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Do You Want To Be Right Or Do You Want To Be Happy? Choosing Love Over Fear

by Janice Allermann

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This is an eleven-minute guided meditation that guides you towards your true innate nature – love. Away from the need to be right, away from anger, away from the misperception of lack, towards happiness, compassion, and kindness. In whichever situation you find yourself in, you always have a choice of how you want to react. You can choose to be right, or you can choose to be happy. You can choose fear, or love.

MeditationLoveFearHappinessCompassionKindnessAngerEgoEquanimityFear And LoveEgo AwarenessSelf CompassionLetting Go Of AngerBreathingBreathing AwarenessChoicesPostures

Transcript

Come to a comfortable seated posture.

Take a moment to settle in.

Sit upright with your spine long and your shoulders relax.

Let your hands rest wherever they land naturally.

Close your eyes and bring your awareness inside.

Observe your breath for a few moments.

The way the air takes in your body.

To fully arrive in the here and now.

When we are born we don't know what being right means.

We are not born with the need to be right.

It is something that we learn when we grow up.

We learn that it is important to stand up for ourselves,

For our point of view.

We even grow accustomed to the notion that in our world if you are not doing so you will get stepped on by other people.

Being right seems fair and just.

We often feel that we deserve to be right.

What does being right serve you if it makes you angry?

What does being right serve you if it causes you internal turmoil?

What does being right serve you if you leave a situation feeling unhappy no matter if you won or lost the argument?

Sometimes being right and being happy are the same but often these two are mutually exclusive.

Being right is the way of the ego.

The ego needs to be right.

It feels entitled to be right.

It is its way of existing.

The ego exists based on fear and lack.

It perceives situations and other people as threats to its own existence.

The ego seeks to defend itself.

Therefore it is essential for it to be right.

Recall a situation from your past now where you being right also caused you to be angry.

Why defending your point of view led to two egos fighting?

Maybe you can notice agitated thoughts returning.

Maybe you can even feel the tension or tightness creeping back into your body.

That's ok.

Let it be there.

Look back at the situation now,

Not with judgement for yourself.

Not judging your way of reacting.

Look back at the situation with compassion.

You didn't know how to act differently.

You didn't even know that you had the choice to act differently.

Take a deep breath in now.

And exhale out of the mouth.

Let it go.

Do this again.

Deep inhale.

Exhale.

Let everything go.

You have the choice.

You have the choice between fear and love.

Between being right and being happy.

Do you choose fear or love?

Do you choose to be right or to be happy?

Nothing is lost when the ego isn't right.

Not being right doesn't diminish your stance in this world.

It gives you a whole other set of ways to act.

You have the choice now to act out of love and compassion.

You have the choice to let situations go by choosing equanimity and softness instead of rigidity and hardness.

You have the choice to forgive instead of hold anger and grudges.

You have the choice to be happy instead of right.

Choosing happiness over being right means choosing love over fear.

Do you want to live your life based on fear or based on love?

Fear is the way of the ego.

Love is your true innate nature.

Choose love always.

In whichever situation you feel the habituated need to defend yourself,

Why you tend to fight for being right,

Take a step back,

Take a breath and remember.

You have the choice.

You can choose love.

You can choose to act out of love,

Compassion and kindness.

There is nothing to be lost by doing so.

Choosing to act out of love will transform situations.

It doesn't mean you are not standing up for yourself.

It actually means the opposite.

It means that you are letting your true innate nature,

Love,

Guide you.

Your true innate nature cannot be diminished,

Cannot be destroyed.

You are not losing anything when acting with love,

Compassion and kindness.

You are actually winning happiness.

You are choosing your happiness.

Let this manifest as your new way of acting.

You have the choice.

Choose love.

Feel the softness in your body.

Feel your breath.

When you are ready,

Open your eyes.

Meet your Teacher

Janice AllermannBerlin, Germany

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Recent Reviews

Gail

January 1, 2026

Thank you πŸ™πŸ½ NamastΓ© πŸ§˜πŸ½β€β™€οΈπŸͺ·

Jules

November 10, 2025

I love this and this is the second time I’ve done it. I saved it right away!

Jean

August 13, 2025

Perfect for this moment!

Teresa

August 6, 2025

Thank you!

Mia

April 7, 2025

I have lived by this quote for years. Ever since my ego got in the way of my happiness, and a therapist asked me this exact question. I am so much happier now & my relationships are so much better. I still have to check my ego at the door & ask myself the question: β€œDo I want to be right, or do I want to be happy?” Thank you for this wonderful meditation which is so very helpful. Namaste πŸ™

Tom

December 26, 2024

Excellent message. Acceptance leads to the most happiness. The production values are good.

KJ

July 1, 2024

Excellent and very well said! Thank you!

Lori

June 24, 2024

So meaningful... thank you! πŸ™πŸ»

Rebecca

June 18, 2024

Wonderful reminder 🀍 thank you πŸ™

John

August 27, 2023

Thank you Beth. This was forwarded to me. I had the powerful feeling that as I listened to it that nothing passed on to me by mistake. This was so meaningful, even though I'm in the grace of Love and acceptance . I'm grateful your calming words found their way into my heart.

Rory

June 6, 2023

I needed this reminder tonight. πŸ™πŸΌ

Sarah

August 21, 2021

Powerful message πŸ™Œ

Janet

May 16, 2021

A perfect meditation on choosing love over fear; a relevant reminder for me. Thank you for this eloquent and insightful meditation for being happy over being right. Although I’m sure that I’ve felt that being right would make me happy. I will listen again and again so as not to slip back into that. Old habits you know. So grateful for you putting it out to the Universe so that it could find me. JanetπŸ™πŸΌ

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