Spiritual Snobbery - Life, Lessons, & Laughter 11-8-21

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Today,

I am talking about,

Well before I even say the name of it,

It always interests me to see how different people perceive a question.

I guess I don't put a tremendous amount of thought beforehand asking a question.

I mean,

I put a little bit of thought.

I try to phrase the question in a way to spawn the conversation that I'm looking for,

Of course.

But I don't spend a lot of time thinking about the wording.

It's just a question.

But it always amazes me how many different perspectives there are.

It's a beautiful thing when we really start embracing it.

When we start embracing the differences that we have and the way we think,

It's actually a really beautiful thing because it just sparks enlightenment.

It sparks different perspectives.

It sparks like going,

Oh wow,

Yeah,

I didn't think of it like that.

Well,

What is that?

That's expansion.

That's going,

Oh,

Now I'm thinking in a way that I had never thought before.

That doesn't mean that you have to adopt that way of thinking,

But it helps expand your mind.

So,

I put out a question earlier and got some feedback.

It's interesting the different perspectives I came in.

The way I phrased it says,

Do you feel it's right to tell people how to live their lives if it's coming from a place of love?

So,

I get a lot of different perspectives on this.

As soon as the perspectives start coming in,

You go,

Oh,

Well,

Yeah.

A lot of times,

They just go,

Yeah,

That makes sense.

I can understand why they perceive the question that way,

Even if sometimes it's a little bit different than the way I intended it.

I think that that's important.

I think the way we communicate is very important with each other.

It's like we're never going to phrase things the right way that are going to land the right way with every single person.

It's just not going to happen.

So,

I don't think we really need to try that too much,

Which is,

I think this is what people are getting upset with.

What do they call it?

Jeez,

I haven't used this term in a while.

Politically correct.

With all that politically correct stuff,

That bugs the crap out of people because they don't know what to say.

They're like,

Oh,

I have to be careful of the way I say it.

I just saw a post the other day,

Which the post had some interesting points to it.

But the terminology that it said was something like,

It makes me laugh because of my own experience.

It said something like alcohol use disorder.

I think that's the way it was phrased.

They were talking about alcoholism and they labeled it alcohol use disorder.

I just,

I get so sober 18 years ago.

I get used to the term alcoholic.

So,

Now that they have alcohol use disorder,

It just makes me laugh.

It's funny because it doesn't offend me.

I understand why one of the reasons that they're doing it is because there's a stigma to alcoholics.

They're these low bottom drinking out of a bag,

Laying on the sidewalk people.

Whereas for me,

When I got sober,

I noticed that too.

When you use the term alcoholic,

People tend to think that you're a mess in one way or another.

So,

I started using the term recovered alcoholic because that's what I was.

I had recovered from a hopeless state of mind and body.

So,

I did my own version of it.

It's interesting that we're so concerned about how we say things.

The reason is because we're so judgmental.

We're constantly judging each other which is what I'm talking about today.

That was an interesting segue into what I was.

Well,

It was interesting to me.

I don't know about you guys.

But what I'm talking about is the spiritual snobbery is what I call it.

I like the term spiritual snobbery.

I'm sure a lot of people aren't going to like it because it's kind of a trigger word but that's why I like it because it's a trigger word.

I look for trigger words when I'm doing my own spiritual work.

When I'm doing my spiritual work or when I'm helping other people with spiritual work,

I lay it out there in case those people are kind of like I am.

I let my clients pick their own words.

You don't have to use my word.

The reason I like those trigger words is because it really captures your attention which is what you need to do if you're going to change a conditioned way of being.

So,

Spiritual snobbery,

What I call spiritual snobbery is basically when,

I mean,

The most common form and how I'm coming into this conversation is when you start awakening spiritually.

When your perceptions on how you interact with life dramatically shift.

That's what a spiritual awakening is.

It's just a shift of perception.

It's a different way of looking at things.

You used to look at life this way and now you look at it this way.

There are many different stages of that.

How profound is it and stuff like that.

But really,

A spiritual awakening,

How profound they are can be very,

Very,

Very life-altering,

Immensely profound or they can be many little ones or one little one,

Whatever.

But it's just a change of perspective.

It's just a change of perception.

There is a big spiritual shift going on in the world.

What does that mean?

That means there's a lot more people waking up.

There's a lot more people that are looking at either their lives because that's usually where it starts or the collective and going,

Wait a minute,

Man.

Everything's messed up.

This isn't right.

I think we need to be doing things differently or I think I need to be doing things differently.

A lot of times it happens through suffering,

Of course.

That's the most common way.

But it's not even as necessary to hit low levels of suffering anymore because the spiritual awakening is picking up shift.

I noticed this in alcoholics 10,

15 years ago.

Like before,

When I first came into the program,

It seemed like most people had very low bottoms.

They were homeless and jobless and marriage-less and the kids wouldn't talk to them.

They'd been in jail and totaled six cars.

All this type of stuff was commonplace.

As the years went on,

I started seeing people come in at younger ages for one and then also sometimes it coincided with a high bottom.

Sometimes the age didn't coincide with that,

But sometimes it was one or the other.

But I noticed people coming in at a younger age and their bottoms weren't as low.

They didn't have to go through as much suffering as a lot of people did before,

Before they went,

Wait a minute,

This doesn't work for me.

I'm going to change my life,

Which is a beautiful thing to see.

That was years ago in recovery and I'm seeing it now in the world.

In AA,

They have a saying that says the elevator is going down.

You can get off whatever floor you want,

But the elevator is going down,

Period.

It's not going up and down,

It's not pausing for a while.

The thing is going down.

That's the reality of the world we're in.

The world is going down.

What we're doing doesn't work anymore.

It hasn't worked for hundreds of years,

But now it's catching up to it,

Thousands of years in some instances.

But it doesn't work.

It's not sustainable.

The models that we have for societal structure are unsustainable.

They don't work.

It's becoming more and more apparent now.

Then you throw COVID in there and all this stuff.

People are waking up and going,

Wait a minute,

I think I need to change stuff because I'm slowly seeing the life that I'm used to just getting worse and worse and worse and worse.

It's going down.

The elevator is going down.

If you disconnect from your personal perspective,

This is why I use this example quite often.

That the way the structures that our society functions and are unsustainable.

I like saying it that way because it's not a political thing.

It's not one side or the other.

It doesn't get caught up in the,

We should raise the minimum wage.

We shouldn't raise the minimum wage.

We should help people.

If we help people,

Then they won't do for themselves.

All this crap that people freaking argue about,

That's so surfacey.

It has nothing to do with anything.

None of it's going to change anything.

The problem is that our whole structure is unsustainable.

It doesn't work.

It's broken.

It was never going to work.

It's getting more and more obvious now.

We have to change.

We need to change individually.

Eventually,

That will turn into a collective change.

That's what a collective is.

It's a group of individuals.

If we change individually,

Eventually it will change the collective.

Which brings us right into spiritual snobbery.

When people are waking up and all of a sudden the eyes come on.

You see a great movie,

You want to tell 20 friends.

What happens when you get the key to life?

When you get the key to life,

What happens?

It's exciting.

You want to tell everybody.

Not only that,

But it's so obvious.

When you start awakening spiritually and you just look at things and you go,

Oh my God,

Wait a minute.

Now,

If I look at my model for living for the last 20 years or 40 years or 60 years.

If I look at my model for living,

Basically my model said that everybody had to do what I wanted them to do.

I had to have the right job all the time.

My car could never break down.

I had to have the house that I wanted and the spouse that I wanted and the dog that I wanted.

The dog could never crap on the carpet or else I'd be upset that day.

My kids had to do everything perfectly.

My candidate had to win for the political freaking thing.

If all this happened,

Then I'd be happy.

That is the old model that a lot of people actually still live in.

They're not aware of it,

Of course.

If you phrased it like that,

They'd be like,

I don't do that,

But they actually do.

When you start going like,

Oh my God,

I can't believe I was living like that and you start connecting to the happiness and the peace within,

Everything changes,

Man.

Everything changes.

All of a sudden,

You're looking at a thing.

The interesting part is that when you wake up,

It's a very natural thing.

When you wake up,

Basically,

You're awakening to what you already know inside.

It's our natural way of being.

We can process it very quickly.

We can adapt to it very quickly because it's our natural way anyway.

What happens is very shortly after people wake up,

It's insane how we used to live.

That's how different it is.

We go through a very short period of going,

Oh my God,

I can't believe I used to think like that.

Oh my God,

That's crazy.

We're so excited about the way we are thinking now and the way we see things now.

We get all jazzed up.

We're floating around and we're excited and we're understanding that happiness comes from within.

A lot of external stuff that used to bother us literally doesn't matter.

That happiness comes from within and we're cool.

We start implementing this stuff and it's really comforting and loving and fun.

In a short period of time,

Most people start looking externally.

It's so common sense now to look at life spiritually.

It makes so much sense compared to the old way of living that,

Like I said,

People can live in that way for 40 or 60 years or entire lifetimes and think that they're living normally,

That it makes sense until they wake up spiritually.

Then they're like,

Oh my God,

That's insane.

Why did I even think that?

What usually happens when you start interacting with society again with your new vision,

What happens is you start judging.

You start judging people because from a judgmental perspective,

It's like,

What are they thinking?

What are they thinking?

Are they out of their minds?

You latch on to your new way of thinking so quickly and it's so right that you can feel it in your bones.

It's not just a thought.

It's just not a belief system,

A mentality.

Your whole body,

Your soul connects to it.

You know it through your entire being.

You're looking at this stuff and you're like,

What are they thinking?

Why are they walking around complaining all the time?

Why would they do that?

Don't they understand that it makes them feel like crap and it makes them feel better in the moment but it's not going to long term.

They're just going to have to complain again 15 minutes later or three hours later or the next day all day.

They're never going to be happy if the only way they experience feeling good about themselves is through complaining which puts down others so we feel better about ourselves because complaining,

Basically what we're saying is I wouldn't do it that way.

If it were up to me,

I would be doing something better so therefore I'm better than the situation or the person I'm complaining about.

It's an ego stroke.

Don't they see that?

What is wrong with them?

We completely forget that 15 days ago or 15 months ago or six months ago,

We were thinking the same way.

This is what I call spiritual snobbery.

Everybody thinks their way of doing things is the right way.

That's why they're doing them that way.

We have to understand that everybody has different perspectives and that this is why basically there are no jerks on dating apps.

Nobody puts in their profile,

I'm a jerk and abuses the opposite sex on a regular basis mentally,

Emotionally and occasionally physically.

Nobody puts that in.

They rationalize their behavior and they think they're trying to be a good person.

That's why none of the profiles say that.

Everybody's doing the best that they can and we have to remember that.

I phrased that question on social media.

Do you feel it's right to tell people how to live their lives if it's coming from a place of love?

The reason I phrased it that way was because if you're coming from a place of anger and hatred you're probably not listening to this.

People that are just filled with rage and anger usually don't listen to spiritual or self-improvement type podcasts.

Even if they do,

Unless they're looking to change,

They're probably not going to change.

If you're overtaken by hatred and anger and fear,

You're usually not looking for change unless you're near the bottom or something.

We all have fear in us.

I'm just talking about people way on one side that haven't even begun to look or even think about dropping the anger.

That's what I'm talking about.

I'm not interested in discussing things with those people.

Why?

Because they haven't even begun to want to try to change.

Therefore,

No matter what I say,

I'm not going to help them.

I don't worry about those people.

The people I think that I have an ability to add value to their lives is the people who feel that they are coming from love.

The people who value love.

This is why I phrased it.

Do you feel it's right to tell people how to live their lives if it's coming from a place of love?

People do this all the time.

This is why we are arguing.

The people that are trying to tell people how to live their lives from a place of hate,

Those people are going to continue to do that for the near future.

We're not going to worry about them.

We don't need them to change.

We don't need them to stop.

They can do whatever they want.

They're actually a fairly small percentage of the population.

Even if they're 50% of the population,

Which I don't think that they are,

They'll start coming around soon enough.

The only people that we can try to teach a healthy way of being to is people who are trying to come from a place of love.

The people who are trying to come from a place of love,

We have to get off our soapbox.

I was talking to somebody about this the other day and just something came out of my mouth.

I think they said soapbox.

Yeah,

We got to get off our soapbox or something.

I said,

Right,

Just because we paint hearts all over our soapbox doesn't mean it's not a soapbox.

We have to get down and stop telling people how to live because our way is right.

It doesn't matter.

It doesn't give you the right to go tell other people how to live.

Just because you're right,

Just because you're coming from love,

Just because your way saves the planet,

Just because your way you think would bring love in,

Then we get to fight.

We're not going to win like that.

Nobody has ever won like that.

You can't fight for peace.

It's two conflicting energies.

We have to stop telling people what they need to do and why we're right.

And Johnny just chimed in.

I'm going to see because I know that I need to dive into some of the comments at some point and I think this is one of the gateways.

So,

I'm going to see.

So,

Let's see.

One of the things I wondered about,

What if I love someone with an addiction?

Great doorway.

I was one.

Or if I'm in an addiction and someone loves me enough to say,

Hey,

Time to get clean.

Well,

There you go.

Hey,

Time to get clean.

No.

You don't get to say that.

Johnny,

Thank you for that.

I have to say thank you for that.

Something I said she clicked to and she said,

Oh,

Agreed a thousand percent.

So,

I'm going to throw that out there.

But Johnny,

I'm going to comment on your first statement because it's perfect.

You can't write this stuff because it has like three different things to use for clarification sake.

So,

What if I love someone with an addiction?

You can't save them.

If I'm an addiction and someone loves me enough to say,

Hey,

Time to get clean.

There is no like what I'm talking about for clarity sake is not saying,

Hey,

I think you have an addiction problem.

I love you.

Is there anything I can do to help?

We can be loving to one another.

That's not telling other people how to live.

And I'm going to get picky just to prove my point.

I'm not saying that you meant it this way,

Johnny.

But the words that were written,

Hey,

Time to get clean.

That's never worked for anybody probably.

An addict isn't walking around.

I know I was one for 20 years.

An addict isn't walking around.

Usually,

There's not a shortage of people telling them that they have a problem or telling them that they should get help.

There's usually not a shortage of that.

I know there wasn't in my life.

So,

Like,

Hey,

Time to get clean.

People actually think,

Well,

I think perhaps it's because they're not thinking.

So,

Very quickly without thinking,

They say stuff like that to people.

And it's like,

Yes,

I got what you meant,

Johnny.

So,

Yeah,

I'm just kind of going off on this,

Not because of specifically what you said,

But to make a point.

So,

Yeah,

It's,

You know,

But this is what people think.

Like,

It always makes me laugh when people are like,

You know,

When people look at somebody that's smoking a cigarette and they go,

Hey,

You should stop smoking.

Really?

Why?

Well,

It's bad for you.

Really?

Like,

People that,

You know,

People that are doing things that are hurting themselves,

They know.

They're just not ready to change yet,

You know?

Now,

I'm not saying that we can't tell people,

Yeah,

Hey,

You think somebody's got an addiction problem?

Absolutely.

Do we have perspectives that we can share?

Absolutely.

And we can still share all those,

You know.

So,

And before I move on,

I'm just going to expand this into different ways because this was kind of the common thing that I saw with the comments.

No,

Unless they ask.

Closest friends and family,

Possibly.

Offer suggestions,

Different perspectives,

Yes.

And Mike,

I have been working very diligently at removing all judgment.

And that's the crux of what we're talking about here.

That being said,

As a parent and one who has had countless learning opportunities,

It is a good practice to share experiences and potential outcomes.

Yes.

See,

That I love.

And I'm going to go back to it in a minute because I'm just going to finish this.

And Nicole,

Drop hints about wanting to lose weight,

For example.

You can bring your own experience.

Unfortunately,

No.

No.

It depends if it's a safety issue and how close you are to them.

You know,

So a lot of the way people say that you can,

Well,

You know,

I'll go back to the phrasing of my question.

The phrasing of my question was,

Is it right to tell people how to live their lives if it's coming from a place of love?

So that's basically telling them you need to live your life this way.

Most everybody said either no or they,

In my opinion,

They changed the question a little bit from telling somebody how to live their lives to sharing a perspective that might be helpful to somebody.

I believe sharing perspectives that might be helpful to other people is fine.

It's what I do for a living.

You know,

And I often say,

Like,

If you're going to be one of my friends,

It's always not easy because,

Like,

I'm not the average person.

I can't just sit there and watch somebody's life go down the toilet without saying anything.

Now,

I won't judge them for it.

And if they decide to not take my advice,

I will still be their friend.

But at some point,

They're going to hear my perspective,

Because I consider that an act of love.

If I'm watching somebody just,

You know,

Flush their life down the toilet,

And I don't say anything to try to be a good friend,

I don't think that that's a good friend,

You know,

So I do say something.

So and I think that everybody that posted that comment,

Where there was a caveat of yes,

In some situations,

I think that that's what they were talking about.

Yeah,

If you care for somebody,

And you have a perspective that might help them,

You can share that perspective.

And that I agree with 100%.

Okay.

What I'm talking about is the judgment stuff,

The judgment and the telling people how to live their lives.

So I'm gonna go back to Mike's,

Mike's comment.

And this is Mike is literally my oldest friend.

Do you?

Oh,

My God,

That just touches my heart to think that,

That like,

You know,

I'm 53.

And this kid,

My first friend,

My best friend all through high school,

Since we're like four years old,

Or something is on my page.

And I'm,

And,

And I'm talking about his comment.

It's just beautiful.

Yeah,

I've been working very diligently at removing all judgment.

And that's what it is.

That's what it is.

It's the removal of the judgment.

We have to accept people for where they are.

And if we like,

What's happening politically,

Like,

You know,

Both sides,

Both sides think that they are arguing about what's right.

And all that all it ends up being is arguing,

Right.

And they're,

They're,

I guess,

Ammunition,

Or the thing that tells them that I really need to go out there and argue about this.

One of the biggest things is that they say the other side is trying to destroy the world.

And if I just let them then the world will be destroyed.

Basically,

You know,

I mean,

So in the last,

You know,

Seven years or so,

Both sides have won.

Trump got in office.

Republican.

Biden got in office.

Democrat.

The world hasn't ended.

And we're going to have another election coming up soon.

And the world's not going to end after that one.

It's not,

But people will still be arguing.

And it does,

Like,

I understand that,

You know,

You go,

Whoa,

Well,

Things got better.

Yeah,

But things go worse.

It's been a seesaw for the last 200 years.

It's going to be a seesaw for 200 more if we continue,

Except that the seesaw used to go like this.

And then now it's just,

It's just barely moving.

Like,

You know,

Like,

And it's and it's lower and lower and lower.

See that that that's the illusion.

The illusion is that a politician or a party's belief system is going to,

Like,

Like dramatically change our lives for the better.

And like,

At some point years ago,

Many years ago,

We had a quality of living,

Let's say that was I just got to put a number on it to make the point.

Like,

Let's say,

You know,

At the best of times in the United States,

We were at like 100 for a quality of life.

And then we argue and argue and time goes by and all these,

You know,

The people in power are just gaining more power and getting richer and,

And what's happening is our quality of life and our happiness,

You know,

Is just getting worse and our freedoms,

Everything,

Everything about our quality of life is dropping.

And but the seesaw is still happening.

So it goes up a little and it goes down a little and then it goes up a little and people go see it went up a little.

That's important.

No,

The whole seesaw is sinking in quicksand.

Like,

That's the problem.

The whole freaking thing is sinking.

Like,

It doesn't matter if it goes up two inches,

Because in another 10 years,

That two inches is going to be under the quicksand,

Just like the base is.

It's the whole thing is sinking and people you know,

And a lot of people aren't seeing it.

The reason I brought that up is because the most of the problem distracting us is the is the energy of the argument.

It's the energy of the argument.

So if if people would just get off their high horses,

You know,

This is the term,

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

We have good intentions.

We want the best for the world.

Right.

So we're going to argue about it.

And meanwhile,

There's a bunch of crap happening that's making our the quality of our lives worse and worse and worse.

And nobody's seeing it because we're too busy arguing over our good intentions.

No,

I want no,

I want what's best for the world.

And it's supposed to look this way.

No,

I want what's best for the world and supposed to look this way.

And we're just so busy arguing at that,

That everything is just dropping.

And we're missing it,

You know,

But a lot of people are waking up.

And so those of you that are waking up and looking for another way,

What we need to do is stop arguing.

Stop arguing with them because it doesn't matter.

The seesaw is going to be bouncing back and forth for a while.

But if we can just accept people,

Like after a while,

The arguing will just decompress it like to argue,

It takes two sides,

It takes energy.

Have you ever tried to argue with somebody that won't argue back?

Some,

You know,

I mean,

Like,

Some people just won't.

And then some people are like,

Just very present.

They're like,

Well,

You're wrong.

All right,

You have the right to think that I'm wrong.

Yeah,

But you are.

Okay.

I understand that you believe that.

Well,

Yeah,

But you have to think the way that I think,

Like at some point,

They have to say something so stupid that they they kind of hear it themselves.

Yeah,

But you have to think the way I think,

Or else you're bad and I'm good.

Oh,

That sounds weird when I say it out loud.

Like,

I mean,

Because it's absurd,

You know,

That doesn't even make any sense.

So like,

Just stop arguing.

And how do you do that?

By stop judging.

You know,

I've said this many times,

It's,

There is no way that like most people with with good hearts,

I think they're like,

No,

I'm not.

Oh,

No,

I don't judge other people I'm not judgmental.

Oh,

Really?

Um,

Did you hear that they're putting a pipeline through some national park and it's going to be oil spraying all over the place?

What those jerks of attack,

Attack,

Attack,

That's judgment.

It doesn't matter if you're right.

It doesn't matter if you're right.

And that doesn't win anything.

You know,

If we look at if we look at what,

Um,

How large social change has taken place,

You know,

I look at people like Nelson Mandela,

And Gandhi,

Like,

You know,

Nelson Mandela fought against the government.

That's why he ended up in jail.

And,

You know,

And did some,

He fought against it early on,

Okay,

When he actually did what he needed,

What ended up happening was when he started communicating with the perceived enemy.

When he started having conversations with them,

When he started trying to understand their perspectives,

And connect to them with their perspectives.

Because like,

You know,

It's,

We perceive,

Oh,

The other side just wants to kill everybody.

No,

They don't.

They think what they're doing is right.

Maybe they're wrong,

But they think they're right.

And you're never going to stop somebody from doing something by by yelling at them going,

You're wrong,

You're wrong,

You shouldn't do that.

You're wrong,

You shouldn't do that.

All that does is it makes them dig in deeper.

But if you can either leave them alone and just don't feed the argument,

Maybe their brain will slow down enough from defending itself against you.

And they'll,

They'll have nothing to defend,

They'll just be sitting there.

Like people can defend their perspective for literally decades,

Years.

So that strengthens their resolve.

They never have an opportunity to see a different way of being because they're too busy defending their way of being.

So they,

They're just,

They're just reinforcing it all the time.

You shouldn't be like that.

Well,

Yes,

I should because of this.

Then they go home and they think about it and they go,

Well,

I should have said this next person that challenges me,

I'm going to say this.

And then the next person challenges them.

They say that and the one before,

And then they go home and they come up with a different way to defend themselves.

And there's all groups coming up with different ways to defend themselves.

So they borrow off of each other.

And then we wonder why nobody,

We never meet.

It's because we're busy arguing.

So if we stop judging and stop thinking,

Get off of our soapbox and stop going,

Yeah,

But my way is right.

I saved dolphins,

So I'm a good person.

So screw you.

I don't want to get a vaccine because,

And I have the right to what,

To judge what happens in my body.

So screw you.

Like,

It doesn't matter what you say before.

So screw you is still so screw you.

And it's anger energy.

It's not love.

See this is what I'm talking about.

If we,

Not if,

How we are going to usher a loving way of being on this planet is by bringing in love,

By acting out of love.

Love does not judge.

Love does not,

You know,

Look at our relationship with our creator.

He gave us free will.

Why?

Because he wanted our relationship based in love.

That's why.

Why doesn't God come in and stop all these like horrible things that are happening on a planet?

Because as soon as he does,

Then that's when the whole,

The world would implode.

Why?

Because that's control.

God can't come in and go,

You people should be doing this.

This is what's best for you.

So you should do this.

Oh,

This is a bad person killing people.

I'm going to take them and stop them from doing that and move them over here.

So more people will be safe.

He can't do that because it breaks the law of love.

That's not love.

That's control.

That's I know what's better for you than you know what's for yourself.

So I'm going to control you.

We have,

That's,

This is why I talk about energy so much.

We have to,

Well not we,

My brain understands things in terms of energy because it simplifies things.

And I like things to be simplified.

So when we simplify things,

It's easier to see the truth.

You know,

We're closer to the truth,

The simpler we get.

So if you're talking about energy,

You just,

If you just monitor your energy and your behaviors,

Look at your behaviors that you've done,

You know,

Especially when there's some controversy or something you don't like and pay attention to your behavior.

What energy was that behavior in?

If you're attacking somebody,

Yelling at them,

Telling them what they should do and how they should live and you're calling that love,

You're delusional.

It's not true.

That is manipulation energy.

That's anger energy.

That isn't going to save our world.

That's not going to create a new paradigm.

That's not going to suddenly,

We're not going to throw a bunch of anger up against the wall and all of a sudden get love.

It's not going to happen.

So we have to start understanding what love looks like.

I understand we're in a huge learning curve right now.

We have to understand what love looks like and we don't.

Why?

Because we haven't been living in it societally for thousands of years.

So we have to slow down and start looking at this stuff so we can understand it.

So we can actually start acting out of love.

Acceptance,

Non-judgment,

Love.

This is the energies.

The reason that people are going to have a hard time with us is because of the old paradigm.

We're going to sit there.

We are so accustomed to masculine,

Forceful energy being the way,

Thinking that that's the way to accomplish things,

Which it's not.

We're way out of balance with masculine and feminine energy.

So we're used to just forcing our way until we get what we want.

And that's the problem with the world is because the entire world functions like that.

It's a problem.

So what we have to start doing is behaving differently.

So the way I explain,

I think that this is,

I didn't know I was going to go into masculine and feminine energies,

But it's a good way to explain this.

So when I'm explaining masculine and feminine energies,

It's not that masculine energies don't have positive benefits.

They do.

The problem is that we're out of balance.

And when you're out of balance,

You're too far one way.

That doesn't work.

Everything's supposed to be in balance.

So if you look at an example of masculine energy,

That's out of balance is a rock in a river.

And it's standing in that middle of that river,

All forceful and going,

You shall not pass.

Screw you trying to assert its will up against the water.

And the water is a feminine energy.

It doesn't stop at the rock and get into an argument with you.

Screw you.

You have no right to stop me from going down the river.

I have the right to go down the river.

This is my river.

You're not even technically part of the river.

You fell off the mountain.

It doesn't get into an argument with the freaking rock.

It just goes over.

It just goes around and it just continues.

Why?

Because the rock can't stop it.

So it just goes around.

So just go,

Just go live your life.

Don't worry about these people standing in the middle of the road trying to stop you.

Just go around them.

Live in love.

Just live in peace.

Just go.

And what's going to happen over time as we get back into balance is not only are you going to be living a more peaceful,

Happy,

Effective life,

But you're going to be ushering love in.

You're going to be an example of love.

If you have a rock or somebody that's all caught up in anger and masculine forceful energy and they come up and they go,

Ah,

Screw you.

I'm going to stop you.

And then somebody just goes around them and doesn't argue.

And they go,

Oh,

Screw you.

I'm going to stop you.

And somebody else just goes around them.

After a while,

They're going to,

They're going to at least reassess what they're doing.

People do what works.

So the reason they argue is because at least they think it works.

But we are,

We're,

We're butting heads.

So we have to stop arguing.

That's,

You know,

That,

That,

And just move on with our lives.

And not only are we going to be bringing in more love into this world,

And you know,

Things are going to be going a lot smoother,

But there's also erosion.

After a while,

It's just not going to matter.

That rock's going to get worn down or it's going to start looking at a different way of being.

So pay attention to the energy in which you're doing things.

It has to be out of love,

You know,

And now there are ways to stand up for what you want,

As long as you're conscious of your energy.

So I'm not saying that people can't protest.

I'm not saying that people can't do whatever you want.

Like I don't even know what you guys do,

Because it's not what I do.

Like this is,

This is what I do.

So,

So what,

Like you have the right to voice what you want,

But just don't do it out of anger and confrontation and saying the other side is wrong.

Don't worry about the other side's wrong.

Just worry about what you're saying.

Just worry.

Feed the positive.

Feed the love.

That's all you got to do.

You don't have to fight the negative.

You do not have to do that.

That's my point.

Don't argue with somebody.

If they are hell bent on believing stuff their own way,

Give them the right to believe that way.

You have the right to disagree with me.

What can I do?

But just put it out in love,

Love,

Love.

That's the energy that's going to change things.

You know,

We can't,

Just because we want,

We think that we want what's best for the universe or,

Or the planet or the animals or humans or just because we think that what we want is good for other sentient beings or the planet doesn't mean that we get to go at people with anger.

That's what I'm saying.

It doesn't mean you can turn this,

This utopian,

We have this beautiful,

I just want to love everyone.

Damn it,

You have to too.

Like that,

Do you see the energy change?

It's,

It's two completely different energies.

So when we learn how to stand in,

When we have to,

When we learn how to stand in our,

Our,

Our,

Our authenticity and our love and,

And speak and act out of that,

That's what's actually going to change things.

So let's,

Let's take a gander at some of these.

I saw some comments coming in.

Some kind of just scan through some of them.

Right.

The perspective just not how to live.

Yeah.

And this is,

This is an interesting concept.

Dale Carnegie,

Who wrote a lot of wonderful things.

You can never win an argument.

If you lose,

You lose.

And if you win,

The other person may see things your way,

Which is very rare,

But usually feels battered and awful.

So you haven't won because you've damaged someone.

Yeah.

You know,

I,

I believe in a sentiment of that.

You're totally off base with,

Of the responsibility of man versus woman.

Well,

I didn't talk about man versus woman.

Better said feminine masculine.

Yeah.

That's what I did say.

If I said man versus woman in my little rant there,

I apologize.

Jeff's right.

I didn't mean to say that.

I meant to say feminine and masculine.

Who knows?

Sometimes I make mistakes.

So,

So yeah.

So that's pretty much it.

So,

So basically this is what I'm talking about.

I'm talking,

You know,

About the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

You know,

The,

We have to just be a loving energy and it's like,

You can even in the midst of an attack because you know,

This is like,

Martin Luther King Jr.

Beautiful at this,

You know,

Hate cannot drive out hate.

Only love can do that.

Do you see like when,

When,

When you,

This isn't rocket science,

You know,

Like when you really don't,

You know,

More than just the,

The,

The quotes or the,

The,

I mean,

MLK has got some good quotes.

Well,

They all have good quotes.

I shouldn't say that they all have good quotes,

Amazing quotes.

And those quotes,

If you understand them deep enough are way more profound than most people realize.

But not only that,

But if you want to research something,

Research how positive social change has taken place in history.

Okay.

Go back and research like Martin Luther King Jr.

Nelson Mandela,

Gandhi,

You know,

Research what they did,

Like the dynamics of what they did.

You know,

I'm always talking about dynamics because that's the important thing.

It's not the dynamics is what changes things and does things.

It's the energy of everything.

So like,

You know,

The dynamics you can duplicate,

You might not be able to duplicate the specifics or the specifics going to look different in every situation.

So don't worry about the specifics.

We're constantly arguing over specifics and it's a complete waste of fricking time.

Ask any one of my clients how long we talk about specifics in our sessions very minimally because they,

You know,

Sometimes you need a few just to put into perspective what the hell we're talking about.

But as soon as,

And oftentimes we don't even need them for that.

Just don't get caught up in the specifics,

The dynamics.

If you understand the dynamics,

Oh,

What did MLK do?

What did Gandhi do?

What did Mandela do?

Like,

How did these things?

Oh,

So they had conversations with the other side to try to see what their perspective was and to try to meet them where they like,

What do you want?

Well,

What do I want?

Well,

Like,

Let's,

How can we both get what we want?

Hmm.

Like,

You know,

This is the type of stuff.

This is the type of dynamic that works.

Making one side wrong while you're right,

It doesn't work.

All it does is have those two sides arguing forever and causes greater division.

This is our political system in action.

Like back when the country started,

I bet you there wasn't as much division between Republicans and Democrats.

I mean,

Of course they were going after each other to try to win the thing,

But every once in a while,

A Republican would support a Democrat in trying to pass a bill or something.

Like that's actually happened in history of humanity.

It ain't going to happen now.

Why?

Because we got to make the other side wrong,

So we're right.

And as long as that's the dynamic,

You're screwed.

It just causes greater and greater division.

So that doesn't work.

Again,

Look at dynamics.

Has that ever worked?

Has a problem ever been solved in the history of humankind by making the other side wrong?

Has the other side suddenly gotten proven wrong and went,

You know,

Ron,

You're right.

I'm wrong.

We're all wrong.

Our bad.

We're on your side now.

Has that ever happened ever?

No.

The dynamic doesn't work.

So the first step is to stop arguing and stop judging.

We have to stop judging up here so we can stop arguing out here.

So stop judging and just say,

Hey,

They probably believe that for some reason.

I don't happen to,

But whatever.

And move on with your life and do what you want.

And if you want to speak up for a cause,

Speak up for a cause.

But don't speak down to the opposition because that causes the separation.

Oh,

You know,

I understand that you feel that way.

This is what we're about.

Stay on topic.

Just stay focused and love and feeding what you want to expand.

Because right now what we're doing is we're feeding arguing and that's what's expanding.

We're feeding anger.

That's what's expanding.

Why?

Because that's what we're coming at it with.

We're throwing anger and we're saying,

Yeah,

But it's for a loving cause.

It's still anger.

You're arguing.

I want the arguing to stop.

Damn it.

Oh,

The argument just got bigger.

Yeah,

Of course it did.

Because you're arguing about the argument.

This is what I mean.

Starve what you don't want.

Everything is energy.

The collective is energy.

Your body is energy.

The planets are energy.

Ways of being are energetic.

Everything is energy.

Starve what you don't want.

Just don't put your attention to what you don't want.

Don't put it there.

Put it to what you want.

That way you can speak of love.

You can help other people that are willing to listen.

You can stand up for what you believe.

You can do all that stuff.

But it's got to be out of love energy and just feeding what you think is right instead of arguing with what you think is wrong.

There.

So that's it.

I hit the wall.

So thank you everybody.

Thank you everybody for watching,

Listening,

Commenting.

The comments were sweet.

This time thank you.

Yeah,

Thank you for your participation with the question and with the comments.

You can see it makes a big difference.

You know,

The interaction with the show.

It's just because I've got stuff to feed off and we have different perspectives.

So it's good,

Good.

So thank you everybody.

I'm going to peace out.

So thanks and we'll talk with you soon.