Hi and welcome to Spiritual Sobriety.
I'm your host,
Chris McDuffie.
My mission for the Spiritual Sobriety podcast channel is to share and celebrate the critical importance that spirituality plays in living a healthy,
Happy,
And joyful sober life.
On Spiritual Sobriety,
We will chiefly study how Buddhism and the 12-step programs are powerful spiritual pathways to help anyone grow out of suffering and into joy.
To be clear,
My argument is that any non-chemical spiritual pathway,
Be it religious,
Secular,
Or otherwise,
Practiced with the objective to celebrate love,
Equanimity,
And the service to others is critical to living a spiritual sober life.
Today I will discuss how to balance our suffering with the gift of gratitude.
My suggestions are meant for anyone who seeks to relieve their suffering.
If you are not interested in relieving your suffering,
Feel stuck in anxiety,
Depression,
Or trauma,
I invite you to consider today's suggestions as a potential guide for future exploration.
There is nothing wrong or bad about any thoughts or feelings.
You need not feel pressured to end your suffering.
Cicero said that gratitude is the father of all virtues.
Without it,
One may not generate love,
Compassion,
Joy,
Or any of the rich feelings generated by spiritual union.
How we choose to respond to our suffering will determine if we bring about the cessation of our suffering.
Let's respond to our suffering,
Whether in the present moment,
Or when we look back at our suffering in our step 1 through 9 work,
Or work with a clinical therapist in a loving,
Kind,
Non-judging way.
Our suffering need not be punitive.
When we study and practice the 4 noble truths,
It is essential to not get lost in our suffering.
The AA mantra,
It's okay to look at the past,
Just don't stare,
Helps me when I am generating my suffering.
My attachment to my guilt,
Shame,
And remorse is what generates my anxiety and depression and panic attacks.
Learning how to balance suffering with gratitude is a powerful and effective coping skill to help end our suffering.
As we say in AA,
We are not a glum lot.
Vietnamese Buddhist monk and spiritual leader Thich Nhat Hanh's wonderful book and slogan No Mud,
No Lotus helps us correctly understand how to survive,
Learn,
And grow from our suffering.
He writes,
The secret to happiness is to acknowledge and transform suffering,
Not to run away from it.
In No Mud,
No Lotus,
Thich Nhat Hanh offers practices and inspiration to help us transform suffering and finding true joy.
The previous podcast was an introduction to Buddha's 4 noble truths.
We will spend the next several podcasts exploring suffering and the causes of human suffering.
Included in my lessons will be practices and resources to consider using how to end our suffering.
Buddha's suggestions of how to do this is presented to us in the fourth of the 4 noble truths.
We will discuss the 4 noble truths later after spending several podcasts exploring the causes of suffering.
As with any new journey,
The suffering individual will want the help of well-intentioned specialists,
Doctors,
Therapists,
Sponsors,
Gurus,
Religious and lay members,
And sober mentors to help serve as critical guides.
A spiritual path is not a lonely one.
Let's study gratitude by way of a contemplative exercise.
You will need a pen and paper.
The term contemplative or contemplate means to shine light on.
Let's begin by creating a two-column T-chart on your paper.
Please enter the following heading on the left column,
I am grateful for having,
And on the heading of the second column,
I am grateful for not having.
To be clear,
The two headings should now read,
I am grateful for having,
And I am grateful for not having.
Please take a moment and contemplate on each heading and free write as many examples as you can based upon your perspective at this very moment.
There are no wrong answers.
This is your own personal reflection.
You may want to pause the podcast now and restart after five minutes of writing.
Welcome back.
I'd like you to now contemplate and identify the feelings that arose while generating your own gratitude list.
Please take a minute to write these feelings somewhere on your paper.
If no feelings or emotions arose,
Or if you're having difficulty identifying your feelings,
That is okay.
No need to force any emotion.
Be sure to take immediate self-care if any uncomfortable feelings arose.
You may have noticed perhaps a range of emotions or mixed emotions.
In Japanese Zen Buddhism,
Our responses can be defined as bittersweet,
Meaning our emotional responses to any given situation ranges from bitter to bittersweet to sweet.
We discussed during our previous podcast that we create our own suffering when we think we can egoically attach to drugs or alcohol or our process addictions in order to escape from or prevent our suffering.
Today's gratitude list exercise helps you expand your perspective twofold by calling to mind all that you are grateful for.
And you use this exercise to generate feelings and emotions associated with everyone and everything on your list.
This gratitude list exercise helps exemplify how we generate our feelings.
From a recovery and spiritual perspective,
I use this exercise to show how love,
Compassion and gratitude spring up from within us.
If these feelings arose within you and you enjoyed these feelings,
You may want to commend yourself now for using a zero calorie,
100% organic,
Free resource other than sugar,
Alcohol,
Sex,
Gambling or drugs.
Notice however that the suffering individual creates his or her suffering by attempting to grab hold of something external or extrinsic to satisfy his or her internal pain and suffering.
Remember that addiction to our attachments and our aversions is a learned behavior.
In the West,
Our parents,
Our community,
Our culture and our experiences have typically taught us to turn outward rather than inward to end our suffering.
We have been taught that the cause of suffering and the solution to suffering is outside of us.
Do you remember Buddha's metaphor of the dog running in circles tied to a post?
We are running in circles trying to end our suffering but get nowhere.
Buddhism and the 12 step programs are two spiritual pathways that help us look inward to identify the source of our suffering and inward to identify the healthy solutions.
The gratitude list is a wonderful contemplative exercise to practice each morning and throughout each day as it helps create and manifest joy and happiness.
At the same time this practice serves as a powerful relapse prevention tool and coping skill.
We see very clearly that if we choose to relapse,
The people,
Places and things that we value and give us joy will evaporate very quickly.
So as we look at the Buddha's first noble truth and reflect on the lessons from the previous few podcasts,
The invitation is to practice the awareness of suffering or joy and to be mindfully aware of the urge to prolong the joy or push away and think we can avoid the suffering.
I find bringing gratitude to my suffering is the most loving kind way to respond.
The purpose of all spiritual pathways is to learn how to grow out of our suffering.
No mud,
No lotus.
I hope that you found today's discussion helpful on your spiritual pathway towards joy and happiness.
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I look forward to reading your responses to today's discussions.
Thank you for being part of Spiritual Sobriety.
