Hello and welcome.
Through life,
And especially during childhood,
The most of us are taught on why to not feel certain feelings,
And what feelings to actually experience or to want.
And of course,
In the majority of cases,
This is done in an unconscious way.
It is either through our caregivers who didn't know any better.
And this,
Especially the caregiver part,
Comes pretty often in one-on-one teachings,
And in one-on-one working with people.
And one thing that I really want to bring up is that people cannot give you what they do not have.
So someone who does not have the emotional capacity to feel their uncomfortable feelings,
Because they were never taught how to,
Cannot give you the gift of feeling your feelings,
Of accepting your feelings unconditionally.
People cannot give you something that they do not have,
And people cannot teach you something that they do not know.
This is a very important point to understand and to let go of the resentment.
And of course,
As we dive deeper into one-on-one coachings,
It is way more complex than just this.
But this is a very common thing that often comes up and that I really want to share,
Because this is very common.
The second thing is life,
Certain situations,
Our need,
Our want to be,
Our desire to be accepted,
To fit in somewhere,
To receive love,
To be seen.
And we change ourselves,
Because all of us have this need to be part of something,
To be part of a group,
To be part of a community,
Because we as humans,
We are social creatures,
So we need other people.
And without knowing,
Without consciously choosing to,
This is very commonly done unconsciously.
We choose to deny certain aspects of ourselves,
We choose to deny certain feelings,
And we choose to thrive in another direction,
And the one that we find that can be accepted.
Of course,
This is done unconsciously,
And for many people,
It takes certain amount of work to come to this realization.
And even then,
For some people,
It is still hard to accept.
And that is okay.
We all have our different pieces of lessons and wisdom that we are receiving at the moment,
And we will work with the right thing at the right time,
According to a greater plan.
But if this guidance resonates with you right now,
I will continue the idea that I'm explaining.
And I'd love to know in the comments which part stays with you,
And which part resonates with you.
So,
As we learn to accept certain parts of ourselves,
Certain emotions,
And deny others,
While we grow up,
We end up,
Most of us,
With a very limited aspect,
Or a very limited spectrum of emotions that we are allowed to feel.
And it takes conscious work,
It takes mental health,
Or spiritual awareness,
To start in doing the work to broaden our spectrum of emotions,
Our spectrum of accepted emotions.
A practice that can be really helpful for this is somatic meditation,
Or silence meditation.
When you just sit with yourself,
And you pay attention to your feelings,
You pay attention to the somatic expression of your feelings.
For example,
If you're feeling anger,
Notice how your muscles contract,
Or are contracted and tense.
Notice how your body is reacting to that anger.
If you do this every day,
In a certain length of time,
You will realize that each day,
You are broadening your acceptance to your emotions a bit more.
And with time,
There is a certain wisdom that is gained from this.
And the very beauty of this,
The very inspiring thing for me in this work,
Is that through the work that we do with ourselves,
We can bring it forward to the future generations.
So this kind of non-acceptance of the self,
And therefore the people around us,
Because what we deny in ourselves,
We deny it in others.
If you suppress your anger,
You are going to push others to do the same,
Because in itself,
This suppression is a form of protection to something that you see dangerous.
And of course,
This cannot be this conscious way of thinking,
But it is an unconscious pattern of reacting and responding,
That is more reacting,
Actually,
Than responding to our emotions,
To certain aspects of life.
But when you feel your anger,
When you receive its message,
Because you have to feel it for you to receive the message,
To receive the peace of wisdom,
And for you to let it go,
After that,
You are more at peace with yourself.
You have this sense of ease,
But also,
You have this peace of wisdom.
Anger tells you where your boundaries are not being respected,
Either by others,
But also by yourself.
Grief brings you the peace of accepting that things are not how they could be,
How you'd want them to be,
How you expected them to be.
And sometimes,
There is great wisdom in this,
Because in order for us to take action,
To change the present reality into something greater,
We have to accept the present reality.
And sometimes,
We are so stuck into our desired reality,
That we do not accept what is actually going on.
And the gap between these two is grief.
So,
Having the courage to learn how to feel the uncomfortable emotions is going to bring you more peace with your reality,
With your life.
And your body is going to feel this too,
Because all these stuck emotions,
These unfelt emotions,
They are stuck in our bodies.
Our bodies have a very physiological response to these emotions,
To these stuck emotions in our physiology.
So,
This practice not only has spiritual and mental benefits,
Helping you to come closer to your higher self,
To your center,
But also,
It is very rich in somatic and physical benefits,
Because so many of the diseases come from how we are stuck in our own mind and body during life.
And I love that science is coming forth more and more every day with these new concepts and ideas.
And what actually surprises me is that these concepts have been going on for a good while,
And yet,
The most of the population knows so little about them.
But also,
In the last decade,
More and more people are coming in touch with these concepts,
And the collective awareness about mental health and its effects in our bodies is coming to a greater understanding.
That is so beautiful.
And thank you so much for being here,
And thank you so much for taking time to invest in yourself and your well-being.
Sending you so much love,
And I will hear again in the next recording.
Bye for now.
