Fun Moments Can't Make You Happy - End Social Media Jealousy

Hello,

My name is Noah Elkrief,

And today I'd like to share with you why fun moments can't make you happy.

And the reason why I'm sharing this with you is because I used to seek happiness through the accumulation of fun moments,

And even though I had a lot of fun moments,

It never actually added up to happiness.

No matter how many fun moments you have,

They don't accumulate,

They don't stack up.

It doesn't give you any lasting,

Permanent,

Stable happiness.

And in this day and age,

With social media and Instagram and all these things,

It's very,

Very easy to look at somebody else's life and see them having fun,

Wild moments,

Traveling or doing luxury things or adventure things or whatever it is,

And thinking they are going to be more happy than me,

And I can't be happy because I can't do those things,

Or I need to do more of those things so I can be happy.

But all of those adventure activities,

Travel activities,

Sports activities,

All they can do for a person is give a temporary moment of happiness,

Which is wonderful.

It's fun.

I call that joyous aliveness,

A fun moment,

But that is not the same as happiness.

So when you pursue happiness through fun moments,

How do you feel in between?

So if you do something super fun and you're so joyous and alive and life is great and I feel alive and I feel happy and this is why I came to this earth,

Then what about when it's done?

Like you might ride the high for a couple hours,

Maybe a day or two,

But then what?

Then you're a drug addict seeking the next high,

And in between,

Life feels boring,

Restless,

Inadequate,

Dull,

And just not enough,

Not fulfilling,

Because you're always looking for the next high,

The next fun moment,

The next big moment,

The next peak experience.

But if you want to be genuinely happy within yourself,

You have to enjoy your own company.

You have to enjoy your relationship to yourself,

That your inner world is treated kindly by you,

So that when you're doing nothing,

The voices in your head aren't like,

You're boring,

You're not fun,

Or you should be productive,

Or should be getting things done,

Or you should be living more adventures,

Or you should be doing more activities,

Or you should be social.

Are you familiar with these voices?

The voices that are always telling you,

You're not enough,

You're not doing enough,

Fun enough,

Social enough,

Productive enough.

These voices make it not enjoyable to be in your own mind and body.

These voices make it not enjoyable to be you in between the fun moments.

So if it's not enjoyable to be you in between fun moments,

That's not happiness,

That's not nourishing,

Nurturing,

Fulfilling,

And it's not adding up.

When you're really caring for your inner world,

When you're really meeting and healing your beliefs,

And your buried emotions,

And your traumas,

Every second that you're working on it is accumulating.

Every second that you're working on it is having a permanent impact,

Making your life and internal world permanently nicer and more enjoyable,

Whereas when you have a happy moment,

It's wonderful,

But it's over the next moment.

That's not to say happy moments,

Fun moments,

Joyous moments aren't valuable.

I try to have at least three or four a week of doing fun physical activities to spark my aliveness.

I really enjoy that quality,

But that's not happiness.

If that's all I had in a week,

It wouldn't be very fulfilling,

And if I don't have it at all in a week,

I'm still happy and content,

And my inner world still feels peaceful and nice and gentle and open-hearted and kind.

So don't be fooled by the Instagram.

Don't be fooled by the Facebook or the TikTok or whatever the kids are using these days.

If you see somebody in one of those videos that's so their faces are lit up,

That doesn't mean they're a happy person.

It means they feel joyous and alive in that moment.

That is not the key to life.

The key to life is not fun,

Wild moments.

It's not joyous,

Alive moments.

That is one piece of the puzzle,

But you can be fulfilled without it,

And if you have that and seek that and only that,

You can't have fulfillment,

Because no matter how many fun moments you have,

It does nothing to dissolve,

Erase,

Heal,

Subtract all the traumas and beliefs and pains from your entire life.

That happiness is a subtraction.

It's like meeting and healing all the pain.

Like if you have 10 pounds or 10 kilos of pain inside yourself,

We want to heal or release or resolve all of those.

Whereas a joyous moment is an escape from them,

Which is not wrong or bad,

But when you have a joyous moment,

You're leaving this world,

Your internal world,

And you're connecting to something external,

Which is activating aliveness or fun or joy.

Ultimately,

You have to live in your internal experience,

And you can't spend life trying to get out of your internal experience.

So if you can't afford all that travel,

Or you don't have time for that travel,

Or you're too scared of those adventures,

Or whatever is the issue for you,

You can still be happy.

And if you are one of those people who has been seeking,

Who has been pursuing endless fun moments,

And it's never quite given you fulfillment,

It's not because you're damaged or broken,

It's because your strategy was ineffective and inefficient,

That your strategy cannot work.

It is not a personal defect or deficiency of yours.

So that is why fun moments can't make you happy.

I hope that serves you in less seeking of fun moments and more taking care of your inner world,

Or perhaps feeling less jealous and ashamed of yourself for not having so many joyous,

Alive,

Fun moments.

Okay,

I'm wishing you a beautiful day,

And I will see you soon.