(Wk 11) Blind Spot Part 5 Of 5 - Unleash Your Peace

Hello and welcome back to Unleash Your Peace.

My name is Elly Shojia.

I am your host.

I am a positive mindset coach,

A personal transformation expert,

A deliberate creator,

And your peace trainer.

Now this podcast,

Unleash Your Peace,

Is your peace training.

Every single week,

We find a different topic about the internal world to focus on,

And we do that over the course of five episodes published Monday through Friday.

The episodes are short and sweet,

Under 10 minutes long,

That way you have something uplifting,

Thought-provoking,

Inspiring to listen to.

And inside of you,

You'll find that you can start shedding all of this extra weight you're carrying,

All this unwanted pain starts just falling off,

Melting away,

And underneath all of that,

You find lasting internal peace and you live your best life yet.

When we live from this place of love and joy and peace and connectedness to that infinite,

Non-physical part of you that holds all of your potential,

We don't just incrementally improve the quality of our lives,

We actually exponentially innovate every aspect of our experiences on this physical plane.

We level up in a major way,

We become whole,

We become powerful creators,

And we start living the life of our dreams and we inspire everyone around us to do the same.

Next thing you know,

That trickles out into society and we're leveling up as a human race.

And that is my wish for you,

That's why I do this work.

Now this week,

We are talking about blind spots,

Huge topic.

If you've been doing this work,

If you've been actually using this podcast to go inward into yourself,

It is hard work,

It's a lot of internal strength that you need to kind of put into finding those beliefs that are hidden in your blind spots.

We don't just hide any beliefs in our blind spots,

We hide the ones that we don't want to look at at all.

That's the whole point.

We bury them in our subconscious,

We bury it so deep and we hope that we'll never have to ever look at it.

But the problem is then we build entire personalities on top of all of that faulty programming,

Those false beliefs that tell us we are unworthy,

That our judgment is not good,

That we don't deserve better,

That we are born to be poor.

Whatever it is that you have internalized,

That you have buried inside of your blind spot,

We build personalities on top of it,

We build other intricate belief structures and ideas on top of it and then we use it to validate everything that does not go right in our lives and to feel frustrated about us not getting to the places that we want to go to.

So very important to allow these things to come up to the surface and release those once and for all,

Let them go so that you can become more of yourself.

That's exactly what happens when we release these deep-seated faulty beliefs,

These faulty programming.

What happens is you're going to start changing and you change in dramatic ways.

People around you will say they don't even recognize you anymore,

You are so different but you are not actually changing into anything other than what you are.

What's happening is you are just correcting the programming so that you can be more of yourself.

This new individual that emerges feels so right,

Feels so comfortable,

Is so much more comfortable in their skin,

Has so much more peace,

Is not swayed by this and that event and it is because you become grounded within your self,

Your true self,

Your inner being,

That infinite greater part of you that is always steadfast in one place and one place only which is in a place of your infinite power.

There's nothing better than to ground yourself into yourself and it happens when we start shedding all of this stuff that we have programmed into ourselves.

Now today I want to talk briefly about why we have such a hard time finding and identifying and releasing these beliefs that are so deep-seated that we bury in our blind spots.

A very brave friend of mine came out a couple of days ago with her story of having been raped in her early 20s.

She was an actress and she was seduced and raped by a very powerful director.

And for 18 years she carried this with her.

She didn't know how to talk about it and she internalized it in the form of so much guilt,

So much shame and she used this event to create a story about herself that validated a lot of suffering that she then inflicted on herself.

And I say she inflicted this onto herself because that event happened once,

The rape happened once.

For 18 years she carried it with herself.

And I find that with a lot of these traumatic events,

Forgiving the event is one thing,

Forgiving the person who did you wrong is one thing,

And then forgiving yourself for all of the suffering that you inflicted on yourself along the way is a whole other story.

And the reason a lot of us don't let go of things,

Have a hard time letting go of things is not because that event was so horrific.

I'm not invalidating the event.

It's a terrible act.

However,

The reason we have such a hard time letting go of these terrible events in our lives is a lot of times because we have accumulated a lot of guilt and shame by the way we have treated ourselves after that event.

And that is hard to forgive.

That guilt is hard to resolve.

And to make matters worse,

If we don't forgive that event,

If we don't forgive that person,

All of this guilt and shame that we are feeling is basically lumped together with the shame and anger and guilt and frustration of that event.

So there is no separation between the anger we have for that and the anger we have for ourselves.

And therefore it is very difficult to forgive it.

So the forgiveness starts by forgiving that event,

Forgiving that person and then forgiving the self.

We feel shame and guilt about events and things that happen to us,

But most of our shame and guilt is self-inflicted.

It is things that we do to ourselves after the fact.

And we carry this shame and we carry this guilt and we externalize it as much as possible.

We turn it into anger and frustration.

We become people who are so angry about a topic that we will fight for anyone.

But guess what?

No good thing is ever found on the battleground.

You are not going to bring peace to the world through war.

It is an impossibility.

And the same way,

You are not going to find peace within yourself by fighting for it.

You cannot fight for your life.

You cannot fight for peace.

You cannot fight for love.

You cannot fight for equality.

You cannot fight for forgiveness.

The only way to get to those things is through love and compassion and forgiveness.

And we talked about this during our forgiveness week,

Which was so powerful.

I received so many wonderful messages from all of you to the point that I put together a three week course just on forgiveness because this is such an important topic that most people misunderstand,

They don't know how to forgive.

So the whole message of this wrap up episode is this.

We don't just bury beliefs into our subconscious because it's fun.

We do it because we don't know how to release them.

We don't know how to forgive them.

It's easy to have love and compassion and forgiveness for victims of a crime.

It's a lot harder to have love and compassion for people who inflicted the crime,

The pain,

But without having love and compassion for them,

It is impossible to forgive.

And without forgiving them,

It is impossible to forgive ourselves.

Forgiveness is so incredibly powerful and important in clearing out all of that gunk out of our blind spots.

It is the number one most important thing.

I know it's a heavy topic and I know this is only a 10 minute podcast and I know you might have questions and if you do,

Please do send them my way.

You can find me at peaceunleashed.

Com.

I'm here to help you through this.

I've spent the last 15 years forgiving a very traumatic childhood of my own.

I understand about trauma.

I understand about pain.

I understand about relationships.

I am not just here lecturing and talking to you from a place of what you should do.

I am actually walking the walk and doing the things I am talking to you about.

I have forgiven things that you would probably consider unforgivable and I have nothing but love and compassion and peace within me for every single person who has wronged me.

And so I know the power of love.

I know the power of forgiveness.

I know the power of compassion and I also know that as long as I was unwilling to forgive,

I was suffering and the moment I started forgiving,

I stopped suffering.

So I'll leave you with that really big topic,

Really wonderful topic.

I hope you did enjoy it.

If you have any questions,

If you need help walking through and working through these things,

Find me at peaceunleashed.

Com.

Send me a message.

I'd love to work with you on this.

If you want to sign up for my forgiveness course,

It starts in December.

It's a three week online course.

There's all sorts of support built into that as well,

Including personal one-on-one calls with me and you can find that on the website on peaceunleashed.

Com as well under courses.

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Check out Instagram and find Peace Unleashed on there.

Those are the love notes I share with you.

Their entire purpose is to inspire you and uplift you on a daily basis.

And until next week,

When we come back and dive into yet another topic about the internal world,

I wish you a peace filled weekend.