Find Your Abundant Mindset

Hello well-being family,

Lovely to be with you again.

I'm recording and again I've got a great topic.

I get so excited when I think of the topics I want to talk about and then I can spend a whole week just thinking about them and exploring them and thinking about what I want to say really,

Consolidating my thoughts.

I guess that's it.

So I want to thank you because this podcast really gives me the opportunity to dive more deeply into things that interest me and I think they interest you too,

Judging by the fact that people are listening.

So thank you,

It's awesome.

And today what I wanted to talk about is what is an abundance mindset?

And the reason that I've been thinking about this is that I've been using an abundance mantra and doing a practice,

I think I mentioned this a few weeks ago,

Doing a practice of abundance with the abundance mantra Om Shreem Maha Lakshmi Namaha and you can work with a mantra over 40 days where you repeat the mantra 108 times morning and evening or just in the evening or combine it with a breathing practice,

A pranayama,

And it can be a very profound way to just ground and centre yourself.

I always find that I do these practices when I'm needing,

When things are going a little bit hectic and I'm needing grounding,

I'm needing to find my centre and it's extremely powerful.

So while I was doing the abundance practice I kept reflecting on well what actually is abundance?

Because I guess on social media I come across a lot of the abundance is about money or abundance is about health or abundance is about having the car that you want or the house that you want and I know deeply in my gut that it's not about those things,

Those things are sort of external manifestations that can happen when I'm in an abundant mindset.

So it's set me thinking about well what is an abundant mindset and what does it equate to?

Because I know that when I'm in an abundant mindset life feels glorious and actually what I what I came to in the end is that abundance is equivalent to joy actually.

When I'm feeling abundant,

Which is the opposite of lack,

Then I'm generally feeling connected and joyful and I know that it has nothing to do with the things that I have,

The money that I have or even the health that I have or the things that I have.

Don't get me wrong,

All of those things I'm deeply grateful for but I know that I've been in situations where I've had all of those things but I haven't felt abundant.

Whereas now I still have those things and I feel abundant and it's coming from a different place,

It's kind of a place of being able to appreciate what I actually have.

So it's much more about my mental attitude than it is about the things themselves.

I guess that's where I'm driving and that mental attitude has an awful lot to do with appreciation,

Gratitude and connection and I think connection is actually a really key piece of this because what I know is that when I go on retreat and we're doing group every day and I'm feeling very connected and others are feeling connected,

We build an abundant experience.

It becomes incredibly rich and abundant and so feeling connected is definitely associated with a sense of abundance which is interesting right because in Australia we now have a huge loneliness problem,

A huge issue with lack of connection and I think hand in hand with that goes a feeling of lack and the lack extends not just into a lack of connection but a lack of everything in life,

Feeling a sense of lack.

Like we are the richest,

One of the richest nations in the world,

In fact I think we are the richest because of the housing,

Kind of crazy housing bubble that's happened.

So now anyone who owns a house is part of the very richest elite in the world and yet we're not the happiest we've ever been,

Right?

So I guess I equate abundance,

Having an abundant mindset with feeling connected and feeling joyful and for that for me that really is abundance.

So when we're allowing abundance we're also allowing joy and of course you know there's different ways to think about joy and abundance in terms of how much there is in the world.

Like what I hear a lot of is this attitude that there's only so much abundance,

There's only so much money,

There's only so much health,

There's only so much housing,

There's only so much abundance and joy.

It's like a pie that we feel is being divided up and that if I take too much of my share I will limit someone else from having their fair share,

Right?

And this is kind of leading into what I want to talk about next which is what blocks us from our abundance,

Right?

So I want to give you an alternative way of thinking about this because if you have that pie mentality,

If that's ringing a bell for you and I certainly had that pie mentality,

Wow,

Ten years ago I really had the pie mentality which is actually what blocked me from a lot of my abundance.

I didn't feel I was deserving,

I didn't feel that I should take more than my share because clearly you know there was a limited pie here and if I took too much then other people would be suffering and who was I to think that I could take more?

It's a very limited view of the way abundance and joy works.

So I want to give you an alternative model really which is that maybe,

Just maybe,

Abundance and joy are unlimited.

Yeah,

I can hear the cogs turning,

Right?

But I wonder if you can even imagine that there might just be an endless supply of this feeling of abundance.

Even if you can't go with the endless supply of money and housing and health,

Try an endless supply of abundance,

The feeling of abundance,

Right?

You feeling abundant doesn't stop anyone else from having their feeling of abundance.

I really can't find an argument with that,

Right?

But if I choose to feel lack,

That's also not,

You know,

By choosing to feel lack all I'm doing is robbing myself of abundance,

I'm not robbing anyone else of their abundance.

So if we move into this idea of what blocks us from feeling abundant,

Because this is what I have experienced a lot in my life and also what I see in my clients,

You know,

I came up with a lot of reasons that we don't feel abundant and they're kind of similar also to the things that block us from feeling satisfaction when things are actually going well,

Right?

So,

You know,

Often what I see in my own life and with my clients is that things are going well but it's very hard to feel the satisfaction of those things going well.

Immediately the anxiety wants to take root and shift towards all the things that are not going well,

You know,

The pain body instead of just allowing the joy body to just be there even for a fleeting moment,

Right?

So what blocks us from feeling abundant?

I wonder what blocks you?

I wonder what you know blocks you from feeling abundant?

So here are some of the things I came up with that I know have blocked me in the past and also what I see with my work and the first one is not feeling deserving which is kind of related to some of the others which are you know a sense of self-criticism and self-loathing and self-judgment and feeling shame and all of that comes from not having taken a healing journey,

A healing journey which can meet that shame,

Meet those stories and transform them into what they can be which is just experiences,

Right?

Experiences where we can draw a line and then move forward but so often people choose not to take that healing journey because it's not for everyone and it takes courage and you need to be able to feel things and you need to be able to move through those experiences,

Those past experiences and transform them,

Transform them so that you can live in a more abundant place.

So you know this is probably the prime reason I think for not feeling abundant,

This lack of self-love,

You know judging ourselves as not enough,

Not good enough,

Not enough,

Not perfect enough,

All of those things and then that feeds into a sense of competition with others,

Feeling that others are somehow better and when you're in that place that's a really,

I know that place and it's not a nice place to be because all of these states have the total opposite vibration to abundance,

The total opposite vibration and so I have got a little experiential to offer you here to just see if you can transform like if you recognize any of those places and look I know that I lived in those places for many,

Many years feeling shame,

Self-loathing,

That others were more deserving,

That I didn't deserve,

You know a real lack of self-compassion,

Lack of self-love.

So if you experience that here's a little exercise to try to see if you can just make a little tiny shift right because what I know about this is it is shiftable,

It is very,

Very shiftable and that when you move from living in a sense of lack to living in a sense of abundance,

Life just warms up,

It becomes rich,

It's like the flowers are blooming and the colors turn on and the music is playing,

It's a beautiful thing.

So maybe close your eyes and just think,

Well don't do this if you're driving right but maybe come back to it when you're not driving,

Close your eyes and take a deep breath and just think to yourself where do you feel in your life a sense of lack?

Is it around money?

Is it around health?

Is it around relationships?

Is it around intimacy?

Where do you feel lack?

And notice how that feels in your body because it will have a physical signature in your body,

Maybe put your hand wherever you can feel a sensation.

And now I want you to think,

What can you say to yourself in the present tense,

As if it's happening right now,

That would be abundant about this issue?

What can you say to yourself and say it in the present tense,

As if it's happening now,

That would be an abundance in this issue?

For example,

Money flows to me easily or my health is vibrant or I attract loving,

Generous,

Warm-hearted friends or my perfect partner is out there waiting for me.

What could you say to yourself?

Say it in the present tense.

And now notice what does it feel like when you say those words to yourself,

Maybe where you've got your hand and you were feeling that sense of lack has now shifted,

So just notice what's happening and maybe there's a new sensation in your body and if so that will be your physiological signature for abundance.

I know for me it's in my chest,

It's a sense of expansion,

It's also in my throat,

It's like excitement and expansion.

Now if you've found some words that really worked for you and you notice that shift,

You can work with that every day,

Keep that close to you,

That's your mantra.

Wake up in the morning,

Say it to yourself ten times.

Before you go to bed at night,

Say it to yourself ten times and really allow it into your life and just notice what happens.

So you can start a practice today.

So the last thing I want to say about this is to just go back to this sense of connection and abundance.

I know that when I feel connected I feel so abundant and this is something I want you to think about,

How can you find more connection in your life?