The great Balance between the masculine and the feminine concludes this mini-series on exploration of womanhood. The simple and yet ineffable truth is flowing in the air, and I am trying to share with you how I see it.
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Welcome to the final episode of the mini-series on the feminine power. There were two episodes before and I recommend listening to them as well, But not necessarily right before this one. You can also mix it up somehow. And the topic today is relationship between the masculine and the feminine. And all this topic is so big for women, At least for me and many that I know. How to balance our masculine and feminine energies? Because we have both. Everyone has both, Men and women alike. And without healing each of those two components, We hardly can heal the relationship entirely. On the other hand, The healing can be synced, Mutually beneficial. When you exchange experience and compassion within a relationship of masculine and feminine, You can heal both faster. And it applies probably not only to outside, But also to internal relationships, Even to the energies relating to each other inside of us. So relationship between masculine and feminine is not always sexual. This is probably the first disclaimer. And the second disclaimer is that this episode is targeted at women. And typically, Women would have more wounding in their feminine, Which we covered in the first episode. The wounded feminine is typical for women. Wounded masculine is typical for men. It doesn't mean that all men are wounded masculine and similar for women. But it is typical to have a wounding that corresponds to your gender. Because when we are growing up and living in the world, We are conditioned based on our gender, Which is very logical. And so men get more wounding and mixed messages and strange stuff regarding masculine topics and women regarding feminine topics. And the society may not always clearly recognize which topics are masculine and feminine. So the world tends to wound us however it can. But we, As people, We tend to see the world through our subjective perspective. So if I am a woman, I would pick up on messages that are feminine-oriented, Both positive and negative messages, Somehow clearer, And apply them, Which is the most important part. I would apply those messages to myself much more than I would apply messages that are targeted and the masculine energy. So strange as it is, I've been growing up with a healthier masculine energy as a woman than with feminine energy. That is probably why I'm making this mini-series now, Because I've spent a lot of time uncovering the beauty and mystery of my feminine energy. So if any of that story sounds somehow similar to yours, Do listen to the first episode of this mini-series. And now to the relationship. So masculine and feminine are different. This is my confident statement, But also a disclaimer. Essentially, I believe we are one. And we are one in the grander picture of creation, But we are also one, Each of us. There is a different flow of masculine and feminine inside us, This duality, But we are a whole, Integrated, Completely one being. And this is a paradox, But so it is. And also, Each, Of course, Each individual and just each energy is diverse. So masculine is not stereotypical man, Feminine is not stereotypical woman, And it's very, Very diverse and natural. Imagine nature, Right? Imagine, For example, Trees and rocks. We can categorize trees and rocks, But then, Or even plants and rocks, And then you would discover that there are so many species of each, And there is such vast diversity that at some point you would be unable to recognize a rock from a plant, Which I believe is really possible in the natural world. The same as you can suddenly discover that a tomato is actually a berry, And so on and so forth, That the outside and the inside are not always obviously connected. So there is huge diversity, Nevertheless. We are speaking now about two categories, The masculine energy and feminine energy. And how do they relate to each other? Well, Much like anything relates in connected systems, They exchange, They give and receive. So they have, First of all, Right, There is a system in which both are present, Be that the whole universe or just one person. Then there is a sort of border. It can be blurry, It can be hard, But there is a border between the masculine and the feminine within the system. And then there is a flow of exchange, Giving and receiving both ways. So we will look at the relationship from this perspective of giving and receiving. And what does a masculine give to a feminine? Now, When we go over this concept, Please apply it widely to all that you can possibly apply it to in your own life, Starting from relationship with yourself, Then relationship with your partner, And maybe even look at both ways, Because both of you, If you have a partner, Both of you would have masculine and feminine energy. So there would be like sort of a foursome, Let's say, Exchange that your, Or maybe what it would be in six flows, I don't know. So your feminine would be exchanging something with his masculine, And his masculine would be exchanging something with your feminine, And then there will be flow between the other opposites. Your masculine will be exchanging with his feminine. Like the pronouns are just example, Of course, Bear with me. And then also both of your same poles, Polarities, Like your masculine will probably be exchanging something with his masculine as well. I really feel it in my partnership, Where I'm a woman, Definitely, And we have a completely normal relationship with a man. But sometimes I feel that my masculine is sort of reacting to his, And this is funny. But we are not tackling this part here. We are speaking about what masculine and feminine as archetypes, Grand categories of life give to each other and receive from one another. So a masculine gives to the feminine sort of spark and fill in the blank. This is how nature works. But feminine gives to the masculine feedback, Feedback, Not just any feedback, But sort of, There is sort of justification for a bit of judgmental attitude from the feminine to the masculine, You know, Like the natural world, Where the male is performing and being bright and showing off, And the feminine sort of kind of judging him like, Ah, Whatever. And then there is like kind of aggressive dynamics from the masculine to the feminine, Again, In the natural world, But it is completely different from unhealthy, Aggressive situations that we have in our human world. That aggression, I would metaphorically refer to it as a spark. There is a need for some sort of explosion for the creative process to start. And this is the role of the masculine to give it. So of course, Feminine energy is more receiving and masculine is more giving, But it doesn't mean that the masculine does not receive and the feminine doesn't give. So it's not all so simple. And we are taking it sort of metaphorically. So we've looked at this metaphor of natural world, Animals interacting. Now let's look at primitive people, How they lived. Men would give, Let's say, Raw materials. The man is a hunter, He's hunting and maybe gathering, Just taking back to the cave. And logically, The female side of the tribe is receiving that raw material and then supposedly transforming it into sort of a product. So again, There is this reception of necessary input for the creative process, Which in the end is done by the feminine. I am not an anthropologist and I don't know how exactly it worked, But this is a metaphor. And this is how we tend to function and exchange between the two energies. And now there are more, We're going with evolution, Making a jump to civilization. And in the healthiest possible way, The role of man is to protect and the role of women is to care. Those two things seem kind of similar, But they're also different. Protection is like wall, Care is like blanket. Both shield you from the world, But do it from very different perspective. And there is question of nurturing, Right? The nurturing is this great aspect of feminine power and we covered it in the second episode on the feminine power at its highest, But it is not necessarily applicable to the masculine. So here we are speaking about conditional relationship between two opposites, Not about just how feminine shows in the world, Right? So you can be as a feminine energy, You can be nurturing to whatever, To dogs, To men, To children, To your parents and flowers and yourself, Don't forget. So it is not conditional, But the care that I mentioned, Sort of blanket kind of care, Let's try to apply it to really two male side. Of course, A woman would care for her children as well and the man would protect his children and just his general family. But let's say that in a couple's relationship, This is kind of how functions would be divided that traditionally a man would be protecting the relationship from the outside world and the woman would be caring and sort of protecting from those inner, Like from the shadow dangers. Like when you hide under a blanket, You don't hide for protection from enemies, You hide from protection from your shadows, Demons. And this is the mystical and very challenging aspect that falls more to the feminine role and often in relationships, It is a woman who reveals the shadow. Now, Then also archetypically male energy would share the gift of strength and female energy would share the gift of beauty. That is my outlook and perspective. I believe there is a lot to be taken from it and when you choose your sharing or your sharing mechanism, You can consider that. And finally, There is a role, A function or a task of action that falls mostly to the male energy and there is a task of holding space that falls to female energy. And we are making sort of a circle to the very, Very primary, Primarial, Let's say biological and even creational metaphors here. So male energy does action, Female energy holds space. And it seems that correspondently men would sometimes do more stuff in a relationship. Like if it's a healthy, Nice relationship in a traditional man-woman dynamics, Which I'm mostly familiar with, Again, There is a huge space for diversity, But we are tackling the concept of male-female. So imagine you live in a couple, So there would be this traditional, Stereotypical active, Energetic guy and a beautiful girl and you would be together, Right? Completely romantic comedy vibe. So the guy would typically do more stuff. It's only in those already family dynamics that the woman starts to do so much stuff like cook, Clean everything. And fortunately in modern families, It's not always so, And it is distributed. It's a completely different story, Taking care of household and joint duties, But still in the dating stages, In the essence of male-female interaction, A man would be probably doing more stuff, Just like a male of any species in nature. And then at some point in nature, It would all compensate because a female would bear the super challenging role of creating life. And that is how I often explain to myself why guys do more stuff because, Yeah, Because women have this huge role to perform. And then it's kind of a joke, But that before that we get to relax. Anyway, This is very stereotypical. I hope you're not getting upset because of it, But in those stereotypes, There's difference between stereotypes and archetypes. Archetypes really help to understand energy. So those metaphors, Maybe they're seemingly primitive, But they're also very deep and true for energy. But the important stuff is, The important detail is not to take all of it and say that if I'm a woman, This is my only function to live in my feminine energy. It is not so, But this is how feminine energy would work in the world. And so holding space seems easier than doing something, But it is actually not. Even if we don't cover the unimaginably complex and miraculous processes that happen when a female is bearing a child, Creating life literally, Holding space inside herself for another life. Like even if we don't go into this realm of miracles, Even the simple act of being there and holding space for the guy, For the man to do the action just in life, Just a normal relationship, It is not a small thing. Because often refraining from doing something is an act in itself. So not doing can be often as hard and even harder as doing. And just analyze yourself quickly. Whenever any challenge arises, Your first impulse would probably be to do something, And it is much harder. It is actually what we spend some effort for, Is stopping making a pause, Taking a breath, Reaching composure, Holding space for ourselves in this difficult moment, Balancing our energy, And then from a healthier place already allowing the action to form itself. So this act of not doing, The act of unbecoming this negative contribution in the sense of negative not bad, But negative like undoing. Like there is synthesis, That male function, And analysis, A female function, Let's say mathematically like that. And with this, I would conclude the whole vast topic of feminine and masculine power. There is a lot still to learn for me, And I've been so glad and grateful to share my thoughts with you. Thank you, And I wish you balance in your life.
