Hello everyone and welcome to the meditation channel.
Whenever you're ready close your eyes,
Get yourself in a seated position or lie down.
Today's meditation is designed to help you deal with difficult family members.
This can be very triggering,
Very difficult at times in our lives.
And so whenever you're ready,
Just centering yourself and focusing on your breathing.
Breathing into you,
Breathing into your heart and just trying your best to get yourself relaxed.
Slowing down the breath,
Focusing on your energy and just noticing how you feel today.
If you are doing this meditation after a situation where you faced confrontation,
You may notice that you are feeling quite tense.
This is normal,
But you can shift your state of being.
So take your energy and focus and attention away from them and bring it to you.
And setting intentions now as you breathe.
So calling in an energy,
Maybe think of peace,
Calm,
Love,
Whatever resonates with you.
And so on the in-breath you're breathing in that intention and you can say it in your mind.
And on the out-breath releasing that tension,
That heaviness.
I like to visualize it as a black cloud.
So on the out-breath just seeing that black energy leave my body.
And on the in-breath that peace,
That love entering my body,
My heart.
Doing this for a few breaths,
Peace and love.
Seeing that white energy moving and soothing your heart.
And on the out-breath releasing that heaviness,
Calming down your nervous system,
Allowing yourself to be at peace as much as you can right now.
Family can be very challenging.
They can become our greatest teachers at the same time.
And I know this is difficult to accept especially when there is pain and resentment or anger involved.
But if you can learn to not allow them to affect you as much,
You have mastered a very powerful skill.
And so,
I want you to think about what happened or what is likely to happen when you see them.
And I want you to understand one thing about relationships,
Especially family,
They repeat.
What this means is that they can become predictable.
They say something,
It triggers you,
You reply,
It triggers them and then the cycle begins.
And so I invite you today to be ahead of this,
Predict it,
So taking a moment to try and notice the patterns,
The cycles within you and your family.
Now notice how you normally react to the situation,
What is it that hurts you,
That triggers heightened emotions within you.
And ask yourself why.
Why does it upset you so much?
Is it because you want them to validate you,
To love you,
To be kinder to you?
What are you expecting to receive from them?
Now what if I tell you that you're never going to get that from them?
Is that something that you can accept or somewhat accept?
And the reason why I'm saying this is,
If you can learn to let this go,
Which means accepting them,
Then you can move on and find a different approach,
A different perspective and a different hopeful solution.
But as long as you keep expecting,
As long as you keep hoping and never receive that,
Well,
You're going to end up back in the cycle and in the loop.
If you want to change this relationship,
It will not come from them.
It has to start from you.
Where you hold your power and your light is by choosing differently.
And to begin with,
By choosing to see them in a different light.
No longer expecting them to love you the way that you hope,
To see you the way that you hope.
When you can let go of that,
Your heart actually can open up a little more and you can see the situation for what it really is,
For who they really are.
And from there,
You can choose who to be.
No longer giving them the power,
But you're taking your power back.
And so,
Playing a scenario in your mind where the cycle begins,
Imagine not reacting.
Imagine holding your strength.
Imagine not being affected because you can see beyond the pain and the hurt and the anger.
And now I want you to visualize yourself connecting to some higher power,
To a light above.
Feeling connected to something much bigger and greater than this moment.
As if a wave of strength moves down upon you,
Grounds you and anchors you in your light.
And now,
How would you like to react instead?
So play the reaction in your mind.
Now I invite you to react from love and peace,
Whether it's to ignore them,
Whether to choose to say something kind instead of something mean,
Or maybe to just,
I don't know,
Whatever resonates with you.
So take a moment to really visualize that,
Where you can have a win-win outcome.
Beautiful.
And notice how much different you feel because of this choice.
Notice how your body feels,
Your heart feels,
Your energy.
Notice the shift.
And above all,
Notice how much more empowered and in control you feel.
Now,
This is something that you need to rehearse time and time again.
Because for many,
Many years you've been stuck in the cycle,
So that cycle is ingrained in your subconscious.
And so to break the cycle,
You must train yourself.
And I promise you,
The time will come when the cycle will be activated and you will remember this moment.
You will remember the light.
You will remember who you can be.
And when you do,
You will choose differently and you will break the cycle.
You will know that you have made something happen differently.
Now,
How they react,
It's their problem.
You just hold your light,
Hold your love,
Hold your power.
And walk away with your head held high in light,
In love and in peace.
This is easier said than done,
But I've seen it happen.
And I promise you,
It can create miracles.
And so for the moment,
Just hold that light,
Hold that identity.
Hold that version of you that is above the anger,
The sadness.
Just feel that energy,
That strength and notice how your light can influence and affect others to find theirs.
And so whenever you're ready,
Place your hand upon your heart.
And I want you now to give yourself everything that you wish they gave you.
The love,
The validation,
The approval.
You don't need it from them.
In this moment,
You can give it to yourself.
So tell yourself everything you wished they did.
Amazing.
So honoring that within yourself and reminding yourself that you can give yourself this.
And so it's time to come back now.
Deepening your breath,
Beginning to expand your awareness outwards.
When it feels right,
Maybe wiggle your toes and fingers.
Maybe give yourself a stretch and slowly,
Slowly open your eyes.
