The Tantric Path Of Presence: Making Every Moment Meditative

So today we're talking about the tantric path of presence,

Turning every moment into a meditation.

So why is this important?

Why do I want to talk about this today?

Very often we can live our lives and it feels like we're not alive at all,

Like we're just running on autopilot,

Or we're just living out old patterns.

We might consider them karmic patterns,

Or samskaras,

Or just simply energetic patterns that we just feel like,

Wow,

Do you ever feel like you're just living the same day,

Day in,

Day out?

You know,

And we sort of have this feeling and then when we feel like that,

We start to think,

You know,

What am I even doing here?

Like,

Why?

What are we here for?

What's the point of living?

You know,

We have all these questions.

Sometimes our lives are steeped in drama.

It just seems that every single thing we do,

It's super emotional.

It's either super happy or super angry,

And all our conversations are really loaded and all full of all kinds of things.

Or maybe we feel like our lives are driven by other people.

You know,

This person called and now my whole day's gone,

Or this person said this thing,

And now it's all I can think about,

Like,

Because now they're mad at me,

Or they think I'm this,

And our lives are these weird things.

But where are we?

Like,

Are we even there?

Or did someone just kind of light a fire,

And it just went crazy,

And we just disappeared in all of it?

This is what a tantric presence is.

It isn't some way of like walking around like the Buddha all day long,

Never responding to anything or anything like that.

So let's talk about what do I mean even by a tantric path?

Human beings are these incredible creations where we are divine energy in physical form.

And it sounds,

I know we say this all the time in spiritual path,

In spiritual teachings,

But to really think about it,

Like even we think about the chakras,

And let's just imagine three of the chakras.

Let's think about the root chakra,

Right at the base of our spine.

This is us in the world.

This is us in the village,

Us in nature.

This is our manifest self.

Then we have our heart chakra right in the center.

And then imagine our crown chakra,

Our connection to the divine,

Our infinite selves,

Our thousand petaled lotus.

Imagine our capacity to go in a thousand different directions right now.

These three aspects of us,

We talk about it all the time in yoga and in spiritual teachings,

But they're us.

They're not a foreign idea.

This seventh chakra is us.

This heart chakra is us.

That root chakra is us.

Imagine living in a way that in every single interaction that we have with ourselves or with others,

Our root is engaged,

We're focused in reality,

Our hearts are engaged,

We are speaking and feeling love,

And our crown chakra is engaged,

And we are pondering all the possibilities.

Imagine living like that.

That's what I mean,

A tantric path.

I don't mean rituals.

I don't mean doing fancy meditations.

I don't mean anything like that.

You can do meditations to help us heal our nervous system,

Become more expansive,

And all that.

Those are tantric practices.

I'm talking about tantric living,

And that's what this is all about.

And essentially,

We already know this.

Somewhere inside of us,

We know that we are these expansive,

Epic,

Loving beings,

And everything we do is simply us trying to remember,

Trying to release the little parts of us that aren't us.

It's that old saying that Michelangelo,

When he carved the David,

The beautiful statue in Florence,

That he said it was a solid piece of marble,

And he simply chipped away,

As the story goes,

All the parts of the marble that weren't David.

That's us.

That's what the true spiritual journey is.

We're already divine.

We're already infinite.

We're already incredible beings.

But we have all these weird things globbed onto us,

And funny cages stuck in our head,

And ideas that limit us all the time.

So the journey of tantra is to slowly release all of those,

So that we just become who we are.

We just get to live as we are.

So what do I mean by making everything a meditation,

Then?

So again,

We often think of meditation like being in a state of perfect silence,

Perfect quiet,

You know,

This wonderful inner equanimity,

You know.

And that's one way.

But imagine you always have this presence inside,

Even when you're super excited.

Maybe something's happened,

And you are off the charts excited,

And you are just squealing for joy,

And you are so excited.

And maybe you see someone,

And you take off running for them,

And you're just like,

Oh,

I'm so happy to see you.

This is so incredible.

Or maybe something happens,

And it really makes you angry.

And you get really angry.

And you're like,

Wow,

I am so furious right now.

I can't believe this is happening.

But you're still here.

You haven't flown into a blind rage.

You haven't,

You know,

Started breaking things or anything.

You're still here.

You know,

You haven't just let the horses run wild.

You're just like,

Wow,

I'm furious right now.

But you're still here.

And this is,

This is this presence.

This is this meditative presence that you're always here.

One of my favorite versions of this is Osho used to say that the goal of Tantra is to become Zorba the Buddha.

And Zorba,

He's referencing Zorba the Greek,

Which is a story all about this man who just,

You know,

Wine,

Women,

Song,

All the things,

Right?

He says,

We came to earth to experience all the things.

But imagine doing it with the presence of the Buddha.

That we experience,

And the thing is,

That way we actually experience everything even more.

You know,

Because you're actually present.

You're not lost in some kind of weird,

Spinny pattern.

So what happens?

Why do we lose our meditative center?

Why do we forget that we are these epic Tantric beings?

Well,

One reason is we think that drama is normal.

We think it's normal to be super pissed off that,

Can you believe that person did that?

I can't believe it.

Well,

At least this person's here to help.

It's like everything we learned in Hollywood and Disney movies,

You know,

The drama triangle.

There's a victim,

There's a persecutor,

And there's a savior.

And then we just watch them interact,

You know?

And then we put it in our own lives.

Well,

That person's hurting me,

And this person,

Well,

I'm going to save that person.

You know who isn't present in a drama triangle?

You.

Because even,

Even,

Because what happens in a drama triangle is we're playing a role.

In any moment,

I'm not Katrina.

I'm the victim.

I'm the victim.

I'm not Katrina,

All,

You know,

Seven chakras and wonder and amazing,

Amazing things.

I'm a victim.

I'm playing a role.

I have made myself small.

Right?

Or maybe I'm the savior.

Maybe I have a messiah complex,

You know,

And I'm just out there.

And well,

If it wasn't for me,

Even if I don't say it out loud,

Maybe I'm thinking this.

Well,

Luckily,

I'm here to help.

Because without me,

I don't know where they'd be.

You know?

Seldom do we consider ourselves the persecutor in the drama.

Normally,

We like to make that,

That person over there.

Connected to the drama triangle that we get lost in is we get lost in our emotions.

And again,

I previously said it's good to feel emotions.

It's good to feel anger.

It's good to feel excitement.

It's good to feel sadness.

But we have to stay present.

We have to stay in the game.

The brain has all these wonderful parts.

And two of the parts that are interesting in this moment is our limbic system,

Which basically governs our emotions.

There's a million other things.

But then we have our prefrontal cortex,

Which for all intents and purposes is our kind of our,

It organizes everything.

It plans,

It's rational,

It's reason,

It's all these wonderful things.

It's also imagination and creation and everything,

The frontal cortex.

Well,

The problem is,

Is if we have an emotion and it highly triggers our limbic system,

That will easily take our prefrontal cortex right out of the game.

And we can't think straight.

We are no longer present.

We are no longer in the game.

We are now spinning sideways with our limbic system.

Why?

Because the limbic system is what kicks into gear when we're being chased by a saber-toothed tiger.

There's no time to think.

I'm so frightened.

I'm so freaking out.

And every single ounce of my being is in my adrenals so that I can escape.

This is what it's there for.

But we,

Again,

If we're sort of addicted to drama and all these things that we think it's normal,

Then we also think it's normal to freak out in our emotions,

You know,

Just to completely lose it.

And oftentimes this isn't our fault.

You know,

Growing up,

As many of us did in a world where our parents repressed their emotions,

We were sent to our room if we got emotional.

We were never taught how to self-regulate.

We were never taught how to healthily,

That's not really a word,

How to actually engage with our emotions in healthy ways,

To listen to them,

To process them.

We weren't taught that.

So very often as an adult,

We have to learn how to do that ourselves.

And again,

It can be a very mystical,

Amazing thing,

But it's also very practical,

You know,

That we can actually remember,

Okay,

Hold on,

I'm just going to take a breath.

And I'm going to be back in the building.

Right?

When I was growing up,

They used to do this for anger,

Right?

That if people who had anger issues,

They would have to take 10 breaths or something before they did anything.

We should do that whenever we're feeling any high emotion.

It doesn't matter what it is.

Just take 10 breaths and then see where you are because now you are now present.

Your prefrontal cortex is now back in the game.

You can now think,

You can still feel,

But now it's in balance.

Now it's in connection within.

It's not just,

You know,

Giving the car to a mad three-year-old.

It's a weird example.

Maybe a mad 14-year-old.

Another thing that throws us off is that imagine you meet with someone and you really want to actually have a genuine connection with this person.

But what if you have buried intentions as to how you want this situation to go?

Maybe you want them to see you in a very particular way.

So what happens is you actually become your persona.

I want them to think I have it all together.

I want them to think I'm a success.

I want them to think that I'm who they should spend the rest of their life with,

Whatever.

And we project this persona.

Well,

Guess who's not present?

Us.

We are living in this other way.

And if they say something,

Our persona answers because we want them to believe this way out here.

Or maybe we're having an argument with someone that we are close to.

What if deep down we actually want to hurt them?

What if we want to win?

What if we want to be right?

Even if on the surface we say,

No,

No,

No,

I really want to find a solution.

But somewhere deep down we're really hurt.

We really want to hurt them back.

There's a high chance that we're going to fly into that emotional state.

We're going to fly into the drama triangle.

They are the persecutor.

We are the victim.

All that.

And now we're not present anymore.

We're off the path.

We're not going in the direction we want to go.

You know,

So it's really interesting to look inside.

Why are we acting this way?

Maybe we feel very disempowered.

Maybe we really struggle with self-worth.

And so if someone says something to us,

We just feel attacked.

And we just feel like,

See,

There's just no point.

And we withdraw.

And we get smaller and smaller.

Other reasons is we're actually very disconnected inside of ourselves.

You know,

We've talked a lot about the shadow and the light and the shadow being the parts of us that we don't like or we judge.

If that shadow lives underneath and we want to just be up here.

You know,

Last week we talked about the creation of the devil character in Christianity.

And what that did is it created a very black and white world where there is goodness and then there is evil.

And one of the problems with that is we internalized it and said,

Well,

There's the good part of me and then there's the part of me that is questionable at best.

This makes it really hard to be complete,

To be whole,

To live that tantric path because we can't even relax in our own skin.

You know,

If I was to just say,

I'm just going to relax and I'm just going to be honest with you.

I'm just going to share my truth with you.

Well,

If there's like half of me that I've buried in the basement,

I can't relax because I don't know what she's going to say.

What if she suddenly says something crazy?

What if she suddenly says something that makes you not like me anymore or makes me sound dumb or makes me sound,

I don't know,

Crazy.

So now I have to live in this hyper vigilance inside of myself,

Keeping that shadow down.

You know,

And a lot of us live that way and it isn't our fault.

It's just sort of the strange world we were raised in that said,

There are two parts of you,

Hide the bad part,

Quote bad part,

And just project the good.

It's again,

It kind of comes back to how we were raised.

You know,

You're all upset about something and your parents say,

You go to your room until you're fit to be around people again.

We don't want to see that.

We don't want to see this,

Your tears and your freak out,

You know,

And,

And I was a parent,

So don't,

Don't get me wrong.

I understand the,

The terrible twos and threes and all that,

But there is a way that we could have been raised in ways that actually helped us integrate all of that.

All right.

So these are some of the challenges that we run into,

Why we get off this tantric path.

And when,

Even when I say tantric,

I mean the fully human path,

Like how do we have a fully human experience here on earth?

How do we do that?

That's,

That's the whole goal of this talk.

How do I stay present for my life?

So in the tantric world,

One of the beautiful things is it is completely inclusive.

It isn't like,

Well,

My spiritual life is when I'm in front of my altar and I'm meditating or I'm doing my prayers or I'm doing my yoga.

That's when I'm tantric.

And then I go to work and I hate my job and I hate that.

And then I have this long commute.

And then there's my family of origin,

Which drives me absolutely crazy.

And we have this compartmentalizing of our life.

Tantra says,

It's all your life.

It's all your practice,

Every single aspect,

And not in a bad way,

In a way that says,

This is earth.

This is life.

All of these challenges are part of the earthly experience.

And so the question is,

How do we stay present in all of it?

And like,

Let's say,

You know,

There's aspects of our job that we don't like.

Well,

What if the things we don't like about our job becomes our meditation?

What if there's something interesting there?

What is it about it that we don't like?

Can we drop into it deeper somehow?

What if you have,

Like,

Let's say you're in a relationship with someone,

And for some reason,

You're really battling about something.

There's some topic,

There's some issue that's just,

It's just got you guys in a complete,

You know,

Stranglehold.

Well,

Very often,

We kind of want to push that to the side and say,

Okay,

You know what,

Let's just not talk about it.

Let's just leave it.

Let's sit down.

Let's watch our show.

And just,

I just,

I just don't want to talk about it right now.

What if instead,

We realize that whatever this is,

Is obviously really important to both of our soul's paths,

Or we wouldn't be at such a standstill about it.

We both wouldn't be so passionate about it,

If it wasn't actually important for both of us.

So instead,

We lean in to the struggle.

And,

You know,

Even if your partner's not into this kind of thing,

You know,

It's possible that your partner's like,

I'm not leaning into anything,

You're wrong,

Here's how it is,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Whatever.

And maybe that's the situation.

But personally,

What's my story here?

What's really going on inside of me?

What are the emotions that are arising?

Is it fear?

Is it self-righteousness?

Is it anger?

What is this?

And that there's an entire journey,

And that this journey,

These are the breadcrumbs of our soul.

This is the path.

You know,

Sitting down watching the show,

That's not the path.

It's fun,

Don't get me wrong.

But it's not necessarily expanding our soul.

Leaning into this,

This is interesting.

Because when we lean into it,

And we actually get to the bottom of it,

We turn a dial inside of us that changes everything.

Because whatever this is,

Especially if it's hard,

You can guarantee that it is connected to everything else.

And when we shift it,

Everything changes.

We shift this one tiny thing in our intimate relationship,

Suddenly people start looking different at work.

Suddenly,

You know,

We lose weight.

Suddenly we want to join the gym.

Suddenly all these things start to change.

Because we got to the bottom of something,

And we pulled that thorn out of the lion's paw.

It's a huge deal.

So to just imagine that,

That whatever it is we're struggling with right now,

Anything at all,

Imagine thinking,

Whatever this is,

Is really important.

And I really need to dive all the way into it.

It's a whole other world.

Because what happens is,

You dive into this one,

Get to the bottom of it,

The dials all turn,

Everything shifts inside.

And then all of a sudden you're living and you're going through your life and something else rises,

Whether it's with someone else or it's within.

And all of a sudden that comes,

You go to the bottom of it,

You turn the dial and everything changes.

Your whole system is changing.

Whole system.

Not just the parts we like,

Not just the parts we want you to see.

Our whole system is shifting.

And we are gently becoming a whole healthy being.

And this is really the goal of Tantra.

Connected with that is imagining for a moment that there's no such thing as good or bad or right and wrong.

Releasing the whole duality of judgment.

And I really mean that,

To really be able to say,

What would life be like if I,

This has nothing to do with anyone else,

If I did not play in the duality of judgment.

So let's say you have a new business.

You know,

You've finally decided you're going to do it,

You're going to quit your job,

You're going to start a new business,

You're going to start a business.

Okay,

Here we go.

And what if things don't quite go the way you planned?

It's that whole,

You know,

We all saw,

Well,

Some of us saw Field of Dreams,

You know,

With Kevin Costner years ago,

The movie,

And if you build it,

They will come.

It's one of the number one challenges of all self-employed people,

Because we're quite sure all we have to do is build it and they will come.

And unfortunately,

A lot of marketing is required instead.

So now you're sitting there and you're like,

I don't know what to do.

People aren't buying my stuff,

They're not doing this,

They're not doing that.

Now,

If we are really caught up in the judgment duality,

Which isn't real,

It's just a fabrication,

It's just something that lives in our frontal cortex.

It has nothing to do,

It does not exist in nature.

It's a fabrication of morality,

Judgment,

Law,

Religion,

It's just,

It's just an idea.

It isn't something we actually have to engage in.

Now,

If I am engaging in it,

I might think,

This is bad.

This is bad.

I must suck as a business person.

I am,

I'm doing everything wrong.

This is bad.

What's happening here?

What good is this line of thinking?

This line of thinking isn't helpful at all.

You're not actually helping.

You're not,

Um,

You're not making anything clearer.

You're not solving any problems.

You're not organizing anything.

You're just taking this heavy blow and saying,

Bad,

Bad.

You know what that does?

That fires up the limbic system.

And now suddenly I've got guilt,

And shame,

And fear,

And anger,

And all these things that are now like,

Darn it all.

This was my dream.

Why isn't this happening?

I can't believe this.

And guess what's completely offline?

Our prefrontal cortex,

Our thoughts,

Our presence,

Everything.

So now let's play in a world where it doesn't exist.

There is no good,

Bad,

Right,

Wrong,

None of that.

So now instead you're sitting there and you're looking at your business and you're going,

Huh,

Okay,

So this part isn't quite working the way I hoped.

Maybe I'll do this over there.

Or maybe I'll do this over there.

Because as long as we can keep the limbic system offline,

We have three big chakras.

We have more,

We have a billion chakras,

But let's just focus on the root chakra that says,

Huh,

Finances are not where we need them to be.

We're not getting the sales we want.

We might need to make some more product.

Our heart chakra says,

I'm pretty passionate about this.

This is very exciting.

My soul is pretty excited about this.

My crown chakra and the thousand-petaled lotus is saying,

There's a thousand options from here.

Which one do we want to take?

What an entirely different perspective.

Imagine you're in a relationship or this is with one of your kids or a friend or a colleague or somebody and something goes wrong.

Somebody does something.

Somebody says something.

Now we can stay present within and say,

Wow,

That really hurt.

Why would you say that?

Or we can say,

That was wrong.

You're a bad person.

You're an idiot.

You're this.

Why could you say this?

You're wrong.

I'm right.

And we're completely off base now.

We're not even in the original thing because we are so caught up in the drama triangle of the right and wrong duality.

We're not even here anymore.

We're not solving anything.

We're not even engaging with this person anymore.

So it's really something to think about completely releasing that if we're ever in a struggle,

If we're ever in a challenge,

To let it go.

Let all that right,

Wrong,

Good,

Bad stuff go and just say,

All right,

Here's what's going on.

Root chakra,

That really pushed me away.

Or I'm really afraid right now.

I'm really worried.

Heart chakra,

I really love you.

I really want us to sort this out.

Crown chakra,

There's a thousand ways we can sort this.

Let's find a way that really works.

You know,

Totally different world.

Another tantric teaching that goes along with that is the idea that is true non-duality where everything before you is divine.

The trees,

The hills,

The sky,

The snow,

The rain,

The dogs,

The people,

The buildings,

Everything,

Everything is divine.

And this is interesting because again,

You know,

When we live in separation,

When we live in the good,

Bad thing,

It's like,

Well,

This,

All the good stuff is God.

All the bad stuff is the devil.

Again,

Comes back to this weird creation of the devil problem.

But what if it isn't?

What if everything just is and we're here to navigate it?

And that's all.

If we feel fired up that we want to make change,

Then go make change.

But we can't just get fired up.

Like we have to actually,

Can I go?

Let's go make change.

Let's do it.

You know,

Let's build a new house.

Let's go do this thing.

Let's build a shelter.

Let's,

Let's go and make a difference.

That's awesome.

It's not about living a passive life.

But what's even more important about this idea that everything is divine is to take this inside.

So take this inside your soul that you're not off path right now.

You're not living a poor version of you.

There isn't some other version of you that you could be doing.

If you'd only made a different choice.

This path is divine.

This path is interesting.

There's no such thing.

Even you can think,

Oh,

You know what?

I made this plan.

I'm going to start this exercise program.

I'm going to start this meditation program.

I'm going to lose this weight.

I'm going to gain some weight.

I'm going to get bulky.

I'm going to make a million dollars,

Whatever it is.

I made a plan and then I got distracted by something,

Something big.

Maybe it was just Tuesday.

Who knows?

But you got distracted.

But in Tantra,

The distraction is also a movement of the divine.

It's just life.

It's not wrong.

It's not off path.

This is the path.

Imagine,

Just imagine the peace it feels inside,

Knowing that you're always on path.

And in every moment,

We make choices.

And the beautiful thing about that is we often hold a lot of weird regret,

Not weird,

But we hold regret and guilt and shame for choices we've made.

There's no such thing.

These are all fabrications of the mind.

Guilt,

Shame,

Regret.

And again,

If you need to go and make amends because you have regret for something you did to someone,

Do it.

Heal that relationship 100%.

But then we have to let it go.

Get back into this present moment.

And this leads into another beautiful aspect of Tantra.

They often say that the Tantrics are masters at finding the sacred in the profane.

In that it doesn't matter what's going on.

You can love it.

You can be here.

It doesn't matter what it is.

It could be doing dishes right now.

William normally does all the dishes in the house.

But right now it's so cold out and it gets cold in the house.

It's just so cold.

Man,

To get to go and do the dishes,

Get all that warm water.

For me,

I sit on my computer.

I'm writing all the time.

I'm working on the computer all the time.

I get cold sitting still,

You know.

I go do the dishes and it's like,

Oh wow,

This feels amazing.

But it can be anything.

Finding the sacred in the profane often comes from that consciousness of gratitude.

Like this morning,

We actually went out for breakfast this morning,

Out into the cold.

And then we stopped by a restaurant,

Not a restaurant,

A store to pick up some stuff for supper.

And I walked in and I knew the lady that was in there.

And she goes,

Oh,

How's it going?

I said,

Amazing.

And she looked at me and she said,

Amazing?

Why is it amazing?

And I said,

Honestly,

Because it's really cold out and I have a warm house and a car that starts.

And I don't have to be out in this today.

And I'm really grateful for that.

And there's something about just being grateful for everything we have.

I often,

If I,

You know,

We all have our Achilles heels.

For me,

I'll get migraines if I think too much,

If I get chewing too hard on the world,

I'll end up with a migraine.

Waking up in the morning and actually not having a headache is like,

Today is a good day.

There is something about loving all the tiny little things in life.

Everything from shoveling the snow to doing the dishes to the thrill of automatic washing machines.

You know,

The wonder of us getting to be here around the world,

Chit-chatting together,

Gathering together.

This is like a miracle.

This is amazing.

You know,

Imagine right now,

Whether you're here present right now listening,

Or you are listening to the recording after.

Imagine simply sitting and saying,

Boy,

This is a good day.

I appreciate this.

This is so lovely.

You know,

Like,

One day we may look back and go,

Remember those Insight Timer days?

Those were good days,

Nice people.

Well,

Then why don't right now we all like,

Take a deep breath and go,

Ah,

This is a good day.

You know,

It just changes everything.

Another big thing that really helps me,

A teacher told me this a long time ago,

And she said,

Whatever you do when you come into conflict,

Expand.

Because our default in the world is to contract.

We contract in fear,

We contract in anger,

We contract in shame,

We contract in guilt.

No matter what,

Expand.

So if you're having thoughts about yourself that are challenging,

Take a deep breath,

Take 10 deep breaths,

And expand.

What else is possible?

What am I not seeing here that's actually perfect?

If you're having a difficult conversation with someone,

Take a deep breath and allow for an expansion of what's going on.

Because sometimes when you're having a discussion or an argument with someone,

It feels like a knot,

Right?

It just feels like you're just stuck right there.

So imagine releasing the knot and opening up to what else is possible.

And this simple thing,

This simple teaching has stuck in my head for probably over 20 years,

That when in doubt,

Expand.

Because this is our nature.

This is who we really are.

This is what it is to actually be human.

I think one of the most beautiful things about this path of being tantric,

Being present,

Kind of having this meditative presence,

No matter what,

In challenges,

In quiet,

In adversity,

In everything,

Is life genuinely changes in ways that we can't fathom.

We are so used to living in a pattern that just cycles for years and years and years.

It's like,

You know,

I might be 56 years old,

But did I live one year 56 times?

Or did I live 56 different years?

And when we can stay present and actually make new choices outside of our old patterns,

Outside of our old reactions,

Like when you really think of the word reaction,

It's a reaction.

It's just taking an old action and doing it again and again and again and again,

Mindlessly.

Right?

It's that difference between a response and a reaction.

When we really make new choices in every moment with people that you're sure would never change,

Whole new worlds will open up.

Your relationships with people,

You know,

Five years from now,

You'll look back and say,

You couldn't have told me this could have happened.

And it sounds crazy,

But it really is magical.

Like it really is,

Like it is,

It's like this world opens up and it becomes so sparkly.

And it isn't just a belief.

It's because we lived it.

We watched it.

We watched ourselves go from this horrible knot in an argument to breathing deeply,

Expanding,

Sharing how much we love the other person,

Saying there's got to be some other ways to look at this.

And somehow the situation healed and it changed.

And later it's like,

Wow,

It's just gone.

It's just gone.

And now our relationship is on a whole new level.

And then eventually we end up with this crazy optimism about life.

Not because we're pie in the sky,

Rose colored glasses,

But because we've lived it.

We've seen crazy situations turn themselves around.

We've seen relationships shift and change into loving things.

We've seen ourselves change.

We've seen our own,

Maybe our own physical health or our relationship situation or our finances or our happiness shift so radically.

Suddenly,

All of a sudden,

Even when hard things happen,

You kind of start getting that weird little guru twinkle in your eye where you're like,

Hmm,

Wonder how this is going to turn out.

You know,

No matter how bad it is,

It's kind of like,

Well,

This will be good for the plot.

I wonder what's coming next.

And people might think,

Well,

You're not taking this seriously enough.

And it's like,

No,

It's the seriousness in you that's blocking all the options.

You know,

We have to take this with the right frame of mind.

And so in the end,

It always just comes down to first believing that there is actually a straight path.

We don't have to fall into the patterns and the drama and all that.

We actually can walk forward and that this is a really joyful path.

We just have to slow down and we just have to breathe.

We have to get over the addiction to the emotional highs and lows.

And then we just think and we actually look at the other person and we come into this moment and we fully experience it.

And we ask ourselves,

What do I really want right now?

You know,

First chakra,

Heart chakra,

Crown chakra,

What do I really want right now?

And then see what comes.

It changes everything.

It's like so amazing.

So thank you so much for being here and I hope you have a wonderful day.