Let Go Of Attachment To Your Ex Or Current Partner

My name is Beatriz and I am a quantum facilitator and a family constellations practitioner.

And in this audio,

I want to explain how to let go of attachment with your ex-partner in a relationship or your current partner,

Since when we are attached to our partner with our ex-partner,

It limits us from being present with our current partner or if we don't have a partner,

It limits us from creativity,

From being present in life,

From being happy in general,

From enjoying life every day because it keeps us in the past and it stresses us out.

There's fears and limiting beliefs in the subconscious mind.

So this is why it's so important for us to let go of attachment with our ex-partner in order to be present with our current partner or with our current partner as well.

Attachment in general because when we are attached with our current partner,

The issue is that once again we cannot be present in life.

We cannot enjoy life in the same way and experience creativity so we can connect with our purpose in life.

Whatever that is,

It's more difficult to connect to all of that when we are attached because there is fears and limitations,

Limiting beliefs in the subconscious mind.

So it's important to keep that in mind and to be aware of the benefits which are so many like experiencing not only creativity,

Also intuition,

To have an active intuition and to be happy,

To be in peace,

To be in harmony with ourselves.

So I wanted to mention that and also how to let go of those fears and limiting beliefs.

Well,

It's important to journal.

It's important to journal and write down the following sentences so we can become aware of what is in our subconscious mind,

What is limiting us from experiencing,

From being present with our partner,

From being present in life if we don't have a partner and we're attached to our ex-partner.

It can affect us negatively in so many ways.

So once again,

It's important to journal so we can become more aware of this.

And my purpose in creating this audio is to help you become aware of that.

So if you have a journal,

Bring the journal and you don't have to do it right now.

It's important to just become aware and start writing whenever you have time and you can be in silence or you can be in peace so that the information regulated emotionally.

So the information can come to you more in an easy way,

Right?

It can flow to you easier because when we're relaxed and we're regulated emotionally,

The information comes easier.

So the questions would be,

If I let go of attachment of my ex-partner or if your case is current partner and you're experiencing anxiety,

So if I let go of this attachment then,

So you write the fears.

It can take days,

So be patient.

It's very important to be patient in this practice because it can take time to become aware of what is there limiting us and blocking us in the subconscious mind.

So if I let go,

Then what is the mind telling you?

What are the past experiences telling you?

For example,

If I let go of attachment with my ex-partner or current partner,

Then I won't be safe.

I won't experience something that I value from that relationship.

For instance,

Moments that were happy,

Like memories.

For instance,

If we have memories,

Even if we don't consciously remember them and we felt a certain way,

Then the mind tells us the fears like you won't experience that again if you let go,

Which is not true.

Sometimes we experience something that,

You know,

Feelings and we don't believe that we deserve better.

So there is fears that tells us that like,

Okay,

If you let go,

Then you won't experience this with anyone else or anything better than what you experienced with this person.

Or for instance,

What comes to mind?

I won't be safe.

Something bad will happen.

I will feel all alone.

I will be all alone.

I will be limited of XYZ.

I will feel empty.

What is the mind telling you?

It's very important to become aware of this.

So make sure that you take your time and write those down.

And the other question is,

If I don't let go,

Because it traps us in two ways.

There's two questions there.

If I don't let go of attachment,

Then what is the mind telling you?

If I don't let go,

I'll never be happy.

I won't be safe.

You know,

What is the mind telling you?

And be sure to be,

Once again,

Be patient and sit down and see what the mind is telling you,

What the past is telling you.

What is recorded in your subconscious?

What is coming up for you?

For every person,

It will be different.

So once again,

Be patient.

So these two questions,

Focus on these two questions.

It can take days.

For some people,

It can take weeks,

Depending on how busy they are.

So this is a meditative practice,

As in sitting and just seeing what comes up in a space where you feel relaxed,

So the information can download easier,

Like I mentioned before.

So I hope this helps.

And make sure that you come back to this practice if you have any doubts.

And once again,

Remember that this takes time,

Because sometimes we have fears that we're not even aware of or limiting beliefs that we're not even aware of and can take weeks to come up for us.

When they do,

No matter the time that they take,

It's incredible how we start feeling free.

And when that happens,

Then be ready,

Because the creativity in your life will flow so much easier with so much more ease that you'll realize the benefits of doing these kinds of exercises and of freedom,

Emotional freedom.

And you will also experience freedom with your partner,

If you have a partner,

And better intimacy,

More connected is what I mean.

With your partner,

You'll feel more connected,

Because the fears won't be there.

Sometimes we feel like as if we need those fears,

Or with fear of fear,

Letting go of that fear,

Or else we won't be safe,

Or something like that.

So it's important to recognize the benefits of letting go constantly,

Because that will motivate you to keep doing the work,

Because we have the tendency to resist and to avoid the work.

So once again,

It's very important for you to remind yourself and write the benefits,

You know,

More connection with my partner,

I will be more present with my partner,

More present in my life,

More creativity,

I'll feel more flow,

More intuition,

You know,

More intimacy with my partner.

And yeah,

This will improve the quality of relationship.

And not only that relationship,

Remember that also transmits to other relationships,

Because when we heal one relationship,

Whatever,

With whoever it is,

It also has an impact on all your other relationships.

So keep that in mind.

Remember that.

And if you have to write them down,

Write down the benefits,

Do so because that will help you keep that motivation.

Every time you do the practice,

And maybe you know,

You don't one day you don't feel like it,

Which is okay,

You don't have to do it every day,

Or for a really long time.

No,

Just when you feel it.

And also reminding yourself of the benefits that you'll experience once you do,

And how free you will feel because we nor usually have the resistance to let go.

It's very human,

Right?

So once again,

Remember that it has so many benefits,

And that you'll experience it and that you deserve it.

Step two is after you have the fears and limiting beliefs written down in your journal,

And you have become aware of enough of them,

Because like I said,

Some of them can come up later on,

Right?

Although when you have written enough of them,

You can start using the technique that I will give you in a few moments.

That is very simple.

And you can use it to release those fears and limiting beliefs,

Make sure that you focus on the most ingrained ones first,

So you can focus on that first.

It's very important.

So for instance,

If the fear,

Which is the most common one,

The fear is recalling certain emotions,

Right?

Like,

For instance,

Memories of emotions that you had with a next partner,

For instance,

Or someone you dated,

Or,

You know,

Someone you went out with even for a short period of time.

And you felt certain emotions that made you happy in that moment.

And it's very common that people attach to that,

Right?

And we tend to romanticize those moments as well.

Because we haven't experienced something higher,

Something better as well.

So we tend to attach to that.

And also in the subconscious mind,

We may not feel deserving of feeling better than that,

Right?

So or even be aware of that feeling better than that exists out there,

The more that we heal,

The more that we connect to those experiences.

So for instance,

If someone recalls an emotion,

Feeling a certain way in a certain moment with that ex partner or person that they went out with,

I felt this in that way.

It doesn't even have to have a name of an emotion in specific.

It's just you recall a moment where you felt a certain way with that person,

Okay?

Your mind is telling you,

For instance,

Which is once again,

Very common that you will not experience that with someone else,

Or you will not experience something better with someone else in the future.

So you attach to that.

So in this case,

You would apply the technique.

And you would say,

I'm so sorry to yourself.

I'm so sorry that you believe that you won't experience this emotion again,

Ever again with someone else.

I'm so sorry that you believe or you feel that you will not experience something better with someone else.

I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry,

This is difficult for you.

So when you do that,

You are creating new neural pathways.

And you're validating yourself,

You're validating your own feelings.

Imagine how powerful that is.

And so simple.

And so when you do that,

You are reminding your nervous system,

And you're creating new neural pathways,

Once again,

That you will experience that those emotions and you will experience something much better with someone else.

If that's your intention,

Of course.

I respect everyone's intention.

So if that's your intention,

It's very important to be clear on that.

And so that we don't get stuck in the past,

Believing limiting beliefs,

Right?

Because that keeps us stuck in the past and doesn't let us move forward with our intention and feeling deserving of feeling,

You know,

Of experiencing more abundance in life and having healthier relationships.

So that would be an example.

And another example would be,

For instance,

If the limiting belief is if I don't let go,

Which is the other question that I mentioned before,

If I don't let go of attachment,

Then I will never be happy again.

So in that case,

If that's the limiting belief,

Which is very common,

You would use the technique in this way.

It's called the self compassion technique.

So it's validating your emotions.

At the same time,

It's helping you create new neural pathways.

So for instance,

If that's the limiting belief,

You would say,

I'm so sorry,

That you believe that if you don't let go,

Then you won't ever be happy again.

You won't be safe,

Etc,

Etc,

Depending on what comes up for you.

So remember,

Both questions are very important to answer.

Because both questions,

The answers to those both questions can keep us stuck in the past and not let us be present with our current partner.

And if we don't have a partner with our lives in general,

Experience more creativity,

Intuition,

Abundance,

Etc,

Etc.

So I wanted to,

You know,

Repeat that again.

So you remember the benefits of doing this practice.

So the third step would be positive affirmations.

That's when the positive affirmations come in.

So you would use a positive affirmation in regarding the example that I just gave you.

You would say,

For instance,

If the limiting belief that you're releasing with this technique is the fear of not feeling those emotions,

Those memories of emotions,

Not reliving those ever again,

Then the positive affirmation would be,

I deserve and will experience more fulfilling emotions than these memories.

I will have more fulfilling relationships.

I will have a more fulfilling relationship with my current partner or my future partner.

Once again,

The more that we heal,

The more that we will connect to those fulfilling relationships and emotions and experiences.

So we tend to attach to those emotions that we felt and we romanticize them for years.

We can get stuck there for years.

Those things tend to happen to highly sensitive women,

Right?

This is not a problem.

It's just something to be aware of,

That we tend to romanticize those emotions and get stuck there.

So it's very important to recognize that you deserve to have more fulfilling relationships,

And you will,

And that those emotions,

You will also relive them with someone else.

It does not mean,

Because you're letting go of attachment,

Does not mean that you will not relive those emotions,

And even you will relive those emotions in a more fulfilling way now that you're healing.

It's very important for you to reaffirm that for yourself so you connect more and more with those experiences,

And yeah,

And you remind that for yourself.

This is extremely important.

So if you are interested in deepening your practice,

And you are seeking support,

And you have any doubts regarding this exercise or any support that you need,

Feel free to join us weekly on Insight Timer,

And just be aware of my schedule,

And I would love to support you.

Thank you for being here.