Balancing The Feminine And The Masculine Within

Hello again,

Everyone.

Welcome to this unique opportunity we give ourselves weekly to stop the rush,

The hoops,

Join hands to walk the path together,

Reminding ourselves who we are and what is most important for us.

Growing not just as individuals on the path,

But also as a united consciousness.

And we do that by harnessing that tension,

The hides between the question and the answer,

The masculine and the feminine.

So this is your opportunity to grow by sharing your questions.

I am activated by your questions,

By your participation,

By your longing.

So share that longing.

Don't be shy.

Don't hide behind your keyboard.

Use it.

So just a quick reminder of of our discussion from last week to just to get us started here.

We discussed the two eternal forces that dance with each other to allow life to exist on the physical realm.

And these are the masculine and the feminine.

The masculine is that force,

The centrifugal force that tries to escape,

To push on through,

To break the barrier forever evolving.

And the feminine is the centripetal force that seeks to bring everything back to the origin point,

To bond everything in love.

And the balance between those two forces is what allows life to exist.

The dance is what allows life to develop.

So I invited you guys to go and examine those two forces,

How they behave in your own lives,

In your own relationships.

And you're invited to share what you've discovered and to ask any question that is relevant for this discussion or relevant for your evolution.

Who wants to be the first one to jump into the waters today?

Could we talk a little bit more about balancing?

Yeah,

Definitely.

So why balancing those two forces?

Like any healthy system,

We need.

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Yeah,

Carly is apologizing because she's not physically next to me and she cannot utter your question vocally.

Any healthy system needs to be balanced.

Otherwise,

It's not working harmoniously.

But if masculine is dominant and feminine is suppressed,

Then we might be a bit too aggressive,

Too ambitious.

We might be unconcerned about other people's feelings,

Only concerned about our own mission and not compassionate enough.

This is usually what happens.

Or if the feminine aspect of ourselves is too prominent and the masculine is suppressed,

Then we feel stagnated.

We feel that we have no inspiration.

We feel that our life lacks meaning.

Or we feel drained,

That we just keep on giving and we don't receive anything in return.

This is usually what happens when feminine is too dominant.

So balancing those.

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What usually happens in order to balance the two forces is people go out and they search outside for something to complement them,

To feel the lack.

Right?

So usually what happens,

A man,

Which is typically more masculine,

Meets a woman,

Which is typically more feminine.

Not necessarily,

But typically.

And together they combine some sort of a consortium where they feel they can balance each other,

Which is nice,

But unfortunately not sustainable.

Because what glues them together is that sense of lack and dependency,

Co-dependency.

We feel that we need each other in order to stay balanced and stable.

And if that is taken away,

We feel threatened again.

So an awakened consciousness is a consciousness that is manifesting this balance independently.

It's an expression of those two forces working,

Dancing harmoniously with each other,

Without any concern of what's happening out there.

It's a beautiful song that is sung through me harmoniously,

Regardless of the circumstance.

Who is there in front of me,

Or maybe there's nobody there in front of me.

Never mind.

So finding that balance within is very important.

And it's also,

You can understand,

Very important in order to sustain a healthy relationship with other people.

You don't come to that relationship demanding anymore.

You are already resolved.

Imagine a relationship where the partners are already resolved.

They don't need each other.

They join because they love,

Not because they need.

Such a beautiful difference between the two,

Don't you agree?

So how to balance it within yourself?

Definitely you can do that.

It starts with you recognizing how those two forces work within you.

What is more dominant usually?

And when?

Look in the mirror,

Do your homework,

Some self-investigation.

You can find a friend that loves you and maybe would like to mirror that back to you.

Maybe sometimes you're blind to some aspects,

And that friend can honestly mirror that to you.

The best mirror,

Of course,

Is a spiritual teacher because his observation is free of ego and opinions.

So if you can find a spiritual teacher you trust to mirror that back to you,

That is the best way to go forward.

And then once you realize how those two forces work within yourself,

Then consciously you make sure those are balanced.

If you lack masculinity,

You add those qualities to yourself consciously.

You make your life purposeful,

Meaningful.

You set goals and you thrive by achieving them.

Even if it sounds artificial in the beginning,

It doesn't matter.

Or the opposite,

You know,

If you feel that you're too masculine,

Then you add compassion.

You add the ability to accept and hold and bind and bond with each other and love unconditionally.

You do that consciously as a task until those two are balanced within yourself.

It's a matter of being aware and having that motivation to be beautifully free of dependency and balanced and harmonious within.

So let me make sure I'm not missing your questions just a minute.

Barbara is saying,

Example for my week,

Taking down the holiday lights for an elderly neighbor.

I want to accomplish the task quickly.

Neighbor needed me to listen.

Yeah,

So I wanted to accomplish the task quickly is masculine and the neighbor needed my feminine side.

So I would be available to listen.

So it's a beautiful example,

You know,

How those two work with each other.

Duality?

Question mark?

I don't understand the question.

Barbara is saying,

I took a deep breath,

Smiled at myself,

Thought of the male-female energy and put down the lights and listen.

Good.

So you were able to do both.

It's a beautiful example.

Okay.

T is asking,

Exactly finding the balance within,

Definitely not trying to control the other person.

Don't need each other,

But desire each other and coming together simply to give and receive.

So no codependency,

No coddling,

But being interdependent and self-efficient on your own.

Yeah.

Of course,

Let me pause here a minute and say,

It doesn't stop there.

This is not the final station.

Once you are not dependent anymore and you are a manifestation of a balanced and harmonious dance between those two forces,

Then you realize that the illusion of you being self-sufficient has evaporated.

That you doesn't really exist.

That you that wants to be self-sufficient,

That wants to be balanced,

They want to achieve that goal.

That you is just an illusion of separateness.

It might need to go through that process of from being dependent to being independent,

From being unbalanced to be balanced.

But then once you are balanced,

It's easier to let go of the idea that there was a separated self that needed that journey.

And to achieve that goal.

So don't get too stuck and too hung up on,

I made it.

I am now independent.

I'm such an amazing achiever of a spiritual journey.

Then you're just stuck again with the same trap,

Just wrapped in a different wrapping paper.

You see what I'm saying?

So don't get too hung up about that.

Balancing of the masculine and the feminine,

Sun and moon,

Is that duality?

No,

Sun and moon are not contradicting each other.

Duality is always about contradicting.

Do you see that?

There is good versus bad.

There is the right thing to do and there is the wrong thing to do.

This dichotomic view of the world is artificial.

It's just created by humans so we can better understand what the hell is going on in around us.

The moon and the sun exists and they don't contradict each other.

They complement each other.

What seems to be opposite values are never truly opposite.

They are just various versions of one truth complementing,

Creating the holistic picture of reality.

So an expanded consciousness does not see the world in this type of dichotomic way.

It's either this or that.

I have a discussion with a beautiful friend now about how to incorporate spiritual values in the corporate world,

In business.

It might seem contradicting.

If you are not driven by ego anymore,

But that sense of achievement and competition,

Then how can you succeed in your business that is based on profit?

It seems to be contradicting.

And I say an expanded consciousness doesn't look at the world in those dichotomic point of views.

Either this or that.

Both are there.

The yin and the yang.

Both are there.

You can be successful in business and strive for excellence while you are free from fear and a sense of lack and unaccomplishment.

Free from the illusion that only when you reach your goal or your destiny or your,

Sorry,

Destination,

Not destiny,

Only when you reach there you will be achieved and happy and accomplished.

You can have both.

You can be both.

Easily.

You just expand beyond that.

This or that.

Include them both.

An awakened consciousness does not exclude anything.

Any scenario is warmly loved and accepted.

Whether it fits your expectations or it contradicts them.

Or is it more polarity?

Or are they the same?

Yeah,

Polars are there.

Minus the negative charge and the positive charge that the polarity allows life to exist.

Do you see that?

This is exactly the tension between those allows life to exist.

Think about it.

If there was only negativity,

Only masculine energy,

The universe would expand to infinity and disappear like a soap bubble.

It will just disappear.

And if it will only be positive,

Only be a feminine energy,

It will collapse immediately back to the singularity point and disappear again.

You need to have that polarity in order to sustain life.

The balance between them allows life to exist.

But it's not a problem.

The fact that they are polar,

It's not a problem.

It's actually the way it's designed in divine accuracy.

I love your talks,

Yaron.

Your personality,

Knowledge and ability to convey information of this is off the charts.

Gracias.

Well,

No,

I meant the energies of sun and moon.

Masculine and feminine.

Yeah,

Yeah.

Yeah,

I'm talking about the same thing.

The physical presence of the sun and the moon and the energy of the sun and the moon are the same.

They don't contradict.

They complement.

Yes.

You see that?

The sun is masculine,

Giving.

The moon is feminine,

Taking,

Receiving.

Okay.

And you can enjoy the journey to the goals because goals can change along the way.

Definitely.

Never get too stuck on a specific result.

It's a very important reminder.

Click.

Click.

Never get too stuck with the idea that only when you reach your goal,

You will be happy.

That's an illusion.

And that's ensuring you will never arrive.

Because beyond that hill where you stuck that flag,

There is always another hill with a different flag.

Right.

You believe you'll be happy when A,

B,

C and D will happen.

You put that flag in to create some sense of direction in your life,

Which is good,

But doesn't don't get stuck with the idea that only when you reach,

You'll be happy because you will never be happy.

That way.

Happiness is that journey for sure.

Happiness is that acknowledgement of the opportunity you received to experience your journey in a physical body.

May it be pleasant or unpleasant.

May it feel good or bad.

Doesn't matter.

May it meet your expectations and your plans or contradict them.

Whatever.

Good,

Good.

Carly,

What's the difference between unhealthy,

Masculine,

Feminine and the ego?

I would say balancing the two is a sure gateway to evolve beyond the ego.

What is the ego?

The ego is that illusion of separateness.

Me,

Me,

Me,

Me versus the world.

I,

I,

I want,

I need.

When you interact with life from a separated point of view,

This is ego.

OK,

It's like I always say,

It's like the wave only remembering itself.

That temporary expression that flows above the ocean,

But completely forgetting the ocean.

This is ego.

So when you expand beyond your ego,

You basically are just reminded,

Awakened from a dream,

That you are never separated from the ocean.

You have always been and always will be an oceanic expression.

So that sense of separateness dissolves.

And in order to wake up to that realization,

Balancing between masculine and feminine is crucial.

Otherwise,

You are always led by that sensation of lack.

I like this.

I like that.

I like,

I like,

I like purpose in life or I lack love.

OK,

There is always something that you feel that you lack and that sense of lack will pursue and and won't allow you to really let go and grow beyond that illusion.

You see what I'm saying?

So it's definitely important that this work is a priority.

If you are really interested to expand your consciousness and grow beyond your drama,

Beyond your sense of separateness,

To truly manifest the potential that hides within,

Then this work is essential.

Make it a top priority.

What do I want?

I want to be an expression of an harmonious,

Balanced dance between those two forces.

And once that is expressed through me,

The waking up of the realization that ego is an illusion is closer than ever.

Yvonne,

Joining late sorry,

I want,

Hope it still,

Hope to still learn something.

I have questions,

Questioned what it is exactly for the woman to be,

Have masculinity.

Yeah,

So it's important to understand we both have both forces in us.

It's not that the woman is only feminine and the man is only masculine.

Not at all.

We are,

These forces build us physically,

Emotionally,

Mentally,

Spiritually.

They are there,

Always.

They are not always balanced.

Commonly,

Men are more masculine.

The masculine force is more dominant.

Either it's because of whatever nature or because of upbringing and women are more feminine.

We just,

The invitation here was to make sure that as individuals,

We are able to balance those internally as much as we can.

We don't let go of our femininity,

But we add masculine if we feel we lack that or the other way around.

So much so that there is no lack,

There is no need anymore.

We don't need anything from the outside to compliment us in order to feel complete and balanced.

So typically if a woman feels more feminine and she lacks masculinity,

Then try to see what exactly is lacking.

Many times it's a sense of purpose and conviction.

You just go for it.

Whatever it takes,

You just go for it and achieve it.

You know,

Even if it means that it takes you a bit further outside of your comfort zone,

Doesn't matter.

You just go there.

For example,

If you've set a goal to do your sadhana every day,

The spiritual practice,

No?

20 minutes meditation,

Whatever you do to remind yourself.

So you do it,

Nevermind the distractions,

The kids,

The husband,

You know,

All the things,

Life is full of distractions and excuses.

Why not to do it?

You just do it like a soldier.

That's it.

A feminine phenomenon that I keep seeing with women more than with men is that sense of unworthiness.

You know,

You might hear that record playing in the background.

You're not worthy.

Not really.

You need to prove yourself.

Eternally prove yourself worthy.

Again,

It could be because of genetics.

It could be because of cultural upbringing.

It doesn't matter.

So what is the masculine way to react to that record?

Ignore it.

Ignore it.

Let it play,

Whatever.

You just plow through any doubt because you have a goal.

What is your goal?

To be free.

An awakened consciousness.

That's it.

In Sanskrit,

It's called sankalpa.

That clear,

Focused intention.

This is what I want.

This is what I'm going to achieve.

That's it.

How do I know whether I am feminine or masculine?

Do I need both in life?

You cannot avoid it.

You have both.

You are both.

We all are.

So the challenge is to see what is more dominant and what needs some compensation in order to achieve a balance.

And we characterize those two forces already in this session and in the previous session as well.

You are welcome to listen to both again and do some self-observation.

What is more permanent in me and what needs some compensation?

And then deliberately,

Attentionally put energy on that.

You know,

In life,

Whatever you put your energy,

Your focus on,

Whatever you focus on grows.

So you don't even need to do much.

You just need to focus.

If you lack masculinity,

For example,

Then you focus on that masculine side of yourself.

Just put your attention there and it will blossom.

Just put your awareness there.

I want to expand more on the masculine.

Let life show me how to do it.

And it will happen.

For sure.

Carly,

So do you think that when there's unhealthy masculine or feminine,

It's just an imbalance?

Definitely.

Definitely.

What is unhealthy masculine?

It's an individual that lacks compassion.

It's only obsessed with its own needs and wants,

Its own path,

Its own convictions.

And by being obsessed only on that,

It can easily harm other people.

Easily.

And what is unhealthy feminine?

It's the energy that connects.

It takes all the sorrow.

It takes all the pain.

It takes all the blame.

It doesn't feel worthy of being happy and to blossom as a feminine.

So it's shutting down,

Becoming,

Like we say,

A doormat for everybody to use and abuse.

So when you are balanced in that way,

Naturally you become a healthy manifestation of those two forces dancing together.

And remember,

It starts with you choosing to become a harmonious,

Balanced manifestation of those two.

Because you are truly honest when you say,

Yes,

I am guiding myself,

Focused on expanding towards an awakened consciousness.

That's the most important thing for me.

And I realize to do that,

I have to go through balancing those two forces within me.

Energy flows where focus goes.

Beautiful.

Is it possible to be feminine at one point in time and switch to masculine?

One point in time?

It happens a hundred times a day.

Every situation calls for something else within you.

That's why you need to be aware.

You need to be conscious and see what is jumping up first as a reaction to a situation in your relationships.

What comes first?

What is,

You know,

The reflex,

The natural reflex?

How do you react?

And see if that is mostly feminine or masculine.

And then try to balance.

I know I do,

Even depending on the situation.

Carly,

A few sessions ago,

You told us to be a doormat.

So what's the difference now?

If there's anybody that will ask this question,

It will be Carly.

So first of all,

I never guaranteed that I will not contradict myself.

Actually,

I'm supposed to contradict myself.

Just to make sure I keep you on your toes.

This is one of the most beautiful things I found.

I find with my old teacher,

You know,

You go and you sit in a satsang and you hear him speak about something.

And it's so beautiful.

It's so harmonious.

You say,

This is the truth.

This is God speaking the truth.

It cannot be described any better than that.

And then the day after you come and you sit in a satsang and you hear him saying exact opposite of what he just said yesterday.

And you say,

Wow,

This is so beautiful.

This is so harmonious.

It could never been said better than that.

This is God speaking the truth.

And why is that?

Just to make sure you don't get too hung up on ideas and concepts and don't create an opinion that now,

Again,

Is a barrier between you and reality.

Don't create a concept.

You know,

Your intellect has to be flexible enough to hold an idea and then let go of it just as immediate as it held on to it.

Don't get stuck with any opinion,

Any point of view.

Remember,

An expanded consciousness embraces all opinions,

All point of views.

There is no one better than the other.

Okay.

Now,

Specifically,

There is two types of doormats.

There is a doormat that puts itself into that position because of lack of self-value,

Because it doesn't believe it deserves better than treated like that,

Being humiliated.

That's the only way it can hope to achieve attention and love,

Which it so desperately needs.

And the other type of doormat is a beautiful doormat that just lovingly reacts to a situation that requires that,

Not because of necessity,

Because that is the harmonious way to allow life and love to flow in a giving situation.

It's a beautiful kind of doormat,

A sublime doormat.

You can be the peasant and you can be the king.

You are not stuck in any position.

You are flexible to be both.

And both are required.

Sometimes you are the peasant,

Sometimes you are the king.

You see what I'm saying?

And Kina,

If you are confused,

That's beautiful.

Don't give up on that position.

Stay confused.

That's a sound feature of maturity.

Women who are bossy are considered masculine.

The women on my maternal side are bossy and demanding.

It's on the fourth generation that I can see.

Being bossy and demanding got me nowhere.

Okay,

So you need to develop more feminine then.

Allow yourself to surrender more.

Allow yourself to surrender more.

To let go of the need of being in control.

Beautiful.

That's a beautiful realization.

Now do it.

Even same in my family,

Except the women co-opted the men in the family and now they're mainly in their feminine energy and the women their masculine energy.

Whatever you need to do to balance that is starting with you wanting it and then becoming aware and then adding whatever you need to add in order to balance them together.

And then realize you're just an expression of something much bigger than you wanting to be balanced.

You are balanced.

It's inevitable.

You are balanced because you are just an expression of of that dance that happens anyways,

Regardless of your awareness or unawareness.

And you're saying that's good because I've been confused since week one and still confused.

Week one of what?

This chat?

Good.

It means I'm doing something right.

Let me tell you a secret.

Those meetings that we hold are never about the content of our discussion,

Exchanging information.

It's not about that at all.

This is just a decoy,

A bait to hook you in.

The journey is not a mental journey.

You're not here to understand,

To get the point.

The day of you saying,

Oh,

OK,

I got it.

I got the point,

Is the day that your journey ends.

You don't want to get to that day.

You want to allow that journey to flow endlessly.

Expand endlessly.

So it's not about getting the point.

The secret of these meetings are opening your heart and surrender.

The secret in those meetings is being able to listen to the silence The secret in those meetings is being able to listen to the silence between the words.

The true calling is silent.

It's not about the words.

How do we move beyond the sense of lack?

Even when we recognize we aren't really,

But still feel it.

You consciously add.

If you feel you lack masculinity,

For example,

You add it consciously.

You fake it.

You fake it as if you have it.

OK,

For example,

Conviction.

I'm just throwing a word here.

I don't know if you like it,

But let's say if you find that you lack conviction,

Then you add that quality to yourself.

You don't wait for somebody to do it for you.

You do it.

You set goals and you strive to achieve them,

Even though it's not your nature and it feels completely artificial.

It doesn't matter.

You just do it.

Why?

Because you want that quality.

You want that aspect in you to grow.

You put your attention there.

Wait.

And then you'll see you fake it until you make it.

Yeah.

So to sum up this talk,

It goes through four phases.

A,

You choose that.

B,

You observe honestly.

C,

You balance whatever you feel you lack.

You add to your life.

And then D is all about realizing you are much bigger than that I that wants to achieve anything.

Yeah.

That I that wants dissolves.

Yes.

Enough for today.

So thank you very much for your time,

Your attention,

Your contribution,

Your beautiful questions,

Your donations.

Take this week.

Do that observation.

You know,

Make sure you realize what is like if there was anything lacking there and add,

Put your attention there to add whatever is lacking to reach a balance.

And let's meet next week,

Probably Saturday,

Same time.

And we can discuss this further.

What did you learn?

What did you realize?

And bring a friend.

Let's make it a party.

Let's make it a pandemic.

Pandemic of sanity.

What do you think?

Yes?

Yes.

Okay.

Good night.

Love you very much.