I am so glad you're here.
Today I want to talk about something that comes up for a lot of us,
Myself included.
It's this idea that if fear shows up,
We must be out of alignment.
We must have done something wrong and we must have fallen off our path.
But alignment does not work like that.
It's not a tight,
Perfect line you're supposed to balance on.
Alignment is a relationship.
It moves with you.
It expands when you expand.
It softens when you soften.
And fear is part of that relationship.
It's one of the ways your nervous system checks in with you.
It says,
Hey,
Something here feels familiar or something here feels new and unclear and I don't know how to navigate it.
Both can wake the same protective response.
But that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong.
It just means your system noticed something.
It means something matters and it's doing its job.
A lot of people think that if they are truly aligned,
They should feel calm all the time.
But that's not even real.
Even people who are deeply aligned still feel fear.
I bring up Beyonce creating Sasha Fierce all the time.
Like if Beyonce needs Sasha Fierce,
Like why can't you have a little fear?
You know?
But the difference is in how they respond to it.
You do not lose alignment when you feel fear.
You deepen alignment when you pay attention to how you respond.
Alignment gets stronger when you pause instead of reacting.
When you take a breath before you make a decision from scarcity.
When you journal what just got activated.
When you notice the pattern instead of letting it run the moment.
And when you set a boundary that supports your energy.
Every one of those actions brings you closer to alignment,
Not further away.
The part that pulls you out of alignment,
Though,
Is not fear.
It's a story that fear sometimes brings with it.
The story that says,
I'm failing,
I'm not smart,
I ruined everything,
I cannot trust myself,
Among the 80 bajillion others we have that play in our head.
But fear offers stories like that because it thinks it's helping.
Sometimes the protection is useful,
But sometimes it's not needed.
But fear always believes it's doing its job,
So what's gonna show up?
So here's the important thing.
The story fear tells is not the problem.
The meaning you give that story is what can pull you out of alignment.
The weight you place on it or the power you hand to it.
You can hear the story without letting it run your life.
You can say,
Hey,
I hear you,
And I know you're trying to protect me,
But I've got this.
I'm the one that chooses what happens next.
So fear can sit beside you and be a passenger princess.
It just doesn't get to drive.
So alignment grows every time you stay present with what fear brings up.
Every time you choose a response that honors who you are and who you are becoming.
Fear is not a sign that you have lost your way.
Fear is a sign that you are moving,
That you are approaching something that matters,
That you are stretching into a new truth about yourself.
And that can be deeply uncomfortable.
Your alignment does not disappear when fear shows up.
It becomes more honest,
More real,
More grounded,
More yours,
And shoot,
More evidence-based.
So when fear rises again,
Take a breath and ask yourself,
What is the self-honoring response I can choose right now?
And let that be your alignment.
Not perfection,
Not control,
Just presence.
Thank you again for being here with me.
I'm so glad that you are choosing to stay in a relationship with yourself,
Even in the moments that feel uncertain.
We all are here living a human experience,
And I'm in it with you.
Until next time,
Take care and be well.
