Space To Grow, A Talk You Need Now

Welcome to the mindful conversation on accountability,

Awareness,

Humility,

And active listening.

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Before we dive in,

Let's take a deep breath.

Let's regulate our nervous system.

Let's open ourselves up.

Let's be in a space to receive,

Bring our energy into a receptive space.

Those are the intentions that we'll set together as we take this deep inhale into the nose ah deep exhale through the mouth let's do two more together just like that inhale into the nose slow exhale from the mouth last intentional breath together inhale and exhale out you're doing good open yourself up put yourself in a space to receive have you ever wondered why you can get a message from one person and get the same message from someone else they're the same message literally the same message one resonates and one doesn't why because you allow yourself to be in the energy of receptivity you are receptive you're allowing yourself to be open and receive so that's exactly what i invite you to do today is to be open be receptive take what you need leave what you don't waste not want not the first thing that i want to talk about is accountability what does that word mean so i come from a military background accountability is just something that is just wired in me okay both my parents military army officer so this is just accountability it's just like there are no this is just accountability it's just like there are no excuses in the world that i come from right growing into a space of compassion i have to realize like okay yes there are certain times in life where like yeah you need to just ease on up into the space of compassion and there are certain times in life where you need to ease on up into the space of showing up so i've i've gained a level of balance in that and so when i talk about accountability i talk about accountability from a space of you are completely healthy you are in a healthy space in your body in your mind in your spirit in your soul how can you show up and be accountable so for me accountability means owning your own stuff own whatever it is if it's you that did it be accountable if it's you that did not do it be accountable what is accountability accountability is stepping up and taking ownership ownership for what is so i love the feeling of accountability because accountability is empowering let me show you how accountability is empowering when i step into a space of accountability i'm no longer a victim because it's no longer you that's making me do anything it's me that's allowing this and so now since i'm allowing this what i have the power to not allow right accountability is stepping from a space of victimhood into a space of victory you are victorious now i love accountable energy accountable energy is like not saying i'm sorry accountable energy is doing better accountability do better don't continue to say i'm sorry for the same things don't continue to apologize for the same things unless stop apologizing it's losing the meaning losing the value stay accountable radically accountable and whatever you have or you don't have stay accountable for that whatever you want be accountable for that be accountable accountability i continue to say this word and i wanted to resonate with you in a deeply rooted space don't look around and judge somebody else all no take accountability do you want more okay show up show up in the ways that you can schedule time management this is how we are accountable don't judge this other person because they're doing this or what you might want to do like uh don't do that because if you are accountable then you can have whatever you want as well you don't have to come from a space of jealousy you can come from a space of empowerment so the next thing that i want to talk about when i talk about accountability to have accountability what do you need to be you need to be aware so awareness awareness is even knowing when you're not taking accountability when you're placing blame when you're not ready to take ownership for your own energy awareness is knowing that maybe i shouldn't dump on this person maybe i should ask them how they're doing today maybe i should ask them if they have the capacity maybe i shouldn't dump on them you know what i'm saying that's awareness awareness is knowing that it's your job to make yourself happy not your partners or somebody that you're with awareness is knowing that okay this is my trigger this is something that uh rubs me the wrong way what can i do to move out of that because again disempowering things are what you what you let control you outside of you external empowering thing is taking your power back bringing the control back to yourself you don't have to relinquish it so awareness is is personal power i'm aware of myself i'm aware of what's happening awareness allows you to not repeat the repetitive cycles some people they just oh my goodness some people are not aware and so they continue their cycles and they wonder why the suffering is happening well the suffering is happening because you're not allowing yourself to be aware awareness awareness bring your awareness you'll hear me say that if you ever join any class of mine any anything you're going to hear me say that i'm going to guide you to bring your awareness such a beautiful thing because when you bring your awareness awareness also requires what attention whatever you bring your attention to it's going to flourish so when you bring your awareness from the external the noise bring it inside you like the sound effects bring it inside now what amplify you brought that attention it's only going to magnify come on now so the next thing humility humility humble experiences allow you to allow you to gain the lesson without being stuck right so my dad shares this information with me about being humble like far as if a situation happens say you win a thousand dollars you don't want to get too bent up out of shape about it you know what i'm saying like not overly zealous not overly happy humble humility knowing that you know it can be up it can be down humility gaining just a neutral perspective again so that the power is not taken out of you so now okay you win this thousand dollars and then you right after you get a bill that costs exactly the thousand dollars you see i'm saying that's why the humility is not you're not too attached to it life has a way of humbling us giving us the humility ah you know sometimes we want to roar with this with this roar hmm we all have an inner lion or lioness and the last portion of this is active listening so active listening active listening is when you are listening not to respond you're listening to gather so you know you're active listening when you're listening to a person talk and you're not thinking about what you're about to say next that is active listening i want you to be in a space to actively listen that's a that's so empowering oh my gosh when you actively listen you don't form opinions you don't form um conclusions you're just listening that is what i mean listen that's that's the special sauce there ain't no special sauce but that is exactly why my clients continue to revere me come back to me i listen to them actively i'm not here i'm not even what i'm not what if i don't even have anything to respond maybe i'm just listening try that try listening not to respond just listen just hear somebody they just like okay you gonna say something yeah i'm just i'm listening to you oh try it out i'm listening to you oh are you gonna say something no i'm just listening i'm listening to you people want to be listened to they want to be heard active listening is such a beautiful tool to add into your toolbox technology has a way of disconnecting us from all of these things from accountability from awareness from humility and from active listening i want to tell you how because you can get on technology and you can hide you don't have to take accountability you can just throw something out there and not even be accountable for the way that your energy has moved or shifted someone else we've moved into a culture that wants to expose but we have to remember that there are consequences this energy that you throw out into the universe is also coming back to you it's not a threat it's a law universal laws you know as above so below you know out in all the things right ebb and flow so that's that's that's what i'm talking about hmm technology has a way of allowing you to disassociate disconnect from the human that's actually behind i want to give you an example you text my phone in the morning because you you're excited about whatever it is that you're texting my phone you don't say good morning laddie you don't say how are you hi anything it's just what did you say that thing was what did you what link what was the link you told me so for me it just depends it depends who you are in my life like it depends if i want you around um i might i might i might you know i'm saying kindly address it and just be like hey how you doing you know and then most people when i when i text back and say hey how you doing they'll they will get right and be like oh i'm so sorry i'm moving so fast and then some people won't that's that awareness but the thing about it is it just depends if i want you around in my life you know i'll i'll check that because i want you around so i want to teach you how to love me you know and i will just you know kindly let you know like hey i'd appreciate it if you check in and say see how i'm doing first yeah that's okay to show people how to love you when you set your boundaries you show people i love you and you show yourself that you're capable of loving yourself completely that's what boundaries are for me i'm showing myself i'm giving myself the opportunity to love myself completely fully wholly hey let's get into it so technology i want you to next time you pick up your phone to go reach out to somebody if you've been doing it in the past hey forgive yourself wake up boom you're here now don't don't don't do this pity party and going into this whole spiral no awareness realize okay and move forward move on uh forgiveness that's it forgiveness is just the simple i'm deciding to forgive myself i'm deciding to forgive myself i don't have to be that person i don't have to live in that lifestyle i don't i forgive myself i forgive myself for buying into the idea that i had to hold on to that i forgive myself for buying into the idea for feeling like i needed i needed quote unquote big quotes to be strong in the face of no so forgiveness is is immediate for yourself especially forgive yourself every single day you're human having a human experience with no no manual no guidebook nothing no instructions intuition listen to it forgive yourself okay be gentle be gentle be gentle when you get that technology you're reaching out to somebody check in hey how are you or however you talk whatever your language is you know check in before you hit that person up ask them jump in they dm whatever check in it's mindful it's beautiful it creates the world that we want to live in you know what i'm saying instead of coming from a space of entitlement oh this person didn't answer they didn't call me back maybe they're going through something you don't know maybe they need a break maybe this is their social media break day you don't know so move in awareness move in awareness and you want to hold everybody to this standard everybody is held to the same exact standard that is exactly how you love yourself out loud at all times you don't have to change who you are for this person that person no this is the boundary this is the way that we're showing up this is it this is now you know what i'm saying give yourself that space so i want to conclude this by saying no matter what it is whether it's accountability awareness humility or active listening no matter what it is these things are already inside of you they're muscles and all you have to do is to strengthen it and to strengthen it you bring awareness you pay attention let me know exactly which of the four accountability awareness humility active listening let me know which resonated for you the loudest i love your reviews i 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0 self thank you for being a part of my journey thank you so much for being here i'll see you in the very next one namaste