How To Deal With Stupid Questions?

How to deal with someone who repeatedly asks you stupid questions.

And I mean really stupid questions.

They're just a waste of time.

And it depends.

Do you want to make the relationship or break the relationship?

If you really want to break the relationship,

Which I don't recommend,

Then make sure that you do the following.

You repeatedly remind yourself how stupid they are,

How stupid the questions they ask are.

And whenever you see them,

Beat them to their game and let them know that you expect stupid questions from them.

And let it know,

Let everyone know how stupid the questions come from them.

And specifically,

Let them know first.

So let it be no secret.

Obviously,

I don't recommend this.

And if you do choose to go this route,

You face the consequences.

However,

If you do want to make a relationship,

And you really care about the well-being of your company and your presence,

And you want to feel charismatic,

Then do exactly the opposite.

And make sure you do none of the previously mentioned.

So in short,

You cannot control your micro-expressions.

So you genuinely must believe that first,

They're welcome in your presence.

And second,

That their questions are not stupid.

They're genuine,

Valuable questions that need genuine answers.

However,

Those answers don't necessarily have to come from you.

You just want them to be welcome if they cannot handle any specific question.

So what I would recommend is,

Yes,

Once they come to your presence and you expect them to ask a question,

Regardless whether how you feel about the quality of question,

I suggest you expect a good quality of the question.

Always.

Because otherwise,

They may feel,

Even emotionally,

Even if it's a micro-expression that escapes,

They may feel that they have bothered you.

And they may think twice for the next time they come to you.

Which is something you don't really want,

In a sense that they may start censoring themselves.

And you want to have all the feedback you can get from them.

However,

You also want to establish your authority and credibility.

And what kind of questions are welcome and what kind of questions they can resolve on their own.

You want to give them a system.

Like,

For example,

If it's something really simple,

You may set up a system that the first thing you ask after you have heard a question,

Reaffirmed it back to them,

You could ask something like that.

Okay,

What does ChatGPT say to that?

Or what were the top solutions you think could be possible here?

Like,

You want to ask them their opinion.

And if they really struggle with opinion,

You may want to ask them to,

Okay,

Have you consulted any AI or ChatGPT or something like that.

So you want to have this in place.

So you want them to come prepared.

A very good framework is whenever someone comes to you for advice,

You always ask them,

Okay,

What are the solutions you propose?

You want them to come prepared.

You want them to just have something already for you.

So all you need to do is just kind of guide them towards either picking the best choice or showing them there's something even better.

And that's what you're there for.

And that's why you want to make sure that they feel welcome,

That they are aware of the procedure that you have shown them.

Because if you never show them a procedure,

How to really come to you,

How to ask good questions,

How to prepare the answers,

How to.

.

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If you don't have a procedure and a system for them that they can follow step by step by step,

Somewhere written that they can see and find it easily,

Then you cannot really blame them for asking stupid questions.

Or whatever the question may be,

Or the question that you don't feel is relevant.

So make sure you take the full responsibility for each and every second question they ask and keep reminding them the correct procedure how to approach you with a warm and welcome attitude.

And again,

Most importantly,

It's what you think within in your mind.

Because if you truly think and focus your attention on thinking that,

Oh,

This question is stupid,

You may have like a smirk or like a smile creeping up,

Like a sarcastic smile.

They may see that and that may damage your relationship.

So make sure your mind is pure.

And that's exactly the place where purity of mind and heart is really important.

And how do you make sure you're in this position to appear pure?

By practice of meditation.

So let's practice.

Find a comfortable place where you feel safe and undisturbed for remainder of this practice.

Relax your physical body,

Close your eyes,

And go within.

Release any tension,

And exhale it out.

Allow any physical tension to release from your body.

Give yourself time to be at ease,

To be at peace.

Keep bringing your attention to your breath,

Breathing through your heart.

Notice what's on your mind.

Notice physical sensations in your body.

And be observant of your heart.

Physical and emotional heart.

Notice how you feel.

Allow yourself to feel.

Acknowledge and appreciate all sensations you observe.

All of them are needed and useful,

Giving you useful message.

Allow yourself to appreciate and enjoy your own presence.

Knowing that more you allow yourself to enjoy your own presence,

More others will enjoy yours.

Making your relationships better and better.

And as you breathe,

Let's go to short visualization.

Imagine that person who at times disturbs you with silly or unnecessary questions that you feel.

They could resolve on their own.

See this person approaching you and feel yourself expecting the worst.

Observe the feelings you feel and observe the situation.

And now,

Imagine yourself responding ideally.

Practice your brain responding ideally.

Release any thoughts of them being able to waste your time.

This is not possible.

Release any fears and embrace their presence,

Expecting them coming with good news.

Brace yourself for the best.

Really expect the best from them.

And welcome them.

See yourself welcoming them.

Genuinely happy.

Genuinely excited for the good news they bring.

And then visualize yourself seeing them acting at their worst.

See them asking something really silly,

Something so simple.

They could figure out on their own if they really wanted.

And see yourself remaining calm and composed.

You may see them as a child or someone who needs compassion,

Training,

Wisdom,

Knowledge.

Come up with a story where it makes sense why they are behaving in this manner and you can approach them with compassion.

See yourself welcoming the question,

Acknowledging the question,

And giving appropriate response where you feel love and compassion.

Deep respect for yourself and for them.

See yourself thanking them for asking this question,

Bringing it to your attention,

And have a full faith that they have a handle on this,

That you managed to answer their question and now they know what to do next time.

You may see yourself telling them how to approach a situation like this next time.

See yourself understanding them.

Of course they ask this question.

If I was in their position,

I would do the same.

You don't need to know their situation,

You just need to accept the fact.

You would do the same,

So there is no shame,

Just pure acceptance.

You may go through this visualization as often as you like until you're able to connect with your heart deeply.

Allow your heart to guide you with appropriate responses that feel good in your heart.

Don't worry about specific sentences or thoughts.

Put your attention on your heart,

Knowing that from compassionate and caring place,

With deep respect,

Appropriate responses will flow easy and naturally.

Allow yourself to feel deep love and appreciation towards yourself and them.

Thank yourself for spending this time to program deep appreciation and relationship building patterns in your subconscious.

Thank you,

Thank you,

Thank you.

You may stay here,

Connecting with your heart as long as you like.

And whenever ready,

Open your eyes and have it magical.

Thank you.