Greetings and welcome to the intro to the five habits to fly or first love yourself.
My name is Tana Faye Wallace and I am a self-help and women's fiction author,
Crystal Reiki master teacher,
And life coach.
This is an overview of some habits and skills that I acquired and that I teach to my clients which helped them reground themselves in their own personal power after heartbreak or some type of loss.
These five habits were developed after I was left wondering who I was and if I was worthy of love at all.
I had been ghosted by an f-boy after a two-year relationship and talks of engagement which was swiftly followed by a rebound marriage.
Yes,
I too was broken and lost.
Even with all of my training and understanding of how relationships and self-help work,
I had to rebuild my inner self and incorporate habits like the ones I'm going to share here with you to regain my sense of self and personal power.
These five habits are the habits and skills that I began to notice work to help me form a better relationship with myself,
Gain confidence in who I was,
As well as feel fulfilled within and be able to befriend women around me.
I am sure that when you employ these habits with fidelity and keep going back to them to refresh your skills,
You too can rebuild and be stronger than ever.
Let's get into the habits.
The first habit is the habit of being confident.
Confident but not arrogant.
It isn't about putting others down.
It's more about walking in your truth and being gracious towards others while you shine.
Being self-assured,
Knowing what you bring to the table is valuable,
But also being able to notice and focus on what others bring to the table so that you are inclusive and not divisive.
That's true confidence.
The second one is the skill and habit of having boundaries.
Now this one is a skill because you have to learn how to create boundaries and enforce boundaries,
But once you do that it does become a habit with practice.
And no,
These are not easy to enforce and sometimes they can cause friction,
But they are well worth creating to keep yourself sane.
Remember,
You are your priority.
Also,
Boundaries are not for others,
They're for you and how you need to feel in your interactions with other people.
Habit number three,
The habit and skill of caring for your entire self.
Having a comprehensive self care plan.
Self-care is such a buzzword now,
But a real self-care plan is comprehensive and encompasses more than just trips to the spa or to get your hair and nails done.
Being intentional and thoughtful in your self-care should have the following components,
Movement,
Diet,
And mental or emotional care.
Those are the building blocks for self-care.
Habit number four is the habit of being friendly and approachable,
Aka loving other women.
Relationships with other women show how you love yourself.
Your sister is you.
Being mindful of how you interact with your peers and friends is important.
Are you showing up for them?
Do you compliment other women?
Gossiping and backbiting is a telltale sign of your own internal angst and maybe a sign that you need to do some reflection.
The last habit is the habit of self.
Yes,
I said the habit of self.
When you love yourself,
You have a blueprint that not only helps you,
But also helps others to know how to love you.
Building your blueprint is what this last habit is about.
Having foundational self-love is based on self-knowledge,
Self-awareness,
And self-acceptance,
The habit of self.
And this is the only way that you are able to really fall in love with yourself.
And once you do that,
Others are able to be drawn in as well.
Creating habits and ways of being is difficult.
If it wasn't,
Everyone would be doing it.
So please be easy on yourself.
And if you journal,
Keep track of how you're able to employ these new skills and ways of being and seeing yourself and the people around you.
If you don't journal as a practice just yet,
This is your big push to go get one and keep it simple.
Just write down one of the two of the habits you'll be focusing on per day or even per week and track how many times you're able to utilize them.
It will help you stay accountable to employing them and let you see your progress.
Practice makes perfect.
A practice makes progress,
Actually.
And trust me,
You can do it.
If I could,
Please believe me,
Anything is possible.
Now,
Thank you for joining me on the five habits to fly and I'm hoping that you'll be able to incorporate these in your life.
