How to overcome the hurtful memories?
Usually we are so fragile,
So easy to hurt.
We are vulnerable and easy to hurt.
Once you are hurt,
You have a scar and it's always easy to hurt.
But we have to understand why we are so fragile,
So vulnerable,
Easy to hurt.
Because in a long time,
We cultivated the selfishness within ourselves without knowing.
And also didn't enough be thoughts for other people's problems and weakness.
So that means if we learn how to be thoughtful for others,
And also if we have some realization,
Self-centeredness actually becomes hurt ourselves.
You know,
This is a condition of hurt ourselves,
Cause and condition,
Hurt ourselves.
We have to understand this.
That means you let everybody walk on you.
Anybody do anything,
You let them do it,
Doesn't mean that.
But already done once,
Already,
Whatever unfair you think other people are doing for you,
Absolutely not acceptable,
Unforgettable,
And often hurt you,
That's already done and still affecting.
You cannot get out.
This is,
We must overcome.
So how to do it is first how we are fragile and vulnerable,
Think that.
And then the other people hurt you,
Think of them.
Maybe they are more than you,
They are vulnerable and fragile,
More than you,
More than us,
In different ways.
It's not just maybe almost guarantee.
They are fragile and they are vulnerable and more than us in different ways.
Therefore they hurt you,
Therefore they are unfair.
So just remember that first.
So how do we know that?
Because somebody wise and not vulnerable never hurt you,
Never hurt us.
Anybody unfair hurt us,
Definitely they have more problems than us because we not hurt others as much as he or she did to us.
So that is the real sign we are not most vulnerable,
Especially if we able to think this,
Be able to think this thoroughly,
That means we are much better.
So who hurt us is more fragile.
They need much more help,
But not necessarily we can help directly.
May possible,
But may not possible.
But someone need help them definitely.
Anybody who has that position can help,
They can do it.
Not necessarily us,
Right now,
Not maybe you yet.
Anybody hurt have incredible consequences,
But this person don't know,
That's why hurting others.
Sometimes they don't even know hurting you,
Hurting us,
They just do.
They think they're right in doing,
They're doing the right thing.
Sometimes they do purposely,
That's even worse.
That means they don't know,
They don't aware the consequences.
So if we able to cultivate this awareness and thoughtfulness,
Then we begin to realize these people need help,
These people are really fragile and vulnerable.
And sometimes also people,
The most vulnerable,
Most fragile ones,
Pretend they're tough and brave as.
So we have to have this awareness first and be thoughtful on this.
So our feelings will going to change.
Sometimes even you can be able to love and feel sorry for them.
I mean first you can feel sorry for them and then slowly you able to apply love,
Kindness,
Compassion.
So you no longer hurt,
No longer hurt.
Sometimes amazingly change the opposite,
Opposite way.
May not that fast for everyone,
But gradually for everybody going to be change,
Change your memories.
And become much better,
Guarantee become a better.
The only difference is how fast the change or slow is different because the people have different capacity.
Some people maybe cannot do that directly,
They have to take up slow process.
That means we have to another approach,
Ordinary approach.
Whatever individuals find that could be help,
But that help is limited.
It help for but limit.
So eventually we have to understand these other people's weakness.
They are more vulnerable than us in different ways.
And you can have better transformation ourself.
You can have yourself,
For yourself,
This better transformation.
So how to do this?
You have to meditate on this analytical meditation.
Sometimes what I have said.
Sometimes you just remember these are bad people,
Appears bad people.
They are not always bad.
Many lifetimes they are too kind to you and maybe you are wasn't too kind to them.
That's why I have some problem this lifetime to you,
For us.
So it's important we apply kindness,
Compassion toward them.
Not physically necessarily.
If you able to do,
Of course,
No problem.
But more importantly from the mentally we meditate on.
And this person,
In many times,
Many lifetimes,
Your kind mother or your kind partner,
Wife,
Husband or even your children.
Whatever suitable for you,
Think of that.
And this time did a little mistake so you can forgive easily.
So you can have deep breathing in,
Deep breathing out,
Or start.
In that way,
After you analyze it,
Then single-pointly,
Feel your heart,
Feel your body.
Even listen to the birds,
Listen to the nature.
That's not too bad.
But if you able to feel your inside body,
Inside heart,
Even better.
The main message is you have to understand who heard you have their own problems.
Their husbands have problems and they have continued to have problems.
They have future,
They have problems,
Even bigger.
So you try to feel sorry for them.
Try to have some compassion to them.
And then you feel much better.
This is the only way you forget the memories.
All the memories never hurt you anymore.
Any other methods are the limit.
This one has limitless potential,
Help you gradually,
Guarantee for gradually help.
Definitely.
