

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10 Days

3.8k students

4.6 stars

11 min / day

Recovery & Healing

English


Lesson 1

Death And Dying - An Overview

Every living thing dies. We tell ourselves we know this and believe it. And yet when we are visited closely by death or contemplate our own mortality, fear and denial often cloud this truth. Many current Western ideas around death can feed into fear and denial. In today's lesson, and throughout the next 10 days, we will work to look clearly at what death is and what it means emotionally and spiritually.

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Lesson 2

My Life With Death

In today's lesson, Spike delves into a number of her own personal experiences with death, sharing with us the profound insights that death can have on our own process of growth. Spike also explains how each individual's process of grieving is different and emphasises the importance of showing ourselves a deep sense of compassion during times of grief.

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Lesson 3

Sudden Death, Protracted Death, Natural Death

When someone dies suddenly, especially a young person, this can prompt emotions that differ from the death of someone very old. When someone dies naturally it feels different from that when death comes tragically through accident, illness, or suicide. In today's lesson we will take a look at the different ways different deaths affect us and learn some valuable coping strategies.

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Lesson 4

Making Room For Death

If we know someone is approaching death, this is an opportunity to say thank you and goodbye. It is also potentially trigger-laden if we have had a difficult relationship with the dying person—say, a parent. In today's lesson we will look at ways to prepare for death as well as measures to be taken when we aren't afforded the opportunity to say goodbye in advance.

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Lesson 5

Life After Death

Today we delve into an examination of the pragmatic busy work (funeral arrangements, etc), dissociation, and emotions and non-emotions that occur in the immediate aftermath of death. There is no “right” way to feel or react but sometimes the way we feel and thoughts we think can feel inappropriate. Today, we give ourselves permission to feel whatever feelings come up.

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Lesson 6

The Stages Of Grief

In today's lesson we will take a look at the stages of grief, drawing on Elizabeth Kûbler Ross’s groundbreaking book On Death and Dying. Over time, Elizabeth's model has been adopted by many, as a compass for navigating the death of a loved one. We will also delve into an number of other schools of thought on the grieving process.

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Lesson 7

Processing Creatively

When we are leveled by the death of a loved one, deep depression can ensue. This can include lethargy, a total lack of momentum. In today's lesson, using examples from her life as a funeral celebrant, Spike offers ways to honor the dead that can help them “rest in peace” in our minds and hearts.

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Lesson 8

Contemplating Our Own Deaths

The older we get, the more we will begin contemplating the inevitability of death. In today's lesson you will be given some ideas on how to implement the 'Emotional Bucket List:' an end to procrastinating the things that you really want to do with your life.

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Lesson 9

Releasing Fear Of Death

In today's lesson we aim to release the fear that is often associated with death and dying. Spike teaches us that the more we show gratitude, are thankful for all beings and situations, and are able to be fully present, we are better equipped at navigating and dealing with all situations in life, particularly those that are emotionally and mentally challenging.

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Lesson 10

Afterlife

In this last lesson, we undergo a spiritual examination of what happens when people leave their bodies. This is not so much an exploration of religious notions of an afterlife but more about how people actually do live on in our thoughts, hearts, and memories. There’s a reason we are reminded of someone palpably when, say, we pick up a tomato at the grocery or hear a song or smell a certain scent. This can be startling but also deeply transformative.

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Ask your teacher

This course includes 47 community questions and 7 audio replies from Spike Gillespie. The community classroom and teacher audio replies are only available via the app.

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Recent Reviews

Lacey

January 25, 2026

This was incredible and I will miss listening to Spikes voice every day. So much wisdom and clarity.

Birdi

July 13, 2025

A tremendous help to all who have lost loved ones. For me, this important information was read like a school report with a bit too much speed to allow consideration for such a painful subject.

Valerie

Valerie

September 2, 2024

Thank you Spike for sharing your experience, wisdom and insights. It was a beautiful journey through this course 💜

Earth

Earth

February 12, 2024

Incredible. Thank you. I’m grateful to have found this just when I needed it most. I plan to keep relistening daily. Your voice was soothing and your stories of your loved ones, tangible. I look forward to more of your writing. I just lost my dad to a long battle with Alzheimer’s and have been his caretaker after my mom passed suddenly & unexpectedly 3 years ago. She was his North Star. No one in a million years thought for a second that she could pass before him. He left this world when she left. And so his drastic decline began. But I carried on through the depths of his illness taking care of my dad and grieving daily even more for the loss of my dad, the dad standing right in front of me, for every time he lost a skill he once had or a memory he had forgotten, I grieved. I called it rolling grief. It never stopped and up and down we went. But bearing witness to HIS grief of the loss of his soulmate, his wife of 51 years, on repeat, was the hardest. He was stuck in a loop and couldn’t move forward or grieve properly because his illness took that away from him. To him, she had just passed, even if 3 years had gone by, it was new to him every day. And most people tell you to not tell the Alzheimer’s person of their loved one passing, but he was fixated on it. It was impossible to tell him otherwise. If we tried, he got angry and was on to us. He needed to talk about her passing constantly. Which meant constant sadness as well. He was also holding the grief of the loss of his sense of reality both mentally and emotionally. The two had timed out so aligned that he was still aware of his losses well beyond what the doctors expected. It’s been a painful 3 years to say the least and difficult to put into words. One day, I hope to write more about it. So thank you for this. I really needed it.

Catherin

September 7, 2023

Super

Angela

May 8, 2023

Kristin

Kristin

March 28, 2022

This was such a peaceful and gradual way for me to grieve. I appreciated and looked forward to each lesson despite the various emotions I felt during this time in my life.

Ale

Ale

November 13, 2021

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Narayanan

Narayanan

November 9, 2021

Athena

Athena

September 10, 2021

I loved this course. Thank you so much for gifting us with it. I started out listening during mourning for my young son in law. While that grief remains, I am also just beginning to mourn the death of my brother, a few weeks ago. I am sure this course will comfort me as I go through it again.

Malia

June 21, 2021

Thank you. I got a lot out of this class that I hope will help me in coping with my loss.

Janean

Janean

June 16, 2021

So helpful. Thank you 🙏🙏

Love

June 3, 2021

Charis

Charis

January 11, 2021

This was just what I needed. Thank you Spike, you are wonderful for offering this course.

Lori

Lori

January 7, 2021

Thank you. That was a beautiful course that has helped me in my grief. 🦋🙏🏼🦋

Marilyn

Marilyn

December 29, 2020

Good for those grieving; less so for people who want to contemplate their own mortality. The first 2 lessons were only autobiographical talks from the author, which disappointed me since I hipped for guidance and practice.

stewart

November 21, 2020

Thank you.

Roxanne

October 28, 2020

Well done

cole

cole

October 13, 2020

Thank you!

Erick

September 20, 2020

Thank you for speaking such difficult conversations with a clarity that allows for acceptance 🙏🏼❤️

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