Stress Lesson #2 A Deeper Insight Into Stress Management

Hello beautiful people,

Welcome back once again.

Hi,

My name is Doug Gromins and today I'm going to get into a deeper and more intense discussion about stress and how we deal with it.

And in some ways,

How we can live almost completely stress-free.

I mean,

I go throughout my whole life basically surrounded by stress,

But there's a way to be detached from it so it doesn't bother you.

So today I want to get into that and I want to share some insights as to how I deal with stress and how it doesn't affect me the way it affects others.

So let's get into it.

So if you hadn't had a moment yet to listen to the stress audio track that I made earlier,

The first one that I put out and labeled just Freedom From Stress,

Listen to that one and try some of the techniques I mentioned in there and try to do those techniques and see what that does for you.

But give yourself some time.

Don't just do it one time and expect to see results.

Try it at least maybe twice a week,

Three times a week because the stress that you have built up inside of you is just like the tip of an iceberg.

All that's visible is a little bit and that's all we're conscious of is just a little bit of stress when the underlying current of that iceberg is humongous and it's much more into your unconscious and your subconscious minds than you even know or could even imagine.

So yeah,

The reason why I want you to try experimenting with some of those meditations I gave or those exercises I gave to help you relieve your stress is because that's the start.

That is the start of getting into a lifestyle where stress,

You can feel it around you but it won't affect you and I'll explain that.

It gets pretty deep and I don't know if you're one of those that are into the chakra system and the energy building and all that stuff like that.

I know that kind of stuff sounds a little kooky and a little loopy-ish but in reality,

Once you learn some of these things that I'm about to tell you and share with you is that you will grow in so many ways.

Let's start off with this.

We have four bodies or four points to look at in life.

The way it works out is that the first seven years of your life,

Your physical body is the center of the growth spectrum.

You're growing really,

Really fast and you're getting teeth and you're learning how to speak,

You're learning how to hear and then from 7 to 14,

The next phase from the physical is the emotional body.

From the age of 7 to 14,

You learn how to love,

You learn how to cope with other people,

You learn what the emotions are about and how to develop and grow with them.

Now if you've lived up to 14 years old and you've lived a healthy life and not a life that's basically been abused or been in a way where it's a negative environment but if you are healthy and you live those 14 years,

7 and 7,

14 years healthily,

Then you'll start to get into the intellectual body.

The intellectual body is the next seven years,

From 7 to 21 years old.

That's the time where you're basically going to learn how to get a life,

Get a job,

Get a career or maybe start thinking about raising a family or something like that.

Like I said,

That seven years was given in that period because that's how long it takes to just develop to a normal sense of adulthood,

You could say.

So then that's seven years for the intellectual body.

And then the last body,

The spiritual body,

Takes another seven years.

But that's the ideal case if everybody was perfectly healthy and they matured like they should have in their seven year period.

So you've got these four bodies,

We call them,

And they also coincide with the four chakras rising up from the root chakra,

The sex,

The solar plexus and the heart.

If you grow and mature in each body like you're supposed to,

At 28 years old,

Then you should be mature enough and adult at a level where you don't need the ego anymore.

In your spiritual time,

Or that seven years is as dedicated to spiritual time,

It happens a lot later for a lot of people because they didn't mature in the first seven years or the second seven years or the third seven years.

So sometimes it doesn't happen at all to some people.

Some people are so mind-centered that they forget that they have to be mature in all four bodies in order to dissolve the ego and to become one with what we call the whole essence of existence.

Some people call that God,

Some people call it liberation or moshka or whatever you want to call it.

The Indians call it twice born.

But what happens is that at the peak moment when you raise enough energy up to the heart chakra,

That's where everything changes.

Gravity controls everything in those four chakras.

Everything is pulled downward except for when you get into the heart chakra,

Then you start learning about energies that can be raised and energies that levitate,

And they defy the law of gravity.

So there's the law of gravity and there's the law of levitation.

So anyway,

If you can raise these energies up into the heart and just keep growing and be aware and be conscious of everything you're doing,

Practice awareness,

Practice love,

Practice meditation,

Practice compassion,

These things will raise energy.

Now negativity and ugliness and meanness and sadness,

All these things,

The energy gets pulled down by gravity and you feel weighted in that way.

But if you're doing a 180 degree turn and focusing on your inner self,

Focusing on returning to the hub of the wheel,

Returning yourself and returning at the hub of the wheel,

And every one of us is a wheel and we have a hub inside of us,

A center of us,

A core that is hollow.

But it's hollow on purpose because that's where the overall essence of godliness resides in you.

And you just need to do a 180 degree turn and start raising your energy and heading towards that center in you.

And if you can get to the center,

Then here's one of the key things that a lot of people don't know is that you have to dissolve.

You have to completely be in a state of let go and a state of almost avoid-ness.

So as I'm saying this,

I also have to admit and share with you that there is a key.

And the key to all this is you can't look for it.

You just have to let it happen.

And it's no harder than learning how to do a trick on a skateboard or surfboard or anything like that.

Anything that might take a little bit of a knack to learn.

So you meditate without looking for it.

And so many people,

Like let's just say like this,

You go out and tell a friend you played a game of football with your buddies and it was a super fun time,

Everybody had a really good time.

And you go up to say a mind-centered person or somebody who's just not having a good time or doesn't realize how fun football could be or how fun surfing could be or whatever.

But anyway,

You go up to that person and say,

Hey man,

We just got done playing a game of football and it was so fun.

We just had a real blast just playing the game of football.

So in turn,

That person gets a few friends together and says,

Hey,

Let's all play a game of football.

I've heard it was really,

Really fun.

So let's give it a shot.

And what happens is that person spends his whole time playing the football game looking for the fun instead of getting into it and diving into the game and really playing.

He's just serious.

He's just too serious because he's looking for fun and he misses the entire time.

He doesn't see the fun and he plays the whole game of football and he goes,

Well,

That wasn't very fun.

And the reason was is because he was looking for it.

And the same applies in spirituality,

Especially in like meditating and raising energies.

It's just something you do and it's your essence.

It's something that flows out of you when you're being whole and you have this oneness about you.

And this is,

Like I said,

This is the key element to growth.

And here's another thing.

In your spiritual body,

If the other bodies were hurt or damaged as you were growing up,

This is where it can get fixed.

Because the energy that rises up,

You're opening channels to be in touch with godliness.

And when you do that,

It heals the emotional body.

It heals the intellectual body.

And it also helps,

Now I say heal the physical body,

But a lot of people that get into meditation find out that if you meditate way too much,

That your physical body starts to suffer a little bit.

And it's a rebellion,

A rebellion of the mind saying,

Hey,

What are you doing?

Because basically you're committing a suicide to the mind,

Or at least it feels like you're committing a suicide to the mind.

What's really happening is the ego,

This sense of I,

This sense of personality,

It starts to dissolve.

Because it's like having two eggs still in a shell.

What's inside never meets.

And there's no room for two at the center,

At your hub inside of you.

There's not room for two essences.

There's basically only room for one.

So either you can be there,

You might go to your core and meditate a lot,

And you'll reach your core and it's empty and it might scare you.

But the reality is,

Is because you were there.

If you dissolve into it,

If you crack the eggs open and blend the eggs together and see that there's something that can happen when this happens that won't happen when it's got this hard shell.

And the ego is a shell.

So that's the key.

That's the main key basically.

And the reason why I mention all this is that once you get 51% of your energy up into the heart chakra,

Then a jump occurs.

You get off of the horizontal line of time and you switch to the vertical sense of eternity,

It's called.

It's a sense of being in the eternal now.

I know Eckhart Tolle talks about being here now and all that stuff,

But this is what they mean by that.

It's that a jump occurs exactly in the middle.

And that's why Buddha calls this path the middle path.

Because a jump occurs when you're exactly in the middle.

And once that jump occurs,

Then stress-free life comes into play.

Then you're no longer touched by time.

Time will pass right by you and you'll always feel like it's flying by because you're living in this state of bliss.

You're living in this state of essential is-ness that is completely stress-free,

Anxiety-free.

So if you imagine a rubber band stretched out between two fingers vertically,

You can pull the rubber band from side to side and time will try to pull at you and stress will try to pull at you side by side,

But it can never reach you anymore because now you're centered.

And with this centering,

You can grow.

And there's so much more room for the spiritual body to grow.

There's so much more to know.

I mean,

You've still got three more chakras to work up through.

There's the throat,

The third eye,

And the crown chakra.

And those chakras,

Each and every one of them coincide with a body that you're yet to discover.

And we'll get into that in another video,

Another audio track,

I'm sorry.

And let's get you to the point where you practice some meditation techniques.

If you have problems sitting and meditating,

If you're not the type of person you feel like,

I can't do that,

I can't do that,

Well,

That's why we're introducing these dynamic and these active meditations is because there's a part of you that has to be settled down first before you can actually dive into being still.

It's just the way life is nowadays,

Especially people that live in cities and bigger cities.

I live at the ocean,

And I used to teach meditation classes when I lived in the city,

And I had a pretty good attendance of people.

But city people have lived different lives than those that live in the ocean,

That live at the beaches.

And maybe those in the mountains too have the same essence,

Because mountains are mystical as well.

But when you live by the ocean,

We have a term here on the island that basically,

If I work in Houston like I do most of the time,

When I drive over the causeway,

Okay,

I'm ready to face all the traffic,

And I face like three hours of traffic a day on average,

Sometimes as bad as four hours a day of driving going into the city.

And there's stress all around me.

There's road rage,

There's just nastiness,

People doing things they shouldn't be doing all over the place.

People are even dying every single day on these freeways,

Just being stupid and full of stress and letting the stress control them.

So the saying I have is like,

When you go over the island and you face all that,

If you're the hub on the wheel,

You're centered.

And all the other stress and everything is hitting your periphery,

It's hitting your vision,

It's hitting you from the outside,

But it can't reach the center,

Because you become detached from it.

You learn the trick.

I taught you the trick,

So now you'll know it.

But like I said,

You can leave the island and face all this stuff and do your daily job and coexist with all of humanity.

And that's the thing about life,

Is you're not escaping life,

You're being a part of it.

But there's a way to be detached and be a part of it at the same time.

And when I come back home,

When I leave the city,

And I drive back to Galveston,

And I live,

Like I said,

I live a couple blocks from the beach,

We leave everything in the city on the other side of that causeway,

And we don't take any of it on the island.

We have what we call island time here,

And everybody on the island just operates a little bit slower than those in the city do.

I mean,

You go to the Starbucks here on the island and you don't get served as fast as they do in the city.

But like I said,

You can be and you can live in the rat race,

But that doesn't mean you have to be in the race.

You can be a rat and still not live in the race.

You don't have to be a part of the race,

It can go on everywhere around you and it can exist and pull at you from side to side.

But if you're centered,

Like I said,

If you start off doing the meditations,

Like I said,

Jump number one is basically getting a valve to release that stress.

That's the first step.

And those meditations I was talking about and those tips I gave on the first audio track will teach you how to cope with it and get some of the steam off so that you can sit still.

And when you can sit still,

Then you can meditate.

And meditation doesn't happen until you close your eyes,

Get the thoughts out of your head,

Not by forcing them,

But by watching them.

It's like watching a river that's calm and clear and you stick your foot in the river and touch the bottom,

Then it's all murky and gray looking for maybe 20,

30 minutes.

And if you put your foot out of the water and you don't touch the water again,

After about 30 minutes it settles back down by itself.

Well that's what happens in your mind.

Your mind settles down on its own.

You just give it a space to happen.

And then once the mind stops and then you come into this moment of no thought,

Then as these moments grow,

And they will grow,

And you'll be aware and you'll be conscious,

And you'll say,

Wow,

Hold on a minute,

I'm conscious but I'm not thinking.

Then the bliss comes in.

Then the first release of stress actually happens is that you're experiencing something without thinking.

And if you think about it also,

That happens while you're playing sports.

It happened while that guy that was playing football with his buddies and he had a great time because he escaped from the mind.

When he was playing the game he wasn't thinking about stress.

He wasn't thinking about work.

He wasn't thinking about anything else.

He was just playing a game.

And that's what we call Zen.

Zen is action without thought.

And if you look over some of my other audio tracks you'll find a Zen recording.

And if you listen to that Zen recording I'll give you a good idea about what Zen is and how to get into Zen.

Anyway,

I think we've gone a little over.

So yeah,

This is stress relief number two.

And maybe we'll put out a number three and four as we go along.

The feedback I get from you guys helps me develop another track because it gives me some point to attack and some point to address.

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Anyway,

You guys take care of yourselves.

Much love and namaste and aloha and all that good stuff.

Bye bye.