Panic Is Usually The First Response To Anything New - Try To Change That

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In this video I want to speak to you guys about panicking and usually when something happens in our life,

Anything happens in our life,

Our first instinct as a human being,

As a person in this world,

Is to panic.

Perhaps your kid hasn't been picked up from school by your husband,

Which is a random example.

Or perhaps you're supposed to be catching a flight but the taxi that was supposed to pick you up is lost and can't find you.

This happens to me a lot in in Thailand.

Or perhaps you're supposed to be going to meet someone but your subway is stalled or your metro is stalled because of some person jumping on the tracks,

Which happens a lot in Toronto.

I'm sure in other subway systems as well.

So I mean random things like that.

And our first instinct,

Whenever anything happens,

Whenever anything negative happens,

If you put the label negative on it,

If anything negative happens,

Our first instinct obviously is to jump into panic mode.

We're instantaneously in our heads,

We're like oh my god and we start thinking about all the different scenarios.

What are we gonna do?

This is all the plan A,

Plan B,

Plan C.

This is what I can do.

I can go for,

I can walk to the station or I can walk to the place where I'm supposed to meet this person.

Or perhaps I can cancel this grab and call another one.

Or blah blah blah blah.

There's a lot of stuff going on in our heads in that particular moment of time.

I've actually noticed for myself and I don't know if it's because of the fact that I meditate every day or I've been meditating for so long or perhaps it's the fact that I observe my mind to kind of going into these crazy loops and stop itself from doing that,

Going into that mad loop.

But whatever the reason might be,

I've noticed that the main thing I've started doing recently,

Well perhaps like a year I guess,

Is that I whenever I go into these panic modes,

And that happens a lot right,

I mean this is life,

This is life.

Like you go into life and you know that it's not going to be a smooth ride.

You know that it's going to be a madhouse where things happen left,

Right and center.

You just have to deal with it right?

That's what human being human is all about.

It's not about sitting in a corner and having an easy life.

That's why we don't tell it in like meditation or Buddhism or all these religions.

Don't tell you to go into a cave and hide from real-world issues but to be in the real world and still be able to maintain your calm.

And so I've noticed what I've started doing is and what I wanted to share with you guys is that I've started taking a step back from that panic.

And so of course things still do happen in my life that are crazy and mad and cool and I just look at it I think to myself okay witness observer.

I'm gonna witness this happening.

I'm gonna stand back and I'm gonna observe this mad house happening.

So you know if people are panicking around me I'll just take a step back and I'll look at them as a witness.

I'll look at myself as a witness.

I'll notice myself panicking as well.

You know my head's going all over the place and thinking oh my god I've do this lalalala and I'll stop myself and I'll just step back and I'll think to myself all right cool.

So something is happening that requires perhaps a little bit of action perhaps not I don't know yet but what I've noticed in a lot of these quick cases is that if I just step back take a deep breath you should do that right now actually take a deep breath and then just step back and just let things run their course.

That's basically the essence of this video let things run their course.

I've found 99% of the time 99% of the time if I just step back and let things run their course they auto magically auto magically magically automatically they actually just turn out perfectly fine they turn out perfectly fine 99% of the time if I just step back and let things run their course.

Now of course because we're human beings and because I am a type A personality and I have control issues and I want to be organized and I don't want to let go I have trust issues you know all that stuff I don't want to do that I don't want to just let go to the universe and let the universe take care of things I want to control I want to niggle I want to I want to be in it and I just want to make things happen.

But as I said I've been noticing that the strategy of just being a witness and stepping back and letting things run their course has been magnificent for me because then what I'm doing I'm not doing is I'm not going into panic mode and doing all this stuff and perhaps interfering with the course of action or the course of things you know taking place on their own.

You know what happens with a lot of us is that when we start doing things we actually start interfering with the normal course of action right we're kind of adding things into the mix perhaps which are not actually useful right and perhaps we're actually ruining the path and making it harder for us rather than making it easier.

A lot of times I noticed that for example I'll give you a quick example so I have a condo back home in Toronto and I own a condo and I rent it out obviously for a rental income and you know my my tenants occasionally will message me with things like oh I want this I want that oh this is not working well I love which is fine this is what life is and so sometimes I'll wake up in the morning I'll had a great sleep and I'm all relaxed and I feel like I'm I'm in my body and I feel grounded and I'll see a message from them panicking that something isn't working oh my god the kitchens flooded or oh my god the washing machine isn't working right and as soon as I see these messages as I in the past I would have been like oh my god the world is falling apart what am I going to do I'm so far away from them how am I gonna take care of this and panic right now what I've started doing is I started taking a step back I'm like alright cool so something's not working all right great what are we gonna do about it nothing and that's what I've tried doing at least for the first 10 15 20 half an hour like just the first few minutes I'll just take a step back and I won't do anything I won't panic in my head and I won't panic outwardly either I won't be like going around researching going you're going there calling people doing all that stuff I'll just take a step back I'll just relax for a little bit and that moment of relaxation where you're like when you're supposed to be panicking but you're relaxing it creates this brain chemistry change in your like some kind of chemical reaction where you're able to just all of a sudden observe the universe as if it is you know in all of its essence and eventually I notice at least for me two things happen either one or two of two things happen so either I kind of get an epiphany where I'm like oh right that's what I'm supposed to be doing all right so taking a step back and relaxing and letting things happen all of a sudden I'll have this epiphany I'm like all right cool this is the best step to take in this scenario and then I'll go take that step right so in that silence in that calm the real action that I'm supposed to take not the panic action the real action that's actually going to help the situation comes up for me right or what will happen is that the situation will automatically resolve itself right because a lot of people are messaging you with panic not because the situation actually requires it but because we are we're tuned to panic in any situation we're actually taught to do that you know panic first ask questions later that's I think the strategy of most people and so most people will panic first send you messages about all this stuff that's going wrong in their life or things that they need help with and then a second later or 20 minutes later whatever they would message you back saying oh you know what I was just going through a hard or a tough time or something happened everything's fine now no need to worry okay and so the second thing sometimes happens as well and in this scenario 20 minutes later while I was just sitting there kind of reflecting on what maybe I should do or what's going on and just chilling out relaxing myself not going into panic mode she messaged me back saying oh it's turned back on again the washing machine is turned back on again perhaps I I just wiggled the the plug a little bit and I turned it off and on again and it was fine now all right and so she's like all right I'll just watch it for a bit and see if it stops working again then I'll message you again but for now everything is fine okay and so it automatically resolved itself and it's interesting because this happens to me quite often now that I live in this world I don't know if this is a world that I've created through my mind or if it's because I believe that things are just gonna automatically resolve itself I'm actually making it happen I don't know what it is but now for me a lot of times when other people are just like oh my god let's panic I'm just like mmm I don't know if it's time to panic yet let's just step back and relax and let things happen as they as they do for another example I would give is that one time I was sitting there and a flight was delayed and it happens often obviously flights get delayed but I had to catch another flight right after and so I was like oh where am I gonna make that next flight I don't know and so I was like all right let's not panic about it let's not go online and start searching for other flights or like messaging people or all of that stuff let's just relax everything's fine and 20 minutes later the flight that was supposed to be delayed this flight is still delayed I'm like oh interesting okay and I was like let me check what's happening with the next flight that I'm supposed to take right and so I checked that next flight and interestingly enough it was delayed exactly the same amount as my first flight which meant that even if this first flight was delayed I would still catch the next flight easily enough right and so again that moment of panic I did not need it I didn't actually really need it and in a lot of cases you guys if you're able to step back and relax yourself and not go into panic mode you'll notice that either one of two things will happen first of all either you'll get the right solution to the the problem and you'll be able to resolve it easily easily or that that situation will automatically resolve itself because a lot of times if you just give it time things will automatically resolve themselves and this happens to me quite often and I'm not saying this from a perspective of oh life is easy and roses and butterflies and and things like that I'm not saying that that's not the impression I want to give you guys because life is life is suffering and that's what it is supposed to be about right life is supposed to be a series of suffering that is put into our path in order for us to grow learn become better etc so that is supposed to be life life is not supposed to be roses and garlands it's supposed to be suffering but it is how you deal with the suffering that comes at you right I mean all of this stuff is gonna come at everyone everyone is dealing with a lot of shit in their life that's just normal it's all normal that's what life is about it's not supposed to be you're not supposed to be here and having an easy life that would be actually quite boring I would imagine because then what if what is the point are you learning are you growing no if we had an easy life then you would just be chilling out and doing nothing but it's these circumstances that kind of push us and trigger us and make us think and make us reflect or make us suffer these are the situations that really make us grow and expand as a human being right so this is normal but again as I said how do you deal with these normal suffering situations I think that's the real key to the awakening process or the real key to life at least in my opinion okay all right I hope this makes sense to you guys I hope I was able to explain myself to you the strategy of stepping back and being a witness and not panicking really it's one of the things that I've really has really changed my life and I wanted to share with you guys even if it seems a bit abstract and a bit crazy all right I hope this makes sense if you guys have any questions at all please message me anytime and I shall see you guys in the next one bye for now