The body check-in.
Welcome.
This is a practice you can come back to again and again and again.
A way of checking in with yourself that doesn't begin with,
What am I thinking?
Oh,
What's wrong?
But with something much simpler.
What's happening in my body.
Because our bodies are giving us information all the time,
You see.
And many of us have become much better at interpreting everybody else's signals.
Than our own.
We notice the slight change in someone's voice,
The look on their face,
The atmosphere in a room,
The message that didn't quite sound right.
Meanwhile,
Our own jaw has been clenched for 20 minutes,
Our shoulders are somewhere around our ears,
Our stomach is doing somersaults and we haven't noticed a thing.
So today,
We're practicing noticing,
Not fixing.
Not diagnosing,
Not digging.
Just noticing.
Find a position that feels comfortable enough.
Allow your body to be supported.
And if it feels right.
Gently close your eyes.
Or soften your gaze.
First,
Notice the space around you,
Sounds,
Temperature.
The surface underneath you.
Let yourself arrive here.
And then bring your attention into your body.
You don't have to scan every inch.
Just ask.
Where is my attention naturally drawn?
Maybe somewhere immediately it announces itself.
Your chest,
Your belly,
Your throat.
Your jaw,
Your shoulders,
Your hands.
Maybe nowhere does,
And that's okay.
We're going to explore three things,
Sensation,
Emotion and urge.
And we start with sensation because sensation is simply What does this actually feel like?
So go ahead and notice somewhere in your body right now.
But all your focus.
And become curious about the physical qualities of what you're experiencing.
Is there tightness?
Warmth?
Coolness.
Maybe pressure?
Movement.
Heaviness.
Lightness,
Buzzing.
Fluttering.
Holding softness.
Space.
You don't need to choose from my words.
Find your own.
What does it actually feel like?
Be sure to feel.
Before you find the words.
And notice how quickly the mind may want to provide the explanation.
My chest is tight because.
.
.
My stomach feels like this because.
.
.
My shoulders hurt because.
.
.
See if you can gently come back from the story,
Back to the sensation.
Right now.
What does it feel like?
That's our first layer.
Sensation.
Now let's become curious about emotion.
If this sensation had an emotional quality.
What might be here?
Not what should you be feeling.
Not what makes sense,
What might actually be here.
Emerging from the sensation in your body.
Maybe sadness.
Anger,
Fear,
Excitement,
Relief.
Frustration,
Tenderness,
Loneliness.
Joy,
Disappointment,
Contentment.
Grief or anticipation?
Maybe several things.
Humans are wonderfully inconvenient like that.
We can love somebody and be furious with them at the same time.
We can feel excited and terrified,
Relieved and sad,
Grateful and exhausted.
You don't have to reduce yourself to one neat emotional word.
And you may not know what you're feeling.
That's allowed too.
I don't know yet is a perfectly good check-in.
So.
Sensation.
What am I noticing physically?
Emotion.
What might I be feeling?
And now the third layer.
Urge.
What does this feeling make me want to do?
What does this feeling make me want to do?
This is an interesting one because emotions often come with movement.
Anger might want to push away,
Fear might want to run,
Shame might want to hide.
Sadness might want to curl inward.
Excitement might want to move towards something.
Connection might want to reach out.
So without acting on anything.
Simply notice.
What does my body want to do?
Move towards,
Move away.
Maybe speak,
Go quiet.
Cry,
Shout.
Hide.
Reach.
Rest,
Move,
Protect.
Hold on,
Let go.
You're not giving the urge control.
You're listening to it.
There is a difference.
An urge is information,
Not an instruction.
And that's important.
You can notice,
I really want to send that message without sending it.
I want to run away.
Without packing a suitcase.
I want to shout.
Without shouting.
We can listen to what our bodies want to do and still choose what we actually do next.
What does your body want to do?
And underneath that urge,
There may be a need.
So how about we ask one final question?
What might I need?
What might I need?
Maybe reassurance,
Maybe you need space,
Rest,
Connection.
A boundary.
Support,
Time.
Maybe you need to say no to say yes.
To be heard,
To be alone.
To be held.
What might you need?
Or perhaps you simply need a few more minutes before you know.
Notice what happens when the question changes from,
What's wrong with me?
To what's happening in me.
There's a very different conversation available here.
So let's put the whole practice together.
Sensation.
What am I noticing in my body?
Emotion.
What might I be feeling?
Urge.
What does this make me want to do?
Need.
What might support me right now.
You won't always have beautiful,
Clear answers.
This isn't about becoming perfectly fluent in your body.
It's about building a relationship with it.
And relationships grow through attention.
Through curiosity,
Through returning.
So perhaps let's sometime later today.
Stop for 30 seconds.
And us.
Sensation.
Emotion.
Urge.
Need.
That's enough.
Now feel whatever is supporting you.
Notice the room around you.
Take an ordinary breath.
Start to move your fingers and your toes,
Maybe stretch,
Take up space.
And when you're ready.
Only when you're ready,
Gently,
Gently open your eyes.
If they've been closed.
You don't have to understand yourself perfectly.
But perhaps you can become a little bit more interested in listening.
Your body isn't always asking you to fix something.
Sometimes.
It's simply asking to be included.