Morning Meditation ~ Dealing With Conflict

So make sure you're sitting or lying down in a comfortable position.

And today the meditation is about dealing with conflicts.

Conflict with another person or somebody you have difficulties with in your life.

And before we really start the meditation I would like to do a small exercise.

And first try to make a fist with one hand.

Like a thumb inside your fingers over your thumb and make a fist and really make a strong fist.

And then with your other hand try to open this fist.

So give it a try.

And as you notice it's very hard to open this fist,

These hands.

But what now if you cradle these hands,

You touch it,

You relax actually your hands and now try to open it again.

And now you can open it.

And this is actually symbolic for conflict.

If you go heart to heart nothing will happen.

Nobody will open up and become vulnerable.

But if one side is closed and hard and you enter with love,

With respect,

Then the other person might become vulnerable and open up itself to you.

So that is sort of the basis of this meditation or the introduction.

And right now you can if you like close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.

So breathe in deeply and let go.

And one more time.

Breathe in deeply and let go again.

And one more time.

Breathe in deeply and let go again.

And then just take a moment to lens and to become aware and to become aware how you are feeling at this moment.

Perhaps you notice you're still very much in your thinking,

That your awareness is there.

It can also be that you are pulled to something in your physical body,

Perhaps pain,

Or perhaps you just feel still very tired.

That might happen if you didn't have a good night.

It can also be that you feel an emotion of all sorts.

However you are feeling,

Whatever you are feeling,

Please know you are completely welcome as you are.

It is okay to feel whatever you are feeling.

Please then go again to the top of your head and just sense the top of your head.

Do you feel some pulsation or sensation?

Also relax your forehead.

Relax your chin.

Can you feel your neck and shoulders?

Can you feel your head?

Can you feel your shoulders?

Can you feel your head?

Can you feel your head?

Can you feel your head?

Can you feel your head?

And become aware of your spine.

Start at the top from your neck and slowly move down towards the bottom of your spine.

Then feel your lower back.

Go further down towards your left leg and foot.

And also towards your right leg and foot.

Then go towards your belly.

And try to become aware of the movement of your breath.

Just observing your breath at this moment.

And then try to sense your entire body.

And feel perhaps a small difference with the start of this meditation,

How you felt and how you are feeling right now.

And then take another deep breath in.

And let go again.

And just be aware of your body right now.

And if I ask you the following question,

Also become aware how your body perhaps responds.

Become aware how your body perhaps responds.

Try to think of somebody with whom you have conflicts.

Or who you always face difficulties with.

So think of that person.

And also observe the reaction of your own body.

And if you don't have a conflict with somebody,

Then just choose somebody with whom the energy isn't really flowing,

With whom you are facing sometimes difficulty or very often a change of opinion.

Maybe just somebody you don't like,

That's also possible.

Just imagine this person in front of you.

And what is it you don't like about this person?

Can you describe this within yourself?

Why don't you like this person?

Or what is the difficulty you are constantly facing with this person?

And again,

Keep observing your body.

Do you feel tension somewhere?

Do you feel a slight change?

And then,

The next question is,

If you look at this person,

And you would look at this person from a different angle,

What is lovable about this person?

So what is lovable about this person?

Can you think about that?

And also again,

Become aware of perhaps the changes in your body.

Perhaps it's a very difficult question and perhaps it is an easy question.

It doesn't matter.

Just give it a try.

And then the next question,

What could this person be scared of?

Can you think of that?

Perhaps it's your worst enemy.

But also this person is scared of something.

Can you think of that?

And perhaps even these two questions already change your mind a little bit about this person,

And perhaps not.

But what is important to know is that we don't have a monopoly on pain.

And pain is not something that we can control.

And pain is never intentional.

This person also has people with whom they have difficulties.

And they're also scared of something.

And your pain is not worse than their pain.

And perhaps this helps to look at this person from a different side.

In this society we are raised to become jackals.

Actually,

We don't really learn to connect,

We learn more to disconnect.

We learn to blame and to judge and to compare ourselves constantly with other people.

And unfortunately,

This is the way it is.

But you can also try to be like a giraffe.

And at first you might think,

Why?

You mentioned a giraffe.

A giraffe has the biggest heart,

The biggest heart from all animals in the world.

And if you can look at a person from that point of view,

With a big heart,

And to look at a person,

What is lovable about them,

Then something might change.

If you communicate in giraffe language.

So now,

Think of that person again,

The person you don't like or you have a conflict with.

It can be the same person or a different person.

So just think of this person again.

And now think like a jackal.

Give out all your judgements.

Blame this person.

And also sense your body.

How is your body reacting to this more aggressive thinking?

Can you become aware of that?

And also,

Can you become aware of your own judgements?

Is it something you keep repeating in your mind?

Something which goes on and on and on.

And it's like a tunnel.

There is no way out.

And it's very tiring.

Takes all your energy.

And then,

Try to think like a giraffe about this person.

What is lovable about this person?

And also,

Observe again the possible changes within your body.

It might be very little,

Very slight change.

But perhaps you can sense it.

What is this person afraid of?

Can you sense that?

Or just imagine that?

And do you feel a difference in this approach?

Is there a difference for you?

And can you become aware of your own judgements?

What is behind there?

Is it perhaps a fear within yourself?

An insecurity?

Or are you triggered by something this person says or its attitude?

Does it remind you of somebody else?

We all are always judging.

And it's important to become aware of this.

To become aware why you are getting triggered.

And perhaps first deal with that inside of you before you start to judge somebody and just sort of blame it on somebody else.

Perhaps it's better to first work on your own pain and seek help or try to process it within yourself.

And all these questions also might have triggered you today.

And that's good.

That's a good thing.

Because this helps you to turn inward.

This will provide you with insights.

And this will help you grow into a more beautiful human being.

Who acts more like a giraffe.

And not because you're told to be like a giraffe because also you sense it from within.

So just go to your heart right now.

And breathe through your heart.

By just keeping your awareness close to your heart and just breathe.

Open your heart while you breathe through your heart.

We all have these defense mechanisms.

We do that to survive.

But it can be an old pattern you learned from your childhood.

And it's okay to become aware of this right now.

And to break these cycles.

To be close to your heart.

To break these cycles.

To be close within or attached,

Connected within yourself.

And now you're relaxed.

And there is nothing better,

There is nothing more nice than to be like this in this relaxed state mentally and physically,

Always,

During night and day.

Your body is linked with your thinking,

With your actions.

Just imagine you're lying now in a hammock.

So relax your muscles.

And just sense this feeling of being rocked in the hammock.

Breathing through your heart.

And imagine your heart is huge,

Just like a giraffe.

And just radiate this love this calmness this deep inner connection.

And from this state you're less likely to judge and to fall in these old patterns.

And you're much more able,

It's much more easy also to become aware of your own thinking and your own judging.

Because you also have a part in it.

And that's what we often forget.

So if you want to break the cycle,

Break the pattern make you,

Yourself vulnerable.

Open up.

And see how the other person reacts.

And just let these words sink in.

Just breathe slowly,

In and out.

And then just take a moment to process this and realize what is your biggest insight from today,

What did you learn.

And then if you like,

Bring your palms together in front of your heart and have a final moment of gratefulness.

What are you grateful for at this very moment?

And just express this within yourself.

And then I would like to thank you for joining and Namaste.

Namaste.