Music Gaslighting 101 You may have heard of the term gaslighting in recent years.
It's become a more well-known topic.
But we're going to discuss it again today just in case for those who have not heard of it or not are aware of what it exactly means.
So gaslighting is a way to manipulate someone by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.
The term actually originated from a British play called Gaslight that was made in 1938 but it was become more popular in 1940 and 1944 when there was two different film adaptations.
So that's where that term comes from.
Gaslighting can be seen in a variety of relationships such as family,
In romantic,
Workplace,
Political,
And friendships.
So what is gaslighting?
What does it look like?
So it can be somebody who tells blatant lies,
Someone who will deny having said something even if there's proof.
There will be claims that the other person is quotes crazy.
The person may attack someone's identity,
They'll be relentless,
They'll project who they are onto the other person.
They'll have actions that do not match their words.
They can give confusing positive reinforcement and it's common for them to manipulate others against you.
These are some phrases that might sound familiar if you're familiar with a person who gaslights.
So they might sound like this,
I never said that.
Can't you take a joke?
Why are you always making things up?
It's not like I promised you anything.
Why are you so obsessed with this?
I can't believe you actually thought I'd do that.
I thought you were ignoring me.
How many times do I have to explain this?
You are so lucky that I keep you around.
If you're connected with somebody who is gaslighting,
These are some of the actions that you can take.
In reality,
The best course of action might be to just exit the relationship.
But of course there's going to be situations where that's not possible.
So if so,
Then it's necessary to keep clear,
Firm boundaries.
It's important to learn to trust your own feelings and memory.
You do know what was said or done and how it felt and your experience is reality.
Do not engage in battles over meaning and don't allow compliments to ingratiate you.
And it's a good idea to foster relationships that have no connection to this individual.
Here's some phrases that you could try if you're dealing with this.
I'm well aware of what was said and how it felt.
I need you to put that in writing.
I'm not going to argue about this.
Intentions and impact are not the same thing.
I will not apologize for your behavior.
My time is for people who treat me well.
Only speak to me about necessary topics.
It doesn't matter if you're joking,
It wasn't funny.
That behavior is unacceptable.
And that's a little bit of information on what gaslighting is.
I hope that was helpful.
Have a great day.
