Changing Our Relationship With Our Anxious Thoughts My love,
You are not your thoughts.
Your thoughts can be useful,
But please,
My love,
Do not give your thoughts free rein.
At their best,
Our thoughts can act as a helpful informant,
As a singular source of information that can be used along with our emotions to make decisions and move through the world.
At their worst,
Thoughts can derail our dreams,
Lead us away from our values,
And keep us stuck in old patterns that are no longer helpful.
My love,
It may not be easy to get rid of our old patterns of thinking,
But the goal is not to get rid of these thoughts,
It is to change our relationship with the thoughts.
Changing our relationship with our thoughts means changing our perspective on the thought.
You see,
Our circular,
Ruminative thoughts,
Those thoughts that do not give us any new information and keep us stuck,
Those thoughts are not you.
Those are just old,
Learned patterns.
I invite you to shift your perspective to the observer of these thoughts.
As the observer,
You no longer are fused to the thought,
And you see it as separate from yourself.
As the observer,
You can decide what you want to do with the thought as it arises.
Remember,
These thoughts are not truth.
These thoughts are a reflexive product of an old pattern.
You did not ask for these thoughts,
You do not want these thoughts,
And you cannot stop these thoughts from arising.
This is actually great news.
This means your thoughts giving you distress are just a combination of words you have learned to think at certain times.
Your thoughts,
Especially your circular thoughts,
Are probably not giving you any useful information.
This means,
My love,
We do not have to pay attention to those thoughts.
To move our attention away from the thought as the observer,
We can follow a few steps.
First,
We notice the thought is arising,
Which is separate from ourselves.
Next,
We can label the thought as an old pattern of the mind.
Then set it aside.
We can then notice the emotion that comes with the old pattern of thinking,
And also set that emotion aside.
From there,
We can then continue to move in the direction of what we value,
Instead of being moved in the direction of our fears.
Your desire to change your relationship with your thoughts means you're ready to live in a higher vibration.
You're ready to move past the intrusive thoughts that are keeping you caged and fearful.
My love,
I want you to live,
Experience the world,
And make decisions from the most true and authentic parts of you,
From your knowing.
Making decisions based in fear because we are listening to our fear thinking means that you are not choosing yourself.
When we are in fear,
We are not in our authentic selves.
You,
My love,
Are learning to trust yourself.
You are learning to do what is best for you,
And therefore,
Best for other people.
Choosing you,
The authentic you,
Might be scary.
It will probably bring up those fear thoughts.
Those are just thoughts.
The fear does not need to stop us.
The fear must not stop us if we want to live in truth.
Living in our truth means choosing what is best for us,
Even when we are afraid.
Because when we sink down into our knowing,
We see the fear is only on the surface.
Beneath our fear thoughts and fear emotions is a truth.
That truth is stabilizing,
Free,
And joyful.
You are already free from your thoughts.
If you need a reminder,
Be still.
Take a breath.
Allow your thoughts to come and go,
Staying steady in yourself as the observer,
Not as the thought.
Then notice what you are left with after the fear thinking and fear emotions retreat.
Whatever is left is where you are at.
That is where you can find yourself,
My love.
