Understand Undivided Attention

Today,

We are going to talk about undivided attention and how essential it is to use it.

Even more today while experiencing a busy society with a lot of electronics and a big corporation trying to drive our will,

So you need to keep this in mind.

Because today,

You might be doing a lot of things,

Yesterday you probably did a lot of things,

And for tomorrow guess what?

I am sure you got a lot to do,

Got it!

This is real for everyone and this overload is exponentially increasing and for this reason is more important now than ever to start yielding a little bit more quality undivided attention to things in your life.

You will be surprised of how much can happen when you focus properly on something.

I want to start by saying that the principle of polarity is absolute with everything that exists.

Before,

When our lives were simpler,

We didn't have a lot of assets and we went away with that.

We didn't have as many assets as we do right now.

We didn't have a lot to do either and this is not something very ancient,

But quite recent.

Even in modern times in some places this is real.

Take rural places,

You will see a lot of people,

Normally the elderly,

That enjoy just looking at how cars go by or just staring into a quiet road with barely any activity at all.

You could tell that their lives are not very thrilling.

Their lives are monotonous perhaps,

But I like it.

Only one thing to do,

So there is undivided attention.

Take a busy city now,

With people in their 30s who know a lot about spiritual concepts and terms,

They even know about mindfulness.

They will sure have no time to stare at no road.

The double negative is indeed intended because they do indeed have the time for it if they cease to stare endlessly through hundreds of videos about cats or your favorite actors.

Monotony happens here with greater power and entrapping you a lot more,

Even if you are not aware.

A lot of times you are doing more than one thing at a time and still time is insufficient.

In the first example,

It is very likely that they have a greater mindfulness than you do,

Even if they don't know the meaning of this word.

You perhaps know the meaning of it,

You are listening to this,

But you do so many things that you cannot project undivided attention over these things.

Doing a lot of things is great,

Maybe they are all awesome,

And it's great that you do them,

But perhaps you need to remember to focus best on one thing at a time.

Perhaps you need to reduce the amount of things you do in your life and start to narrow down what brings you the best outcomes for your life goals.

This is quite easy to do,

You only need to start projecting undivided attention to the things you do.

In other words,

Doing one thing at a time but giving your all to it.

And I want to tell you that narrowing down and optimizing your life is only one of the benefits of undivided attention,

But I am sharing more.

So first,

Controlling attention brings happiness.

It is amazing all the things that you miss in life when you don't pay undivided attention.

With the example above,

The rural person staring at the road is likely to be happier than an urban person just looking out the window.

A lot of times,

You will find that there is a great paying attention to little things pays off much more in ways that you cannot even imagine.

Perhaps you had the opportunity or a moment to pay undivided attention to something as simple as some flowers in front of your home.

You will probably realize that those flowers are beautiful and almost surprised at how come you could have missed them day after day.

Can you relate?

But it doesn't only count to get the most out of things,

But having a better and more fruitful life because you will stop missing opportunities and situations.

And perhaps you are thinking that this is better said than done.

And I will not lie to you,

It is true,

But the biggest effort it takes is your determination.

You don't need to check your phone when you are leaving your home,

Instead,

You only need to look closer to all of your surroundings.

That's easy,

Right?

Certainly,

It is easier than walking and checking your phone at the same time.

So the only challenge here is to put your phone away and raise your head.

Using undivided attention is not that hard,

It is a mere intention.

Sometimes simple things bring the strongest transformations,

And to make this happen you only need to have good will and intention.

For example,

In the example above you only need to put your phone down,

As you do not need to be all day on it.

It is not only about seeing the flowers lying around.

You are not Ferdinand the Bull.

But this is noticeable every single happening in your life.

If you have undivided attention to a task you are performing,

You will finish the task successfully with a far reduced error margin.

But it doesn't end here,

You will get better and faster if you have to repeat this task in the future.

For example,

If you focus deeply,

You will perhaps find a better way to do these tasks,

Or you might come up with a great idea,

Making your undivided attention greatly pay off.

Take a group conversation.

If you are present and focused,

You might learn something such as a new idea,

Or perhaps even an opportunity.

Other people will appreciate if you are yielding undivided attention to them,

And some people are extremely observant,

So they will certainly notice.

Then you are already 50% into it,

Because if you have a clear intention to be able to yield undivided attention,

You are already making a shift to your consciousness.

I am not going to give you a list of things to do,

Such as don't use your phone all day.

It's not necessary and I don't want to do this today.

Instead I will talk about other aspects.

But first is the obvious.

So again,

I wouldn't talk about this,

But I only name it.

Start to keep a few basic things into account,

Such as doing one thing at a time,

Because if you take this simple step,

You will already significantly enhance your undivided attention capabilities.

Next one is reappraisal.

And I do not feel this is one of my favorites,

But I have to say it helps a lot.

It's a very powerful first step.

You need to reduce the negativity output in a situation to connect better with it.

Your car broke down and you cannot go shopping.

You think that perhaps the mall was going to be too busy,

And even perhaps that you will not find anything cute anyway.

With this approach,

You weaken the demon.

Because remember,

We don't defeat some demons,

We learn to be above them.

Your car already has broken down,

And you can't do anything about it.

But you can be above the situation with this step alone.

Here you will project undivided attention for further resolutions,

And maybe you decide to enjoy a nice lunch with a friend who happens to be available.

This is a significant and helpful psychological step.

This one,

Focusing on those who believe in you,

Is a no-brainer.

You do not feel empowered,

And you feel alone.

Don't seek to connect with those that you don't trust,

Or even worse,

With those that push you back in the first place.

Remember the people who love and care for you,

Those who trust your skills and believe in you.

Don't even focus on validation from new people,

Go back to your safe zone.

Here you will project undivided attention and maybe realize that you were not the problem.

Or perhaps you were the problem,

But if so,

You will see what changes do you need instead of dwelling on negative emotions.

Next is to change boredom into fun and seek flow.

Sometimes going with the flow is the best way,

But you need to make sure you go with the flow and not that you are dragged by it.

With undivided attention,

You will know what to do and when to let go,

To just flow with it,

And to focus on what is important.

For mundane tasks,

You can,

For example,

Turn them into small personal challenges.

You will project undivided attention to these tasks,

Allowing you to find ways to optimize them without even thinking about it,

By just playing a small game or challenging yourself.

If you ponder how you may find ways to always have some fun,

It will pay off.

Can you pull a new dancing stunt?

You have a dancing partner who will make it happen while you do this one boring vacuuming chore.

Think about it.

The brain,

As well as your body,

Is a bio-machine that has even more needs and more maintenance than a regular mechanical machine.

A hard drive needs maintenance,

And so does your mind.

Yielding undivided attention requires focus,

And focusing requires energy.

You can get very tired without moving from your chair if you spent all day working without a break.

Every single machine needs a reboot every now and then.

If you focus only on requirements,

You will eventually grow tired,

And this will reduce your capacity for undivided attention.

You only need to do something different,

And something fun,

In order to break the boring loop.

Go and get yourself a treat while you leave your work phone at home.

Remember undivided attention.

Here,

Your conscience will grasp the full experience,

With the batteries fully recharged to focus plenty on the next challenges.

So projecting your undivided attention will bring us to a small list,

With some different pieces of advice that I can share with you to help you to enhance how you project undivided attention.

Other people must see and feel that you are paying undivided attention to them,

The same way you want it projected to you.

Eyes.

The obvious is looking to the eyes,

But this alone is not enough,

Because you might still not be present,

And some people will read your pupils,

Finding out that your mind is elsewhere.

Plus,

This is a cruel request if you are an empath.

Trust me,

I know.

Next is removing distractions.

Shut down that annoying phone for once,

Please.

At least put it in silence mode.

No vibration either,

Silent mode.

You will not be distracted,

Nor the other person.

If you are meeting at your desk,

For example,

Remove screen savers and even your annoying perpetual spheres if you have them.

They will eventually stop,

But their annoyance during a conversation won't.

Next is showing interest.

Even if you need to just listen and show a good face,

You want to keep your undivided attention on your body language,

To make sure you show interest.

Despite your interest,

It doesn't reduce or increment the value of what that person needs to tell you.

Getting in their shoes.

This is an easy one,

If you follow what they are sharing,

As well as opening up a little bit your empathy.

You can also use your imagination and see how you would feel and react if what the other person is saying was happening to you.

You will grow a deeper understanding and through undivided attention to what is shared.

You might help them as well as make them feel much better.

Listening and quieting your mind.

Focus on what the other person is saying instead of formulating your response.

If you find it hard to focus,

Repeat what the speaker is saying in your mind to stay engaged.

You will see a greater picture of things,

And it will be easier to focus with undivided attention.

Body language.

This one goes on both ends,

For you to provide undivided attention to see also the body language of other people you are talking with.

You will know better and be more present while keeping your body language appropriate for the other person to pick up that you are indeed in the conversation.

And you know,

Nothing here is new,

Nor deeply spiritual,

But a basic day to day life interactions.

With so much technology,

We have forgotten some basic person to person interaction aspects,

But this doesn't mean you cannot get them back.

There are severe and really severe communication problems,

As well as severe problems of knowing how to be present in the now.

If you put some effort into projecting undivided attention to everything you do,

You will have amazing results.

And to wrap up,

I want to share something about focusing on yourself,

Which is about projecting undivided attention to yourself.

Think about it.

If you break down,

Everything will come to a halt.

To be able to get all of your life goals and desires while making great connections and being present in life,

You need to be well.

You need to honor your needs,

As well as paying attention to your physical body to ensure it stays healthy while keeping a good balance away from inordinate affection.

In the end,

It is simple.

You must project undivided attention to everything you do,

Whether it's for others or for yourself.

Whether it's fun,

Monotonous,

Or involves investing your time in other people that pursue your help.

You will get a lot more out of life,

And others will get a lot more out of you.

Try it!