Hello everyone,
This is Janice Marie.
Thank you for being with me today.
I want to address a word that gets used way too often that can cause us great distress.
And that word is should.
S-H-O-U-L-D.
Should is defined as a way to indicate an obligation,
A duty,
A regret,
Or to imply some correctness.
It's often used to criticize ourselves or somebody else.
We may not mean it that way.
We might be trying to do some good.
However,
I know for me,
When I use the word should,
I'm implying that I'm not living up to some implied and perceived obligation or expectation.
The word should,
When it's used often,
Can demotivate us and cause us great distress and interfere with our dreams and desires by putting ourselves in a category of being less than and that we are falling short in some way.
Much of the time when the word should is used,
It can produce a feeling of shame.
At times when I'm feeling shame around not meeting some perceived expectation,
I remember the acronym that I heard many,
Many years ago for the word shame.
And that acronym is should have already mastered everything.
How ridiculous is that?
And yet this is what we do.
We should all over ourselves.
Today,
I'd like to present refrains and affirmations to help us be more mindful of when we are shoulding all over things.
Let's begin with one long cleansing breath.
Today,
I will seek other words to convey self-improvement.
I will not allow others to should all over me.
I will stop shoulding on myself.
I will stop shoulding on myself.
I can reframe thoughts of shoulding by using kinder words that promote growth and peace.
When others tell me what I should do or what I should have done,
I can take this opportunity to help others communicate more effectively.
I can reframe from thoughts of shoulding by using kinder words that promote growth and peace.
When others feel the need to should all over me,
I can simply say thank you and go on my way.
I don't have to sit in it.
I detach with love when others try to should on me.
When I have the urge to tell others what they should do,
I ask myself,
How does this shoulding on this person help them to achieve their greater good?
I can help others not to should on themselves.
When I hear myself using should to make me do something or to try to motivate me,
I can stop the shoulding,
Connect with myself in quiet time,
And visualize my doing the activity with joy.
I can do this activity with joy.
When I should on myself and others,
I am most likely feeling fear and or insecurity.
This is an opportunity to connect with the universe and practice gratitude.
Gratitude is grounding.
When I should all over myself,
I can remember that I am enough,
I do enough,
And I have enough.
I do enough,
I am enough,
I have enough.
When I feel the urge to should on myself,
I ask myself,
What is my higher intent?
Are there better words to motivate?
Will exercising help me to feel more empowered?
Working on this project will help me feel good.
Cleaning the house will help me feel more grounded.
Exercising will help me feel more empowered.
I am grounded and I am serene.
I can refrain from thoughts of shoulding by using kinder words that promote growth and peace.
I am grounded and serene.
I can promote growth and peace with my words.
This brings us to the end of our journey.
Thank you for being with me today.
I'm honored that you chose to be here.
Now,
Remember,
Go out there and stop shoulding on yourself.
Namaste.
