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The Art Of Having Amazing Conversations

Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche said, "Enlightenment is an accident, but meditation makes you more accident-prone". It's a bit the same with amazing conversations. Have you ever had those conversations, where you still remember 10 years later how amazing that connection was? We all get some of those in our lives, but some of us get more than others, and there might be a reason. Join me on this course as we raise awareness to craft deep, honest, connecting, fun, and unforgettable dialogues. image: Getty

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Meet your Teacher

Hans van Veen

Utrecht, Netherlands

Hans van Veen is a parent, Aletheia Method Transformational Coach, and communication trainer, as well as a certification candidate with the Center for Nonviolent Communication. His work is rooted in Nonviolent Communication and enriched by Nondual Tantra, Zen, Vipassana, and other contemplative practices. He supports parents, groups, couples, and individuals in cultivating empathy, self-acceptance, and authentic connection.

9 Days

4.5k students

4.8 stars

12 min / day

Abundance

English

Lesson 1

The Check-In

The more your needs are met the less likely you'll be to have resentment, and the more likely it is that you'll be open and curious. A check-in is a perfect practice to get in contact with our needs and express our requests for the moon, that'll help us to relax, dive deep, and have an amazing conversation.

Lesson 2

Attuning To Life

Us humans have sung to each other for millions of years more than we have used words to speak to each other. So attuning to voice, breathing, and body language, is our innate way of relating. This session discusses how we can employ those ancient skills in our everyday conversations.

Lesson 3

How To Listen

A course about conversations is incomplete without paying some attention to listening. How actually can we listen well? How to listen actively without interrupting somebody's flow? That's what we'll explore in this session.

Lesson 4

Truth, Beauty, Goodness

In this session, I will import 2 valuable lessons from the 'Aletheia' coaching method: (1) the value of knowing where somebody is in their self-identification, and (2) the beneficial effect of accepting presence. Both of these are incredibly insightful tools and can help us to attune more skillfully in our conversations.

Lesson 5

The Talking Stick

In a conversation, we can be either in self-connection, in expression, or in listening mode. The switches between these often happen unconsciously, and can quickly result in a very subtle kind of competition for attention. This is where the 'talking stick' comes in handy. It's the important intention to be aware of a switch between listening and expressing.

Lesson 6

Generous Counterfactual Anticipation

We all know that it's useful & kind to give somebody the benefit of the doubt. But what does this mean? In this session, I'll use a very insightful text by Dutch philosopher Theo de Boer about this specific topic called 'counterfactual anticipation' and 'the postulates of the dialogue'.

Lesson 7

The First Gate

What does it mean to be honest? And how can we be fully honest, without revealing things that we don't feel safe yet to reveal? In this session, I explain how to approach this, using the awareness of the 'First Gate'.

Lesson 8

Befriending Awkward Silences

If we're going to talk about the art of conversation, we have to talk about awkward silences. In this session, I'm going to show you how and why we can befriend those silences, to make our dialogues a lot more powerful.

Lesson 9

Sprinkles On Top

Now that we've looked for eight sessions into all kinds of conversational attunements that we can be aware of, in this last session I want to offer you some very concrete practices, games, and creativities that you can employ to enliven your conversations even more.

Ask your teacher

This course includes 47 community questions and 25 audio replies from Hans van Veen. The community classroom and teacher audio replies are only available via the app.

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Recent Reviews

Maria

January 8, 2026

Thank you.

Marit

December 24, 2025

Very interesting and inspiring! Refreshing. Some lessons were a bit technical and for me personally some terms could have been left out, but other than that very interesting. Dankjewel! 💫

Josefina

December 5, 2025

Very revealing, deep and deep nspiring !

Jeremy

November 13, 2025

Great course, very well organized and through through. Much deeper than just have a few tips on having a great conversation. Incorporates a lot of practical guidance and non-dual and spiritual wisdom. Hans has a very grounded, calming, and warm presence which made the course all the more enjoyable and inspiring! Also, lots of great unique quotes!

Laurie

October 30, 2025

The initial music was not my vibe so I almost stopped listening but once I got through that moments. Lots of great information, that kept me coming back for more. Very helpful. Thank you.

September 16, 2025

Great course! Loved all the references, thank you! Will be doing it again very soon! Thank you

Kate

September 10, 2025

Excellent! Time well spent. Thank you. 🙏🏼💫🙏🏼

Sheila

August 24, 2025

Thought provoking & compelling. I’m becoming much more aware of how I engage with others. And I really want to improve my interactions because I love getting to know my family, friends, acquaintances .. my curiosity is boundless!

Kalvin

August 24, 2025

Very easy to follow advices. Going to incorporate them as best as possible.

Lisa

July 30, 2025

I appreciated the range of content shared in this course and the heightened awareness I now have for various conversational techniques. Providing the information in short doses each day was helpful in trying to absorb it. The content is well narrated and I found myself looking forward to the quotes chosen for each session. Thank you for the thoughtfulness given to sharing your knowledge, Hans.

Amy

July 24, 2025

I really enjoyed this course. Many wonderful nuggets of wisdom regarding the art of conversation. Will definitely start to include a few tips into my conversations, especially regarding the ability to be comfortably silent. Should be interesting to see how the dynamics might change. Thank you for this course! 🙏🏼❤️

Wyverne

July 16, 2025

Loved this course.

Lydia

July 10, 2025

Excellent !

Wendy

June 23, 2025

Splendid course. Worth a repeat. Thank you!

Torie

June 4, 2025

I loved this course . Learning to have more meaningful conversation which will help to have more meaningful and positive interactions with others .Tbank you. I love all the quotes you used.

theodora

May 31, 2025

From the title, I never would have guessed there would be the conveyance of such deep wisdom. Thank you

Danielle

May 10, 2025

I really enjoyed listening to this course. It was really informative and delivered in a very simple and accessible way. Thank you, I will listen again and take notes, especially from the final practice suggestions. 🙏🏼😊

April 29, 2025

Good reminders and ideas. Thanks!

Juany

April 27, 2025

A beautiful and important course .…..COMMUNICATION is the base of EVERYTHING!!!! thanks a bunch and again o will go back and take it again is worst it 🙏🩵🙏 Namastè

Jason

April 26, 2025

Nice! Very good course!

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