Equanimity is a wonderful quality,
Spaciousness and balance of heart.
Although it grows naturally with our meditation practice,
Equanimity can also be cultivated in the same systematic way that we have,
Used for loving kindness and compassion.
We can feel this possibility of balance in our hearts,
In the midst of life when we recognize that life is not in our control.
We are a small part of a great dance.
Even though we may cultivate a boundless compassion for others and strive to alleviate suffering in the world,
There will still be many situations we are unable to affect.
The well-known Serenity Prayer says,
May I have the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Wisdom recognizes that all beings are heir to their own karma,
That they each act and receive the fruits of their actions.
We can deeply love others and offer them assistance,
But in the end,
They must learn for themselves and they must be the source of their own liberation.
Equanimity combines an understanding mind together with a compassionate heart.
To cultivate equanimity,
Sit in a comfortable posture with your eyes closed.
Bring a soft tension to your breath until your body and mind are calm.
Then begin by reflecting on the benefit of a mind that has balance and equanimity.
Sense what a gift it can be to bring a peaceful heart to the world around you.
Let yourself feel an inner sense of balance and ease.
Then begin repeating such phrases as,
May I be balanced and at peace.
Acknowledge that all created things rise and pass away.
Joys,
Sorrows,
Pleasant events,
People,
Buildings,
Animals,
Nations,
Even whole civilizations.
Let yourself rest in the midst of them.
Add the phrases,
May I learn to see the arising and passing of all nature with equanimity and balance.
May I be open and balanced and peaceful.
Acknowledge that all beings are heirs to their own actions and that their lives arise and pass away according to conditions and deeds created by them.
While we can love and care for others,
We cannot fix them nor love for them.
To find equanimity with others,
Add the phrase,
Your happiness and suffering depend on your thoughts and actions and not my wishes for you.
In the next steps,
You can wish peace and equanimity for specific people you know and then to those beyond,
Individually or in groups.
Wishing,
May you learn to see the arising and passing of all things with equanimity and peace.
May you have true equanimity.
May you be balanced and peaceful.
May you live with a peaceful heart.
Finally,
You can expand your field of equanimity to the whole world.
May I bring compassion and equanimity to the events of the world.
Others happiness and suffering depends on their thoughts and actions and not my wishes for them.
May I find balance,
Equanimity and peace amidst it all.
May I learn to see the arising and passing of all things with equanimity and balance.
May I be open and balanced and peaceful.
May I live with a peaceful heart.
